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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we arranged a meet last night and the couple turned up we had a good chat bottle of wine then they said they had another bottle in their car and would go and fetch it we never saw them again

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

That is sooo rude, at least they could of said they didnt think it would work out. Shame they didnt have the balls to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope the driver wasn't drinking, and if so I hope they bumped their car on the way home, lol.

seriously though, as hard as it is to say so it would have been far better for them to say they wasn't feeling so comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we starting to wonder if its us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folk struggle to say "Thanks but no thanks" in person.

What happened here is precisely why we never have a first meet at someones house, we always meet on neutral territory, pub etc, and state we never play on first meet, which has worked well for us to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some folk struggle to say "Thanks but no thanks" in person.

Totally agree !

Tried a home meet once, never again !!

Meeting at others homes for a first meet brings pressures that can be avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some folk struggle to say "Thanks but no thanks" in person.

Totally agree !

Tried a home meet once, never again !!

Meeting at others homes for a first meet brings pressures that can be avoided. "

At Diamonds next Oscar's I know who is getting the Best Profile award.........outstnding you guys

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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"we arranged a meet last night and the couple turned up we had a good chat bottle of wine then they said they had another bottle in their car and would go and fetch it we never saw them again "

didnt you think it funny when they both went to the car i would of..abducted by aliens i bet or some other lame excuse lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we arranged a meet last night and the couple turned up we had a good chat bottle of wine then they said they had another bottle in their car and would go and fetch it we never saw them again "

How embarrassing,we bet that did your self confidence the world of good.How cowardly can some folk get?

Please don't take this the wrong way but we noticed theres no pics on your profile.You did exchange photo's before the meet didn't you,please don't say it was a blind date?

As we said,don't take that the wrong way,we're just trying to work it out.

Trace & Ric

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Thats an awful thing to happen and I know we would have the balls to say that we did'nt think it would work out but thanks for a lovely evening and take care

Yet my twisted sense of humour is chuckling away to itself at the situation....Naughty I know but hopefully you will look back in times to come and laugh about it yourselves,there are some strange people out there! Its certainly an education this swinging game xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao"

Your kidding,the cheeky t**t.We just can't believe the arrogance and unthinking rudeness of some people.

Many of our meets have been at home and we've had no problems,touch wood.

Mind you we try to choose very carefuly which has paid off so far.

Trace & Ric

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao"

OMG this is one of my fears and why i dont arrange many meets as i always fear this will happen to me lol. what a tosser he was!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww... sorry guys we had a flight to catch lol....

Seriously though thats rude... very very rude.

If they are a local couple.. we'd love to know who they were.. Not a nice thing to do at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To flip this - After arriving at the home we knew within seconds things were not going any further.

We through body language and negative communication (asked for our coats, declined, when offered a drink chose tea)thought that the message had been sent loud and clear, we were wrong !!!

On another occasion after meeting at a bar we were asked back to their home, we made it absolutely clear this would be for a drink as friends and no more than that. Again we thought that this was clearly understood - we were wrong !!!

Go figure ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder why some people have a problem with a few English words strung together to make a sentence.... words like, "sorry, we won't be playing with you as you aren't our type after all"

Seems quite a simple thing to say to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet privatly... Usually no issues as we chat, mail etc well before and meet on nuatral ground first hand.. Also we make it clear.. unless 100% we never play first meet...Though we have done..

Sad?? Maybe... Works well for us..

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao"

omg thats even worse ....how terrible

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Aww... sorry guys we had a flight to catch lol....

Seriously though thats rude... very very rude.

If they are a local couple.. we'd love to know who they were.. Not a nice thing to do at all...

Thats typical of you ..trying to fit one in before last boarding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh You heard then lol....

Great weekend as it goes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao

omg thats even worse ....how terrible "

funny tho, i could'nt help but giggle to myself, but that just the type of person i am, i just sent him a text message saying "its ok i did'nt like you either" lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Some people are rude !

