FabSwingers.com forum: Gym etiquette

By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I’ve never fucked anyone from the gym

Unless you count my hamstrings and shoulders…fucked those many times

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"No I’ve never fucked anyone from the gym

Unless you count my hamstrings and shoulders…fucked those many times "

Haha

It's a no from me....when I go to the gym I'm focussed on working out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not this again

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Not this again

Just feels like are the only ones not getting any from the hotties at the gym!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you spoken to said hotties or are you just expecting them to hop on your cock/between your legs and start doing squats/press-ups cos you go to the same gym?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not this again

Just feels like are the only ones not getting any from the hotties at the gym!"

I’ve been going to the gym for 10 years and I can count on one hand the amount of conversations I’ve had with the opposite sex. A lot of my friends and family are regular gym goers and none of them have ever pulled in a gym.

Most people lead busy lives and have a set amount of time to get in the gym and get out. They aren’t there to socialise or be bothered.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

No, not in my experience.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I've never known anyone that's done it...maybe they watch too much porn

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

We both have our eye on a girl but not sure about etiquette and whether it would cross a line making it awkward going forward.

Everyone’s a bit flirty with us to a degree but as they know we’re together it doesn’t seem to go too far.

Some of the singles seem very friendly with one another but we’re not sure to what extent…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both have our eye on a girl but not sure about etiquette and whether it would cross a line making it awkward going forward.

Everyone’s a bit flirty with us to a degree but as they know we’re together it doesn’t seem to go too far.

Some of the singles seem very friendly with one another but we’re not sure to what extent…"

Leave women alone in the gym!

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"…Leave women alone in the gym!"

Fair enough we’ll keep it platonic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a thread yesterday from a guy asking the same question, he got his ass whooped, watching with interest to how this pans out... and to put my two penneth in I wouldn't like it if I was at the gym and could feel beedy perving eyes boring into me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…Leave women alone in the gym!

Fair enough we’ll keep it platonic."

I don’t mean to have a go but this exact topic was discussed yesterday and the OP in that thread wouldn’t accept it even though multiple women were telling him the same thing.

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

No fair enough I understand the desire to get on with your day without being objectified if even by an MF couple.

Just always heard others claiming the gym was somewhere they met people they hooked up with but was never somewhere we had personally ventured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a few I'd like to. But my time at the gym is short so focus on working out.

But I was late for work once because I couldn't hide an erection. So had to stay on the leg extension till it subsided. But with that girl on the lat pull down machine and the way her ass enveloped the seat......I was there a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There a few I'd like to. But my time at the gym is short so focus on working out.

This is the reason you leave women alone in the gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!"

I had a PT for a couple of months and we had sex in the gym showers :p

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!"

Never have

Would like to have a fair few times

I’ve been a member at a few gyms and worked at a couple

Some of the members and staff definitely are easy on the eye and make my imagination run wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There a few I'd like to. But my time at the gym is short so focus on working out.

This is the reason you leave women alone in the gym."

Am not sure you’re getting your point across

Say it again for the cheap seats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I was getting overt signals, I wouldn't chance it. Some people feel insecure in the gym as it is, I wouldn't want to make them feel like they have eyes on them and play into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when people stare at my arse while I’m squatting. I can’t even begin to imagine how uncomfortable a woman will feel in that situation.

I train late at night when there’s fewer muggles around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn’t there a viral video a while back of a woman being hassled, etc, at a gym ? Not cool.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"No fair enough I understand the desire to get on with your day without being objectified if even by an MF couple.

Just always heard others claiming the gym was somewhere they met people they hooked up with but was never somewhere we had personally ventured."

People claim a lot of things on here

A lot of it isn't true

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Am not sure you’re getting your point across

Say it again for the cheap seats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

I don't know what gym "everyone" goes to but if you ever find out, let me know, I'd like to go try it out.

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!"

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Overt signals is right. Be absolutely clear and careful. I think because we are swingers we forget other people are not as open-minded as us and it is easy to misread a smile as meaning “fancy a fuck”.

Saying that, sometimes the signals seem so clear that it would be a shame to not have a go.

A few years back (just before Covid) Mrs B was member of a gym. She was on “nodding/smiling hello” terms with a few other women in there and after a while a girl in her early 20s started chatting each time they went.

Anyway one day in the changing rooms after a workout and shower Mrs B could feel her staring at her and thought “hello!” So she took longer to get dressed than normal. Still this girl was looking and them she said to Mrs B “I cannot believe you have had a child, your body is amazing” Mrs B responded with “really? You think?” And there was a bit of back and forth, joking about hard work in gym, not easy etc with the girl even saying something like “your bottom is so tight” Lots of eye contact and smiling, laughing.

