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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The only thing I look forward to is the planned meet. I never have and never will look forward/plan another one unless it's with that same person. I've never had anymore than 1 on the go at the same time. Just not my style x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t be interest in anyone wanting to meet different people all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it’s about being honest with each other what you are looking for.

And being respectful !

IMO if it’s just wam bam you don’t end up having the best sex, but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the meet works then would rather arrange the next meet with them as prefer an ongoing thing than just randoms

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off "

Sounds to me like they are trying to up their numbers and just shag as much as they can. Bloomin kids! Lol

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

If you mean that they're already trying to plan their next meet with us, then we'd be a bit put off as that's a bit presumptive.

If they were planning a meet with someone else, then it's none of our business and we wouldn't care less

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the meet works then would rather arrange the next meet with them as prefer an ongoing thing than just randoms"

Just a case of finding someone

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We just take one meet at a time , if we really enjoy we will and have met the people again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off "

I’m looking for one regular FWB I don’t meet other men if I have someone I’m trying to make that happen with but I don’t often trust guys are the same unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?"

Now I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i play life day to day so dont tend to look too far forward and rarely expect anything but a good time on that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last meet I dated for 6 months! Alas she was in love with someone else so we parted ways, I joined because I find the ladies to be more upfront with what they are looking for than the likes of dating sites .. finding someone who wants to meet regularly is rather difficult though

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I generally look at the meet not look for plan b

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused "

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets.

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

One meet at a time for me and I very much prefer repeat meets. Saying that I don't meet all that often.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s hard enough arranging one meet without having to think about the next.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

We like to build up to meets with lots of interaction and chat between all of us so we give that couple/person our undivided attention. We love the build up to a meet and for us arranging multiple meets prior to the first would rob us of that enjoyment.

xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We much prefer to concentrate on the person we are meeting but if it’s a couple of months in the planning then we might have a social with someone else and be chatting to others.

We aren’t on a conveyor belt with meets. They are spread out and we want times for us too.

If we can meet the same person again we’d do so but that’s not possible all the time.

K

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets. "

I get you...think my first answer fits then x

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

One meet at a time is surely enough, I enjoy the attention and building the anticipation which would not happen if I knew he was messaging others.

Some just want to meet indiscriminately which is also a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity "

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"The only thing I look forward to is the planned meet. I never have and never will look forward/plan another one unless it's with that same person. I've never had anymore than 1 on the go at the same time. Just not my style x"

Yeah this

I don't really know of anyone who starts working on their next meet. If I enjoy my time with someone and especially if it feels like we have something to build and explore sexually then I would rather develop that relationship/friendship. Yes of course if there are other opportunities then I wouldn't turn them away but not at the detriment of a good thing already going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer an ongoing personally.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity "

The OP didn't say anything about being exclusive!

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages "

Wow well he must be getting every guys messages lol

But totally agree 5hrs is ridiculous to confirm a meet is still on for that day, to be honest I'd have likely cancelled, patience is not my strong point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages

Wow well he must be getting every guys messages lol

But totally agree 5hrs is ridiculous to confirm a meet is still on for that day, to be honest I'd have likely cancelled, patience is not my strong point

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I did, not on that. I wouldn't treat someone that way

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The only thing I look forward to is the planned meet. I never have and never will look forward/plan another one unless it's with that same person. I've never had anymore than 1 on the go at the same time. Just not my style x

Yeah this

I don't really know of anyone who starts working on their next meet. If I enjoy my time with someone and especially if it feels like we have something to build and explore sexually then I would rather develop that relationship/friendship. Yes of course if there are other opportunities then I wouldn't turn them away but not at the detriment of a good thing already going."

Exactly. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones in finding great FWBs. I value their friendship and our dynamic over a quick fuck elsewhere x

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

So true

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity "

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Plenty of people chat on here to more than one person in the hope of getting a meet with them .I don't see anything wrong with that isn't that what the site is about.

If it's not your thing then be clear when you talk to someone it isn't.

I know several women who have had two or more meets in a day no matter over a week or days so it's not just men doing it.And if that's their thing then it's grand.

