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How many times should your lady be allowed to use the same cock?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, we are 27 year old couple, and started out with 2 meets back in August one was a fekin huge 10 inch cock from a bloke on here. Now we wanted to get a couple under our belt before we had a baby and we are now pregnant so no more playing till next year Now I loved watching her getting fucked hard by this massive cock and in fairness he can offer something I cant mine is only 7 inches but we want to carry on where we left off some time in the future next year. We have spoke about her fucking him again and her being alone with him but is there folk on here who say once and once only or use cocks as good as this regular all the time? I guess my only concern is that she will start wanting his more then mine which at the minute I know isnt true but is it just a risk we take when doing this? I know she loves me and would never leave me or cheat on me and we are happy for her to fuck him again I guess I just wondered what you eperiences you guys have had so we can learn more about where we will go next. She has already said she doesnt mind not using him again it is me who wants to see her take all 10 inches again lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use cocks? I think thats more than a little disrespectful of the guys.

However, if you all get on and had fun why not meet again, if you are afraid your partner who is having your baby will leave you for a bigger 'cock' then possibly you are not secure enough for the lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

^^^^^^^^^^

What sexywelsh said

Its about love and trust and not about cock size

Good luck with the baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As it's a sexy site, use the cock as often as you like.

Whether Mrs will prefer his to yours is probably true, however, will he want her? what about the rest of the time, like 99.9% of the time within your life, if that's good to great, then use the cock without fear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry if it came across as using I didnt intend it that way. It was a chat on msn lots of beer and then him coming over and we did get along and I was happy with watching and joining in with it all. I just wanted to hear from other peoples experiences and how they handle things. If she wanted his cock I know she would of left me by now They were both decent guys very respectful etc. Nothing was uncomfortable. I know I satisfy her etc she said before me the best sex she had was with an ex who had a very very small cock I think I just put it wrong been a long day

I know she likes bigger the better and mine is big enough I didnt even know blokes had 10 inch cocks before that night Guess when we sarted I wanted to her to get bigger cocks to enjoy them more hence me finding the biggest I could lol. It didnt help that she clamped up after the second time and wouldnt talk to me at first as she felt cheap and like she had cheated on me leading me to think things I wouldnt of done otherwise, still she opended up when I re-assured her and I want to get back in the saddle but she wont while she is preggers

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Forget asking anyone else how many times you two should meet/use the same person

You meet a new person, the same person or even no person as often and as many times as BOTH of you feel comfortable doing... it doesn't matter how comfortable anyone else is with it.

The question you should be asking yourself is... how often are you comfortable with the same person... and quite fankly if you have uncomfortable thoughts about it before it's even happened (as already stated in this thread) should you be doing it at all whilst you feel that way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forget asking anyone else how many times you two should meet/use the same person

You meet a new person, the same person or even no person as often and as many times as BOTH of you feel comfortable doing... it doesn't matter how comfortable anyone else is with it.

The question you should be asking yourself is... how often are you comfortable with the same person... and quite fankly if you have uncomfortable thoughts about it before it's even happened (as already stated in this thread) should you be doing it at all whilst you feel that way?"
I know what you are saying, it was unfortunate the way it ended and I am just asking for advice, I honestly would like to see it happen again. I am not just a watcher I like to join in pleasing her to. And she wouldnt be comfortable doing it if she thought I wasnt we have spoke at length about it. Maybe because we are younger then most on here or just because we are new to it I am just trying to get a feel of what is "normal" for people like us starting out. I had a 3some with ex and my best mate and that was not a good thing to do lol, she had an ex who begged her to do it but she knew he wouldnt be able to cope with the aftermath so didnt pursue it even though she wanted to.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Forget asking anyone else how many times you two should meet/use the same person

You meet a new person, the same person or even no person as often and as many times as BOTH of you feel comfortable doing... it doesn't matter how comfortable anyone else is with it.

The question you should be asking yourself is... how often are you comfortable with the same person... and quite fankly if you have uncomfortable thoughts about it before it's even happened (as already stated in this thread) should you be doing it at all whilst you feel that way?I know what you are saying, it was unfortunate the way it ended and I am just asking for advice, I honestly would like to see it happen again. I am not just a watcher I like to join in pleasing her to. And she wouldnt be comfortable doing it if she thought I wasnt we have spoke at length about it. Maybe because we are younger then most on here or just because we are new to it I am just trying to get a feel of what is "normal" for people like us starting out. I had a 3some with ex and my best mate and that was not a good thing to do lol, she had an ex who begged her to do it but she knew he wouldnt be able to cope with the aftermath so didnt pursue it even though she wanted to. "

