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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't claim to have high intelligence but I like a level playing field or for people to be a bit more intelligent than me. For me intelligence is shown in varying ways though and emotional intelligence is high on my list of likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really care how smart my partners are. As long as they have a nice personality and the physical traits I like them I am happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me sexual attraction starts with my mind, so intelligence is very important.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting response - thanks for answering! Emotional intelligence is absolutely key with these dynamics isn't it?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

"For me sexual attraction starts with my mind, so intelligence is very important. "

Sexual intelligence makes good sex

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IQ I’m not bothered. EQ very much so. Sadly it’s often EQ which is lacking.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Not so much intelligence but we do want do be able to have a good chat it not all about the sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This! Conversation & communication are essential for intense physical play in my book too.

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Intelligence is good or at least the ability to spell correctly and to use proper grammar when messaging. Noone likes to be out of breath after reading a message

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good - that is the intention

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I think an attraction comes 1st but intelligence is a major bonus as it usually means the person can hold a decent conversation or debate and stimulate my mind also

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

Well it depends - if it’s in a club environment then really intelligence doesn’t come into play.

But if it’s through fab, looking to build a connection then it plays a huge part. Nothing more frustrating than having to explain yourself to someone multiple times because they don’t understand something simple.

It doesn’t even have to be a level playing field. As long as we can sustain a genuine engaging conversation then there should be no issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Intelligence is good or at least the ability to spell correctly and to use proper grammar when messaging. Noone likes to be out of breath after reading a message"

Did you intend for this to be humorous?

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Yeah find it’s important to have that right mental connection, as well as physical and spiritual.

It’s doesn’t have to be academic intelligence. That alone you can’t really gauge someone.

More so right blend of Social intelligence, interpersonal (emotional) and creative.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I look for intelligence definitely, but it doesn't have to be solely IQ. EQ and to be savvy makes connection with sex so much better. Club environment too as I want to chat and connect with people. Just a fit body isn't what truly does it for me

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Intelligence what does that actually mean? Bits of paper? To some higher education means lack of common sense. It's all rather subjective, to my best mate I'm the most intelligent person she knows, where in a certain group of friends in average.

I think when we say intelligence, it actually means on the same page on how we view the world around us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah find it’s important to have that right mental connection, as well as physical and spiritual.

It’s doesn’t have to be academic intelligence. That alone you can’t really gauge someone.

More so right blend of Social intelligence, interpersonal (emotional) and creative."

I worked with very smart academics for many years - not a turn on when it's often showing off what they know. People who're intelligent about the world and about people are my preference.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yeah find it’s important to have that right mental connection, as well as physical and spiritual.

It’s doesn’t have to be academic intelligence. That alone you can’t really gauge someone.

More so right blend of Social intelligence, interpersonal (emotional) and creative.

I worked with very smart academics for many years - not a turn on when it's often showing off what they know. People who're intelligent about the world and about people are my preference. "

Not all academics are like that, promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

intellegence means diddly squat if youre an ignoramous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah find it’s important to have that right mental connection, as well as physical and spiritual.

It’s doesn’t have to be academic intelligence. That alone you can’t really gauge someone.

More so right blend of Social intelligence, interpersonal (emotional) and creative.

I worked with very smart academics for many years - not a turn on when it's often showing off what they know. People who're intelligent about the world and about people are my preference.

Not all academics are like that, promise

I know they're not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

I find that good, clear and Frank communication is essential whatever the level of intimacy or engagement.

To do that requires emotional intelligence, you have to be reasonable and a little confident.

By definition the ability to reason is a measure of intelligence, employed by places like Mensa. However uncoupled form I would term emotional intelligence; compassion, decency, responsibility. In extremis, you get a monster, such as Lord Savill.

Some folk have specific difficulties with social situations or grammar. They tend to fall on the autistic spectrum and don't mean to be rude or awkward

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

I like people who are quick witted, eloquent and well read.

Being morally/politically aligned with me is key too.

