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Can you actually love two people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This came up in a conversation in the pub after a few. One partner has swayed in a relationship she still loves her husband but is just as much in love with her side fella.

In my opinion I think it can and does happen, what are your thoughts?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You can love your children equally so I don't see why you can't love two partners

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can love your children equally so I don't see why you can't love two partners"

Totally agree, but one argument came across that by loving A it can't be true if you start loving B . So that means that the love for A is no longer there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I know I did for a while many years ago. I guess differing degrees of love and finding different things in different people.

It does make me wonder though, is it actually love as in my head, if it is real true love, would you really need anyone else? I just don't know the answer to that one.

I can see why people are polyamourous and how it could happen but I think for me, I'd eventually choose one person. Or would I? My mind is totally fried on this topic

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"one argument came across that by loving A it can't be true if you start loving B . So that means that the love for A is no longer there"

Those in polygamous relationships would disagree

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. It makes little sense that we would evolve just to be able to love 1 at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone could love 2 people at the same time for different reasons but being in love I don't think so!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Love means different things to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone could love 2 people at the same time for different reasons but being in love I don't think so!"

Maybe you couldn't but there will be others who can. Vive la difference . We all don't function the same way after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These terms are all constructs that have different definitions to different people.

After all, what even is love?

I think I went through periods in my life where I 'loved' or 'was in love' with 2 people at the same time, and was in physical secual relations with them both.

I think that the idea of one person at a time is borne from religious conotations, the idea of marriage and fidelity.

Whereas we swingers have turned the fidelity and single sexual partner forever concept onto its head.

Ahhhh yes, 'I fuck loads of people but I dont love them', many of you will say.

But then, someone who is not a swinger will never understand that.

So you see, go forth and be happy people, and do what is good and right for you without hurting others. Love 1, 2, 3 as many as you want and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the kind of love i love my kids and family id defend them with my life but romantic love il only ever love 1 person i dont have the room to let in more than her

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent/London


"You can love your children equally so I don't see why you can't love two partners"

True, but but you favourite child is loved more !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can love your children equally so I don't see why you can't love two partners

True, but but you favourite child is loved more ! "

We can never admit it but there always will be a favourite child haha

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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We can never admit it but there always will be a favourite child haha"

I have four children and I don't have a favourite

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Please tell me what is love?

Everyone has their own idea about what love is, for some love is sexual attraction for others that is not needed to be in love with someone. Others have to be able to trust someone to love them but others can love someone and accept all their faults.

What do you mean by love?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

In short, other than your kids, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ it's difficult enough finding one to love

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Radstock

This is what my ex wife said to me. !!! I will stay with you, providing that I can still keep seeing my boyfriend. And.

I love you as a husband, you are the perfect husband. But I am madly in love with my boyfriend.. So she left me with 3 children to bring up on my own. But sadly the poor woman ended up with neither of us. No hubby. And no boyfriend.

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Notwithstanding my children and grandchildren.

I love my wife and I’m in love with my cock.

Does that count as two people.

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Radstock


"This is what my ex wife said to me. !!! I will stay with you, providing that I can still keep seeing my boyfriend. And.

I love you as a husband, you are the perfect husband. But I am madly in love with my boyfriend.. So she left me with 3 children to bring up on my own. But sadly the poor woman ended up with neither of us. No hubby. And no boyfriend. "
He did not want her. And I would not have her back.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

if you truly loved 2 partners would you want to put ether of them through feeling they were second best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can.

I don't think you can love two people in the same way though. Even if you were in a relationship before and loved that person and you are in another relationship later and love the new person. You don't love them in the same way.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"You can love your children equally so I don't see why you can't love two partners"

Or grandparents.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"This came up in a conversation in the pub after a few. One partner has swayed in a relationship she still loves her husband but is just as much in love with her side fella.

In my opinion I think it can and does happen, what are your thoughts?"

There are many kinds of love, children, partners, friends. They can be of varying strengths and durations and you can be hurt by the loss of any of them. So yes you can love a long term play partner and this should not be a risk if in a very loving and committed relationship as Cherry and I are. We would never leave one another and even though we meet others alone on occasion we always know what each other is up to and with who. Swinging has certainly added to our relationship.... 'How deep is your love ?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is possible, I've been there before but its painful and damaging. However, to 'love' someone can have two meanings. I love one wholeheartedly and my life evolves around them....and then love another for everything they are and offer me. I would do anything for either but only one can have the whole of me.....although I'd 'love' to have both of them together too

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