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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" Your problem might be that you have a well written bio, great pics and have veris to prove you are serious about meeting and that all put together will scare off a lot of timewasters who just like to mess about and never have any intention of meeting. I am beginning to think many are just on here to see how many people they can bait into an almost meet for their ego. There are some absolute amazing people on here but you have to have the patience of a saint whilst waiting to find them or hear from them. | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" probably nothing. the sites infested with messers. ask for a phone number that usually sorts out the time wasters  | |||
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"Iv changed our details a bit thanks for the input all. Take a look if it's better" It's better there's still things in there like hard fucking & anal that might put some off but if that's what your into and want from a play partner, then your doing the right thing being clear from the start but it may limit the amount of people interested in an already limited single woman pool, but we can't help liking what we like | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" Lol join the club. Hours of effort for nothing. We met a couple for a social a month or two back who looked NOTHING like their photos and they decided not to meet us again ??. Then we had a meet cancelled as we were driving to another couples place a few weeks ago, they then messed us around for the whole weekend and were clearly lying. Just today blocked another couple we've met before who claimed they wanted to meet us again then kept us hanging for weeks. Today they stated they can't meet for weeks due to 'arranged meets' !?. Obviously not with us. Another couple claim they want to meet but it's clearly just the guy messaging veru short one line responses to our paragraphs, we've lost the energy to carry on there lol. Others wink or message and have clearly not read our profile. Then there's the ignorant crowd who just wink and send a friends request !?  ... We've lost count of the free weekends wasted on timewasters so have decided to have a club visit as backup at all times. Yes activity on FAB has certainly picked up but where are the all genuine 'normal' folk ??? | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" Staying on the site? | |||
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"We are 100%genuine ,it's very frustrating to be real but get messed about so much." Hear what you're saying ,your not on your own x | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" Could be a case that you're putting all your eggs in one basket? Truth is, a large chunk of people on this site are not what is presented. When it comes to meets through Fab, we don't meet single fellas (so that's a none issue) and we don't entertain unverified account. In theory that should leave us with plain sailing. But the reality is, since covid happened, we've found between the couples and single ladies, we find less than 50% of couples that contact us are what they claim to be. Some are faked accounts, some suddenly turn into only the male playing, some are accounts whos last and only veri is from 5 years ago etc etc. Lots of red flags basically. Single ladies on the other hand, always been a rarity. There isnt that many single ladies in our local area and not all are bi either. The ones that have given us the time of day on fab usually want to drag their FWB along (which defeats the purpose of us looking for a single lady) or you get lost in the noise with the hundreds of other messages they get swamped with. To date, we have only ever directly met one actual single lady through fab and that didn't go well as things where not as advertised (which I wont go into). We have met a few ladies who's husbands didnt partake or join in though. Just to make things even more difficult, you local area can be a huge factor as well. According to some quick google foo, you're not in a densely populated area (though I have no idea how far afield you look). And then there is the fact that fab is a free site. When there's no fee to join, it attracts time wasters, wanna be's, pic collectors, 5 knuckle shufflers and trolls. For all the genuine people on here, there's just as many, if not more, that are not legit. With time you can learn to spot most of them though. So a long while ago we stopped putting all our faith in fab or any other site to be honest. We moved into social events and club visits and that was an absolute game changer. Suddenly we are interacting with all the genuine people and cutting out all the nonsense that is part of fab. With social events, we often meet people who will then reach out to us after said event and we go from there. Clubs can be the same thing or more. Depends what you fancy really. But I appreciate not every where has clubs within a reasonable distance and other factors can make them inaccessible to some. A weekend away is nice but work and or child care can make it impossible for many. So in our case, Fab stopped being the primary way we connected to people some time ago and just became a way of keeping connected to people. Whilst we do meet people directly through Fab (couples), the majority of couple meets and all single ladies are via socials and clubs now. And since we have hosted social events ourselves, even in those cases you suffer from no shows and wanna be's. So you're not doing anything wrong really I can see and I'm not seeing anything wrong with your profile either (in fact I just saw you do social's so there is that). Just carry on. You'll have good weeks and bad weeks I'm afraid. You could try arranging your own social event? We've done a few, large (with over a hundred people with a set venue) and small (just several couples meeting for a drink in a bar). That certainly helped us and has garnered us a good group of friends we meet regularly with. | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong? Your problem might be that you have a well written bio, great pics and have veris to prove you are serious about meeting and that all put together will scare off a lot of timewasters who just like to mess about and never have any intention of meeting. I am beginning to think many are just on here to see how many people they can bait into an almost meet for their ego. There are some absolute amazing people on here but you have to have the patience of a saint whilst waiting to find them or hear from them." Exactly what Brad said  | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong? probably nothing. the sites infested with messers. ask for a phone number that usually sorts out the time wasters "This!!!!
If people can’t speak on the phone then there is very little chance they are going to meet in real life. Filter them out early and then you don’t waste time on them. | |||
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"lol as a genuine single guy..who is actually normal hahaha ... u lot should think yaself lucky ... people like me dont even get a msg or a reply cos we dont have x y z on our accounts .. sad really ...so dw ...we all go throu it "Two 3rds of the site is single guy accounts. The odds are not in your favour. If you dont learn how to make yourself stand out to people wanting to meet single guys no one will pay attention. Sorry to put it bluntly but it's the truth. Couples and women can get so many messages from guys on this site so try to be creative if you want people to respond. A stand out message or profile, no dick pics, a well worded profile etc etc. Present your best self like its a job interview or something. I'm not sure what you consider x,y or z but its like fishing. If ypu don't use the right bait and lure, you won't get any bites. | |||
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"Getting bored and pissed off at this site, wtf are we doing wrong?" You're looking for a unicorn - were you expecting it to be easy? | |||
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"lol as a genuine single guy..who is actually normal hahaha ... u lot should think yaself lucky ... people like me dont even get a msg or a reply cos we dont have x y z on our accounts .. sad really ...so dw ...we all go throu it
Two 3rds of the site is single guy accounts. The odds are not in your favour. If you dont learn how to make yourself stand out to people wanting to meet single guys no one will pay attention.
Sorry to put it bluntly but it's the truth. Couples and women can get so many messages from guys on this site so try to be creative if you want people to respond. A stand out message or profile, no dick pics, a well worded profile etc etc.
Present your best self like its a job interview or something.
I'm not sure what you consider x,y or z but its like fishing. If ypu don't use the right bait and lure, you won't get any bites.
"thats a very fair point hehehe and notes taken...personally i dont mind ...im not even thirsty like that ...im just gonna be normal ..nice..respectfull ...what happens ..happens i guess ...
either way i hope u all have a really nice day
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