These outweigh physical attraction for me. It doesn’t matter how close to a physical “10” someone is for me, if we’re not on the same page mentally, it’s just not going to work.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

Most important thing, even ahead of a sense of humour and patience (though, fuck me, you definitely need all three).

Intelligence for me is so much more than education level…it’s more a way of approaching the world, being open to it and engaged in exploring it. And having the nuts to shut me up sometimes

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I love people and everyone has a story to tell. Confident and interesting to me is more desirable than intelligence.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Thoughtfulness and imagination are certainly attractive traits…we tend to look for lovers who enjoy a splash of kink in their encounters, and a desire to have the mind stimulated tends to go with that territory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

I find that good, clear and Frank communication is essential whatever the level of intimacy or engagement.

To do that requires emotional intelligence, you have to be reasonable and a little confident.

Some folk have specific difficulties with social situations or grammar. They tend to fall on the autistic spectrum and don't mean to be rude or awkward

Many on the spectrum are also often highly intelligent and see the world from a very interesting perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

Don’t need to be highly qualified, but I find emotional intelligence, and someone who is curious about the world and wants to explore new things extremely attractive. If we can connect in this way, the sex is generally more satisfying. Also, if they aren’t intimidated by smart and independent woman, even better

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Although meetings of the mind is important for sexual chemistry don't have to necessarily b intelligence involved x

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

I'm happy with a pussy on life support. Hell, I'm only I it for a shag.

You want stimulation, bang your head on a wall.

Fucking intelligence what a god forsaken thing to bring up.

Ooooo I wanna stimulate your mind!

What garbage, get ur fucking knickers off!

If you can breathe, your half way there.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

I find that good, clear and Frank communication is essential whatever the level of intimacy or engagement.

To do that requires emotional intelligence, you have to be reasonable and a little confident.

Some folk have specific difficulties with social situations or grammar. They tend to fall on the autistic spectrum and don't mean to be rude or awkward

Many on the spectrum are also often highly intelligent and see the world from a very interesting perspective. "

Amen to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don’t have to necessarily be “intelligent”, we don’t care if you’re an astrophysicist or a groundworker, makes no difference.

It’s just that basic level of education/competence that is important, nothing worse than when people message with loads of spelling and grammatical errors. “Hey u free 2nite? Use look grate” or similar will get your message immediately deleted.

To be honest there is usually a correlation between how well worded peoples messages and profiles are and their physical attractiveness. There is nothing less attractive than an idiot.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

"People don’t have to necessarily be “intelligent”, we don’t care if you’re an astrophysicist or a groundworker, makes no difference.

To be honest there is usually a correlation between how well worded peoples messages and profiles are and their physical attractiveness. There is nothing less attractive than an idiot. "

I no wat u meen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is EQ quantified when fucking strangers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality wins every time for me, it say alot about someone if you can click and no matter how intelligent - oh course stimulating conversation is great, but do you need a degree , or similar to have that ?

J xx

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

"How is EQ quantified when fucking strangers? "

Depends on the level of tears….so measuring cup?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

L is highly attracted to intellect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour is more important, but I guess to be humourous takes a certain level of intelligence. So in a roundabout way, yes, its important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is EQ quantified when fucking strangers?

Depends on the level of tears….so measuring cup?"

Tears or squirt?

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"I love people and everyone has a story to tell. Confident and interesting to me is more desirable than intelligence."

I agree with you here, with the nuance that ‘confident’ means ‘at ease with the world’. In short people who are a joy to be with.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Well no one really agrees on what intelligence is anyway. I like sharp / fast thinkers, problem solvers , experts in their field but not boring people who feel the need to tell you they are intelligent, because they nearly always aren’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love people and everyone has a story to tell. Confident and interesting to me is more desirable than intelligence.

I agree with you here, with the nuance that ‘confident’ means ‘at ease with the world’. In short people who are a joy to be with. "

I'm a short person and some people find me a joy to be with

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Very. I only have ongoing friendships so without the intelligence piece they wouldn't last. Though I do respect and enjoy different intelligences.

