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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

Have a look at a night you want to attend and see if there’s a social meet up first. Could ease your nerves a bit when you’ve already chatted.

We’ve been to a few clubs and still get very nervous before going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x

Have a look at a night you want to attend and see if there’s a social meet up first. Could ease your nerves a bit when you’ve already chatted.

We’ve been to a few clubs and still get very nervous before going. "

thank you for your suggestion i might try this

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I go to my local club alone and feel confident enough now to go to any club alone. I find the club goers very friendly.

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

reading


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

Have you considered a chaperone.

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By *iscreteguy1287Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

Same here, really wanna go to a club but nervous as anything when it comes to actually going. Normally I'm pretty confident but for some reason when it comes to clubs I back down.

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By *heekyGent44Man
over a year ago

Northwich


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

I've met several single ladies who only ever meet in clubs and usually travel on their own. As a single lady the staff will look out for you, show you round, talk to you at the bar, offer advice. Then at the end of the night they will ensure you get to your car safely if you are alone.

Some single ladies arrange their private meets for a club, that way if they get cold feet they can say "no thanks" politely and simply stay in the bar without going further. If the guy in question gets pushy, the staff will deal with it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x

thanks really appreciate this x

I've met several single ladies who only ever meet in clubs and usually travel on their own. As a single lady the staff will look out for you, show you round, talk to you at the bar, offer advice. Then at the end of the night they will ensure you get to your car safely if you are alone.

Some single ladies arrange their private meets for a club, that way if they get cold feet they can say "no thanks" politely and simply stay in the bar without going further. If the guy in question gets pushy, the staff will deal with it x"

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Contact the club they'll help you decide what would be a good night for you to attend ie you may prefer your first visit to be on a quieter night

When you visit they'll give you a tour, chat to you at the bar introduce you to a few people

You'll be fine lots of people go alone, clubs are friendly places you'll soon find yourself chatting to lots of different people and enjoying the atmosphere

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

I saw this question raised by another lady recently, and she finanally did attend a club for a first time and is going back again.

Some of the things suggested was perhaps finding a single female friend to go with.

I think she went by herself, but remained active in the forums so got to know some people to look out for at the specific event. Some nights are single females and couples only so that might be less overwhelming perhaps.

So perhaps if you kind of decided on a good club and a particular night look out for a forum thread on it and just see who is going, and perhaps join in that conversation and see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys i’ll look at the club forums x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same I’m so wanting to go to a club but don’t have the courage to just walk in dressed ready or go and change there in my own xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel the same I’m so wanting to go to a club but don’t have the courage to just walk in dressed ready or go and change there in my own xxx"

i think i’m just going to go for it x

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Never been one puts me off going alone

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By *icole 123Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

I wish I was brave enough to go on my own…

If anyone has any advice or wants to accompany me,I would love that…

My nearest club is Quest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this last week a first time alone and actually went better than thought, I posted a meet going solo so get to see if anyone is going too it was my regular one, I was still nervous but had excellent night definitely not scared now.

Lol the bonus we can chat to who we like and not expected to play and staff are always there to watch you too. Nice to just chat and flirt I find so good luck

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

To anyone going to a club for the first time, the worst part is walking through the door. You'll get a tour from a staff member who are all friendly. You'll probably chat to one or two people during your tour. It's a surreal experience...do it!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'd agree that your best bet is to choose a club, then contact them directly explaining the situation.

They'll show you around and there'll likely be some regulars they'll introduce so you're not stuck as billy no mates.

If you do decide that company would be good for your first trip I'd suggest either going with another single female or a couple, rather than a single guy. No matter how good their intentions, there'll always be a worry that there'll be some expectancy for you to play with them and it'll limit your freedom once inside.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd agree that your best bet is to choose a club, then contact them directly explaining the situation.

They'll show you around and there'll likely be some regulars they'll introduce so you're not stuck as billy no mates.

If you do decide that company would be good for your first trip I'd suggest either going with another single female or a couple, rather than a single guy. No matter how good their intentions, there'll always be a worry that there'll be some expectancy for you to play with them and it'll limit your freedom once inside.

