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By *ntopofyou OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote

Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

Too many pretty pictures.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we feel the same all the time

blocked and deleted loads since we joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can't wank and read at the same time.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Because they can't wank and read at the same time."

It's true. Took me forty-five minutes to type this out while I whacking off to Countdown at the same time.

LvM

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

It's the 'what are you looking for?' That grates on me when it clearly says.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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More Men on the site so you will get more that don’t read profiles properly, Some Women and couples don’t read them as well

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I didn’t even read the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short attention span and boobs. Not a good combo.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Most seem to read ours tbh, and it's fairly long.

We're not too fussed about someone's first message either, as long as it's legible, it's initially all about physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just not men that don’t read profiles. It’s just that there are many more of them sending messages on a more frequent basis.

We are a nation of “don’t read the f*cking instructions”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women and couples are just as guilty of the same thing.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Women and couples are just as guilty of the same thing."

Was gonna say similar

I blocked couples because they too don't read profiles ,I'm not looking to meet them on this profile .I don't meet women ,but I imagine some are the same .

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Yep...everyone's guilty... I am filtered to the hilt... still get the odd msg (when I remove them for forum games) from ladies and couples who refuse to read

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By *Bacchus.Man
over a year ago

Torquay

I read profiles before messaging because so many state "no beard" or "must be bi" or such and I feel stupid if I get caught out and message anyway.

Also many couples and women hide a title phrase that needs to be included, non adherence usually ends in immediately being blocked.

A lot of profiles are tediously long-winded though.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

I always read profiles to see if the person is compatible to me. I have a base message that I adapt if there is something that is relevant to add or remove. If the profile is blank or low effort then I send it as is as it’s pretty long. I used to spend ages sculpting the perfect message to be ignored so I use a default ice breaker to get the same response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a penis can't read thats probably the main reason, I read em tho, just saying

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

i always read a profile, no point in messaging if your not what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not just men plenty of couples and women dont read then either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the clientele is getting younger and in the world of available porn they think sex is magically instantaneous with a picture of a dick.

Walking the canal today I walked past two elderley teens. One said; that lass on the canal boat was gorgeous. I'd love to stick my penis in her arse.

This is the world we live in.

It's sad, destructive and of little value to anyone. I'm just glad I fell in love prior to the internet being successful. Bring back CD rhom.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Then there's the men who clearly have read my profile but message anyway because what they want is THE most important thing and my preferences don't matter at all.

'Yeah babe, I read it but I'm going to do everything in my power to get you to fuck me'.

Vile creatures.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Short attention span and "War and Peace" profiles don't mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always read a profile, no point in messaging if your not what they are looking for. "

You're incredibly pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do tbf

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

I must admit, i haven't read your profile either ..

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By *eo_72Man
over a year ago

Mansfield


"Most seem to read ours tbh, and it's fairly long.

We're not too fussed about someone's first message either, as long as it's legible, it's initially all about physical attraction.

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Exactly it’s all about attraction

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Probably because of the exact same reasons why couples and women don't read them also I'd say. It's not just men who don't.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Then there's the men who clearly have read my profile but message anyway because what they want is THE most important thing and my preferences don't matter at all.

'Yeah babe, I read it but I'm going to do everything in my power to get you to fuck me'.

Vile creatures."

I agree, morons

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

If I were to guess... I'd say it's because to a lot of guys, this is seen simply as a hook-up / fuck site. And it's also (to them) a numbers game. Now here's the important part... the amount of women on here for the exact same thing / same standards, while probably miniscule, only has to work for them once or twice in order to reinforce the behaviour. Now they know; throw enough shit at the wall and eventually some of it will stick.

Like, that MUST be it, right? Otherwise this behaviour would have died out long ago if there was truly zero success / results for it.

This is coming from someone who has never, nor will ever, play said numbers game, however. So I may be completely, utterly wrong on the matter.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I can agree that it's not just men too.

I think the reality is that smart people read them and fools don't

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Profile-reading and message-writing are just pathetic ways of wasting time.

Either she fancies a fuck, or she doesn’t – simple!

Answer: “No”, or her address!

You’d be surprised how many women do, if you ask them at the right time of the evening.

Posted by a singe male who has had 33 play (not social) meetings so far this year.

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON


"i always read a profile, no point in messaging if your not what they are looking for.

