FabSwingers.com forum: Bi guy experienced Abuse from gay guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im a bi guy who is attracted to women & TV/TS only.

When I first started using this site i got bombarded with messages from gay guys. At this point I didn’t realise you could stop messages.

A few of them got really shitty when I said that I wasn’t interested. To the point of telling me im kidding myself and that im actually gay, and i should just come to terms with this.

Actually made me feel uncomfortable and that bu me allegedly being in denial was an actual issue.

I don’t really like to categorise anyones sexual preference especially my own. As I just class myself as a naughty Fucker.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of abuse.

Would you say im gay for being attracted to TV/TS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Some people on this site are assholes. Plain and simple.

Dosent matter if you're a man, woman, trans, gay, bi or straight. Some people just don't like to be told no so they turn into twats when they do not get their own way.

Just block, report and move on. You have every right to meet who you want, how you want with no need for justification to anyone else on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people on this site are assholes. Plain and simple.

Dosent matter if you're a man, woman, trans, gay, bi or straight. Some people just don't like to be told no so they turn into twats when they do not get their own way.

Just block, report and move on. You have every right to meet who you want, how you want with no need for justification to anyone else on here."

Absolutely

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Sorry you experienced that. To be fair, you don't have to justify yourself to those that feel the need to make you feel uncomfortable though. I get messages from blokes and although I do chat to anyone (as I can't shut up really lol) but I do get the odd one or two that can get a bit nasty. Like been suggested beforehand, just delete and ignore really. Hope you're ok though bud

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Nobody has the right to assume your sexuality or Try to tell you what you are or should be. Ignore theses people on here...their attitude says more about them. Some people on this site don't like being knocked back..they see it purely as a sex site therefore feel there is an entitlement. See it as a lucky escape.

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By *illingToHelpMan
over a year ago

Oldham or South Shore

On behalf of the respectful gays on this site, sorry you were attacked like that. Not all gay guys are such dickheads, and some of us respect that everyone has a preference and not all bi guys are in to the same thing. It’s infuriating to us because we then get tarred with the same brush.

Personally, I think that it’s nobody’s business to comment on your position on the sexual spectrum. You like what you like, and whatever you choose to call that is your prerogative. So, if you get any stick because of how you choose to define your sexual identity, please understand that the problem isn’t you. This site is full of nasty people who, surprisingly, are very ignorant and bigoted. Just delete, block, report, and move on without a single thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said above

U got that so right people on this site can be very nice and then you get the keyboard ones who think they got the right to be naughty remember it's just word's not real life u see who ever you like

We all got a kind we want to have fun with just report them and block end of story then

And please don't let them get u down unjoy u fun life that's x

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Biphobia is a real and very toxic thing. I've received just as much abuse from gay men as I have straight in my life. It's actually better now than it was in the 90's when anti bi feeling in the gay community seemed very rampant. Being told there's no such thing as bisexual etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came out as Bi when I was 15 (25yrs ago) and have experienced homophobic abuse many times in my life, not just on here. But I totally agree with OP, I have received just as much abuse off the Gay community as from straight bigots.

The amount of Gay men who claim I'm "undecided" or "half way to being fully gay" is ridiculous.

We can't choose who we are attracted to, and you would expect Gay men to be more understanding of that. But sometimes the most persecuted can become persecutors themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I came out as Bi when I was 15 (25yrs ago) and have experienced homophobic abuse many times in my life, not just on here. But I totally agree with OP, I have received just as much abuse off the Gay community as from straight bigots.

The amount of Gay men who claim I'm "undecided" or "half way to being fully gay" is ridiculous.

We can't choose who we are attracted to, and you would expect Gay men to be more understanding of that. But sometimes the most persecuted can become persecutors themselves"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody has the right to assume your sexuality or Try to tell you what you are or should be. Ignore theses people on here...their attitude says more about them. Some people on this site don't like being knocked back..they see it purely as a sex site therefore feel there is an entitlement. See it as a lucky escape. "

Most people will have had abuse from men who they turned down. The men assume that everyone should fuck everyone who asks.

Just ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably would but you have to remember that sexuality exists on a spectrum and most of the time these labels are meaningless,You can so easily be put of by someone you’re supposed to be lusting for lol.

Don’t drag yourself down cause of a couple of idiots,They don’t deserve you.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"Im a bi guy who is attracted to women & TV/TS only.

When I first started using this site i got bombarded with messages from gay guys. At this point I didn’t realise you could stop messages.

A few of them got really shitty when I said that I wasn’t interested. To the point of telling me im kidding myself and that im actually gay, and i should just come to terms with this.

Actually made me feel uncomfortable and that bu me allegedly being in denial was an actual issue.

I don’t really like to categorise anyones sexual preference especially my own. As I just class myself as a naughty Fucker.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of abuse.

Would you say im gay for being attracted to TV/TS.

I'm sorry that this happened to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your sexuality is nobody elses business. There should be a option on here for undisclosed. People will put others down when they are told no. They don't like rejection. There's only one of you. Nobody else can control that. Do what's best for you.