A"

yes thanks for this it would appear my inbox has blown up with noble Chaperones hahaha

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I'd agree that your best bet is to choose a club, then contact them directly explaining the situation.

They'll show you around and there'll likely be some regulars they'll introduce so you're not stuck as billy no mates.

If you do decide that company would be good for your first trip I'd suggest either going with another single female or a couple, rather than a single guy. No matter how good their intentions, there'll always be a worry that there'll be some expectancy for you to play with them and it'll limit your freedom once inside.

A

yes thanks for this it would appear my inbox has blown up with noble Chaperones hahaha "

Always the way!

There's nothing wrong with going with a previous meet that you know well, an FB if you have one, or someone you're completely comfortable with.

But I'd never suggest a first time meet as a club chaperone. Apart from the issues I mentioned you'll also be seen as his partner for the night and his behaviour (should it not be acceptable) will be linked to you.

I've seen it happen many a time where someone (male or female) has misbehaved due to attitude or too much alcohol and caused an issue for the person they're with. Never worth risking a bad reputation due to someone else's actions.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd agree that your best bet is to choose a club, then contact them directly explaining the situation.

They'll show you around and there'll likely be some regulars they'll introduce so you're not stuck as billy no mates.

If you do decide that company would be good for your first trip I'd suggest either going with another single female or a couple, rather than a single guy. No matter how good their intentions, there'll always be a worry that there'll be some expectancy for you to play with them and it'll limit your freedom once inside.

A

yes thanks for this it would appear my inbox has blown up with noble Chaperones hahaha

Always the way!

There's nothing wrong with going with a previous meet that you know well, an FB if you have one, or someone you're completely comfortable with.

But I'd never suggest a first time meet as a club chaperone. Apart from the issues I mentioned you'll also be seen as his partner for the night and his behaviour (should it not be acceptable) will be linked to you.

I've seen it happen many a time where someone (male or female) has misbehaved due to attitude or too much alcohol and caused an issue for the person they're with. Never worth risking a bad reputation due to someone else's actions.

A"

that’s definitely food for thought and i think i shall stick to going alone x

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Love going on my own, just me to consider then and no clingy chaperone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

I have thought the same myself.... if we were closer location wise, we could have gone together as support.... wish you lots of luck and if you do go, let me know how it goes xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x

I have thought the same myself.... if we were closer location wise, we could have gone together as support.... wish you lots of luck and if you do go, let me know how it goes xx"

aww thank you i’ll keep you updated xx

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

without a doubt it will be the safest place for you to meet people let the staff know its your first time and your alone.Most will introduce you to a few people they trust just to get you settled

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

just go the minute you walk through the door youll wonder why you were ever worried

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I when attending mostly go by myself. With pretty much one exception I won't go with a " chaperone" x it is way to much effort lol

I enjoy going as a single lady

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Once you are inside you’ll wonder what all the nerves were about. I wouldn’t recommend going with a chaperone I just think it’s weird that. You can go with no expectations or pressure, even just go for a drink if that’s what you feel like doing.

Find the club and night you want to go to, have a look on the forum, chat to others, lots of nights have kik groups so you can get to know others beforehand.

Have made some amazing friends along the way. X

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

This is a long shot but I to would love to try one but to scarred so if you fancy we could walk in together then you will soon be whisked away

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Most clubs now will make sure single women that attend their clubs are looked after anyway. Most that attend clubs are friendly anyway, well.. from my experience of visitng clubs that is but have heard stories how sometimes the odd knobhead or two will try to be trouble. Dont let that put you off though. Jyst let the staff know and they will sort it straight away. Hope you enjoy yourself when you decide to go though

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’ve the same worries as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I when attending mostly go by myself. With pretty much one exception I won't go with a " chaperone" x it is way to much effort lol

I enjoy going as a single lady "

exactly i don’t want to be held to anyone x

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

you be welcomed and looked after if you go im sure.. try No3 club in Chorley they are a friendly bunch (in a good way)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

some really good advice here and definitely feel much more confident i’m going to try quest this week

