FabSwingers.com forum: After care

By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.

Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?

I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare

Jay

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't why people wouldn't like a kiss and a cuddle after, it's a bit cold to just get up and go.

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"I don't why people wouldn't like a kiss and a cuddle after, it's a bit cold to just get up and go. "

I know, it happened recently with someone and felt empty.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I love it

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"I love it"

I do too

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By *adymxxxWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I think it's an absolute must but it seems the more I meet on here the less it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be rude not too

even after a quickie ...gotta have a lil kiss n a cuddle rite ?

i couldnt just up n leave cum still dripping and not even had a cuppa n a few custard creams hahahahaha...i mean unless they wanted me to leave obv lol ....

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

It is absolutely essential and just as much a part of a meet for me as any other aspect.

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"It is absolutely essential and just as much a part of a meet for me as any other aspect.

Likewise, for me. Nothing better than a warm connect and more often than not, things heats up for other possibilities

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By *leanor1717Woman
over a year ago

Gillingham

It's usually missing with fab meets for me, but when it does happen it enhances the whole experience. Fuck and go has its place but I'm feeling more like I want to indulge in after snuggles now than I used to...

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"It's usually missing with fab meets for me, but when it does happen it enhances the whole experience. Fuck and go has its place but I'm feeling more like I want to indulge in after snuggles now than I used to..."

It’s always more wholesome with a snuggle after. Everyone seems to be in a rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect them to wipe their penis on the curtains and leave.

It's the only acceptable way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I expect them to wipe their penis on the curtains and leave.

It's the only acceptable way."

Curtians ? Don't you mean your blouse

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Love it

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By *erandSir2020Couple
over a year ago

Telford

Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a must for me, if you're spending a prolonged period in bed there's nothing better than cuddling and chatting inbetween fun times.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I love it.

Wouldn't feel right for me to just up and go.

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"I expect them to wipe their penis on the curtains and leave.

It's the only acceptable way."

What are your knickers for

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting. "

Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"Love it

There is a lot to be adored and cared for, love your pics

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I expect them to wipe their penis on the curtains and leave. "

Beef or fabric?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

The intimacy of a meet is my favourite aspect of it. I’m not into quick fuck and go type meets. I like drinks and/or dinner and unhurried play. That’s my vibe.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "

I think so. My impression of couples here is they are generally looking for a human sex toy, in singles. With other couples it is likely to be different I would think but that’s my experience from the approaches I get from couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "

Let me put another angle on this please

I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.

I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.

At the end of it they were kissing and cuddling and I was totally forgotten. I felt, if I’m honest, used by them. That once we’d had sex I was surplus to their requirements. I have never felt so badly about myself.

I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.

I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door

This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?

Let me put another angle on this please

I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.

I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.

I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.

I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door

This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "

That’s a raw deal.

" Is it singles that require aftercare?

Don’t think so, every one does. You get it from your partner, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need it?

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Post coital snuggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before

It’s even more important in a D/s dynamic I believe.

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?

Let me put another angle on this please

I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.

I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.

I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.

I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door

This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "

I have met alot of couples and I suppose some feel that adding another person is such a turn on it hightens their sex as well. So I'm like you meeting couples at Chameleons or similar is more fun than meeting in their own space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "

Surely couples have aftercare automatically. Their relationship.

Or do you just fuck each other then not touch or speak until it's sex time again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "

Couples need it too - you’re just giving it to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.

Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?

I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare

Jay"

Aftercare like what?

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before

It’s even more important in a D/s dynamic I believe. "

Yes, I agree. I use it as an opportunity to reconnect and level with the submissive. I adore aftercare in that context, it brings people much closer in my experience

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?

Let me put another angle on this please

I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.

I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.

I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.

I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door

This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "

Wow, well that’s awful! We used to mainly only meet at our home and if my memory serves me correctly the only 2 people who didn’t sleep over and stay for breakfast etc were 2 single men we met.

Could any other couples confirm is this normal, just to ignore after with either single people you have met or other couples?

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?

Surely couples have aftercare automatically. Their relationship.

Or do you just fuck each other then not touch or speak until it's sex time again?"

if it’s not in the calendar on the fridge…

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By *inkyfilthymind OP Man
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

"I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.

Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?

I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare

Jay

Aftercare like what?"

Kiss, cuddles, chat, a cuppa or a massage. It different for every individual. Anything but fuck and go

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Isn't it just a level of decency?

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Isn't it just a level of decency?"

Something the human race has lost sadly

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think it’s important to read the situation and do what’s exactly what’s needed or wanted rather than assume. Sometimes people are hypersensitive after an intense session and can barely be touched and some people need aftercare in the days after, messages, calls etc.

A submissive that understands Dom drop is a rare find too

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Isn't it just a level of decency?

Something the human race has lost sadly

That's not my experience

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