Us, we normally meet at a pub and decide from there. We do have a deal set out before we go that either party can walk away after meeting, with no questions asked.

We havnt had to do that yet and not had it done to us, but we sure wouldn't just run away.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"that is really rude i have to admit, "had a lovely night but we'd sooner just stay friends" don't hurt anyone to say.

I remember meeting a single guy once, i waited where we had arranged to meet and he pulled up in the car, looked at me and drove off, did'nt so much as turn the engine off never mind say hi lmao

omg thats even worse ....how terrible

funny tho, i could'nt help but giggle to myself, but that just the type of person i am, i just sent him a text message saying "its ok i did'nt like you either" lol"

well its a good job your chilled out and can handle it ...loads would of been mortified ....what a wanker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To flip this - After arriving at the home we knew within seconds things were not going any further.

We through body language and negative communication (asked for our coats, declined, when offered a drink chose tea)thought that the message had been sent loud and clear, we were wrong !!!

Go figure ?"

To be honest with you, after reading your profile then if we were to meet I would take the fact that you came back to my house after a pub meet would be a very positive sign.

Better just to say no at the pub.

As a cpl we made the mistake of going back to someone's house with just the intention of a drink (after a pub meet). Will not be doing that again unless we were 100% happy we wanted to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To flip this - After arriving at the home we knew within seconds things were not going any further.

We through body language and negative communication (asked for our coats, declined, when offered a drink chose tea)thought that the message had been sent loud and clear, we were wrong !!!

Go figure ?

To be honest with you, after reading your profile then if we were to meet I would take the fact that you came back to my house after a pub meet would be a very positive sign.

Better just to say no at the pub.

As a cpl we made the mistake of going back to someone's house with just the intention of a drink (after a pub meet). Will not be doing that again unless we were 100% happy we wanted to play."

With hindsight it was a mistake going back but this couple are very local, so having non playing swinging friends seemed appealing.

Before we agreed to their invitation we both made it crystal clear that playing was not an option twice, in the bar and whilst going to our car.

This was also made clear during the initial arrangements (social only) and on the previous day when we informed them that I (Mr Sin) had a throat infection giving them the option to postpone until the following week.

They had no excuse for their behaviour and completely disregarded our wishes, but, yes we now know for sure that it would have been better to not go at all, and will not make that mistake again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some folk struggle to say "Thanks but no thanks" in person.

Totally agree !

Tried a home meet once, never again !!

Meeting at others homes for a first meet brings pressures that can be avoided.

At Diamonds next Oscar's I know who is getting the Best Profile award.........outstnding you guys

Well thank you Mr Bonk ! Methinks one vote will not swing it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awwwww i would vote for you too...only cos you said you would send a tenner mind

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a meet once at mine, there was just no spark, so i was honest and told him, he went crazy, said he had never felt so humiliated in his life, so i told him to get over it, i aint giving u a sympathy shag for no one... he stormed off , lol i was polite.... maybe he thought i shud of still gone ahead and played, i dunno ?? but if theres no spark it aint happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"awwwww i would vote for you too...only cos you said you would send a tenner mind

xxx"

Goes to my bed dreaming of Fizzin ticking my box, always wanted a piece of posh totty rooting for me !

lol

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By *WfellaMan
over a year ago

