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FIRST TIME AT CLUB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, going to our first club next wk

anyone got some tips for us? looking forward to it but a bit nervous

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I'd like to know this too, as we also haven't clubbed it yet lol

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

our first time will always stay with us, we thought we would be stripped and shagged on arrival, funny how you think. we were shown around by a member of staff, got changed and sat at the bar taking it all in trying to work out what to do. we soon discovered that the lady is in charge, no means no simple as that, just relax, enjoy and chat to as many people as you can, just because you chat to someone does not mean you have to play, getting to know people and talking will make you more relaxed. if you see someone who you fancy, make lots of eye contact, smile and say hi, usually works for us. don't feel pressured into something your not comfortable with and you can say stop at any time. hope we have helped. enjoy

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Take your own latex free condoms like Skyns and if you decide to play use them.

I'd suggest a couples night for you first visit.

Not sure what the club is like you are going to but if it is not a spa club and you want to have a look in the play areas without playing that's usually cool but go down to undies as it is a real turn off for a lot of people when others are standing around watching fully clothed.

A polit 'No' is all it should take if you don't want to play that should be excepted, don't be frightened to use it.

In the plat areas it maybe someone moving close or a light touch on a shoulder or leg again a shake of the head and polit smile or removing the hand doing the light touch is seen as a negative when we have played.

DON'T let the nerves get the better of you and get smashed. It's a turn off and you may also end up doing something you regret in the morning. If you can't do it on only a couple if drinks don't do it.

Be honest, if you cacking yourself then say so! It is always easier when people are honest. Also if you do play and you want something to happen suggest it, if you like something say so. People arn't mind readers and it makes everyone happier.

Couples nights are very different to mixed nights in our experience.

Remember no ones going force you to do anything, honestly everyone gets nervous the first couple of times and then you realise..... There's no need!

Have fun guys.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what you don't get stripped and shagged on arrival...lol thanks for that, what club did you go to?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Sorry about the typo's it's my phone honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, going to our first club next wk

anyone got some tips for us? looking forward to it but a bit nervous "
we went to a quietish club first time, just to see how it all went. really enjoyed it, but not been for a while, but relax ,look around, and chat

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD


"what you don't get stripped and shagged on arrival...lol thanks for that, what club did you go to? "
we went to chameleons in darlaston, we enjoyed it so much we haven't bothered going anywhere else. we honestly did think it would be like a roman orgie!!! we had never had any social meets or spoken to anyone so had no idea. 4 years on and count down the days to go xxx

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

That's the club we may go to when we pluck up courage !!!

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD


"That's the club we may go to when we pluck up courage !!!

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oh its great, we are going on sat night, halloween fancy dress, should be busy, don't be nervous its great fun and lots of great people, everytime we have been there are new people being shown around, we have all been there once, dont worry. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what you don't get stripped and shagged on arrival...lol thanks for that, what club did you go to? we went to chameleons in darlaston, we enjoyed it so much we haven't bothered going anywhere else. we honestly did think it would be like a roman orgie!!! we had never had any social meets or spoken to anyone so had no idea. 4 years on and count down the days to go xxx"

I went to my 1st club last week and was kind of expecting a Roman Orgy! I had visions of all sorts going off... However it was a pleasurable experience, relaxed and playful. Very sociable and enjoyable... take a toilet back to carry condome. wallet, keys, lube, wipes ect. relax, enjoy and be yourselves

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

As everyone else has said the two we have been to were very pleasant and more or less everyone was as nice as you could hope to meet.

Of the clubs we've been to there has been a fair mix of people through the age ranges if not through the racial demongraphic. That means you will see older people fucking and younger people too. For some this is enough to put them off, but for us it was never a big deal, just because they may not be for us, it did not mean we were put off by others having fun.

I think if you go to a club there has to be a bit of an exhibitionist streak, or naturist streak in you. ie either you want people to look or you don't care if they look.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa


"That's the club we may go to when we pluck up courage !!!

oh its great, we are going on sat night, halloween fancy dress, should be busy, don't be nervous its great fun and lots of great people, everytime we have been there are new people being shown around, we have all been there once, dont worry. xx"
thanks we may well c u down there one evening xx

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You may find that many people seem to know each other - in fact they probably do! But don't feel intimidated, they will be very welcoming if you make the effort to chat.