You're incredibly pretty "

And your a lioness see i do read them

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Too much jizz on the screen.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Profile-reading and message-writing are just pathetic ways of wasting time.

Either she fancies a fuck, or she doesn’t – simple!

Answer: “No”, or her address!

You’d be surprised how many women do, if you ask them at the right time of the evening.

Posted by a singe male who has had 33 play (not social) meetings so far this year.

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And then there's this

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By *ntopofyou OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote


"It’s just not men that don’t read profiles. It’s just that there are many more of them sending messages on a more frequent basis.

We are a nation of “don’t read the f*caking instructions”"

Lol that's very true.. only read them when it's too late.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Because there are large number of people who are convinced that they personally are so special that they are the exception to every rule, and can just do whatever the fuck they want.

Unfortunately, in addition to harassing women on Fab, there are also currently quite a few of them running the country.

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

The issue is simply because people request personalised, well written long winded introductions which 99.9999% of the time, will just end up being ignored. A simple hi would suite us down to the T, because we would look at the profile and then decide to engage in conversation, depending on the conversation and the ability to continue it, we would then decide or not if that individual was for us. Fab should have a like button and you can only message someone if they like you back, people always mention the 5 seconds first impression and a pic would do that. happy fabbing

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By *heswingerMan
over a year ago

the steel city sheffield

Makes me laugh when you get blocked and you’ve not even made contact with a profile, you go to look and your blocked

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By *ntopofyou OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote


"Profile-reading and message-writing are just pathetic ways of wasting time.

Either she fancies a fuck, or she doesn’t – simple!

Answer: “No”, or her address!

You’d be surprised how many women do, if you ask them at the right time of the evening.

Posted by a singe male who has had 33 play (not social) meetings so far this year.

And then there's this "

well done

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"The issue is simply because people request personalised, well written long winded introductions which 99.9999% of the time, will just end up being ignored. A simple hi would suite us down to the T, because we would look at the profile and then decide to engage in conversation, depending on the conversation and the ability to continue it, we would then decide or not if that individual was for us. Fab should have a like button and you can only message someone if they like you back, people always mention the 5 seconds first impression and a pic would do that. happy fabbing"

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If they read beyond one sentence they spontaneously combust. FACT!

**Those that can read are generally the hotter stuff**

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

If it's obvious no reading has taken place straight delete, if we have zero interest in the profile straight delete. Harsh we know but that's how it's developed, not dealing with the whys or follow ups, fab's much easier to manage now and we don't have to ask ourselves that question any more, op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not mandatory neither is liking the photos I just jizzed over

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

OP I imagine same reason women don’t read profiles ??!! . They just look at the photos then message?

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By *di086Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

Would be nice but most, not all got "XX" as their descpriton, others 8inch only and so so on well ladies here should write to administration to restrict messaging to them if their dicks is not long like an elephant nose ?????? that would solve half of the problems 2nd part with skin color - ah that's not rant just harsh reality and some of sarcasm with tone of realism on this site ps. Even in the pub everyting starts from simple hi, hello....

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's a tricky one. I always read profiles, but then I always try to start a chat the same way I would in person - with an introduction and asking them how their day is going. It can come across like I've not read the profile, but anything else just feels unnatural.

If I read a profile and know I'm not what they're looking for, I just don't message

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Look at it this way.

It's a good thing that some people don't read profiles.

Any halfway decent human should have at least a basic grasp of how to communicate with other humans - and if they don't, you want to know RIGHT NOW - not later.

So a shitty didn't-read-the-profile message is in fact a godsend - because that person has done you the courtesy of telling you right upfront, in no uncertain terms - that you absolutely do not want to communicate with them, let alone meet them.

What a wonderful timesaver for you!

You could never accuse someone like that of being a timewaster right?

This is why I despair at people who write long laundry lists of dos and don'ts on their profiles (fair enough if you have very specific requirements - I'm talking obvious stuff like "don't send me 17 pictures of your cock and no face")

Why on earth would anyone hand a dickhead and instruction manual on how to fly under your dickhead radar?