There is no such thing as 'normal'! lol

Keep talking... work out what will make you both happy ... and most of all... there's no rush to have to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks. This site has been a god send, full of usefull info from folk more perverted then us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock size isnt everything! we prefer to meet a person for their personality, and bear in mind, that works both ways. So... if you all get on, there shouldn't be an issue if you are all aware 'it's just sex', nothing more, nothing less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i use cocks seems a perfectly good description to me lol

seriously tho you have to do what feels right for you, i have had regular meets in the past and have felt nothing for them in the way your scared your wife will, im meeting a guy next week i have met on and off for over 5 years and i still only view him as a m8 i have sex with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We treat this as sexy fun and nothing more. Yes it's great if you can hit it off and get along with the people you meet, there's nothing wrong with that, but when you are totally secure in your relationship and love and trust each other, then there should be no insecurity issues. To be honest, although we have fun and both enjoy it very much, the most important thing is us and I could never "prefer" someone else's c**k to my hubby's .... good luck to you guys but beware of those doubts eh xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to you with the upcoming new arrival!!

Might be better having a chat and seeing if its really for you if you are having thoughts about your other half leaving for a larger cock.

Kind of unfortunate the way it was written aswell.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

As a bloke let me put our side. In our last 7-8 meetings all the guys, whether single or part of a couple have had a bigger cock than me. Some only just larger, some a lot bigger and thicker too! Katee has enjoyed them all and yet, her orgasms are nowhere near the same as they are between us, the point I am making?

Sex in swinging is fun, but it is not the same as the sex you have in private with your own partner, that is something special. Remember that and you won't go wrong.

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Its always nice to have the odd huge cock now and again to nibble on, but its always nice to go back to the hubs, its like putting my slippers on... Sorry hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it's a nice cock ... as often as she wants lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could find Shaz a genuine 10" cock, she could "use" on it every day

You do need to be secure with each other though, if you meet someone and start feeling any type of jealousy seeing your partner with someone else then you need to sit with each other and work our if swinging is really for you.!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could find Shaz a genuine 10" cock, she could "use" on it every day

You do need to be secure with each other though, if you meet someone and start feeling any type of jealousy seeing your partner with someone else then you need to sit with each other and work our if swinging is really for you.!

Tony"

thats why we don't meet single women or mf couples together, i don't like watching him with anyone else, doesn't bother me him meeting them alone, and single men is no problem together.

i think you just have to work out if you can handle it or not ... but i know we have even better sex when i've f*cked someone else whether he's been watching or not lol

total honesty is also very important xx

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

have a pretty good feeling its not about his 10"... its about what you have 'attached' to your 6" your other 1/2 is more interested in !!!!

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

At the end of the day, us humans are funny buggers really !!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck to you with the upcoming new arrival!!

Might be better having a chat and seeing if its really for you if you are having thoughts about your other half leaving for a larger cock.

Kind of unfortunate the way it was written aswell."

Youch....guys are not just cocks..as women are not just pussies....reading in between the lines....its does come across as there are a few issues you might want to discuss in more depth.. before getting back into the lifestyle again after the baby.

Most of all you may want to stop be obsessed with cocks..cock size..yours...and other men's ...

swinging is about embracing a lifestyle..and having relationships, fun, and sex with likeminded peeps....

So stop obsessing...both start enjoying what you do...be more secure in yourself...and your relationship...and recognise that swinging just isn't the right choice for some peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Youch....guys are not just cocks.."

REALLY damn


"

you may want to stop be obsessed with cocks..cock size.."

nooooooooooo tis soooooooooo not gonna happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock size isnt everything! we prefer to meet a person for their personality, and bear in mind, that works both ways. So... if you all get on, there shouldn't be an issue if you are all aware 'it's just sex', nothing more, nothing less."

i agree 99.9% with sticky cock size isnt an issue personality is key if you dont like the person dont go to bed with them. ive been with guys with 5 inch and guys with 10 inch, at the end of the day its just fun and sex. i draw theline at 2 inch tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, we are 27 year old couple, and started out with 2 meets back in August one was a fekin huge 10 inch cock from a bloke on here. Now we wanted to get a couple under our belt before we had a baby and we are now pregnant so no more playing till next year Now I loved watching her getting fucked hard by this massive cock and in fairness he can offer something I cant mine is only 7 inches but we want to carry on where we left off some time in the future next year. We have spoke about her fucking him again and her being alone with him but is there folk on here who say once and once only or use cocks as good as this regular all the time? I guess my only concern is that she will start wanting his more then mine which at the minute I know isnt true but is it just a risk we take when doing this? I know she loves me and would never leave me or cheat on me and we are happy for her to fuck him again I guess I just wondered what you eperiences you guys have had so we can learn more about where we will go next. She has already said she doesnt mind not using him again it is me who wants to see her take all 10 inches again lol."