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

Your attracted to femininity and cock on the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got the same sort of abuse sometimes when I told them i'm not meeting even though my profile clearly said I wasn't. It's why i hide my profile now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who gives a shit what labels others want to pin on us?

In the words of the song, I am what I am!

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

warrington

Sorry to hear you've experienced this, while im in agreeance about labels and who cares, theres always someone trying to shoehorn others into boxes for their own needs

For those people, ask them to google gynesexuality, it may help them keep things in neat boxes for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would worry about it either way as long as you're not hurting anyone who cares x

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Ignore them. Everyone gets knocked back at some point on here. Why your sexuality is any of there business is beyond me anyway. Just block them and move on.its not only the men on here that can be abusive as bullying comes in lots of different ways so the female and couples can also be as bad but they somehow seem to think its just the guys who are wrong. I don't mind getting told no or not getting a response etc, (god knows I've had lots),but I just move on on and forget about them.

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Sorry to hear you've experienced this, while im in agreeance about labels and who cares, theres always someone trying to shoehorn others into boxes for their own needs

For those people, ask them to google gynesexuality, it may help them keep things in neat boxes for them."

Was just about to post about gynesexuality. It's so, so common for men on here to have this. It's why I get 90% straight men winking and messaging me. I always think; why would a gay man be interested in me when I try to look like a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry that’s happened to you. I’m in a kinda similar situation in that I’m Pansexual but to the outside world I tend to say I’m gay because the questions are much easier from people locally. Truth is I don’t care what’s between someone’s legs, just that there’s an attraction. Labels are for tins of beans. Ignore the guys that hate that you don’t fit into what they imagine you should. Hugs fella.

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By *urvykat and JayCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

"Im a bi guy who is attracted to women & TV/TS only.

When I first started using this site i got bombarded with messages from gay guys. At this point I didn’t realise you could stop messages.

A few of them got really shitty when I said that I wasn’t interested. To the point of telling me im kidding myself and that im actually gay, and i should just come to terms with this.

Actually made me feel uncomfortable and that bu me allegedly being in denial was an actual issue.

I don’t really like to categorise anyones sexual preference especially my own. As I just class myself as a naughty Fucker.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of abuse.

Would you say im gay for being attracted to TV/TS.

No not at all don’t get too caught up with labels.

It amazes us how discriminatory people can be on this site. You know how you feel so run with it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's generally better to follow the Fab protocol of no reply = no interest and then to block. This prevents any potential further abuse.

I think sexuality is poorly understood at an expert psychological level and this holds little hope for the masses, some of whom have biased agendas.

Trans people and the huge spectrum of gender, is mirrored in the subtly complex sexual preferences that people have, that's not a binary etc.

The ignorant will argue trying to split hairs but it's not worth using any energy whatsoever on them.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Abuse from gay men on here ? Never.

Away from here in the real world, occasionally, especially if I go to the wrong venue in Manchesters village.

The worst was a d*unken gay guy slagging me off in a gay pub and us coming close to exchanging blows with each other. However it was his gay mates that pulled him away and apologised on his behalf.

So in my experience it’s a small minority that’ll be ‘in your face’ aggressive and a few nasty comments from some, but in the main on here and out on the scene it’s getting better.

Sorry it’s happening to you Op as I find there’s very few Tgirl admirers on the site. So I hope it’s not an issue long term and keep using the block button

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your input everyone.

I wasn’t upset by this experience as i have thick skin.

Just wanted to raise awareness.

You should all be proud of your wise and kind comments.

Unfortunately there are many boxes in this scene that we indulge in, which seems to maybe be part of a problem.

I tend to not take anything too seriously as im totally comfortable with whatever i get upto. Its all fun fun fun.

I think i just fit into the mucky fun fucker category.

Unfortunately these few narrow minded borderline abusers, really can affect some of us who may not be as strong minded or someone who is new to this.

Hopefully someone may stumble on this post and get something positive from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Abuse from gay men on here ? Never.

Away from here in the real world, occasionally, especially if I go to the wrong venue in Manchesters village.

The worst was a d*unken gay guy slagging me off in a gay pub and us coming close to exchanging blows with each other. However it was his gay mates that pulled him away and apologised on his behalf.

So in my experience it’s a small minority that’ll be ‘in your face’ aggressive and a few nasty comments from some, but in the main on here and out on the scene it’s getting better.

Sorry it’s happening to you Op as I find there’s very few Tgirl admirers on the site. So I hope it’s not an issue long term and keep using the block button

Wow that’s an awful experience. Obviously someone who is not comfortable with themselves, and their angry issues got the better of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you will get that everywhere. People think differently. This will always happen. You can't change what people say, but you can change how you react to it

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

As a TV,I dont think you are gay,most of the men i have had sex with have not been what could be termed 'gay',but I dont like my cock touched and the guys I see aren't into cock...if you like to suck cock or whatever then you're definitely bi at least.

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