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By *l MateMan
over a year ago

Sheffield Centre

Emotional intelligence is more important to me for casual sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

I find that good, clear and Frank communication is essential whatever the level of intimacy or engagement.

To do that requires emotional intelligence, you have to be reasonable and a little confident.

Some folk have specific difficulties with social situations or grammar. They tend to fall on the autistic spectrum and don't mean to be rude or awkward

Many on the spectrum are also often highly intelligent and see the world from a very interesting perspective. "

I have found this to be the case. I'm sure we've spoken before, or I've read your comments at least.

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By *ombikerbullMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Intellect and creative intelligence, really flick my switch.

I like to be able to have a conversation with my partner on all topics.

The creativity often plays into the bedroom.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My current partner is more intelligent than me in certain subjects and experiences. That’s something I like with a partner. It can be something as simple as she’s great with mathematics (I’m not) or languages (I’m definitely not).

But I prefer to then have some knowledge that she’s no expert in as well. But we both have common interest that match our intelligence levels, from art to media.

Surely then it’s a perfect fit, share our knowledge of certain subjects and help the other out. But at the same time have parity with other aspects of our life together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality wins every time for me, it say alot about someone if you can click and no matter how intelligent - oh course stimulating conversation is great, but do you need a degree , or similar to have that ?

J xx

I agree! A degree doesn't make you especially smart, anymore than a lack of one makes you especially stupid. I wonder how many Einsteins, Riemanns or Thoms etc; ad nauseum; spent their lives picking cotton, mining coal or died young in some war about some rulers offended sensibilities. What wondrous universe might we inhabit if they had been able fully explore their potential... Rather than a dying planet, beset by war, greed, plague and prejudice. Errrm Happy Friday

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"People don’t have to necessarily be “intelligent”, we don’t care if you’re an astrophysicist or a groundworker, makes no difference.

To be honest there is usually a correlation between how well worded peoples messages and profiles are and their physical attractiveness. There is nothing less attractive than an idiot. "

Absolutely.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

"How is EQ quantified when fucking strangers?

Depends on the level of tears….so measuring cup?

Tears or squirt?"

1 cup and 1 bucket……. Position as necessary.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

Intelligence can help, can also hinder. Nothing beats a well mannered, nice, warm nature, good manners, tactile affection and love of sex

(that alone is incredibly difficult to find here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence is very sexy I need to be able to talk quite a bit with people I regularly play with

So it's very important to me

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By *oxLoverMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Intelligence isn't an attractor for me but I find inquisitiveness and openness to be important ones

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

No body likes an idiot but wow there is some pretentious “twaddle” being spouted on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When seeking play partners I'm not too fussed about their intelligence. Aslong as they seem "nice" and friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No body likes an idiot but wow there is some pretentious “twaddle” being spouted on this thread! "

What a positive contribution to the thread

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"No body likes an idiot but wow there is some pretentious “twaddle” being spouted on this thread!

What a positive contribution to the thread

Is there a rule on here that all contributions have to be positive? I’m just saying what I think!

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

For meets, as long as we can have a decent conversation, that's fine.

For a relationship, they need to be intelligent. Someone lacking intelligence would probably drive me up the wall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

problem with intelligence is those that think they are rarely are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence is a big deal to me but I value a ‘vibe’ more so it doesn’t matter if the person isn’t all that intelligent if we have common interests mostly cultural things and language. Someone I can be myself around.

I value someone who is intelligent but is interested in the same knowledge I am. So Sociology, English, History etc will be more important to me in a partner than maths or engineering for example. Besides I would be so unintelligent to that person because I am not great at maths or interested in engineering.

I don’t know actually whether intelligence is the most important thing to me actually after writing all this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me want fuck.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a fundamental level I'd need to meet or I wouldn't be able to get on with them. But I can get on with most people. More intelligence is a plus though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if margot robbie was lying down naked and gave any guy in this thread the come on they arent going to say, well i need to know what your iq is first. even more, if you ve got your beer goggles on you wouldnt give a fuck if shed had a lobotomy

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have an abject fear of the realisation that I've shagged a dumplin

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

Billingham

army intelligence. a contradiction in terms lol

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

"For meets, as long as we can have a decent conversation, that's fine.

