FabSwingers.com forum: Gifts or Payment

By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple
over a year ago

Rushden

I've been seeing a guy regularly for quite a while, the sex is incredible & we really connect.

He has certain tastes for what I should wear & as I don't own many of the things he is in to, he has offered to buy them for me to wear when I'm with him but I can keep them for my own use.

How does this look from the outside, would they be gifts or would he be paying for me to be with him? Some of it would be quite expensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this should be somthing to worry about at all. If he's a long term lover even less so, if its making your time together better well its just that. On the flip side to this my hubby likes to buy outfits for me when Im seeing others so how would you class that lol?? X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’d see them as gifts, unless he said you couldn’t wear them with other people.

It would only be a payment if you were only meeting him for the gifts, but if you would meet him despite the gifts its not a transactional relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been seeing a guy regularly for quite a while, the sex is incredible & we really connect.

He has certain tastes for what I should wear & as I don't own many of the things he is in to, he has offered to buy them for me to wear when I'm with him but I can keep them for my own use.

How does this look from the outside, would they be gifts or would he be paying for me to be with him? Some of it would be quite expensive

Who cares how it looks from the outside? As long as you are both happy no need to tell anyone.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

So long as they don't come with any conditions or expectations attached that you're not comfortable with, take the gifts

Maybe return the favour and buy him an aftershave you like the smell of for him to wear for you.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't see anything wrong with buying someone a gift.

I've done it before - with no expectations or requests.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"I've been seeing a guy regularly for quite a while, the sex is incredible & we really connect.

He has certain tastes for what I should wear & as I don't own many of the things he is in to, he has offered to buy them for me to wear when I'm with him but I can keep them for my own use.

How does this look from the outside, would they be gifts or would he be paying for me to be with him? Some of it would be quite expensive

I would say those are just gifts

If they where given in exchange for a meet then would been payment. But looks innocent to me

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Looks like they’re just nice gifts.

Mrs likes to receive new irregular choice shoes as payment when we have weekends away.

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By *issEmmWoman
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Sounds like gifts to me, if he’s happy to buy them then why not?

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

Just adding he can buy me gifts as well

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

These items are neither a gift or payment, as they were purchased by him primarily for his pleasure, he's buying them for himself, they are his, the fact that you get to utilise them for your own use in his absence doesn't change that fact.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you are happy with the arrangement, that's all that's important. I'm fine with the same experiences. Everyone is happy and there's nothing untoward or unfair

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By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple
over a year ago

Rushden

Yay, more nice things for me & lots of sex.

Thanks guys, mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he was buying £30 bunches of flowers every time you met would it be weird? It's his money, undies are better than roses

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yay, more nice things for me & lots of sex.

Thanks guys, mwah

Win, win all round.

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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

"I've been seeing a guy regularly for quite a while, the sex is incredible & we really connect.

He has certain tastes for what I should wear & as I don't own many of the things he is in to, he has offered to buy them for me to wear when I'm with him but I can keep them for my own use.

How does this look from the outside, would they be gifts or would he be paying for me to be with him? Some of it would be quite expensive

If it's fun for you both, take him up on it. Some guys enjoy a bit of a mild "fin-dom" type setup. We had a guy from on here send S a number of items of lingerie as long as we sent him some good photos of her wearing them.

She looked smoking in the underwear, we had a lot of fun taking the photos (me moving S around into sexy poses so I could snap her gave us both a buzz) and he really enjoyed the photos when we sent them through.

We sent him around 20 pictures in total of 3 different lingerie items which weren't crazy expensive, but were of good quality.

Lotta fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like they’re just nice gifts.

Mrs likes to receive new irregular choice shoes as payment when we have weekends away. "

Payment from who?

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Strange post. On your profile you're asking people to buy you nice things, when someone does you right this post. Very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone is different and each to there own but for me its a step to far ive never liked it and never will im on here to meet for fun its 50/50 meets they please me i please them if someone brings a gift then it goes home with them i cant be brought now i know some guys genuinely like to just give and expect nothing back but theres also alot of guys who use gifts as a form of control / entitlment .... its swinging not dating thats my take ..

and how ever you see it is fine too if you enjoy and know hes not some nutter trying to control then all is good ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strange post. On your profile you're asking people to buy you nice things, when someone does you right this post. Very odd"

These threads are so that people can hint about accepting payment for meets. But not outright ask because of course that's prostitution and against site rules......

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By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Strange post. On your profile you're asking people to buy you nice things, when someone does you right this post. Very odd"

Ah yes, its a joke for V to read while hes at work, that was what the guy said he should be doing, V replied with "she can have 1 of those things"

does look weird thanks

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"I've been seeing a guy regularly for quite a while, the sex is incredible & we really connect.

He has certain tastes for what I should wear & as I don't own many of the things he is in to, he has offered to buy them for me to wear when I'm with him but I can keep them for my own use.

How does this look from the outside, would they be gifts or would he be paying for me to be with him? Some of it would be quite expensive

How does your other half feel? If you have rules and agreements in place where they feel this is ok then it’s fine. If they feel it’s over stepping the boundary then respect that. You are a couple so it’s down to what you both find acceptable xx

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Why does it matter what anyone else thinks?

It’s between you & him.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"I don't think this should be somthing to worry about at all. If he's a long term lover even less so, if its making your time together better well its just that. On the flip side to this my hubby likes to buy outfits for me when Im seeing others so how would you class that lol?? X"

The husband of the wife who I played with on-and-off for three years bought her various items for her to wear - lingerie, 'fuck me' shoes, and a pair of high-heel boots...

....all of which she and I 'christened' before he even got to see her wearing them - in the case of the boots, the first time that he 'saw' her in them was in the photos that I took for him to add to their profile!

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