FabSwingers.com forum: Being Dominated…

By *ire_Vanessa OP Woman
over a year ago

London

How do you like to be dominated? Is it in real time, is it humiliation from afar, is it findom, is it CBT, is it all of the above or is it something else?

Think of this as a poll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried online and it does nothing for me.

It opens up the question online versus in real life. For many online is real life but it just doesn’t give me what I need/like.

Also for me it varies from whom I am with. Some people can bring out one side and some another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it had to be in person but I like to complete tasks

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By *ire_Vanessa OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I tried online and it does nothing for me.

It opens up the question online versus in real life. For many online is real life but it just doesn’t give me what I need/like.

Also for me it varies from whom I am with. Some people can bring out one side and some another "

Yeah I couldn’t agree more. Online works for some as real time is too much for them but for others like yourself it doesn’t do enough.

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By *erandSir2020Couple
over a year ago

Telford

"How do you like to be dominated? Is it in real time, is it humiliation from afar, is it findom, is it CBT, is it all of the above or is it something else?

Think of this as a poll x"

I live a 24/7 D/s dynamic. His domination of me is mental and physical. Online wouldn't work for us. It's something real that we need to see, smell, touch, feel...just our view anyway

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

I express my dominance by leaving the toilet seat down

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

How do you like to be dominated OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess from a male perspective its the age old cave man attitude at times; "me man, you women, we fuck"

But those who know what buttons to push, understand that sexual dominance is far more that physical control, its more about a freedom to be able to express / release your frustrations in an intimate way

The pleasure works both ways, in most cases the female enjoys the man taking control, which spills into being dominated

In each scenario , it MUST be an experience that they mutually want

Lastly, I am predominantly TOP bisexual man, but on those odd occasions , I like to "switch" and whether it's a man or women, I like to play the role of a Sub

J xx

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I prefer dominating in real life, I love to watch them squirm, see their breathing change, the look of terror in their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ps;

There is a big differnece between being dominant and physical control , the latter dips into the whole SM arena of sexual activity

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess from a male perspective its the age old cave man attitude at times; "me man, you women, we fuck"

The pleasure works both ways, in most cases the female enjoys the man taking control, which spills into being dominated

In each scenario , it MUST be an experience that they mutually want

Lastly, I am predominantly TOP bisexual man, but on those odd occasions , I like to "switch" and whether it's a man or women, I like to play the role of a Sub

J xx

I don’t actually agree. It’s not about a man being a caveman at all for me.

For me the power is equal. Equal responsibility to make it work. To hold. The Dom(me) needs as much caring for as the submissive. They cannot be perpetually strong.

Many see the sub as caring for the Dom(me) as topping from the bottom or them questioning their Dominance. It’s not. It’s about both taking responsibility.

As a submissive if I go on top am I taking “control”, no in my opinion.

The common misconception is that it’s all about sex. For me true D/s is so far from that. If you can’t let me in your head or you in mine then you’re not getting in my underwear.

Just my thoughts

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By *ire_Vanessa OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"How do you like to be dominated OP ? "

I don’t I like to do the dominating. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lucy2929

that is so true!

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

The D/s element that I part take in is almost entirely mental and from afar it allows others to act out their fantasies and submit all control over their life to me (is the concept). Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only enjoy it in person with someone who realises that it starts with my mind, not my body. So many "doms" have messaged (not here) and if all they ask is "what are you into, what will you do, will you obey me" they're not a Dominant.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

If I'm in a sub mood it's more in the moment and related to sexual activity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to have a full time D/s relationship but due to family cannot do so, but do enjoy knowing that I have a real Mistress who uses me when time permits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love thinking about this dynamic.

On the face of it the Dom(me) has the power. But only because the sub is lending out that power.

Which is why I think there is a huge difference between dominany and Dom.

But I think there is more shades even in this.

If a bank lends you $100k, they own you. If a bank lends you $100bn you own the bank !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of excellent responses above

To clarify something though - whatever label you put on your sexual exploits, consent and passion are both key elements

A man being dominated by his women absolutely is a big turn on for both

More of this topic please and enjoy

J xx

Did you mean to roll your eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only me again….

If someone asks me to Domme them or them to Dom(me) me that’s the biggest red flag ever.

I have always found that with good honest communication I have naturally fallen in to a role. Also having the ability to walk away if it doesn’t work.

For me vetting is the key. Anyone who wants to rush it or demand it is, in my opinion, not true to the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've definitely had it work online but it's a very different dynamic to in person.

I do enjoy completing tasks though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of opinions on this topic as usual but to answer the OP's original question I prefer being dominated in person in real time with humiliation and a big helping of CBT

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Not for me

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Its got to be real time,online, anyone can do it but it does nothing for me. Real time, cbt, sph,forced bi,watersports, cum eating.

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By *ssexSwitchMan
over a year ago

hornchurch

I’m open to both but they are very different. It also depends on the other person etc. but even with online it helps if you have met them first so there is some sort of connection

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By *h86Man
over a year ago

Glos

Ive done online and enjoyed it, doing tasks and having my clothes chosen for me, just everyday things that remind me I do not have full autonomy. And then physical meets more like sensual domination but still femdom and pegging etc

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

By Mr Choir and only by him. That happens when he feels like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always roll my eyes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsure how online would work in this scenario. Defo no findom , open to the rest of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both no better feeling than in person but love giving daily tasks to get a reward at the end of the week

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've been dominated both online and in person. In person is better but my online Dom is superb when we can arrange a suitable time. He knows just how to push my buttons but he's caring and thoughtful at the same time. I've also had some bad experiences with shitty online Doms who think insulting you is great fun. (left me feeling like I wanted to harm myself) Don't forget about aftercare people, sub drop is real! I would like a regular in person meet but that seems completely impossible. Reading the back cover blurb of 50 shades doesn't make you a Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a Dom I prefer to be in person but online/phone works, it is all the connection to the other person that makes it work, not just do you fancy the knickers off them.

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By *ubmissively_innocentWoman
over a year ago

bristol

For me definitely in person is better. I’ve never really fully committed online as I felt a bit silly for some reason although I do enjoy hearing peoples ideas and scenarios etc.

For me it’s all about the loss of control and the taboo aspect of it. You know sometimes I just want to be treated like a bit of a s**t as it turns me on. As long as it’s all consentual and fun who cares what others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get to be submissive very often however for me Findom has no appeal at all. On line maybe as a prelude to meet but it's not the same.

Love tie and tease, doing as I'm told to pleasure the dominant or for their enjoyment. I've not as yet tried corporal punishment so don't know (my situation doesn't allow for marks so may be difficult to discover this fully)

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By *ub_cd1990TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

Online works well for me although would definitely love to try it in person one day.

I love the verbal stuff more than anything and being made to do things, dress in certain ways, say certain things whilst all the time being inferior. Love to be humiliated and degraded.

So any offers just hit me up

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