FabSwingers.com forum: What is the most common reason you decide to not "meet" another?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hopefully the question speaks for itself. For us it is they are single profiles who put their sexuality as straight. Wondered what reasons others have.

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

Gut feeling

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I just didn't feel like meeting them. Good enough reason for me

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Pestering us, especially if we give them Char's Kik or WhatsApp. Daily questions about what she's doing, if she's being "naughty" and so on.

(Bry)

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By *issEmmWoman
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Constant messages before I’ve even had a chance to reply to the first one

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Pushy guys who don't read profile or just don't know what a cuck relationship is

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Because I don't get any offers. Can't get a better reason than that can you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they don't meet my very specific criteria.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Refusing to provide a picture of their face. I’m not going to meet someone who I don’t know what they look like beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor manners is my main pet peeve. Not reading my profile. Pushy. Expecting me to drop everything and come running for a meet. Them not wanting to send clear face pics before a meet. Them not wanting to have a chat on the phone before a meet. Could go on but I won't lol

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

A sense of entitlement, as if this is a one way street in their favour.

Gbat

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If it's obvious from their profile, messages or forum comments that any meet will only be about them it's never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People not reading our profile, claiming they are something we don't feel they are....our experience so far is most people are fantasist and don't actually ever go ahead with the meet. Disappointing but the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hopefully the question speaks for itself. For us it is they are single profiles who put their sexuality as straight. Wondered what reasons others have."

The bi/straight thing is interesting. I dont put bi because I dont fancy men. I wont meet men one on one. I get enough men asking to suck me off with it saying straight as it is. I dont tick bicurious, because Im not curious, Ive had sex with men, there is no curiosity, I know what I like and fancy.

However. In a ffm scenario, I will play with the man in the right circumstances. Once in the moment and turned on I really get into the couple and into what they like, thats my thing, reading them and flowing into the moment, into what they like, be it bi male fun, dominance, dirty talk, bondage, pain, whatever. Their pleasure is my pleasure, I really get off knowing that my partner is getting off. But there is no box to tick for that.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Not taking the time to read our profile. As soon as we say we’re looking for a couple with a bi fem they usually make an excuse that they don’t know why their profile says straight etc

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Honestly "no attraction" whether it be looks or personality... if there's something that puts us off then I'm sorry we don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not taking the time to read our profile. As soon as we say we’re looking for a couple with a bi fem they usually make an excuse that they don’t know why their profile says straight etc "

Because you have to tick one of three boxes and people judge and filter based entirely on that choice when there isnt a selection you can make that fits.

The moment people specify "bi only" or "straight only" you will get this issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly "no attraction" whether it be looks or personality... if there's something that puts us off then I'm sorry we don't meet them."

"must not come from Pleasley or Bull Farm but Radmonthwaite is ok"

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If they're a single male that hasn't read our profile before messaging.

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By *nglo-Indian-DelightCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Rude or crude messages

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Vulgar and disrespectful updates.

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Well that's probably about 80%+ of women on here. If its not all about them and there very strict criteria it ain't going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of effort in profile and messages. If you can't be bothered to try and engage with us via text it's likely you'll be a poor lover.

People who think this is essentially a free sex worker site and have a list of demands and expectations eg what I should wear etc. (Molly)

Single men saying they'd 'let' my husband perform oral sex on them but they're not interested in contributing to 3 way play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that start with 2 paragraphs of moans then followed by 2 paragraphs of demands. They just seem too hard work as we are only here for fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lack of effort in profile and messages. If you can't be bothered to try and engage with us via text it's likely you'll be a poor lover.

People who think this is essentially a free sex worker site and have a list of demands and expectations eg what I should wear etc. (Molly)

Single men saying they'd 'let' my husband perform oral sex on them but they're not interested in contributing to 3 way play. "

I must be one of those guys as you have blocked me. Sorry about that

Anyway I was gonna peek at your profile to see what it said specifically, and ask what about guys like me and the explanation I put up there on the topic ^

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

They are not what am looking for they obviously don't read my profile properly or won't show a recent face pic I mean am not gonna go meet someone I've absolutely no idea what they look like or if am attracted to them or not! Or they become pushy or over powering with like 101 questions before i get to meet them ....

Theres absolutely loads of reasons why I won't meet other ppl...

Especially if they talking about meeting me then put up a status looking for other ladies....kinda puts you off more than anything....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite simply the spark not being there, i cant be bothered with sex without a connection it usually leads to mediocre sex

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Mostly lack of attraction on Niki's part, but also too many cock pics and those that clearly have sex with other men but claim to be straight, dishonesty (with us and with themselves) is not a good starting point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No connection, I lose interest quickly so if I don't feel it in a few messages I move on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We are fake

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

How they title the message heading is usually a good indication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who think this is essentially a free sex worker site and have a list of demands and expectations eg what I should wear etc. (Molly)"

This! Although I've been known to decline pre arranged meets for that exact reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading and understanding my profile.

Asking to many questions.

Living miles away.

Have no idea what it is that they want.

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Need 2 have a chance 2 speak lol

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

It's all arbitrary to be honest.

We either want to meet or we don't. There's several reasons why the later may be.

