"I see the term 'Cuckolding' as meaning either gender but obviously cuckold is the male enjoying his wife with someone else, cuckquean is the female enjoying her partner with someone else
I guess the reason it isn't discussed or differentiated on here is because it's not as common
I think women (myself included) can be more insecure which is maybe why it's less common, I don't care who my husband has sex with but I wouldn't feel comfortable with him going on a date with someone, spending the night with someone but then I wouldn't want to do that with a guy, it's purely sex I'm here for
& maybe that's why single women don't want to meet married guys, they may not get the attention/time they want from the guy as he has other commitments
I also saw someone say the other day that she didn't like the idea of the guy going back & discussing his meet with his wife & I have to be honest we do that, we have have amazing sex as he tells me what they got up to & I guess that makes her feel used, she's basically an accessory in our sex life & id never thought if it like that
But on the flip side I have seen single female profiles specifically looking for married men, woman who like the idea of borrowing someone's husband for the night, being taken out for dinner, a night in a luxurious hotel, their kink is knowing they are doing all of that with someone else's husband - like I said that would be beyond my boundary but there was plenty of women/couples offering up their husband when this was a forum post & several other woman saying it was they were looking for as married men knew how to date/treat women better was a quote I remember reading "
Ok. that's some interesting takes.
Not how we do it but I appreciate the view.
We can't account for others, just what we like and what our boundaries are. In our case and our case alone, forgetting clubs, parties and couples meets (which go as expected) we will and have met ladies for a 3some. My wife's always involved in those (she is bi) but she will stay back and watch for some time. She would actually like to be tied up but, that's on the list.
Sending me out on my own however there's no real way we have to do it. Over the years on occasions we have met women willing to entertain it, it's either been no different that a normal social and play then I head home but there have been a few when it's a kind of date night and stay at a hotel. It wouldn't have to be one or the other (both are great to us) but I appreciate you point of view from the other side of it. So I appreciate that take. To be fair, in my case, I always treat it like a FWB thing. I'm not purposely trying to put things that can be perceived as "dating" per se into the night, just an enjoyable time if that makes sense? If you're at a hotel, you've had to travel and it's an overnight, might as well have a nice meal, a drink and a chat right? Romantic I save for my wife.
But I guess the down side is some women may well feel like an accessory as you said. Swinging is swinging in our eyes and it's fancy free and NSA. I know some women will see it the same. But I can appreciate those who wouldn't want to be involved with that sort of thing or have it talked about with another person...which in our case, it's going to be discussed.
But for cuckolding however, every definition I read specifically refers to the male. Not saying you're wrong, just saying what I have understood and read.
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