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By *otwifehotlife OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Question to put out there, how many of your close friends know about your involvement in the lifestyle?

Do you keep it secret?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my friends know about our lifestyle but M is more guarded with his. I would really like to make more friends within the scene,

S x

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

More exciting when no one knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my friends know if the did they would be shocked. But on a girls night out we talk about it and what would we think of eachother. I think a couple of my friends would love it

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

My best mate knows, in fact she’s on the scene too now. First time she met my hubby they got to know each other very well. If you can’t share your man with your best mate well …. Lol

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

Some close friends know everything, others know a little and other’s probably have an inkling but dare not ask the details.

The former boss of my workplace knew and was even wanting me to introduce her to the club scene. I drew the line at that, citing professional boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one close person know about me being on fab, and his is well jealous lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some... But not many,

Wouldn't want any potential partners or real life ones, not fab friends, finding out and making judgements before I'd had a chance to say hello...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None and may the two worlds never collide

Viv

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Some do, some don't, some have made comments suspecting things then didn't believe us when we confirmed it

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Question to put out there, how many of your close friends know about your involvement in the lifestyle?

Do you keep it secret?"

A few do. But not all.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

None as it's none of their business x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My close friends know about my lifestyle - they’ve all got partners, and I got fed up of being asked why I’m still single / you should find someone … Easier buddy to tell people I found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of my close friends know, I like to be able to tell people where and when we're meeting just incase there's any issues, plus I found out 1 was already on here so it's great to have someone to chat about this side of my life to.

Mrs

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

A smalk number of my close friends know, but we rarely talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows. It's private and people on the outside would undoubtedly judge

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Keep my home, work & swing life separate.

Not looking to be judged by others who’ve never tried it or don’t understand the dynamics.

I have 3 work clients who know but only because they’re into it, even had fun with one of them.

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By *eahxocallumCouple
over a year ago

studley

None and I intend to keep it that way. We have met people here and at clubs and we keep them isolated from our regular friends.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

No one knows about or other side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of close friends but problem is

We have had to fuck them to keep it quiet haha

And that’s true

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say a mixture know because I have friends that I have know from the scene who have left the scene and obviously know I play

I have a lot that don’t and like to keep it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private just how I want to keep it. Separate from my everyday life

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By *urse234Woman
over a year ago

somewhere in Essex

Recent events in my Swing Life have lead me to open up to my vanilla life, as I needed to speak to someone who wasn't involved, kept the life completely separate for 10 years uptill a few weeks ago x

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

As a guy, there is less chance of social stigma so I have always told people about it.

Its a shame that ladies and couples are judged differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say a mixture know because I have friends that I have know from the scene who have left the scene and obviously know I play

I have a lot that don’t and like to keep it that way "

Same here Mike I think we have the same connected friends

I have told one friend who totally judged me and we have since fell out with each other and no longer speak as he thought I was going to make a play for his wife or something like that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several of our sexually liberated & confident friends know, some are in the fab or bdsm scene - being of similar mindsets is part of why we get on. Other friends - definitely not - they are more conventional & just would not understand. Family - no way.

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By *otwifehotlife OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The reason in which I ask is recently a very close friend of mine settled his divorce, we grew up together, my wife had always had a bit of a liking for him, I said I'd ask the question but didn't know how to address it, he was at our wedding, how do I say, hey would you be interested in having some fun? Would he be judgey etc

We never really know do we.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason in which I ask is recently a very close friend of mine settled his divorce, we grew up together, my wife had always had a bit of a liking for him, I said I'd ask the question but didn't know how to address it, he was at our wedding, how do I say, hey would you be interested in having some fun? Would he be judgey etc

We never really know do we......."

Will you be sad if he's horrified and tells everyone in your town that you're dirty cheating sluts?

If not then risk it and ask him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to, many years ago play with my ex in this sort of thing (hotwife arrangement). She let slip to one of her mates and it was a fucking car crash, her mates fella kept challenging me to a game of cards (winner fucks the losers mrs) or a race in our cars or whatever childish bullshit he could come up with. No amount of "mate, my mrs isnt a fucking prize to win we arent interested in playing with you two and by the way how does your mrs feel about your stupid game?" would shut him up. Soon enough every fucker saw it as a green light to chat my mrs up.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Many of our friends know, but then several of them we met through Fab.