Makes no sense

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

You be surprised, a lot of single females and couples can’t read either! Or is it just double standards?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Because they look at the photos and their cock takes over the brain.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

Its not just men. The messages ive had from couples today have been crazy bordering on creepy af

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By *luttTV/TS
over a year ago

Duns

For a bit of balance, I do like the mild irony of people complaining that people aren’t “reading their entire profile” when half of their profile is a pointless “disclaimer”

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I read the instructions but still don’t get anywhere but that’s because I’m crap at putting stuff into words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would take less than a minute to read my profile. If I am not worth a minute of someone's time, they don't deserve a reply from me. It's a great filter.

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting."

As I said. A great filter.

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By *SYDirtySecretMan
over a year ago

St Helier

To be honest, us men have a rough ride on Fab and that's nobody's fault really.

Make effort, get no response. So you start to make less effort. Its natural.

Also I hate it when there is a word that you have to take from the profile and put in the subject of a message. I always mean to but 99% of the time forget to.

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter. "

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Where would life be without generalisations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter.

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging."

If someone has an entitled rant for a profile, that's a good reason to swerve. But most people don't.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london


"Because they can't wank and read at the same time."

Perhaps some are texting with their dick??

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter.

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging.

If someone has an entitled rant for a profile, that's a good reason to swerve. But most people don't. "

I just read yours, and to be fair it's not entitled or ranty, but there's an awful lot of them out there.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Because they can't wank and read at the same time."
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I suspect this!!!! Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter.

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging.

If someone has an entitled rant for a profile, that's a good reason to swerve. But most people don't.

I just read yours, and to be fair it's not entitled or ranty, but there's an awful lot of them out there."

I have ranted on my profile before. Getting dozens of dick pics a day got on my nerves. The crass messages. That's why people write their profiles like that - it's a reaction. An understandable one, but not effective or helpful in the long run.

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By *orthernGinge-93Man
over a year ago

Northeast

Tbf I think it's because "most" men, don't want to have to graft to get something they want and feel pretty entitled to receiving it! I always read the profile to the little details but even then its a struggle to find someone up here due to sheer numbers of M to F ratio, us lad that do often don't tick boxes or are over looked but that's more than understandable and I never take it personally.

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter.

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging.

If someone has an entitled rant for a profile, that's a good reason to swerve. But most people don't.

I just read yours, and to be fair it's not entitled or ranty, but there's an awful lot of them out there.

I have ranted on my profile before. Getting dozens of dick pics a day got on my nerves. The crass messages. That's why people write their profiles like that - it's a reaction. An understandable one, but not effective or helpful in the long run. "

I do get that, but it's very off putting. They make it seem like you're going for a job interview and should be highly honoured if they so much as give you the time of day. The fact is the vast male / female imbalance on here caused frustration on both sides.

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It’s just not men that don’t read profiles. It’s just that there are many more of them sending messages on a more frequent basis.

We are a nation of “don’t read the f*cking instructions”"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us do,but we're in the small minority,it benefits a person to read a profile because first you need to see if you're compatible,second what's the point in contacting someone who isn't interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because life's too short to read a page of entitled ranting.

As I said. A great filter.

It certainly is. You know who is too arrogant to bother messaging.

If someone has an entitled rant for a profile, that's a good reason to swerve. But most people don't.

I just read yours, and to be fair it's not entitled or ranty, but there's an awful lot of them out there.

I have ranted on my profile before. Getting dozens of dick pics a day got on my nerves. The crass messages. That's why people write their profiles like that - it's a reaction. An understandable one, but not effective or helpful in the long run.

I do get that, but it's very off putting. They make it seem like you're going for a job interview and should be highly honoured if they so much as give you the time of day. The fact is the vast male / female imbalance on here caused frustration on both sides."

I guess some women do that. And some man write "Will fill in later". We all frustrate each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish they would read mine first

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I rarely read profiles but then again I don't send messages so one doesn't have any effect on the other.

I haven't read all of this thread either but I'm sure there are no surprises on it as it's been discussed before.

Every conversation I've had in the last two years has been initiated by women.

For each and every one of those conversations there have been twice as many hi, hru, nice pics, phone number now messages from other women.

These are not new accounts and are all very well verified and often prominent forumites so the not reading profile finger can be pointed in their direction too.

When it all comes down to it though the people who most rants or observations or instruction manuals are aimed at don't use the forums and for the few that do they aren't going to take advice given here if they can't even read a profile.