Mrs B took the plunge and said “have a feel if you want, I’d enjoy that!”

Things went a bit embarrassed and frosty and Mrs B never saw that girl at the gym ever again!

So she will never do that ever again. Stick to proper swinger clubs!

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I put my ear phones in and ignore everyone, I don't have time to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to own a share in an independent gym. I met someone from the gym and we fucked on the incline bench after hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look like a sweated drowed rat after I've been the gym.

I doubt I am anyone's sort of fetish.

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Overt signals is right. Be absolutely clear and careful. I think because we are swingers we forget other people are not as open-minded as us and it is easy to misread a smile as meaning “fancy a fuck”.

Saying that, sometimes the signals seem so clear that it would be a shame to not have a go.

Mrs B took the plunge and said “have a feel if you want, I’d enjoy that!”

Things went a bit embarrassed and frosty and Mrs B never saw that girl at the gym ever again!

So she will never do that ever again. Stick to proper swinger clubs!"

Very good point.

We’ll definitely be leaving it.

Plenty more fish in the sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never even come close to it... And I own 4 as a living lol

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By *imbo59seMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk area

Only once did I ever perve on a lady at the gym.....lost track of what I was doing on the treadmill and fell off, never again!!

Might have been the start of my lycra fetish though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not this again

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

when I did used to go I can't say I paid much attention to who else was there. Went in with my headphones on did my workout and left. The only interaction I had with anyone else was just to ask are you done with that.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"... and to put my two penneth in I wouldn't like it if I was at the gym and could feel beedy perving eyes boring into me..."

They are, but they are discrete enough that you can't see them!

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's not worth talking to women at the gym lol

Anyway, our gym was a new "women's only" zone, to keep them safe I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it fuck em in the saunas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My direct debt was fucked over by the gym if that counts?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My direct debt was fucked over by the gym if that counts?! "

We may have the same membership management company

3 times in 3 months I’ve had my membership cancelled and had to reinstate the d/d

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Suspect it’s just an urban myth that everyone at the gym is fucking each other.

We’ve had lots of fun in our garage gym and Mrs CT has been known to give a cheeky flash at other gyms we use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No nobody hooks up in the gym

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"No, it's not worth talking to women at the gym lol

Anyway, our gym was a new "women's only" zone, to keep them safe I guess.

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they need a men only zone, sick of these women looking at my package

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!"

No you're not the only ones. We go to the gym, exercise then come home. Our eyes may wander, a bit of people watching but that's it. We joke about a couple of a similar age to us being Swingers. We wouldn't use "who's nearby" though, we're far too discreet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have the energy to perv you have the energy the energy to lift more, run faster etc.

Imagine going to a swingers club and doing sit ups instead.

Focus people, focus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My direct debt was fucked over by the gym if that counts?!

We may have the same membership management company

3 times in 3 months I’ve had my membership cancelled and had to reinstate the d/d"

Mine was never cancelled just not taken then doubled each time

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Just to clarify: we’re talking meeting fellow gym-goers and fucking NOT fucking them at the gym.

In any case, it’s clear it’s not accepted so we won’t be flirting with the folks at the gym in case any wires get crossed or we offend anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the risk of being controversial...

It's not a complete no no to be friendly at the gym.

And that can lead places.

But you need to be aware that people are possibly in a different mindspace than Asda, Starbucks or a nightclub.

Maybe this is their reset button from a shitty day. Maybe they are self conscious. Or maybe they are super strict about test times.

And maybe they are fed up with being oggled at.

So whatever you choose to do, do it with empathy and consideration. And be aware how you tar coming across may be three shades darker than you think you are.

Most of the above reactions are because a large percentage of people cant read the room and end up being a perv. There is a great thread from yesterday where you sense the OP couldn't get the tone right if he tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the risk of being controversial...

It's not a complete no no to be friendly at the gym.

And that can lead places.

But you need to be aware that people are possibly in a different mindspace than Asda, Starbucks or a nightclub.

Maybe this is their reset button from a shitty day. Maybe they are self conscious. Or maybe they are super strict about test times.

And maybe they are fed up with being oggled at.

So whatever you choose to do, do it with empathy and consideration. And be aware how you tar coming across may be three shades darker than you think you are.

Exactly, we have struck up friendships that have ended up with fun down the line, but never direct hitting on like a nightclub

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

No. An old fwb used to use the same gym but we met on here and discovered we used the same gym by chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, far to focused on my training, not the place I would want to chat and flirt in, far to busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I put headphones in and go to my gym place and dont really register what is going on around me, I dont interact with anyone really. Only on occasion when I've been asked for a spot or advice.