For a relationship, they need to be intelligent. Someone lacking intelligence would probably drive me up the wall.

totally agree, doesn't have to be Albert Einstein but some where on the same level

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I do like people to be able to communicate. Poorly written messages or profiles are just a bit of a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice, friendly and a good heart key.

Ignorance and right wing views then no thanks.

Agree that a minority on the forums do have an over inflated perception of their own intelligence.

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Intelligence is important when going Dutch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll let you know if I ever find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think?

Intelligence can help, can also hinder. Nothing beats a well mannered, nice, warm nature, good manners, tactile affection and love of sex

(that alone is incredibly difficult to find here)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No body likes an idiot but wow there is some pretentious “twaddle” being spouted on this thread!

What a positive contribution to the thread

Is there a rule on here that all contributions have to be positive? I’m just saying what I think! "

That's a fair point, however, it's helpful to be clear what you mean. There are an awful lot of comments. What in your opinion is the pretentious twaddle? Why? How might it have been phrased better? Which comments do you agree with? What are the characteristics you associate with idiots that no one likes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is 'twaddle' EQ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is 'twaddle' EQ?"

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

Dogging makes this a difficilt acheivement.

Its not just intelligence. Its the wholecdeal, attraction, personality, sexual experience and compatability

Intelligence isnt always attractive if they ate an intelligent arsehole or arholeess.

Chemistry is the key thing. Mensa or Darwin..... you can still loke or be repelled of the chemistry isnt there to glue it together

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By *iss_Cali_xxCouple
over a year ago

Herne Bay

I think it's substance rather than intelligence that gets me. I love when someone is passionate about something and can talk to me about it, no matter what it is. That sparkle of excitement in their soul is extremely attractive!

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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago

Hinckley

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

Absolutely, it’s key to a relationship and emotional sexiness. I won’t though in this realm talk or sleep with anyone who can’t string a sentence together. But it’s less important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I go for some intelligence . I've also only tried to meet with people who are on the same level as myself . Sex is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence would work for me. Hopefully the lady would think I was too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We weren’t all star students during our education. I accept I may be more intelligent than someone or viceversa. If one of us feels bad about it, then it’s more important to one of us.

(if that makes sense)

It’s not paramount, but I do need some kind of common ground.

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By *imixedkinkcplCouple
over a year ago

Reading

At a club and in the heat of the moment I've not been particularly concerned in the past.

But in any other situation I'm drawn only to people with an engaging active curious mind. So if there's chemistry too?.......yeah we're gonna fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think an attraction comes 1st but intelligence is a major bonus as it usually means the person can hold a decent conversation or debate and stimulate my mind also "

Totally agree

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

If I can't find conversation we're unlikely to get past messages... physical attraction only gets me in the shallow end, and I like a good deep dive

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Very, it's all part of their personality and I have to be attracted to that just as much as their tits

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We weren’t all star students during our education. I accept I may be more intelligent than someone or viceversa. If one of us feels bad about it, then it’s more important to one of us.

(if that makes sense)

It’s not paramount, but I do need some kind of common ground. "

Agree about common ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

No I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

No. I wouldn't. Perhaps stop telling other people who they would have sex with.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common ground and a sense of humour for me. Laugh me into bed

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

It might be illegal?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

I wouldn't sleep with Pamela Anderson as is so I'm not sure what your point is there

LvM

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

Some of us look for things beyond the physical so no I wouldn't . Would rather shag (and have done) am ugly bloke that I really click with because they then transcend their looks.

But of course you know me better than I know me so you will call bullshit.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em

No I wouldn't.

An IQ of below 60 is essentially mentally disabled - about 15% of the population have a learning difficulty that makes them mildly retarded

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Definitely agree with you here OP, adds to the build up for me.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

May I ask, is that why you have a pic taken from the internet as your profile pic, as you think others are so concerned with image and looks beyond intelligence?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em

May I ask, is that why you have a pic taken from the internet as your profile pic, as you think others are so concerned with image and looks beyond intelligence?"