Some have crossed into real life friends and are very close.

My former business partner knew as did Becky’s previous boss.

Family doesn’t know.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Several of my friends know and so does my daughter and sister.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Several of my friends know and so does my daughter and sister."

May I ask, have they seen your profile? Im curious about how it must be to know they have seen you in compromising positions and with a (admittedly impressive) load of cum dumped on your (admittedly rather pretty) face?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Several of my friends know and so does my daughter and sister.

May I ask, have they seen your profile? Im curious about how it must be to know they have seen you in compromising positions and with a (admittedly impressive) load of cum dumped on your (admittedly rather pretty) face? "

No they have not seen the profile. All they know is that I am a swinger and go to clubs.

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Two of my non swinging friends know, both female. They are intrigued and like hearing about my adventures, but I don’t think they’d ever give it a go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Several of my friends know and so does my daughter and sister.

May I ask, have they seen your profile? Im curious about how it must be to know they have seen you in compromising positions and with a (admittedly impressive) load of cum dumped on your (admittedly rather pretty) face?

No they have not seen the profile. All they know is that I am a swinger and go to clubs."

Ah i see.

For me I know my friends and family would feel a LOT more comfortable than I would seeing pics of me like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends and family know, some agree with my choice some don't, as long as I'm happy and safe is the main thing for them.

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By *a_fun_30_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

None of our friends or family know anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to, many years ago play with my ex in this sort of thing (hotwife arrangement). She let slip to one of her mates and it was a fucking car crash, her mates fella kept challenging me to a game of cards (winner fucks the losers mrs) or a race in our cars or whatever childish bullshit he could come up with. No amount of "mate, my mrs isnt a fucking prize to win we arent interested in playing with you two and by the way how does your mrs feel about your stupid game?" would shut him up. Soon enough every fucker saw it as a green light to chat my mrs up. "

Similar happened to a friend at work. She has been slagged off by men and women really badly. People screenshot her pics and show them around to take the piss. It's awful. Men openly make fun of her and ask for sexual favours.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Nobody knows family or friends. it's our secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero people . It’s our business and nobody else’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of my friends know and are not bothered by it at all (M)

None of Ds friends do

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By *issB.Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

I had to come clean to my best friend last week! I had left my phone lying around with no pass code and had locked it straight on a WhatsApp chat from a male friend… she ushered me quietly into the bathroom to say she had grabbed my phone and unlocked to take a photo earlier on and needed to know if I was cheating on my husband as she had unlocked straight to a msg from another man x

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By *nchantedRoseWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

None, all judgemental assholes

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

I told a mate years back,and he tried to use it against me. He failed.

So a bit more guarded now. A couple of decent friends know though.

It use to be my biggest fear walking into a club and seeing a work colleague there. Now I find it a massive turn on.

But as a poster further up the thread said,as a single male I would receive less social stigma over my life style choice.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Ironically swinging in the 1960s frequently involved friends and neighbours, The keys in the bowl was the most popular form of swinging at house parties and it would not be unusual to meet with some friends on a regular basis.

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By *addysdadCouple
over a year ago

southern Cumbria

A few of our friends know what we get up to, and suspect the kids (grown up) have an idea, but rest of family know nothing!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Everyone knows. Freinds and family. One little mistake here, a random guess there, a phone screen accidenpy left on etc and over the course of 25 years, it all comes out.

Nobody cares. They either simply don't mention it or they're just curious.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London

A friend I made on her knows, and we love chatting about our 'other lives' ... otherwise it's pretty hush hush ... appropriate when you have nippers I think!

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

No one knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a secret

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By *asycouple777Couple
over a year ago

bristol


"A couple of my friends know about our lifestyle but M is more guarded with his. I would really like to make more friends within the scene,

S x"

We are same as this

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A small number know but I prefer to be fairly private, though we do share some of our debauched experiences, as I tend to mix with sexually open people.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

We have like 3 friends that know and they are curious about it all besides that no one knows.... infact its at the point now where we have more fab friends than vanilla

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