I have however seen a guy get set up by two women in a group I was in when his name was mentioned and two of them realised he was chatting to both of them at the same time. Then then decided to play games and see which one he preferred and messaged him saying they would meet him on the same day. He replied to the first message saying he could meet her and then when he read the second one he said he was busy that day but could meet the following day. The guy got ripped to shreds a lot of the women in the group messaged him and told him he was now blacklisted and he would get no meets so he should leave fab. Personally I thought it was pathetic they reacted like that and played games to start. He did nothing wrong he didn't lie to either of them neither of them asked was he chatting to others .When I said it in the group and asked how many men the women were all chatting to most were chatting to several but seemingly that's okay for women on here but how dare a man do the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

So true

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity "

I never said I was exclusive or wanted that, maybe a little respect yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Plenty of people chat on here to more than one person in the hope of getting a meet with them .I don't see anything wrong with that isn't that what the site is about.

If it's not your thing then be clear when you talk to someone it isn't.

I know several women who have had two or more meets in a day no matter over a week or days so it's not just men doing it.And if that's their thing then it's grand.

I have however seen a guy get set up by two women in a group I was in when his name was mentioned and two of them realised he was chatting to both of them at the same time. Then then decided to play games and see which one he preferred and messaged him saying they would meet him on the same day. He replied to the first message saying he could meet her and then when he read the second one he said he was busy that day but could meet the following day. The guy got ripped to shreds a lot of the women in the group messaged him and told him he was now blacklisted and he would get no meets so he should leave fab. Personally I thought it was pathetic they reacted like that and played games to start. He did nothing wrong he didn't lie to either of them neither of them asked was he chatting to others .When I said it in the group and asked how many men the women were all chatting to most were chatting to several but seemingly that's okay for women on here but how dare a man do the same.

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I can't comment on other people's situations only mine.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages

Wow well he must be getting every guys messages lol

But totally agree 5hrs is ridiculous to confirm a meet is still on for that day, to be honest I'd have likely cancelled, patience is not my strong point

I did, not on that. I wouldn't treat someone that way"

There's no right or wrong, if your unhappy it's taken him 5hrs to reply the meet won't have gotten off to the best start, if your taking that annoyance into the meet cancelling may have been the better option & saved wasting any more of either of your time

If you are able to totally let it go happy days but your original message didn't sound like that that was the case & it wouldn't have made you the bad guy cancelling

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By *aughty masonMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off "

I think because a lot of the single men find themselves having to compete it leads to this type of behaviour

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By *heekyGent44Man
over a year ago

Northwich


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages "

In sorry, but that's poor form on the guys part. Guys just don't get the volume of messages to not be able to reply. And if I had a meet planned I would actively look out for messages from that lady.

Otherway round, can understand as ladies are bombarded......but .... I'd expect better communication if we have a pending meet.

At the end of the day is just basic manners and respect x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


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No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages "

To be fair if he didn't reply for 5 hours on the day of the meet especially with that excuse I wouldn't have been too happy and it means he isn't that keen to meet or you are his plan b for the day.

Yes people have every right to meet and chat to others. But no one has a right to make someone their plan b while they try and sort what they believe to be a better option.

And I have in the past canceled a meet with a guy for this very reason when he didn't reply to me on the day I wasn't travelling an hour to meet someone who wouldn't reply. He replied half an hour before we were due to meet asking me to reconsider I asked why did the other meet not work out and he admitted that it didn't work as he hoped. I didn't meet him as I won't be a back up meet for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's hard for most guys to get replies to messages yet alone meets so I doubt they are arranging their next meet before they've had yours

Are they trying to chat to others incase you ghost them or are a no show, yep probably but like I said most messages guys send to unread

This is a swingers site not a dating site, you can't expect exclusivity

No but I expect him to reply to say the meet is still on for that day when I asked and not wait 5 hours for him to reply because he's chatting to others on here. His reasoning is he gets alot of messages

In sorry, but that's poor form on the guys part. Guys just don't get the volume of messages to not be able to reply. And if I had a meet planned I would actively look out for messages from that lady.

Otherway round, can understand as ladies are bombarded......but .... I'd expect better communication if we have a pending meet.

At the end of the day is just basic manners and respect x"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets. "

I'd cancel my meet with them. I'm not a sex meat conveyor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume that's what most guys are doing. That's why they cancel - they find a better option. I talk to more than one man at a time and see nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off "

Yes. That's been my experience. Similar story for POF when I was on that.