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

We went to an event/party night in Feb and around 3 weeks before, they opened a group chat so that everyone could speak to each other before the night. Lots of people met in the pub of the hotel during the day before the night of the event, it was great I felt like I knew lots of the people already. Nerves gone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We went to an event/party night in Feb and around 3 weeks before, they opened a group chat so that everyone could speak to each other before the night. Lots of people met in the pub of the hotel during the day before the night of the event, it was great I felt like I knew lots of the people already. Nerves gone. "

i’m going midweek on my own i’m just going for it

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By *izmeCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I went alone and got looked after by the guys for hours what a day that was

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales


"We went to an event/party night in Feb and around 3 weeks before, they opened a group chat so that everyone could speak to each other before the night. Lots of people met in the pub of the hotel during the day before the night of the event, it was great I felt like I knew lots of the people already. Nerves gone.

i’m going midweek on my own i’m just going for it "

Enjoy it! I’m sure you will have a great time

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I go on my own prefer it that way

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"We went to an event/party night in Feb and around 3 weeks before, they opened a group chat so that everyone could speak to each other before the night. Lots of people met in the pub of the hotel during the day before the night of the event, it was great I felt like I knew lots of the people already. Nerves gone.

i’m going midweek on my own i’m just going for it "

You will be fine as many have said.

The clubs are self policing and it’s an environment where the woman is in charge. There’s been a lot of good advice here, the social route is a particularly good one but as soon as the hosts know it’s your first time you will have a protective but not restrictive arm around you.

Let us know how you get on.

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I used to visit kestrels alone it was fine if your not comfortable with a person or situation just tell staff it will be sorted

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I wish I was brave enough to go on my own…

If anyone has any advice or wants to accompany me,I would love that…

My nearest club is Quest"

I often go to quest ny own its such a friendly place

I can't message you as you blocked ladies

I'm.there on good Friday

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

Sounds like a great idea as a starting point.

But the weekend crowd at Quest is equally fun, so do try a few different times.

I suspect you'll find post the visit you are welcomed by all in the venue

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well i’m certainly looking forward to my first visit

got butterflies thinking about it but i’m sure i’ll be fine once i’m there

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

If it's Quest, the staff will be so lovely and they will introduce you to lots of other fantastic folks.

I would wager money that after an hour, all the worries will be behind you forever!

That's why so many clubs have regular members

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

Get yourself along to quest, the staff will look after you there and it's not too overwhelming like some clubs can be.

Mr Hayes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

I was thinking the same thing...

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By *amboozledByPaperClipsMan
over a year ago

hull

Its not just single females

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I had a hideous experience going on my own to the one 'club' based in Brighton... (shudders)

... after which I then resolved to go to my local club that I know and have been with friends before, to make sure it 'wasn't me' and was perfectly fine and no abuse encountered...

So my point being try, and don't ever be put off by one bad experience

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By *ohnOvManchesterMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x "

I feel exactly the same. I’ve only been as a couple. Feel like I’d get there and just be sat on my own like a spare part haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i really want to go to clubs but as a single female feel a bit nervous about just turning up alone

has anyone done this and how did you get on once there x

I feel exactly the same. I’ve only been as a couple. Feel like I’d get there and just be sat on my own like a spare part haha "

that’s what i worry about hahaha

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By *iny_tight_pussWoman
over a year ago

wednesbury

The first time I went I arranged to meet a couple inside who I’d chatted to on here. We got on well and it was like going out with my mates. I was very nervous about taking it further and they could see so they made the first move and asked if I wanted to join them in a private room, which I did and really made me relaxed. After that the female of the couple took me around her favourite bits of the club. She showed me the glory hole and we had a play with random cocks, then we went in the couples room which had 2 way glass and I watched as she had sex with a guy in there. We then went back to her partner who took us up to the dogging bit and he had sex with me on a car bonnet while a random guy had is partner next to us.

I was hooked after that

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