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By *r. JoystickMan
over a year ago

London

Us male profiles are also a victim of other men not bothering to read what's in our bios. (E.g. "couples" contacting us)

Or maybe intentionally ignoring in order to force their own narrative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men respond to pics the end J xx

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I read profiles, however it makes little difference regarding getting replies, so I can understand why a lot of guys don't bother

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

I'm finding the same issue with couples on my single profile.

The tag line states only looking for women. The first paragraph states will only meet women. If wanting to meet a a couple to message the couple profile.

Today alone I've had 4 messages from couples asking what I'm looking for. I generally answer and say women only then they disappear.

It's frustrating but hey, after years on here, I've come to accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pet hate is HI.. I find that word boring,and lazy ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My pet hate is HI.. I find that word boring,and lazy .."

Hi

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By *liXbigMan
over a year ago

Wellington

I always read profiles.

Happy Easter??

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

I read the profile and to be honest just read a lot of statements and wants/not wants so I’d argue there is nothing to provoke a meaningful conversation start. I think this is a common issue with profiles. It’s not actually a direct criticism but I often don’t see a starting point so I guess how are you? Is an invitation to chat if the senders profile is of interest.

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By *ooking for SubmissivesMan
over a year ago

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I do think a lot of the issues come from the fact that there are alot of people joining who maybe don’t actually understand the lifestyle and just think this is like Tinder or PoF

And somehow think that a quick one liner and a pic of their cock is all they need for you to suddenly want to jump their bones lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think a lot of the issues come from the fact that there are alot of people joining who maybe don’t actually understand the lifestyle and just think this is like Tinder or PoF

And somehow think that a quick one liner and a pic of their cock is all they need for you to suddenly want to jump their bones lol

"

That doesn't work on Tinder or POF either....

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By *ooking for SubmissivesMan
over a year ago

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Haven’t used them myself admittedly but always used heat guys talking about it lol.

There is definitely a big misconception for a lot of guys though that sites like these as soon as you sign up your going to be knee deep in offers and then are disappointed within a few weeks because they get no reply’s

Or the ones who think that even though they’re not what your looking for that they think they can talk you around

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

I do read profiles, fab the photos I like, il send a message, if they delete it it then I block them as then I know I'm not to their liking snd I won't message them again,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

I try to read profiles properly although I’ll admit I skim read the really long written profiles, in past experience it doesn’t matter too much if you have read as your battling hundreds of single people to have your message noticed

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

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By *xhibitionGuy35Man
over a year ago

South East


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

Honestly as my cock grows I can feel myself becoming more and more stupid, losing the ability and inclination to read may be a common side effect (maybe there’s just not enough blood to go around!) it’s probably best to try to view this behaviour it as flattery

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Small attention span

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By *appycouple300Couple
over a year ago

North Dorset


"It's the 'what are you looking for?' That grates on me when it clearly says."

This

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

It confuses me too. If I'm going to send someone a message, it is because I think that they are what I'm looking for & I match their needs too. It makes sense to indicate in my message the bits in their profile attracted me too them & the things that make me "what they're looking for"... or am I just over thinking things?

Cal

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X

Honestly as my cock grows I can feel myself becoming more and more stupid, losing the ability and inclination to read may be a common side effect (maybe there’s just not enough blood to go around!) it’s probably best to try to view this behaviour it as flattery "

It's not flattering for someone to ignore my profile and send a message in the hope of getting their cock wet.

It's vile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do read the profile of people on here, some people don’t have much to say on there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they can't wank and read at the same time..

I suspect this!!!! Well said "

I can my phone has split screen. Why wank and read when I can wank over two profiles at the same time? The year is 22 work smarter not harder people

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

It's simply not worth the effort for them.

They treat it like tinder and "like" (write a crappy message) to everyone with the least amount of effort as its a numbers game to them. One or two are bound to reply which is a good result for them

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By *inytitsbigcockCouple
over a year ago

glos

Well if it's a man looking at a profile its because we go straight to the photos just like in the old day's of porn mags lol . Probably don't read it till second or third time of looking

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

I quite like reading profiles. But I’m weird.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Short attention span, ooh tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X

Honestly as my cock grows I can feel myself becoming more and more stupid, losing the ability and inclination to read may be a common side effect (maybe there’s just not enough blood to go around!) it’s probably best to try to view this behaviour it as flattery

It's not flattering for someone to ignore my profile and send a message in the hope of getting their cock wet.

It's vile."