YOUR lady. Sorry I can only speak from the heart n head of someone who is her own mind. ALLOWED ? since when did any living being need YOUR permission.

Turn the phrase round .. if men on here talked of 'using a pussy' .... the whole scene would cease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S. Can I Have his msn please?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Hi, we are 27 year old couple, and started out with 2 meets back in August one was a fekin huge 10 inch cock from a bloke on here. Now we wanted to get a couple under our belt before we had a baby and we are now pregnant so no more playing till next year Now I loved watching her getting fucked hard by this massive cock and in fairness he can offer something I cant mine is only 7 inches but we want to carry on where we left off some time in the future next year. We have spoke about her fucking him again and her being alone with him but is there folk on here who say once and once only or use cocks as good as this regular all the time? I guess my only concern is that she will start wanting his more then mine which at the minute I know isnt true but is it just a risk we take when doing this? I know she loves me and would never leave me or cheat on me and we are happy for her to fuck him again I guess I just wondered what you eperiences you guys have had so we can learn more about where we will go next. She has already said she doesnt mind not using him again it is me who wants to see her take all 10 inches again lol."

What you are getting at is you are scared she will get involved with the other person if you keep meeting them over and over. Is she worried about the same thing?

For me ( Mrs) that was what I worried about before playing these games and why before we had our first MFM we thought we would just have one offs.

Since we started playing we have now changed how we think and have repeat meets. For us the people we meet are for NSA sex, just like they think the same way about us.

A man can turn up here with the biggest cock I have ever seen, but it won't be attached to the person I love, so there will be no thoughts of running off with him.

Sorry to be blunt but it is you who doesn't sound very secure in what you are doing....and it won't work if one of you is unsure.

PS lol @ grannie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more to a man and my parnter than his cock!

sex is sex, and at the end of the day if your swinging as a single but are actually married or attached, it is the one you love that you go home too. I certainly wouldnt be lured away by something as insignificant as a nice cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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YOUR lady. Sorry I can only speak from the heart n head of someone who is her own mind. ALLOWED ? since when did any living being need YOUR permission.

"

hmmmm i have to ask permission ... i just know one day he's gonna say no lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

have to say I deliberatly left this thread alone because everything I read the title it really did make me cringe....

I was going to say something really profound... but fuck it, apparently i'm only a cock anyway!

not really helping the "treated like a piece of meat" arguement that is perceived by a lot of people....

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We like meeting ppl over and over again. We started out with a very secure relationship, and we were sure that swinging would not affect that. We were right, but we have found that our attitude to meeting others has changed. At first we thought we would just have "panda" sex, meet up, have fun and go, but we now find we like to make friends and then play with our friends.

There are times that it doesnt work out like that, after all, we cant control how others feel or play, but we never play with ppl that we wouldnt want to be long term friends with.

If you are having any doubts, then you need to re-examine how you play, or perhaps even if you are going to play any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" we never play with ppl that we wouldnt want to be long term friends with."

Well said!

PS lmao at "panda" sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Youch....guys are not just cocks..

REALLY damn

you may want to stop be obsessed with cocks..cock size..

nooooooooooo tis soooooooooo not gonna happen "

Pmsl...perhaps he just doesn't realise how obsessed he is by cocks.....or perhaps it's a literary form of Tourette's where he just has to write the word cock.....bugga..I'm doing it now....cock..cock..co...

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


" we never play with ppl that we wouldnt want to be long term friends with.

Well said!

PS lmao at "panda" sex"

Pandas eat shoots and leaves...

NSA sex... they eat, shoot, and leave lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I was going to say something really profound... but fuck it, apparently i'm only a cock anyway!

not really helping the "treated like a piece of meat" arguement that is perceived by a lot of people...."

you have obviously never been a girl in a nightclub then

actually i kinda like conversation and giggles too .... attached to my cocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a bloke let me put our side. In our last 7-8 meetings all the guys, whether single or part of a couple have had a bigger cock than me. Some only just larger, some a lot bigger and thicker too! Katee has enjoyed them all and yet, her orgasms are nowhere near the same as they are between us, the point I am making?

Sex in swinging is fun, but it is not the same as the sex you have in private with your own partner, that is something special. Remember that and you won't go wrong."

Perfectly put

There is a world of difference between having some sexy fun with strangers or friends and the intimacy of lovers.