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By *iteas1TV/TS
over a year ago

newport

Good reply

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

"Hopefully the question speaks for itself. For us it is they are single profiles who put their sexuality as straight. Wondered what reasons others have."

When uou get a text off him saying she is not well Di ut wil be him only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum interactions, finding out they do BB or are married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most common reasons I don't meet someone (and all absolitely valid):

My message goes unread.

My message is read, but ignored.

My message is read, ignored, and they block me.

My message is read, ignored, and deleted.

My message is read, ignored, deleted, and they block me.

My message is read, and the response is "sorry not interested"

My message is read, and the response is "sorry not interested" and they block me.

My message is read, and the response is "sorry bi men only" (clearly didnt read my profile)

My message is read, and the response is "sorry bi men only" and they block me.

Message is read, responded to, but they make it clear they are happy to chat but are not interested in me sexually.

Message is read, responded to positively, my response goes unread.

Message is read, responded to positively, details exchanged, a meet is organised and she leaves you standing round in the cold round the corner from a swinging club in blackpool like a bell end for an hour while she cooks up a cock n bull excuse as to why she is late, and then not coming at all (suspect the real reason was she got high instead)

Message is read, responded to positively, details exchanged, hotel address and room number given and she goes totally incommunicado.

And so it goes on. As yet I have not refused a single invitation to meet. But then, I have not met anyone through this site and my verification is from someone I met away from this site, but know well and spotted in here (I would know that body anywhere!).

Its easy being a bloke on here, you dknt

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Not taking the time to read our profile. As soon as we say we’re looking for a couple with a bi fem they usually make an excuse that they don’t know why their profile says straight etc "

We've had this in reverse.

I'm straight and we've had couples say that's cool,then they've mentioned females playing after we've said there would be no girly play .

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Also finding out they are married ,to others,but playing as a couple on fab.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forum interactions, finding out they do BB or are married. "

4 out of 4!

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Refusing to provide a picture of their face. I’m not going to meet someone who I don’t know what they look like beforehand "

This is a big one for me too.. I always send a face pic early in a conversation, usually on first message, so deeply mistrust those who won’t but still want to meet

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I always go by 3 alarm bells. If I get a message off a couple and the Female is always. In the shower, in work, working away or on holiday etc Each one is one alarm bell same with Ladies, sometimes you just know its a guy

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not reading our profile or just pictures of the infamous manhood or sending a dick pic ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always go by 3 alarm bells. If I get a message off a couple and the Female is always. In the shower, in work, working away or on holiday etc Each one is one alarm bell same with Ladies, sometimes you just know its a guy

You mean messages like "Hi babe I want you to fuck me in the ass and spunk down my throat so I can gobble all your baby batter like a hungry pacman and then I want you to finger blast me to oblivion and piss in my hair and shit on my carpet on the way out the door"..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refusing to send a face picture.

Refusing to send a face picture on here or Kik (I can't help but think they're trying to "trick" me into giving them my number before I know I'm interested).

I explain my personal situation quite early on so that people understand why I may not be able to respond immediately or often, so if they keep pestering me or throw a strop because I haven't replied immediately, that's an instant block too.

People who keep trying to initiate sex-talk often meet my block-list as well.

I have absolutely zero interest in cyber sex and experience tells me they're often the ones just after a quick wank with no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most common reasons I don't meet someone (and all absolitely valid):

My message goes unread.

My message is read, but ignored.

My message is read, ignored, and they block me.

My message is read, ignored, and deleted.

My message is read, ignored, deleted, and they block me.

My message is read, and the response is "sorry not interested"

My message is read, and the response is "sorry not interested" and they block me.

My message is read, and the response is "sorry bi men only" (clearly didnt read my profile)

My message is read, and the response is "sorry bi men only" and they block me.

Message is read, responded to, but they make it clear they are happy to chat but are not interested in me sexually.

Message is read, responded to positively, my response goes unread.

Message is read, responded to positively, details exchanged, hotel address and room number given and she goes totally incommunicado.

Its easy being a bloke on here, you dknt "

The top 5 also goes for me too for some reason

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

They aren't what I'm looking for

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys wanting bareback.

Guys contacting me and asking the same questions they asked me yesterday, and the day before, and last week and having the same pattern conversation that goes nowhere over and over again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys wanting bareback.

Guys contacting me and asking the same questions they asked me yesterday, and the day before, and last week and having the same pattern conversation that goes nowhere over and over again"

"Hi m8"

"WUU2"

"Want sucked?"

Etc etc

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

A million and one reasons, I'm a fussy slut, and twice as quick to block.

Biggest pet hates are, we advertise a meet, give an exact day & time. They offer back to meet on a differant day or time to that advertised.

They "just wanna watch".

Insisting on our face pic, when we have an advertised glory hole meet.

Telling me / us what they are gonna do to me durung a meet.

Telling me what to wear for a meet.

Ones that have not clearly read the profile, and offer to Dom us and he will fuck my Mr.

Do you need me to go on?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We like to chat a fair bit on here before we'll arrange a meet. People who either push to meet quickly, make the chat explicit right from the off or give closed off replies tend to get dropped.

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By *indictiveMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Usually when its a difficult conversation, think getting on socially is very important if you want a good sexual relationship with someone.

Good communication is really important we have realised.

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