FabSwingers.com forum: Meet let downs

By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Question for couples, how many times have you tried to arrange a meet but others have lost their nerve or failed to show up

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

In almost 20 yrs on the scene i cannot recall ever being stood up as a cpl or when meeting on my own ... and only very few that have fizzled out before meeting for whatever reason

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Its never happened but now we stick to clubs so it's not relevant if it did happen.

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"Its never happened but now we stick to clubs so it's not relevant if it did happen. "

We are Looking to join a club soon

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets. "

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for couples, how many times have you tried to arrange a meet but others have lost their nerve or failed to show up"

Lost count over the years to be honest . Just a matter of dusting ones self down & crack on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've arranged to meet people, mainly single men in clubs and they haven't turned up but as we were meeting in a club there were plenty more fish in the sea. We only really meet in clubs now for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Countless times x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Countless times x"

This. Especially recently.

Meet arranged and literally around the time to meet they go UNLOS.

Loads just don't turn up and they all claim to be genuine. Now, until they're through the door we don't believe anyone is genuine we just have to chance it.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I find the longer you leave it between first conversations and meeting the more likely it is that it won't happen

I never give people a second chance, there's plenty more fish in the sea as they say

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down"

They likely never had any intention to meet, plenty of people are just on her for the flirt and chase, to give them some new material to wank over

Block and move on

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down"

With some, I’m sure they are genuine reasons when they message before hand. But others just stop reading/replying to messages. I guess some may get nervous, for some the fantasy is great but the reality is scary and for the others, they have too much time on their hands and think it’s fun to meet others around. Probably not who they say they are anyway. Block and move on!

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"Question for couples, how many times have you tried to arrange a meet but others have lost their nerve or failed to show up

Lost count over the years to be honest . Just a matter of dusting ones self down & crack on "

Frustrating though

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down

100%

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down

They likely never had any intention to meet, plenty of people are just on her for the flirt and chase, to give them some new material to wank over

Block and move on "

Well said

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Never had any let downs as all arranged meets have gone well. We do find the occasional conversation fizzles out with nothing arranged though.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I reckon 3 out of 4 let me down, either social or meet.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Never before but twice in one day recently.

Two single guys…both made excuses after agreeing to meet.

The good thing as a couple is it doesn’t affect you so much as we still have each other

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By *kmaleMan
over a year ago

Bedford

Everyone seems to encounter no shows. Have had single women not appear or cry off with an hour to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being let down is part of the obstacle course in this game.

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By *oogiMan
over a year ago

St Albans

Unfortunately some people are not reqdy yet to the real meet, and just like to fantasies about one, so will drag you on with them to their selfish journey. Unfortunately people are selfish, they do know they will not going to show up at to the meeting but luckily there are plenty others who still do and that's why we are all still here x it's part of the game. My suggestion is to go with those who have verifications and at least more than one from different people, that usually minimise the risk of stood ups or at least for a real reason and not for fulfilling thier virtual fantasies x regardless... wishing you all the best with others who will be willing to pit a smile on your faces x

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"To be honest, every time we arrange a meet we have some who message before with apologies and on there who just don’t turn up. But that’s par for the course arranging group meets.

I really don't understand why they back out, such a let down"

They must be mad to turn you down

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Another let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started swinging we used to go to a swinging club to meet people.

Haven't been since the pandemic hit and decided to try meeting people through socials to no avail.

2 no shows (had been speaking to both profiles for quite some time before social was arranged)

2 last minute cancellations

And then there are the people who aren't who or what they say they are.

Meeting people in clubs is so much easier, but not an option for us atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a lady asking me too go a club with her(happy days) anyhow wouldnt swap no,s or telephone chat - so said was going knowhere without at least a phone chat, couple yrs ago travelled 25miles too an address ,waited for the lady 45min n gave up, came home to WE WERE LAUGHING at you you sad twat etc etc , i wouldnt let someone down intentionaly but understand things do crop up so give benefit of doubt first time, any more just shrug n move on

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By *uksungCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

We've arranged a few meets which didn't turn up and some even vanished off line. It does ruin plans when you have made then. We always ended shagging because it makes us so horny prior to the meet. On one occasion we did try and get some guys spur of the moment after a.meet failed to show but that didn't materialise as aw well

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Can't say I've ever experienced a no show in all the time I've been on Fab, I've had 29 year olds turning up as a 59 year old a couple of times though.

Oh and the one verified "couple" who turned out to be just the husband who had split from her 18 months ago.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Not had any no shows, but we’ve had a couple last minute cancellations so we tend to keep meets to clubs these days.

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"had a lady asking me too go a club with her(happy days) anyhow wouldnt swap no,s or telephone chat - so said was going knowhere without at least a phone chat, couple yrs ago travelled 25miles too an address ,waited for the lady 45min n gave up, came home to WE WERE LAUGHING at you you sad twat etc etc , i wouldnt let someone down intentionaly but understand things do crop up so give benefit of doubt first time, any more just shrug n move on

Wow so sad that people can be so nasty out there

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"When we first started swinging we used to go to a swinging club to meet people.

Haven't been since the pandemic hit and decided to try meeting people through socials to no avail.

2 no shows (had been speaking to both profiles for quite some time before social was arranged)

2 last minute cancellations

And then there are the people who aren't who or what they say they are.

Meeting people in clubs is so much easier, but not an option for us atm

Maybe we should venture into the club scene

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Only once for us, the 1st couple we were going to meet too, seems they got cold feet last minute & cancelled.

Mrs

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By *iquid GoldCouple
over a year ago

gloucestershire

Only once for us also but it doesn’t take away the annoyance of it.

We’d chatted for a while with a female and thought we were getting on really well. Booked a hotel close to her and messaged her when we arrived to say we were there. She responded with “great see you soon”. Then we went to the pub next door to meet her and she didn’t show!

It taught us a lesson though and we won’t be arranging meets in hotels that we have paid for again

Mrs B

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By *orygriffinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

That’s an absolute shitty way to be towards you mate. Sad people out there.

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"Only once for us also but it doesn’t take away the annoyance of it.

It taught us a lesson though and we won’t be arranging meets in hotels that we have paid for again

Mrs B "

Yeah that’s definitely wrong people getting you to pay for the hotel and then not show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we first started swinging we used to go to a swinging club to meet people.

Haven't been since the pandemic hit and decided to try meeting people through socials to no avail.

2 no shows (had been speaking to both profiles for quite some time before social was arranged)

2 last minute cancellations

And then there are the people who aren't who or what they say they are.

Meeting people in clubs is so much easier, but not an option for us atm

Maybe we should venture into the club scene "

It is definitely easier to meet people. Or try an organised group social, they're a great place to meet like minded people as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One in the early days.

Our filters and awareness of red flags are much better honed now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the longer you leave it between first conversations and meeting the more likely it is that it won't happen

I never give people a second chance, there's plenty more fish in the sea as they say "

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

All it takes is a short msg somewhere on the lines of sorry cant meet now as something has come up. We met a guy before Xmas for a social, been chatting ever since and arranged to play date tonight, been arranging times etc since Saturday, this morning his profile has gone along with all our msg etc ? WTF just grow a pair and say changed my mind instead of wasting our time making all the arrangements that we have put in place for today which now has ruined any plans we could of made.

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I know I'm a single guy and the question is to couples but I've only ever been let down my a couple once. Some meets have had to be cancelled that to be expected but they let me know

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