FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for first meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys, been on and off here, but have had no luck in ever arranging a meet. I try to be nice and send a face pic too when requested...what am I doing wrong? Newbie-help! Ahha would also love to go to a club but a little anxious by myself....

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We can't say anything specific about your profile as you've not technically asked, but we'd not reply to a message from you.

(Bry)

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Have a look at your profile and messages and think, honestly, if you’d reply to someone taking that approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say OP that your profile needs a bit more detail, obviously your not lacking when called upon lol and keep up the cam work as that will get you noticed

other than that use the clubs and it will follow from there

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We can't say anything specific about your profile as you've not technically asked, but we'd not reply to a message from you.

(Bry)"

Messaged ;p

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have a look at your profile and messages and think, honestly, if you’d reply to someone taking that approach. "

Hmm I’d hope so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will say OP that your profile needs a bit more detail, obviously your not lacking when called upon lol and keep up the cam work as that will get you noticed

other than that use the clubs and it will follow from there

good luck"

Thanks for the advice

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"We can't say anything specific about your profile as you've not technically asked, but we'd not reply to a message from you.

(Bry)

Messaged ;p"

Why?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

That's not a surprise for every guy to get just one meet a year every lady would need to do a minimum 2 meets a week, there's just to many guys to ladies on this site so most men will be left disappointed

The best thing you can do is really use your page to promote yourself, update photos regularly make sure your profile shows you in the best light, why should someone meet you over the other 100 guys in their inbox, your bio says nothing, how would someone know if your sexually compatible & share the same kinks, at the moment your a guilt free delete to most as there's nothing to entice us in

Your photos are also likely to out more off than they'll impress, surprisingly people on here don't like dickpics, one's fine but they need to be scattered with other images, add to that your age, some will have children around your age which will make you off limits to them

If your really into older women (would you honestly want to meet a 99yr old?) try a cougars & cubs night at a club where women are specifically looking for younger guys

Engage in the forums, look for local social events, try a club get your name & face known, there's a social next month being advertised in the london forum

If you put the work in you'll get rewarded sadly most people think this site is instashag & getting a meet is as simple as making a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you haven't asked for advice about your profile on this thread I won't suggest anything apart from if you received a message and you checked the person's Profile and it had the same content as yours would you reply.... if the answer is yes then that maybe the problem.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

As above... Effort in = results out.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You send a face pic when requested? Send it with your first message. Don’t wait to be asked. If they have got dozens of messages to go through they won’t have the time or energy to request a face pic. Don’t make it hard work and then you might get a result.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Have a look at your profile and messages and think, honestly, if you’d reply to someone taking that approach.

Hmm I’d hope so"

Well, I meant more, “if you had 10/30/50 messages would you open yours, look at your profile and chose to reply to yours rather than another”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As above... Effort in = results out."

Absolutely

You’ve got to think of your profile like a shop window

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

"As above... Effort in = results out.

Absolutely

You’ve got to think of your profile like a shop window

And what a fantastic window display you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imaging it similar to applying for a job that's really caught your attention.

Your profile is your CV.

Your pictures your portfolio.

Your message is your cover note.

Be sure you know what you're applying for (read profile).

Express what you feel you can bring to the situation.

In short, sell yourself.

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