liverpool

well i once did just what the original poster had done to them, made an excuse to go fetch somethin from my car then drove and away from there as fast as i could, i meet a cple in a pub that was local to them, at 1st all was cool, the lady half looked sexy and seamed a decent girl, then as the drinks started flowing the male half became more aggressive, not towards me but other guys drinking in the bar, guys who were minding there own business, he was making stupid nasty remarks and getting louder and louder,the male half of the cple was a fairly big powerfully built fella and i eventually sussed out that he was known in the bar and the locals were keeping there distance from us, also his wife didnt stop him or ask him to calm down at all witch any normal wife would do if there other half was acting in that manner, i started to want out of there, the conversation turned to previous meets and after telling me about certain cples and single guys they had meet the hubby was butting in with "i wanted to twat that guy" and "he came close to getting a hiding of me" , it was obvious that he had anger management and social issues, they also told me about a guy they had meet that had made his excuse to go the toilet and they had then seen him running away across the car park (it was the same pub we were in), the hubby gave chase after him and chased him a good way thru the small welsh town they lived in, i knew that if i told them i wanted to go then it would turn ugly so i was thinking of an excuse to go to my car, the subject of my profile pics came up and he asked me were they gen as i don't sent pics that show my face and genitals on, so i told them i have such pics with me in the car, i ended up in my car and rutting thru my glove box for somthin i no wasn't there, i looked up and the two of them were starring at me thru the pub window, i checked the car park behind me to make sure it was good for a quick reverse and speedy exit, as i was speeding out the car park i checked my rear view mirror and sure enuff the hubby was trying to run after my car (unsuccessfully) the next day i had a few emails off them/him threatening my very existence, i have since spoken to a few cples and one single who have meet this cple and had bad experiences with them so it looks like i did the right thing in getting out of there.

i had previously declined to go back to a cples house after a pub meet and they didn't take that well at all, but that's another story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heres a question tho, if you really are the sort of person who struggles to say to someone they not your type, and i know its hard at times, should you really be meeting people? As adults we must all know we are not going to like everyone and everyones not going to like us, so if we struggle with rejection or to reject others is this really the right game to be in?

just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think its the manner of rejection that can be hard to take for some people,we're all human and we all have feelings so as in the case of the OP the treatment was appalling and its upsetting,if someone is polite and honest about things then I agree that thats just life..move onwards and upwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a similar situation a couple of years ago ...

We met a couple at our house, had some chat and a small amount of play, the guy from the couple did nowt except fall half asleep on the sofa, the play between the 2 girls and myself came to an abrupt end when the female suddenly asked, "Can WE use your toilet?" Naturally we said yes, and both of them vanished - for ages, then reappeared stating, "We've gotta go" and off they went and within about 30secs they were gone.

Only one mistake they made - she left some jewellery behind, so they phoned us asking if they could come back to seek it.

We left it in the back yard on the patio table !!!

Then a week or so later what happened ?

The same prople sent us a message

asking if we could meet again

It took us about 10 seconds to think of the answer - it was one of those famous Russian words ending in "off" !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been in situation where the lady concerned and I had met in a pub got on well , got a hotel room then got naked blah blah...

then when I moved my head "down there" the smell was truly sickening.. I really struggled not to be sick. Now I was clearly not in any mood to play but couldn't come out with "well your pussy stinks" so had to feign "not being in the mood" which in the end reflected badly on me...

Needless to say I got dressed and out of there sharpish but ended up feeling like I had done something wrong!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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"I have been in situation where the lady concerned and I had met in a pub got on well , got a hotel room then got naked blah blah...

Needless to say I got dressed and out of there sharpish but ended up feeling like I had done something wrong!"

i would of said i love to play in the shower come on and soaped her up good mate ....but if you were put off its a fair call

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"We had a similar situation a couple of years ago ...

Only one mistake they made - she left some jewellery behind, so they phoned us asking if they could come back to seek it.

We left it in the back yard on the patio table !!!

Then a week or so later what happened ?

The same prople sent us a message

asking if we could meet again

It took us about 10 seconds to think of the answer - it was one of those famous Russian words ending in "off" !"

what ....kossoff...????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before we joined any swing sites, we looked for meets in our own way, we once invited some friends over, Wayne invited a male friend, Colleen invited a female friend, anyway, we decided to play a little strip game leading to forfeits and from there to go on to playing full on, however as we settled down to play the male friends bottle well and truly went, we saw him quickly text, then a minute later he received a call, his poor brother had fallen down the stairs, broke his leg and couldn't get to the phone to call an ambulance (this was from a phone call, lol), so he ordered a taxi to 'go save his brother', about one week later I bumped into him and his brother, leg was fine, lol.