Disposable lifestyle attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I'm just trying to find a regular

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet


"I've done a few threads about meets and what to expect and it still throws up more questions. When people have arranged a meet are they straight away looking for the next one because that's what I'm seeing especially with single men. Instead of working on the meet they have coming up their looking for the next, has anyone else found this? Is that how your meets works? It puts me off "

once I'm chatting with someone with a planned meeting then that's my focus. If it all goes cold or the meet is cancelled that I would start thinking about another meet.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We just try to be honest with any kind of meet and seems that mostly it's a comp with most as in how many they can have sex with or attempt to ? and so they'll basically lie to get a meet working on the theory that we've met them and so magically we'll jump in to bed with them just because they have shown up ??? but we don't think about meeting others when meeting and don't assume anything at all..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just assume that's what most guys are doing. That's why they cancel - they find a better option. I talk to more than one man at a time and see nothing wrong with that. "

I talk to plenty but I don't arrange meets then ignore

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not all Males are on here just for sex but a majority are and treat the females ( both single and attached) as unpaid sex workers and so if they do get a better offer or what they think is a better one ??....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't lay claim to an NSA meet's time and attention, other than for the time we commit to together.

I think it's wise that people pursue multiple potential partners, unless you are looking for more exclusive interaction together. This especially, as many of us are not quickly available for meeting, once any initial chatting has started. We each may take a varying number of weeks and months, before we even set eyes upon the actual people.

Most of us don't probably want to be another piece of meat, being lined up for getting roasted. But, where many people, especially guys, have low potential odds of getting things off a slow burner, I think it's natural for people to find their own way to get fab to work for them. Fill your boots, as you can.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

One at a time is difficult enough……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve seen a couple of guys off here and they do tend to go ‘ silent ‘not long after but then re appear when it suits them .

Think they see what else is available and then try to come back when they don’t have an alternative.

That’s why I don’t meet men anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just assume that's what most guys are doing. That's why they cancel - they find a better option. I talk to more than one man at a time and see nothing wrong with that.

I talk to plenty but I don't arrange meets then ignore"

Well, you know - men and multi-tasking! I've given up here. Too many guys not actually interested despite what they say.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets. "

Then there's those who talk of meeting you for a second time yet leave you hanging on a thread for weeks ... A short while ago we decided to always have a backup plan, usually a club visit. Then the next couple cancelled as we were on the way to their place, so club it was.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets. "

This is a swingers site, not a vanilla dating site, but even there I would not expect my "date" to be limiting themselves to me only.

Me - I like to have a busy diary (regulars/club nights preferred) so I probably would already have a meet scheduled with someone else the day, two or three after the meet with the original person. However, on the day of the meet, I would concentrate just on the person I am meeting that day. They would be the centre of my attention during the meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets.

This is a swingers site, not a vanilla dating site, but even there I would not expect my "date" to be limiting themselves to me only.

Me - I like to have a busy diary (regulars/club nights preferred) so I probably would already have a meet scheduled with someone else the day, two or three after the meet with the original person. However, on the day of the meet, I would concentrate just on the person I am meeting that day. They would be the centre of my attention during the meet. "

Why do you feel the need to point this out? I'm well aware of what this is. I'm simply asking for abit of respect not a relationship or marriage. I'm interested in the way people are treated, it's common decency to let someone know you can make the arranged meet.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets.

This is a swingers site, not a vanilla dating site, but even there I would not expect my "date" to be limiting themselves to me only.

Me - I like to have a busy diary (regulars/club nights preferred) so I probably would already have a meet scheduled with someone else the day, two or three after the meet with the original person. However, on the day of the meet, I would concentrate just on the person I am meeting that day. They would be the centre of my attention during the meet.

Why do you feel the need to point this out? I'm well aware of what this is. I'm simply asking for abit of respect not a relationship or marriage. I'm interested in the way people are treated, it's common decency to let someone know you can make the arranged meet. "

I'm sorry but now I am confused by your reply, OP. You asked for opinions, I gave you mine. Simples.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Very rare I have a meet. Normally just chat shit on the forum. If I did get a meet, I'd still be chatting nonsense on here, but I'd be fully focused on the meet, nit looking for yet another, as I'd actually rather prefer a connection and something more than a notch on a bedpost. This is not a critique of anyone who does, just me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought the OP was talking about the people asking to meet her again after arranging to meet the first time when they haven't even met yet. Is that what you meant OP?