From a single guy perspective, regardless of however good / bad the meet might be and how great the sex, I never confuse sex with love and always behave with the utmost respect for the relationship of the couple I'm playing with. It's the only way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey! Some good replies above and some common sense ... even from mr southwalescpl .... *hides*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys thanks for so many replies

Now then, sorry for upsetting some folk for saying anything about being allowed or using cock ffs lighten up I am not a head case who tells his mrs when she can and cant "use" a cock

On to the serious side of things yes I came across a little insecure I see that now. I have no friends who I can speak to about this and you guys know what you are talking about and after reading all of this I am feeling loads better and realise I was being stupid. My mrs has never given any impression that she will leave me or that she prefers ex cock or bigger cock to mine. Infact she tells me all the time how much she loves me and my cock I was looking for some general outlooks on what this lifestyle involves and I got it honestly the input on here has been fantastic. We are very happy as a couple and I may of read a little too much into what can go wrong in my mind and let reality slip away a little. I did not mean to offend anyone with the term "use cock" it was just the way it came out in my head get over it

And at granny you mardy mare the 10 incher is on here if you really want his cock send me a pm and I will put you in touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I think its great you have come back on and added to this after getting peoples' thoughts on it.

Very best of luck with your new arrival!

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I take exception the the word "allow"

Or maybe its just me

Good luck with the baby

But if you trust her and she trusts you, there should be no issue.

If you don't then tell her so.

You can deal with the truth and the truth only.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"I take exception the the word "allow"

Or maybe its just me

Good luck with the baby

But if you trust her and she trusts you, there should be no issue.

If you don't then tell her so.

You can deal with the truth and the truth only."

PS I USE COCKS ON HERE AND I FIND THE GUYS I USE LIKE ME TO USE THEM HAHAHA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy had said the word "use" to meet women there would be a lot of angry woman on here lol

But at the end of the day we are all on here for one reason... We have met guys we have met on more than one occasion,and hubby is more than happy for this to happen,we prefere it that way,at least you know the guy is genuine and you know what your getting lol

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"If a guy had said the word "use" to meet women there would be a lot of angry woman on here lol

But at the end of the day we are all on here for one reason... We have met guys we have met on more than one occasion,and hubby is more than happy for this to happen,we prefere it that way,at least you know the guy is genuine and you know what your getting lol

"

I dont mind being used sexually haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

gr8 blog though cant pretend we ve been lucky enough to find a guy with a 10"er to join us but still plsd to see i m not the only guy thats wondered whether i should be so keen to see the missus regulary enjoying a cock thats so much bigger than mine but i really do find it such a turn on and pleased she is enjoying herself/it so much !

We all know the reality of how difficult it find who/what we r looking so when we do find it why shouldn t we carry on enjoying it as much/long as you all want too ?

Although my missus freely admits that she enjoys the look/feel of a larger cock she considers it a treat shes happy to give up as she assures me its me and my average sized cock she really loves/wants but its probably more me that wants her to carry on enjoying bigger/better and why not ! x

(p.s. love too know who this guy is u know that was at the front of the big cock queue ! Lol !)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth the effort.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Crikey! Some good replies above and some common sense ... even from mr southwalescpl .... *hides* "

Ooooo..... you are sooooo lucky I like you, little miss cheeky lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi peeps i can honestly say that i am married we both play as singles and play together we find the best thing to do is just be honest no lies if we are planning on meeting anyone we ask the other not because we dont trust each other just to be safe.

we have no secrets and think its better that way no secrets no lies and just good honest fun with like minded friends

good luck with the baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet once offs havent been lucky enough to have a regular meet with any one but they are mostly single guys. But we have no problem with that as we feel that it is only fun with an extra element in it. We generally have chatted for a while so it is straight to play when we meet up.

But would love to meet up with some of them again and have more fun but misses tends to scare them off due to having a healthy sexual appatite. But that is their problem we can always find someone else to fill their shoes.

We are happy and together for all the right reasons. Knowing and trusting each other has it benefits as no one is hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We meet once offs havent been lucky enough to have a regular meet with any one but they are mostly single guys. But we have no problem with that as we feel that it is only fun with an extra element in it. We generally have chatted for a while so it is straight to play when we meet up.

But would love to meet up with some of them again and have more fun but misses tends to scare them off due to having a healthy sexual appatite. But that is their problem we can always find someone else to fill their shoes.

We are happy and together for all the right reasons. Knowing and trusting each other has it benefits as no one is hurt."

100% agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like meeting ppl over and over again. We started out with a very secure relationship, and we were sure that swinging would not affect that. We were right, but we have found that our attitude to meeting others has changed. At first we thought we would just have "panda" sex, meet up, have fun and go, but we now find we like to make friends and then play with our friends.

There are times that it doesnt work out like that, after all, we cant control how others feel or play, but we never play with ppl that we wouldnt want to be long term friends with.

"

Ditto!

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