Are these cakes homemade?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think a lot of the issues come from the fact that there are alot of people joining who maybe don’t actually understand the lifestyle and just think this is like Tinder or PoF

And somehow think that a quick one liner and a pic of their cock is all they need for you to suddenly want to jump their bones lol

"

Can't blame them. The site is full of pics of spunked up pussies cocks and arseholes.

Sex reviews "she fucked me good, give her/ him a try!!"

Free sex. Just ask....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

Do you know how hard it is to wank AND read? Were men. We cant multi task

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Wish we knew the answer.

Its stated what we are looking for but they still message us.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

"

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal."

But… I’ve had plenty of women instigating, and they (almost) always put in more effort than “hi”?

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We constantly get men and couples asking for private meets when its plastered all over our profile we only meet in clubs. We always reply to thoughtful messages though but ignore the one liner types

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

They can't get past our profile title. We get asked if we want to be watched constantly. No chance of ready the profile. Oh, and do we play with single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal."

I always describe the size of my vagina via the fact I can easily get a basketball up there. Men love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time"

A smidge of sarcasm but mostly truth.

You are attractive. Some will fancy you and some won't.

Some will have had a shitload of crappy messages and be in a bad mood and delete yours ... because red mist.

Maybe try socials or clubs. Face to face can be easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal.

But… I’ve had plenty of women instigating, and they (almost) always put in more effort than “hi”? "

You can spend 10 minutes writing some long winded message, and get exactly the same response as a simple "Hi", message deleted. Hence why I've given up on putting any effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal.

I always describe the size of my vagina via the fact I can easily get a basketball up there. Men love it. "

Could I try for a 3 pointer?

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal.

But… I’ve had plenty of women instigating, and they (almost) always put in more effort than “hi”?

You can spend 10 minutes writing some long winded message, and get exactly the same response as a simple "Hi", message deleted. Hence why I've given up on putting any effort in."

That pretty much sums it up.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

I think it's best to keep profile bios short and sweet even I get bored reading essay profiles and am female lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal."

Yes. I instigate conversations. It's not rocket science. If you know that a woman is likely to have dozens of messages a day and all you write is "Hi" I don't have a lot of sympathy.

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time"

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

Bit of a generalisation labelling all men the same.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?"

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal."

Anyone who's been on bumble knows most women can not instigate conversations beyond the "hi, how are you", the same level of message that gets men mocked anywhere else.

However I do completely understand why most men don't bother reading the profiles - the cost return ratio is abysmal. You can spend all day reading profiles and writing well thought out messages but they're almost certain to get deleted / ignored.

Mr

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know"

There honesly isnt much you can do beyond a straight forward profile with clear pics. Messages are mostly not read so the content is irrelevant. There's so much luck involved. Its more a lottery than anything personal. Similar sortof odds too.

All my meets where from couples messaging me first. Always brief one liners too ironically.

Timing is more important. After 10 pm forget it . Load photos up between 6pm and 8pm and see if you get any interest. Think of it like fishing.

Also , dont ask for help as you will get some folks crtisising you for moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't women instigate conversations? See how good you are at starting one with a complete stranger. I normally kick off with a simple "Hi", it's how I'd greet someone in real life. Obviously that's not good enough, my opening messaging efforts are at their bare minimal.

Yes. I instigate conversations. It's not rocket science. If you know that a woman is likely to have dozens of messages a day and all you write is "Hi" I don't have a lot of sympathy. "

I'm not looking for sympathy.

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

Some do, but it's pointless, as the ones that do just get tarred with the same brush...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"
. Yawn

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

There's no magic formula but after more than a decade on here here's my 2p's worth.

If a profile is too long most won't read it and if they do they'll speed read and possibly miss important stuff. The more specifics you put in the less likely anyone will remember to read them all.

A two line profile won't be looked at either. Keep it short and sweet and to the point. Much like any decent advert, because that's what it is.

If you put too many photos in then some will just get caught up browsing them and forget the words you've typed. As long as people can clearly see what your bodies look like (clothed and unclothed preferably) then that's your ideal start point - face pics in public are a personal choice.

And if couples and single women get pissed off due to the quality of messages they're receiving? Change your behaviour, block incoming messages for a while, do the hunting yourselves and send your own opening messages. That way you can guarantee everyone you message is someone you may well be attracted to and interested in.

Stop waiting for people to find you. It's lazy.