Ha good catch

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I would prefer intelligent people. Intelligence isn't just being academic or "book smart" though. My Grandad was one of the most intelligent people I've known yet he had almost no paper qualifications. We're more interested in people who have some things in common with us and can hold a decent conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer intelligent people. Intelligence isn't just being academic or "book smart" though. My Grandad was one of the most intelligent people I've known yet he had almost no paper qualifications. We're more interested in people who have some things in common with us and can hold a decent conversation. "

I agree with this. I think modern society has become somewhat obsessed with exams & academics. I think there's hundreds, if not thousands of ways to measure intelligence.

(-this is coming from someone with a family of doctors and scientists.)

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I’ve always liked Jonathan Swifts paragraph about intelligence.

Paraphrasing: the intellectuals would employ dullards with inflated goat bladders to bash them over the heads when, in deep thoughts, they got close to cliffs to stop them walking over them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind how smart they are. If they are open minded and happy to chat about anything then it makes for a good friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em "

First of all they’re not even as attractive as you think.

Second of all, no.

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Being nice is top, but if they can count up to the number of fingers they enjoy, close to Einstein territory in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em

No. I wouldn't. Perhaps stop telling other people who they would have sex with.

Who said anything about telling someone to have sex with idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bullshit so if harry carvill or Pamela Anderson had a IQ of 40. You wouldn't shag em

I wouldn't sleep with Pamela Anderson as is so I'm not sure what your point is there

LvM"

Yer ok what ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way it's called a forum not people bashing..... Ok just so long as your aware of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't "

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

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over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

Yes I said bullshit but it was directed at you or anyone else....you went on the attack finger pointing he. She shouldn't say or do that things that upset you.....well love we live in s big bad world stop been woke or a Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

And perhaps your status might also be seen as rude too. "Uptight arseholes". Lovely debating with you.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"... How important is your partners intelligence to you? Do you even consider this when seeking play partners & how do you even define it?

Personally I find it incredibly exciting to explore somebodies mind - as well as their body. Being smart & curious about the world always makes for better sex in my experience

What does everyone else think? "

I think it is a really interesting topic.

So I am looking for intelligent people and by that I mean people with whom I can have a conversation.

They need not be educated in the traditional way, just be open-minded and happy to think about things rather than follow the majority or worse, the mob.

The reason is two fold: For one I cannot image a social without some decent conversation. But also, if we want to get cosy... I simply cannot be intimate with somebody who does not see me as a person with thoughts and ideas.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

Intelligence is always subjective, but the ability to hold a conversation in polite company is always a positive. Manners are equally important as is etiquette and understand for your situation and surroundings.

Being able to sit and talk in a pub or coffee shop can be stimulating and lead to greater things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

I'm not upset at all love your just presume I am I don't give 2 tits.....it's people like you Karen's that think others have to think like you but unfortunately we're all different and if there's something you don't like you throw a hissy fit...just move on get out of that bubble

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over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

And perhaps your status might also be seen as rude too. "Uptight arseholes". Lovely debating with you. "

Uptight arseholes. Yes hunny unfortunately the world has em.... nothing we can do but it's true....if it's rude then hard lines .if your upset tough.. different folks different strokes nice to chat to you too

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I look for intelligence definitely, but it doesn't have to be solely IQ. EQ and to be savvy makes connection with sex so much better. Club environment too as I want to chat and connect with people. Just a fit body isn't what truly does it for me"

This for sure...

I need to be able to hold a good conversation with someone, manage that and you'll be onto a winner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

And perhaps your status might also be seen as rude too. "Uptight arseholes". Lovely debating with you.

best of luck pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are abit tetchy and rude aren't

You implied everyone on the thread who valued intelligence was talking bullshit. It was a very aggressive comment. Don't be rude and then others won't be rude back.

You have got upset at people being rude. And yet you've called me an idiot, woke and a Karen now.

And perhaps your status might also be seen as rude too. "Uptight arseholes". Lovely debating with you.

best of luck pal"

You too good

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