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Been over a year and Zero luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys and girls.

I’ve been on Fab for over a year., sent over 70 messages and haven’t had any luck. Any tips or suggestions on how to get the ball moving would be massively appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few things to start...

Get rid of the Sydney university nonsense..

Write a bit about yourself and what you are looking for.

Take a tidy face photo.

Find a social near you to get some verification under your belt.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Get a profile photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont rely on luck control your own fate

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

It's not about luck, you get what you put in. Same as all aspects of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 70 messages is nothing if I’m being honest

I reckon I get a chance every 30 messages I send and thats tailoring every one.

My recs-Based on personal experience others will tell you if I’m talking BS or not if they start to believe them.

Don’t know if you do this but sit on every message for a minute before hitting send just to make sure you only get one chance.Again don’t know but don’t send more than one message to the same person without a reply.

Your profile could do with you adding what you want in a woman or a guy.It decreases your chances having nothing cause it can make you look desperate.

Skip the Sydney university stuff to, causes too much pointless text on your profile.

Got a feeling posting meets is a double edged sword but don’t know for certain so can someone else give their opinion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys thank you for all your feedback. I’ve listened made a few changes. Let me know your thoughts.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Guys thank you for all your feedback. I’ve listened made a few changes. Let me know your thoughts.

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Also stop using smart phone emojis in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get the bike and mountains photos being on here. Profile is ok but a bit bland and doesn’t show your personality or what you’re actually about could do with being more individual.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don’t get the bike and mountains photos being on here. "

I didn't think photos without you in them were allowed. I think there are too many weight lifting pics and the black borders need cropping off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s one message about every 5 days. I would say that’s not many.

I don’t know what the percentage is of messages sent to replies but I’m sure it needs to be a bit higher than that

The profile is one thing but so is the quality of the message you send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get the bike and mountains photos being on here.

I didn't think photos without you in them were allowed. I think there are too many weight lifting pics and the black borders need cropping off. "

The black borders are screen shots also not permitted I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get the bike and mountains photos being on here. Profile is ok but a bit bland and doesn’t show your personality or what you’re actually about could do with being more individual. "

Agree profile text is a massive improvement over what was there previously though so good for you.

Would cut out the “feel free to message” part.Maybe add your preferred body type of woman and man one or two sentences for each?.Also add something your into just say you like biking and being in the mountains.

One would also stick to only one gym pic if they have to be there and stick the dick pics to private.

Other fabbers reply BS if I'm talking bull this is just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your here to swing ... not advertise your gym ...look at my bike ... wtf with the mountain pics both of the last 2 should never had made it past the photo mods..

only you know you so advise is pointless unless you want to join the other 1,000s of had advice profiles thats are boring..

be you nobody else if your looking for a easy fuck then sorry thats not swinging there no luck invoved your either wanted by somebody or your not...

your main problem is your one of zillions who is looking to find the very much lower in numbers women n couples..

they say 50 men per woman some say 100 per woman or more .. with loads more men joining everyday woman and coupel who play are getting rare (many on fab dont play)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry mate your pics are shyte with the exception of maybe the last one

Up your game on pics and you might get some traction

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP, if you do not know how to interact effectively with other people in the real world you stand no chance here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could have the most amazing profile text , take all the pointers on what to write and make it interesting and funny but if your pics are lacking the text is a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You folks are brutal. On point but brutal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

70 messages in a year..?

https://youtu.be/x-H1T7ny2Uw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can meet people, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to!

I've got a well developed 'dad bod' but I must come across ok for some people as I've met quite few lovely people on fab.

Maybe it's your messages which don't connect with people? Some messages of mine are a bit silly, I once asked a lady what her favourite biscuit was as an opener. Chocolate HobNob was her choice and we've met up a few times since!

With women having so much choice, you need to come across well in your first message or you'll not stand any chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree with RikkeSeven:

Hide the cock-shots as we all know what they look like and well... they've already told you about the pictures.

Also agree to dump the Sydney crap, there is a legal arguement but if you don't understand or know what it is and what it actually means then you won't win any legal cases. You'll be hard struck to find anyone to represent you in court too and another thing to everyone that puts it up there. If you aren't confident enough to put your face on Fab will you really be confident enough to prosecute in an open court, in front of a jury and court staff that the picture of your penis that they used was without your permission on a swinging site? Really?

You've been told to go to some socials, there you can learn how to interact with other swingers and how open we tend to be and also, drop your expectations until you have been assimilated. Luck.

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By *isser36Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Mate...all that's been said above and also ...don't take fab too seriously if its making you sad not getting meets or replys give it a miss for abit, re evaluate what it is you want from it. I've been on fab over 10 Yr sent probably thousands of messages ,chatted to some great people, made some friends had a handful of actual meets even had sex with a few too!! Men are a plentiful disposable commodity on fab, there's always someone hotter in her inbox ! Just accept it ,relax and take it all with a very large pinch of salt and you'll be just fine. Use the forums to find people with similar interests and interact with like minded fabbers if going to clubs or socials isn't your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got meets in the past with very little on my profile. The initial message and pics got me the interest. Some like a detailed profile, some not so much...

I love mountains and motorbikes but don't think this is the place to show them. Pics of you working out are not necessary either.

Concentrate on having good photo's of yourself to send. Preferably clothed initially.

That's my opinion anyways. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much. Really interesting point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Few things to start...

Get rid of the Sydney university nonsense..

Write a bit about yourself and what you are looking for.

Take a tidy face photo.

Find a social near you to get some verification under your belt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rodger that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank for the advice everyone. X

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