A

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By *asons_CarounnCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"It's the 'what are you looking for?' That grates on me when it clearly says."

This!

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By *orinmani89Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

I use to read, like that I know if I can offer what she want and she will text me back if I send message

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Then there's the men who clearly have read my profile but message anyway because what they want is THE most important thing and my preferences don't matter at all.

'Yeah babe, I read it but I'm going to do everything in my power to get you to fuck me'.

Vile creatures."

Absolutely. These, thankfully, rare, ones are much more annoying.

I'm not looking to meet men, one chap had the gall to tell me that women don't know what they want, so it was worth messaging, as most change their mind.

Seriously! I'm 48 years old and bloody well do know what I want, as do the vast majority of other ladies on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This 1 always does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admittedly we have a lot to read on our profile but you could find out a lot about what we're looking for before you message.

The amount of messages we get with words like "how are you" or "hi" or "nice boobs" and many more effortless comments.

We would love to here from guys that have read our profile and would really like to chat with us because if there's no connection it's not going anywhere and we know there's some lovely people on FAB.

Not really having a rant honest.

I'm sure there's others on here that feel the same. X"

I personally, do my best to keep the messages relative to their bio and I say a little about me, but I personally find it tricky sometimes to be creative with the messages. I do tend to say hello or how are you? Because for me, if they respond it means they are interested but also it helps me to build rapport and a connection with them.

I'm not great with conversation if I don't have much to go off apart from their bio stuff. I am thinking of going to some clubs though as you then get to see people in person. I just find it tricky sometimes to make conversation on here if others aren't as open to chatting as I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know"

I can't see that you've done a "check my profile" thread, but I'd say the big issue might be if you're married (can see a wedding ring) but you're not clear about it.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Desperation I would highly suggest just blocking men altogether if there are some that you like friend them but most don't even read profile titles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get that a lot, some men just see the big boobs and message!

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Other than exceptional circumstances, I don't message anyone who hasn't messaged me first. Solves all these issues.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I always read profiles and are respectful of asks within said profiles

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

I can't see that you've done a "check my profile" thread, but I'd say the big issue might be if you're married (can see a wedding ring) but you're not clear about it. "

Yesterday I saw a bloke middle fingering a woman, who was obviously not his wife, while wearing a wedding ring on an adjacent digit.

Got me wondering all about morality and betrothal.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Other than exceptional circumstances, I don't message anyone who hasn't messaged me first. Solves all these issues."

I do exactly the same. It's a no win situation otherwise.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know

I can't see that you've done a "check my profile" thread, but I'd say the big issue might be if you're married (can see a wedding ring) but you're not clear about it. "
i did one a year ago but got shouted down so left it. Did you read the whole profile it’s the last thing on it.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

It's not just men

I love the idea of reading a profile but some you know within the first few lines are just quite entitled and full of do's and donts, magic words so I lose interest

The difference is some men would still message just because they like the pictures I wouldn't as I'd know the person wouldn't be a good match for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at it this way.

It's a good thing that some people don't read profiles.

Any halfway decent human should have at least a basic grasp of how to communicate with other humans - and if they don't, you want to know RIGHT NOW - not later.

So a shitty didn't-read-the-profile message is in fact a godsend - because that person has done you the courtesy of telling you right upfront, in no uncertain terms - that you absolutely do not want to communicate with them, let alone meet them.

What a wonderful timesaver for you!

You could never accuse someone like that of being a timewaster right?

This is why I despair at people who write long laundry lists of dos and don'ts on their profiles (fair enough if you have very specific requirements - I'm talking obvious stuff like "don't send me 17 pictures of your cock and no face")

Why on earth would anyone hand a dickhead and instruction manual on how to fly under your dickhead radar?

Makes no sense

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know

I can't see that you've done a "check my profile" thread, but I'd say the big issue might be if you're married (can see a wedding ring) but you're not clear about it. i did one a year ago but got shouted down so left it. Did you read the whole profile it’s the last thing on it."

You don't say you're married. You just say you're in a couple. Not clear if she's ok with it or you're cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no magic formula but after more than a decade on here here's my 2p's worth.

If a profile is too long most won't read it and if they do they'll speed read and possibly miss important stuff. The more specifics you put in the less likely anyone will remember to read them all.

A two line profile won't be looked at either. Keep it short and sweet and to the point. Much like any decent advert, because that's what it is.