When you get your tour (as any good club will) ask lots of questions and also ask to be introduced to some of the members.

Do chat. If you think someone looks good, don't just stare, offer a compliment - an honest compliment is always welcome! And it can come from either of you; ladies, how many times have you admired someone's shoes or outfit? This is your chance to start a conversation, get info on the best shops/websites to get things from AND give someone a boost by letting them know you like their choice!

f you'd like to be considered for play then a simple "would you like to join us in the playrooms later/now" will suffice. And if the answer is no thanks, remember that they simply don't want to play, it doesn't mean they won't keep chatting or being friendly.

As I mentioned earlier, people get to know each other at their local club. So don't get sniffy if someone is keen to play who is not remotely your type. A polite no should suffice and won't cause offence. If anyone does get pushy then you can get snotty - just as you can if anyone touches without permission! But the staff will also deal with people like that if you prefer not to, but it is often easier and more effective to do it yourselves.

If you are playing and would like to get involved with people playing near you then either make eye contact or even a gentle touch on the upper arm (usually done by the lady to the lady) to draw their attention can do the trick. But do choose your moment!

Take your preferred brand of condoms, possibly a favoured toy and wet wipes - clubs have condoms on sale or free and tissues in the room but having your own is always handy.

If it's a wet club then bear that in mind ladies when doing your make-up - the sauna can wreck a carefully applied face!

Above all, take things as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable with and enjoy!

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD


"That's the club we may go to when we pluck up courage !!!

oh its great, we are going on sat night, halloween fancy dress, should be busy, don't be nervous its great fun and lots of great people, everytime we have been there are new people being shown around, we have all been there once, dont worry. xxthanks we may well c u down there one evening xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may find that many people seem to know each other - in fact they probably do! But don't feel intimidated, they will be very welcoming if you make the effort to chat.

When you get your tour (as any good club will) ask lots of questions and also ask to be introduced to some of the members.

Do chat. If you think someone looks good, don't just stare, offer a compliment - an honest compliment is always welcome! And it can come from either of you; ladies, how many times have you admired someone's shoes or outfit? This is your chance to start a conversation, get info on the best shops/websites to get things from AND give someone a boost by letting them know you like their choice!

f you'd like to be considered for play then a simple "would you like to join us in the playrooms later/now" will suffice. And if the answer is no thanks, remember that they simply don't want to play, it doesn't mean they won't keep chatting or being friendly.

As I mentioned earlier, people get to know each other at their local club. So don't get sniffy if someone is keen to play who is not remotely your type. A polite no should suffice and won't cause offence. If anyone does get pushy then you can get snotty - just as you can if anyone touches without permission! But the staff will also deal with people like that if you prefer not to, but it is often easier and more effective to do it yourselves.

If you are playing and would like to get involved with people playing near you then either make eye contact or even a gentle touch on the upper arm (usually done by the lady to the lady) to draw their attention can do the trick. But do choose your moment!

Take your preferred brand of condoms, possibly a favoured toy and wet wipes - clubs have condoms on sale or free and tissues in the room but having your own is always handy.

If it's a wet club then bear that in mind ladies when doing your make-up - the sauna can wreck a carefully applied face!

Above all, take things as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable with and enjoy!

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The advice given to me by you was so helpful and made my visit very enjoyable... read and learn guys, this lady knows how it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were like that when we first went to Infusions but we have never felt so relaxed esspecially walking around in the nude infront of strangers, have fun!

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Chameleons Darleston is a great place, the staff are very friendly and have seen it all before, ask them anything you like me take things at your own pace. Discuss your limits prior to going and have a "safe" word o use if you feel uncomfortable and want to get out of a situation. The chill out room is a safe haven where you can relax as is the bar or couples room.

It really depends on what you want from a club, but there is no pressure to play

We are going to visit After8 in Edinburgh when we go up there end of November, so that will be a new experience for us too!

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