Now I'm confused

No i'm saying if you arrange to meet for the first time and your meet date is coming up but the guy is already looking for other meets.

This is a swingers site, not a vanilla dating site, but even there I would not expect my "date" to be limiting themselves to me only.

Me - I like to have a busy diary (regulars/club nights preferred) so I probably would already have a meet scheduled with someone else the day, two or three after the meet with the original person. However, on the day of the meet, I would concentrate just on the person I am meeting that day. They would be the centre of my attention during the meet.

Why do you feel the need to point this out? I'm well aware of what this is. I'm simply asking for abit of respect not a relationship or marriage. I'm interested in the way people are treated, it's common decency to let someone know you can make the arranged meet.

I'm sorry but now I am confused by your reply, OP. You asked for opinions, I gave you mine. Simples."

You pointed out its a swinging site not a vanilla dating site. I'm well aware of what Fab is, it doesn't excuse bad manners and lack of respect

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't read the entire thread but I'm already seeing the usual selection of generalisations.

Not everyone lives on this site or sees it as their number one daily priority so the whole idea that just because men don't get as many messages as women they should therefore reply sooner is bull.

I often leave messages unread for hours due to work or other commitments and only reply when I can take the time to read them properly.

If I'm meeting someone that day then yes I will make sure I keep in touch and I expect the same level of respect in return.

I have experience of women doing everything the op describes and using me as plan B even to the point of doublebooking at the same time and location and displaying a new veri the next day despite telling me ½ an hour before we were due to meet that she was delayed in work and would have to cancel.

I also have experience of a woman creating all sorts of drama after we had met a couple of times because even though she had numerous fbs and fwbs she insisted I was not allowed to chat to anyone else.If I did she told others I was not a nice person and was not trustworthy. When the others pointed out to her that I had been very open and upfront about having no interest in this type of arrangement she argued that men on fab don't have many options and should be more grateful.

Not everything is black and white but mutual respect goes a long way.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I once, mid-meet, was told that he had met another fabber the day before for bedroom olympics.

I don’t bat an eyelid anymore but at the time I was horrified.

I don’t have the energy for all that malarkey myself.

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By *etsplay68Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield

i should think that a bloke getting a meet on here would be too shocked to think about the next one

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I actually stick to the one who I’d hope to meet could not be doing plan b

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think people in general are often looking for the next meet or should i say, the guarenteed shag.

When I was single, I arranged a social with a bloke, he messaged that afternoon saying he couldn't now make it as he had to have his son.

Next day brand new shiny v graphic veri pops up, the contact had been tailing off the day before, so he'd obviously found a new woman who promised more than I did.

If its the day of a meet and they can't be arsed Even responding, id be cancelling it, seems like they'd be keeping their options open.

Miss

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By *ecker30Man
over a year ago

Northwich

I've had one meet in 4 years. Stood up 3 times after booking hotel. I don't want to sound desperate but I would be over the moon with a planned meet!

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

I do not go seeking meets.

Couples and so women are already bombarded by messages and I know from my own tomes as a part of a couple, one deletes most.

If people want what I have to offer they will come to me, seek me out and many do; so no, I'm not planning the meet after next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just concentrating on the one meet is enough for me. Arranging that meet can sometimes take a few weeks so all my focus is on them and getting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just concentrating on the one meet is enough for me. Arranging that meet can sometimes take a few weeks so all my focus is on them and getting to know them. "

I like your answer

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I’m usually one meet see how it goes before I even think of second one.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Unless we have a club visit or social event on the horizon and are advertising a few weeks in advance, we deal with it one meet at a time.

We like to enjoy our weekends is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If am meeting someone then they have all my attention, plus prefer to move it off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just see how it goes and see if the connection leads to another

Simples and drama free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the build up - I have the biggest meet ever to look forward to and the crack is fantastic. I wouldn't have the time or the inclination to waste it on actively pursuing other meets, which I believe wouldnt come close. The build up is elevating it so much I'm constantly buzzing and would do nothing to muck that up!!! There is a difference between a FAF style meet which needs no real interaction and a planned meet where you just want it more and more the closer it gets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind one-offs, sometimes things don't work out. Ideally, though I'm looking for something more regular. No strings but building to friends with benefits appeals more to me.

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