If you put too many photos in then some will just get caught up browsing them and forget the words you've typed. As long as people can clearly see what your bodies look like (clothed and unclothed preferably) then that's your ideal start point - face pics in public are a personal choice.

And if couples and single women get pissed off due to the quality of messages they're receiving? Change your behaviour, block incoming messages for a while, do the hunting yourselves and send your own opening messages. That way you can guarantee everyone you message is someone you may well be attracted to and interested in.

Stop waiting for people to find you. It's lazy.

A"

I think if people are going to bother to message me off their own bat, they can read my profile. If it takes them longer than two seconds to read it and they get the hump - I don't GAF. I'm not bothered in the least. I message men too. And I read their profiles. It's no effort at all. I don't block men because I like to join in the forum games etc. If people think it's lazy, I also don't GAF because I am here for me and no-one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read a lot of them, but sometimes just sometimes it's quicker to read War and Peace.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston


"Why bother reading profiles or writing a decent message. Most women and couples delete it anyway.

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not so I’m going to assume it is for a second but you’re not actually far off. I read everyone’s profile when I think of sending a message if there profile has something that is worth responding to I will right a nice custom message to it. If it’s just someone moaning about something or a blank profile they get my standard ice breaker. Of the last 50 messages I’ve sent 30 are currently unread the other 19 were read and not responded to or flat deleted. 1 got a response to as to say that my copy and paste message was read and deleted and I got blocked. Maybe deep down I’m just not attractive enough and I have a false self worth but I do invest my time to try and get to know people and it feels like im wasting my time

If you're sending 50 messages and getting no responses, maybe it's time for a different strategy? That one isn't working for you. Ask for some advice on your profile and photos or the messages you send?

I’d love to ask someone for help but if I put something in the help and advice forum I just get either there is nothing wrong or stop looking for attention. If you know anyone willing to offer advice let me know

I can't see that you've done a "check my profile" thread, but I'd say the big issue might be if you're married (can see a wedding ring) but you're not clear about it. i did one a year ago but got shouted down so left it. Did you read the whole profile it’s the last thing on it.

You don't say you're married. You just say you're in a couple. Not clear if she's ok with it or you're cheating."

Ok I’ll make it clearer but i though that it’s our couples profile where we are together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at it this way.

It's a good thing that some people don't read profiles.

Any halfway decent human should have at least a basic grasp of how to communicate with other humans - and if they don't, you want to know RIGHT NOW - not later.

So a shitty didn't-read-the-profile message is in fact a godsend - because that person has done you the courtesy of telling you right upfront, in no uncertain terms - that you absolutely do not want to communicate with them, let alone meet them.

What a wonderful timesaver for you!

You could never accuse someone like that of being a timewaster right?

This is why I despair at people who write long laundry lists of dos and don'ts on their profiles (fair enough if you have very specific requirements - I'm talking obvious stuff like "don't send me 17 pictures of your cock and no face")

Why on earth would anyone hand a dickhead and instruction manual on how to fly under your dickhead radar?

Makes no sense

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gets on my fucking tits

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn


"I use to read, like that I know if I can offer what she want and she will text me back if I send message"

Your lucky!!

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

Because it may be called a japs eye but they can’t actually see out of it

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By *un_ajMan
over a year ago

Durham

Some of us do, and try to make reference to it as well

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"we feel the same all the time

blocked and deleted loads since we joined"

This

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By *uy4fun888Man
over a year ago

South - South West

I apologise on behalf of my fellow man on here! Being a single guy on here sucks as there are so many clowns that ruin it for the rest of us! Ladies, I can only imagine how frustrating it just be, but some of us are good eggs I promise..!

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By *ance_With_MeMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

As a single guy on here who has been here for 18 months and only managed to meet max 4/5 people and almost all of them were for coffee only. I can honestly say. Ive sent maybe 100s of messages if not 1000s I did try to personalise them whether it was to a single female or a couple but you so rarely get a reply it becomes so monotonous reading profiles which are all so similar especially if you’ve just read 10 previous before they get to yours. I appreciate this is really hard for everyone but it’s a nightmare for single guys.

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By *he horny 1sCouple
over a year ago

lincoln

lol

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I think a lot of people on here including woman and couples don't bother to read. The amount of friend requests I get from single woman and couples is unbelievable and yet it states in my profile that I don't accept random friend invites.

