FabSwingers.com forum: too nice ... is there such a thing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ive always been turned of by guys who come across too nice ... it always comes across creepy and desperate to me so question to others is there such a thing as too nice for you ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to a point is cute for a girl/woman but I am attracted to filthy crazy women.

But be nice to me. *I know, it’s complicated

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By *egular manly manMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

It’s a hard one for guys I’ve had few women partners that said I’m too nice and have taken advantage of it too I always thought shit I need to change but girl I’m with now has made me realise I don’t have to! Truth be told I am a bit of a cunt too and girls seem to actually like that aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was once told by a female I treated her too well for her to consider going out with me

Could have been an excuse of course

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There's a huge difference between nice and creepy. The same as there's a big difference between a person who's just generally nice and someone who's nice in the hope you'll have sex then gets all passive aggressive when you turn them down. "I'm a nice guy why won't anyone have sex with me?"

I like nice people, nobody in my opinion can be too nice but they can be too creepy or fake nice for me.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There's no such thing as too nice - creepy is a very different thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a “nice guy” I often have the issue of not getting conversations because I ask people if they want to chat or have a laugh instead of jumping straight to what I want to do to somebody. I’ve noticed it more on fab recently that unless I’m straight to the point it’s rare I get that initial conversation, my problem being I need to like somebody for who they are rather than appearance which often means long conversations people don’t have time for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive always been turned of by guys who come across too nice ... it always comes across creepy and desperate to me so question to others is there such a thing as too nice for you ...."

I can be a bad boy if you want me too, just tell me what to do to please you my princess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a huge difference between nice and creepy. The same as there's a big difference between a person who's just generally nice and someone who's nice in the hope you'll have sex then gets all passive aggressive when you turn them down. "I'm a nice guy why won't anyone have sex with me?"

I like nice people, nobody in my opinion can be too nice but they can be too creepy or fake nice for me."

Sadly I can confirm this to be true, from my experience there was a bit of childhood emotional abuse behind it. Fortunately I was able to sort myself out... well, mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had more success speaking my mind than suppressing my inner voice and trying to be nice.

So yeah, being too nice doesn't get you very far in life. But, don't be a dick as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with being nice but if they are over complimenting and being extra, I question how genuine they actually are.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No I like nice, I think it's when it comes across as insincere and that they want something in return for their niceness it's a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was told once by a guy I was too polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that, as others have already said, it’s not a question of being “too nice” but more of behaviour that one person thinks is “nice” but is actually insincere, trying to hard or just outright creepy.

There is a difference. It’s the whole “white knight” syndrome

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that, as others have already said, it’s not a question of being “too nice” but more of behaviour that one person thinks is “nice” but is actually insincere, trying to hard or just outright creepy.

There is a difference. It’s the whole “white knight” syndrome "

ah thats it thats what i mean “white knight” syndrome perfect as to what i mean by too nice ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference. It’s the whole “white knight” syndrome

ah thats it thats what i mean “white knight” syndrome perfect as to what i mean by too nice .... "

White knight is definitely a thing, I like this quote especially from an article on it which I think sums it up

“ Subconsciously, they may feel resentment towards women who do not give them undying love and loyalty in return, because they rescue not necessarily out of pure altruism but with the expectation or hope that their own needs will be met – that they will somehow be rewarded for their rescue efforts.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference. It’s the whole “white knight” syndrome

ah thats it thats what i mean “white knight” syndrome perfect as to what i mean by too nice ....

White knight is definitely a thing, I like this quote especially from an article on it which I think sums it up

I’m curious, would it be classed as “white knight syndrome” if the reward was just knowing that they’d helped somebody out with no other gains?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing wrong with being nice but if they are over complimenting and being extra, I question how genuine they actually are."

Depends what you mean by genuine?

A lot of these guys have been brainwashed into believing that this is how they're supposed to be, abusive relationships can lead you to being a people pleaser where you're forced to walk on eggshells not to upset the other person, so you're hypersensitive to their needs - and not fully conscious of your own.

It does come across to any normal person as desperate and creepy, which then make the 'nice guy' try even harder. It goes against everything you've been taught to start focusing more on your own desires, which then leads on to more genuine connections with others.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

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