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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

Stick at it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

Sadly the ratio of single men to women/couples is overwhelming. Trying to get replies is difficult because theirs so much competition on here, genuine cpl/feme profiles get flooded with messages so you really have to stand out massively to get a reply imo.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I must be a rarity on here because I have found more genuine people on here than wasters or fakes. Both of which are pretty easy to spot anyhow I find.

But then I guess it depends on your definition of them. I've been called both over the time I've been on here because I don't want to chat or meet with people that I've no interest in or they have been pushy or arrogant. My time is as important as anyone elses on here and I don't see why I'm expected to waste it talking to people I've no interest in just because they decided to message me. I keep very tight filters so not many can anyhow and I do tend to reply to most who do.

I've chatted to people before on here because even tho I told them right at the start I didn't want to meet them they asked could we chat so we did. And most after a wee while start to ask to meet the last guy was just so off the charts with his attitude, be thought as I had chatted he deserved a fuck even tho I didn't like him that way and was shocked when I said no ,that I can't even be bothered just chatting anymore.

There is no sure fire way to get someone's attention on here OP what works for one don't work for someone else. You just have to find your own way of working fab you can take loads of advice change everything to suit what others say but then you're not being yourself and the chances are it won't work because people will see through the facade .

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

It just means they don't want to chat with you

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By *ustmethistimeCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes

It just means they don't want to chat with you "

Exactly this.

You are one of thousands of single guys looking for free fun.

There is plenty of choice.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It doesn't mean people are wasters and fakes just because they don't reply to you. It can be difficult for single men due to the amount of single men compared to couples and women but patience is a virtue.

If you are genuinely interested in the scene and not just after a quick shag with just anyone them get to clubs and social events. We find these are the best way of meeting people.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Were your expectations realistic?

Most people are not compatible with most other people. It takes time to find those who are compatible, thus most chats will reach a dead end. People use the enormous volume of choice here, to filter out those who aren't the best for them.

Because it's so competitive here, people must sell themselves as best they can, otherwise they fail to do as well as they could.

It's not full of fakes etc here but is full of people who will pick wisely. It's a buyers market, if picking men here.

It will take months for men to get established here and smart expectations are all, if you are to avoid distress.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I don’t understand single guys saying, people won’t chat or they can’t get meets..

This site isn’t rocket science..

Put some effort in and don’t act like a desperate sex fiend..

I chat for weeks to people and never mention sex, build friendships..

Don’t be in a hurry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

Wasters and fakers because you don’t get a reply? If you are the common denominator then start there. Maybe look at what you say in messages. Posts like this won’t help though.

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By *ustmethistimeCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

Been here 4 weeks.

Are you expecting instant sex??

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My advice would be to change your profile name. Maybe people seeing immediately you are a newbie puts them off.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

So because you don’t get a reply the site is full of fakes and time wasters. Far from it. There are too many men most who just blend in with each other nothing stands out

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" nothing stands out"

except their erect penis !

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


" nothing stands out

except their erect penis !"

Well yes lol

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Hey it happens to us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only ever had one “fake message”.

I wish he was real, he was absolutely beautiful but no, he was a Spanish model (who I now slobber over on insta).

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

Lots of folk wont meet unverified guys, as they feel its prob a time waster. Get to a club, or social, interact, get a verification or 2 then things will pick up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can take time and a lot of patience, make your profile the best it can be with pics and a great bio. Join in the forums, go to socials, clubs and expect nothing. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for the record I’m not looking for instant sex and am trying to build a rapport with others but when you msg and just get one word answers back it’s hard I am just generally asking not looking for arguments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

Stick at it and lower your expectaions on the basis that no matter who nice a person you are, how fit etc etc - you/we men massively outnumber the lovely females on here

something will click one day and all I would say is do as I did be nice, be respectful, be honest and it will happen - when it does, look after them

j xxx

ps; I am bi so my chances are even more limited lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I am bi so my chances are even more limited lol "

I thought being bi would at least double your chances as you can meet men as well as women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am bi so my chances are even more limited lol

I thought being bi would at least double your chances as you can meet men as well as women"

That's the odd one really - most men that contact me off here have "straight" on their profiles and lots of a MF Couples are in fact just men playing solo under the guise of a couple profile.

Finding a man for sex is dead easy and fabguys site is exactly for that - finding a women who excepts me for who and what I am on the other hand, is pretty hard

I am just me, nowt special, my profile speaks for itself and I am happy chatting a flirting away - simples

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First of all would like to say HI, new to this on here looking for some advice and I’m sure it’s been asked millions of times before but have been trying for a couple of months messaging people but find very very few reply and when they do they are very difficult to get a conversation flowing with is the site full of time

Wasters and fakes "

As others have already mentioned the ratio of men to women/couples means women/couples can afford to me very picky.

As a Woman and half of couple with a profile on here, we are looking to fulfill fantasies so take our time to find those fantasy fulfilling guys.

As I am happily married with a great sex life I have no interest in settling for anything less than exactly the type of guy that works for me.

I'm sure many other Women and couplesu feel the same way, so the odds of you ticking every box of the people you are messaging are slim.

I keep this profile hidden as it doesnt matter how clear I am of what I am looking for as 99% of the message I recieved were from men who didnt even tick a quarter of the boxes of the type of man that turns me on.

Our couples profile is open for anyone to message however all the guys we have really connected with were ones we messaged first.

Making your profile as appealing as possible is the first thing you need to do. Then really its just about messaging the people who are looking for a guy your age, location or any other criteria that you fit the bill for.

How you write a message plays a big part to. For me I like confident guys, a bit of banter, a bit cheeky without being arrogant. A good message goes a long way.

Also a good selection of pictures, I need to know I fancy a guy before I spend time talking with him.

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By *emptd2Man
over a year ago

Burgess Hill & Birmingham

Stick at it and get creative. Unfortunately ratio of men to couples/women is in their favour so you have to standout.

More often than not they're barraged with shit messages from people that don't meet their criteria so they bulk delete to save the hassle.

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