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By *eekend_walkMan
over a year ago

Cirencester

I'm probably one of the few guys that always reads the profile before messaging. Sadly the amount that dont read make it hard for genuine guys

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Judging by your profile picture, they won't be able to read your profile after seeing your pictures.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"we feel the same all the time

blocked and deleted loads since we joined"

Likewise ! We have for the same reason.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Couples and single ladies also struggle to read profiles ...and they have far fewer to read ..

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Most of us will read profiles. Unfortunately, some will ignore it and chance their luck anyway.

Whether we read profiles or not, it doesn't affect our one in a million chance of actually getting a reply :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

"

Damn those women doing what they want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the message us as a couple but 9 times out of 10 the messages come back as from a single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

"

Why should they? There’s nothing wrong with exhibitionism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

Why should they? There’s nothing wrong with exhibitionism "

Presumably because they said no to him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles.

First I look at photos to see if there is a attraction otherwise no point reading , then I read and try to see what are the likes/dislikes wants and not wants

if is a short read and not much give away I try to be polite and introduce myself and say what made me contact them . a d I always make sure to mention that if they read the message doesn't mean we have to meet and fuck lol.

the frustrating bit is that many timewaster and I mean couples and females do not even bother messaging back saying thanks but no thanks is only polite . so I think the males get a lot of slack on here when is not just them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always read profiles.

First I look at photos to see if there is a attraction otherwise no point reading , then I read and try to see what are the likes/dislikes wants and not wants

if is a short read and not much give away I try to be polite and introduce myself and say what made me contact them . a d I always make sure to mention that if they read the message doesn't mean we have to meet and fuck lol.

the frustrating bit is that many timewaster and I mean couples and females do not even bother messaging back saying thanks but no thanks is only polite . so I think the males get a lot of slack on here when is not just them"

No reply is a reply. It's in the rules for the site. Many reasons why people don't reply. One of my main ones is that men keep messaging days, weeks, months after I've said no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

Why should they? There’s nothing wrong with exhibitionism

Presumably because they said no to him... "

No they didn't, I never asked.

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

Mine is only 4 sentences but still get asked for my kik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is only 4 sentences but still get asked for my kik "

????

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I read a lot of them, but sometimes just sometimes it's quicker to read War and Peace. "

Indeed, and Tolstoy didn't write the whole thing in capitals with N'E at the start of every line.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I always read profiles.

First I look at photos to see if there is a attraction otherwise no point reading , then I read and try to see what are the likes/dislikes wants and not wants

if is a short read and not much give away I try to be polite and introduce myself and say what made me contact them . a d I always make sure to mention that if they read the message doesn't mean we have to meet and fuck lol.

the frustrating bit is that many timewaster and I mean couples and females do not even bother messaging back saying thanks but no thanks is only polite . so I think the males get a lot of slack on here when is not just them"

How are they time wasting if they don’t reply to your message ?

Surely you decide to send a message on the off chance you ‘may’ get a reply or are you arrogant enough to think you are entitled to a reply, just because you sent a message ?

It’s also polite to read the FAQ on any site you join. Especially the bit that says ‘no reply means not interested’.

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Can’t we on here at times … I’ve sent many a polite message not just fancy a fuck, and some don’t have the decency to reply.. I might get a reply one in every 30 sent.. so get your rant but works both ways

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

*Can’t win

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Makes me laugh when you get blocked and you’ve not even made contact with a profile, you go to look and your blocked "

In our opinion it often proves a better Fab experience when you pre-emptively block those you don't ever want to engage with, based on their avatar and/or profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With me there's alot on here who are just more interested in bigging themselves up and creating a profile of crap, Sorry but get an Instagram account instead.

Women that don't do meets or chats, only speak to site supporters and the famous "not meeting at the moment but make themselves out to be lady marmalade on their profile

Get off the swinging site like

Why should they? There’s nothing wrong with exhibitionism

Presumably because they said no to him...

No they didn't, I never asked. "

You didn't ask? You should get off the swinging site like...

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By *arlos671Man
over a year ago

leeds

Most are using there 3rd eye to see.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

What derogatory bollocks towards men ..

You do realise couples are 50% men ?

People really do take all this too seriously..

I never read long boring profiles of people talking about themselves..

And I do ok on here ..

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