Thinking about trying to pick up a woman is the last thing on my mind

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Need to be going to the gym first before I can establish done this lol well, does home workouts by myself then getting pleasure by my hand count? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i fucked a german exchange student from the gym and we got naked in the sauna for a bit.

ooohh to be 22 again...

that is my only gym experience.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Pure Gym…. 2 years barely met anyone. People just want to train not socialise

Other gyms are much more social , if you have classes, pool, sauna,,jacuzzi definitely find people going on the same days/times. I have a group of friends , about 15 of us now all from my gym in just a few months , some very close friends and quite a bit of flirting going on but now the dilemma is spoiling the friendships by taking it further

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

Depends what gym you go to, there can be some very forward women, I know from experience & men just hound women anyways in there that’s a given ! A lot of people go the gym just for the social side and meeting people. I’m interested to know how youre going to go about this woman in the gym lol good luck

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Suffice it to say we will not be pursuing this girl and probably will limit conversation henceforth just in case anything is misconstrued.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never fucked anyone at the gym or had an orgasm from tight fitting lycra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well not at the gym I attend lol

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"At the risk of being controversial...

It's not a complete no no to be friendly at the gym.

And that can lead places.

But you need to be aware that people are possibly in a different mindspace than Asda, Starbucks or a nightclub.

Maybe this is their reset button from a shitty day. Maybe they are self conscious. Or maybe they are super strict about test times.

And maybe they are fed up with being oggled at.

So whatever you choose to do, do it with empathy and consideration. And be aware how you tar coming across may be three shades darker than you think you are.

Well said, mate. Spot on! And couldn't agree more on yesterday's thread!

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By *topthepressMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Wife did bring a guy home she met at the gym he stayed the weekend

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I hate it when people stare at my arse while I’m squatting. I can’t even begin to imagine how uncomfortable a woman will feel in that situation.

I train late at night when there’s fewer muggles around. "

Horribly uncomfortable, worse when you catch people or they offer to come spot for you etc...

Like no, if I wanted that I'd ask, if I'm on my own I keep to weights I know I can 100% manage, if I'm lifting something that I suspect I'll need someone to spot me, I go with a friend or it's at my PT session...

As for the OP... I potentially have a hook up with another client of my PTs, but we have social nights out etc and that's how I got chatting with him (and he's on here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am older a remember gyms when no women attended.

Great to see confidence that women have now using “traditional men equipment” without being intimidated.

I will see a sexy woman in the gym for what she is. A sexy woman. However, that would be the same outside the gym environment.

Personally, I like the gym to not not have to interact with anyone, de-stress from work and feel better.

What bugs me is people messing around with phones, taking pictures of themselves and generally getting in the way of me training.

BAN all phones I think.

Like said, I’m old

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over a year ago

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By *lirty and funMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Yeah... Leave women alone down the gym.

Different if they kick up a conversation with you mind.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"There are some gorgeous people at the gym and everyone (here and other places online) keeps saying everyone at the gym fucks one another.

Is this true? Have you fucked someone from your gym? A trainer or fellow member?

Are we the only ones who haven’t?!"

I had sex in the jacuzzi and finger banged another girl in the steam room.

Also, dated a couple of different girls from my gym. Not something I would recommend doing actually.

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By *NKED_n_KINKYCouple
over a year ago

Watford

My misses usually wears see through leggings knowing that guys will look at her bum. There's a lovely photo on our of her at the gym in her leggings

She loves eyeing up the big muscled guys, she says it gives her extra motivation.

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By *angerousLiaisonsCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

London

I’ll clarify one last time:

- we’re both on friendly terms with an attractive woman our age at the gym what we casually flirt with;

- we both admitted how attractive we found said woman;

- starting this thread was just to gauge how others had treated hooking up with fellow gym-goers OUTSIDE of the gym;

- given the responses we WILL NOT be as familiar with this woman going forward lest we risk offending or bothering her.

End of.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

Only ever chatted to one woman, when she was giving me some tips to inprove my swimming. She was gorgeous but never even thought about trying anything on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely talk to anyone in the gym. Headphones on and block everyone out.

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

Unfortunately not at the gym, there are lots of great distractions while on the treadmill though. Have to make sure I don't daydream too much....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had loooaaaads from the gym haha working in one is a nightmare

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By *arah10Woman
over a year ago

highgate

Yes…my personal trainer! What started at the gym as a perfectly professional relationship turned into some private sessions which involved some less than conventional exercises! Lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never believe what you read online x

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By *eff TurboMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

There are two people on fab close to where I live that I see when I visit the gym.

One is gay, the other a married female.

I chat to the woman often but haven't tried anything as I'm respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never believe what you read online x"
I don't believe this.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Never believe what you read online xI don't believe this. "

That's the spirit

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