FabSwingers.com forum: Nerves.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?"

If you're that nervous then maybe going down the social route first would help you a little. Takes the pressure off a bit.

Katie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?

If you're that nervous then maybe going down the social route first would help you a little. Takes the pressure off a bit.

Katie"

Totally agree with Katie here!

Take the extra pressure off and go with no expectations. Nerves are normal but go with an open mind and just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?

If you're that nervous then maybe going down the social route first would help you a little. Takes the pressure off a bit.

Katie"

Ahh, good idea, thank you. Any excuse for a cheeky pint x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly would be if it ever happened. Unlikely to have to worry about it though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?

If you're that nervous then maybe going down the social route first would help you a little. Takes the pressure off a bit.

Katie

Totally agree with Katie here!

Take the extra pressure off and go with no expectations. Nerves are normal but go with an open mind and just be yourself

I think I cant be fully myself. Im a huge nerd and it will probably put her off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?"

I never stop being nervous but once you meet, it's mostly fine. Sometimes there'll be a dud but that's why it's so important to have a social first and not jump into bed immediately after! Gives you time to go away and think if that's the person you really do want to spend a bit of time getting intimate with x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?

If you're that nervous then maybe going down the social route first would help you a little. Takes the pressure off a bit.

Katie

Totally agree with Katie here!

Take the extra pressure off and go with no expectations. Nerves are normal but go with an open mind and just be yourself

I think I cant be fully myself. Im a huge nerd and it will probably put her off

Some women like geeky/nerdy guys. I think many people are nervous when meeting new people when it's not about sex, so it's natural to be anxious when you're exposing more than just your outer shell, so to speak.

Definitely seek socials, don't rush into meeting for sex and take it slowly. There's no prize for getting stuck in quickly

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

For me personally, nerves turn into butterflies and butterflies turn into orgasms.

It's all about finding the right person/people.

And to reiterate what has already been said: nerds are sexy.

Just find a twin flame to vibe with and you'll be fine OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a natural feeling, I always shit my pants before every new meet even after a long time doing this. Just approach every one as a social no expectations. If you are meeting the right people, usually they put you at ease and those nerves dissapear quite quickly. Just remember, they are probably nervous too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a natural feeling, I always shit my pants before every new meet even after a long time doing this. Just approach every one as a social no expectations. If you are meeting the right people, usually they put you at ease and those nerves dissapear quite quickly. Just remember, they are probably nervous too

Remembering their just as nervous as me is something I try to think about. I think after my first ill be good.

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By *penbook79Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

I think I’d need a social first, not just for the nerves but to ensure we click/get a spark with the other couple. I couldn’t have sex with someone I don’t fancy in looks and personality so would need that social to ensure I’m getting that vibe. If it leads on from there then great!!

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By *picy2Couple
over a year ago

essex

Nerves tend to disappear after the first few minutes

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By *icole 123Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

I agree,definitely a social meet first,take the edge off,once you get the conversation flowing,you’ll be more relaxed,and take it from there

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I always still get butterflies seeing my FWB after all this time. I think when I stop feeling nervous will be the day I leave fab x

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"I always shit my pants before every new meet even after a long time doing this. "

must be nightmare if you've got your best knicks freshly laundered for the occasion.

Or do you plan for that by wearing Primark specials and keep the good ones in your handbag to slip into after your little accident?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am nervous on every meet but it soon dissapears when the touching starts.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

As above, socials will help ease the nerves of anything "more" yet to come, and you'll be able to see how well you click.

Geeks are in this decade so I wouldn't worry to much about that either

And ultimately nerves will pretty much always happen to some degree. They're not a bad thing and it just means you're excited

Have fun

LvM

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Good morning all.

This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

Does anyone ever get nervous about meeting? If so, how do you put your nerves at ease?"

Just try to remember that being a little nervous (especially for a first meet) is totally natural, and that the person or couple you're meeting are likely to be just as nervous as you. Keeping that in mind helped me a lot during my first few meetings from this site. Then once you have experience, you will be able to lean on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This lifestyle is still new to me, and the idea of meeting someone absolutely terrifies me.

You are not alone op, I am terrified at the thought of meeting someone, I have played with women before and was fine, but the idea of meeting a guy is terrifying.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

I still get super nervous 3 1/2 years later lol

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