Didn't turn out bad, as I was saying goodbye at the door, the girls decided we would still go ahead, so a threesome we enjoyed, very much so too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It took us about 10 seconds to think of the answer - it was one of those famous Russian words ending in "off" !"

Can only think of Smirnoff....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some folk struggle to say "Thanks but no thanks" in person.

same here. we meet for a drink in a pub first saves the awkwardness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a cpl come to my house and then say they have to get something from the car, I quickly handcuff the woman to a radiator until the partner returns, never fails!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a similar situation a couple of years ago ...

Only one mistake they made - she left some jewellery behind, so they phoned us asking if they could come back to seek it.

We left it in the back yard on the patio table !!!

Then a week or so later what happened ?

The same prople sent us a message

asking if we could meet again

It took us about 10 seconds to think of the answer - it was one of those famous Russian words ending in "off" !

what ....kossoff...????

Loll, aye something along those lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a cpl come to my house and then say they have to get something from the car, I quickly handcuff the woman to a radiator until the partner returns, never fails!"

Wayne makes notes on how to dispose of Colleen when things tire......

Fancy a drink at your place mate? ;-0

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By *uicyandSpicieCouple
over a year ago

Livingston

We had a message on our account about how we were time wasters because we wanted to do f2f meets before we arrange at a later date to play,surely you need to be turned on before you play? am i too fussy? I want to enjoy our play and make sure who i play with enjoys it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would of said i love to play in the shower come on and soaped her up good mate ....but if you were put off its a fair call "

hmm thing is mate..I had the decency to wash all my smelly bits ultra clean prior to the meet and the fact she hadn't clearly washed down there for days was not much of an incentive!

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By *abeandhimCouple
over a year ago

Chester

lol, a few years ago we had a male rounf for some mmf fun he arrived on time started to play babe got stripped to have fun he came in his hand at the sight and did a runner,

so much for the fun lasting for a play and never heard another word from him he could have only been in house 5 mins.

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By *icurious40sCouple
over a year ago

kendal

We always meet in a neutral location first with proviso that we will not play on this occasion.It is difficult to say no but if you want this lifestyle without having to shag the real strange people.I don't think you can be discerning too much.If they are genuine,hopefully they'll understand.

xx Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always meet couples at my home, but i chat and exchange pics beforehand, you know if you will hit it off or not by the time you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had peeps show us pics and they looked nothing like there pics when they showed up safer meeting at a public place before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had peeps show us pics and they looked nothing like there pics when they showed up safer meeting at a public place before hand "

Yep happended to us as well totaly different not even remotly like pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive started asking peeps how old there pics are some dont change them from 1 year to the next lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and my partner met a cpl at his,after meetin em there was no spark they were nothin like there pic, she was wearin a white dress which she said she,d brort for her weddin but it hadnt fitted, she,d now lost weight so decided to wear it on our meet.we told them we wasnt interested they decided to stay anyway, 2 hrs later they were still there,my partner went to the toilet 30mins later came back sayin he didnt feel too gud, we then had a 10min conversation bout his bowel movements,they still wouldnt go, it took another journey to the loo before they finally said, rr sorry you unwell, maybe next time we come your be up for it. we now meet in pubs

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Sounds to me like pubs is the best starting point - so that both sides can make excuses and leave if the needs be - or both go back to "our/your" place if there is chamistry.

It harder when at someones house as there is the feel that things are more so set in stone - even tho you should still feel you can leave if you wish.....

Neutral ground works on so many levels :D xxx

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Sounds to me like pubs is the best starting point - so that both sides can make excuses and leave if the needs be - or both go back to "our/your" place if there is chamistry.

It harder when at someones house as there is the feel that things are more so set in stone - even tho you should still feel you can leave if you wish.....

Neutral ground works on so many levels :D xxx

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Grrr didnt need to be said twice, grr grr grr xx

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