FabSwingers.com forum: BDSM = You're mental

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il not deny im a fruit loop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that’s bollocks, and so do I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the chat with the voices and they all agree, yup it's crazy but true, BDSM only can be cured with a good spanking.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Bull!!

I mean I do like BDSM and have had poor mental health (still do) but there is no link between the 2 things.

MJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i think that's rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from poor mental health and an addiction to BDSM

Wouldn’t say one affects the other

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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago

Reading/bracknell

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

Bit of a wide definition.. Very stigmatising and ill-informed. As a Dom (by character) I do agree SOME (a minority) will seek comfort in certain activities out of unaddressed trauma etc. The vast majority are normally-balanced people.

People mistake committed interest with a daring anecdotal try of a new practice. BDSM entails a way of life. Just like some organise their life for fishing trips...

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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago

Reading/bracknell

"Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!"

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

Bdsm was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), few years ago now.

Its an interesting read.

For comparison, general homosexuality was removed in 1963.

Practicing BDSM is not an indicator of having a mental health illness.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm think there could be a link with low self esteem and subservient preferences.in some cases.

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

I enjoy BDSM and also suffer with my mental health. But I dont enjoy BDSM because of my mental health.

I think it actually makes me more aware of the need to be careful and safe with BDSM and kink. And the lifestyle in general.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Who in our population is perfectly mentally well all the time anyway? By the same measure I'd say that the vast majority of people who engage in sex or breath oxygen are mental.

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By *heGreenMan555Man
over a year ago

Chichester

I’m not into extreme BDSM, but from what I understand of it (& not the sanitised 50 Shades variety) its a lot about trust between partners. That shows a very good state of mental health I would argue…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy BDSM and also suffer with my mental health. But I dont enjoy BDSM because of my mental health.

I think it actually makes me more aware of the need to be careful and safe with BDSM and kink. And the lifestyle in general."

Agree with this

And also have made great friends through kink that help me deal with the bad days

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

True.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I like feeling sorry for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t feel sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy BDSM and also suffer with my mental health. But I dont enjoy BDSM because of my mental health.

I think it actually makes me more aware of the need to be careful and safe with BDSM and kink. And the lifestyle in general."

I agree with this as well..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy BDSM and also suffer with my mental health. But I dont enjoy BDSM because of my mental health.

I think it actually makes me more aware of the need to be careful and safe with BDSM and kink. And the lifestyle in general.

I agree with this as well..

Though I admit I do not know a great deal about a lot of the scene..

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Ridiculous

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Fruit der loop right here!

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Spoken like a true Scot’s woman…..

What a lot of pish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that’s bollocks, and so do I "

Lovely work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe its more about psychological exploration rather than psychological issues. The need to explore can be born of issues but also can just be from a more adventurous psychological nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spoken like a true Scot’s woman…..

What a lot of pish! "

I was thinking "what a pile o' shite" - similar sentiment

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Interesting thread. My penny worth .mental health issuses is something that everyone that is human have problems with at sometime through out our lifes.

So whatever your into doesn't mean your mental but other people might thinks and why some fetists out there they might be right .

But chicken and egg comes to mind .

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

I read an article today that said veganism is healthy and good for the planet.

Turns out we both read bullshit.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

"I believe its more about psychological exploration rather than psychological issues. The need to explore can be born of issues but also can just be from a more adventurous psychological nature. "

Explain this to me as if I was a 12 year old child (honestly 12). As it gives me your view , contradicts it with second sentence and essentially says nothing at all. That's how I read it based on my zero academic knowledge of mental health

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

What was article?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!"

What is RACK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own not for me but I respect people are into it

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

"Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!

What is RACK? "

Risk Aware Consensual Kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!

What is RACK?

Risk Aware Consensual Kink "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't choose whether you have mental health issues or not, but you always have choices when you participate in BDSM.

For some of my fet friends, it helps to balance out the sense of control in a kink scenario vs feeling powerless to what's occuring in reality.

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By *uitedSuitorMan
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

It's probably true...tying someone up and forcing them to cum is almost torture - only the end result is amazing.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

I’m far more into BDSM than just swinging…I see those men in white coats!!!!

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I think that’s bollocks, and so do I "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep,,, guilty

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

Where can I find this article please?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Everyone is mental, but to what degree. is how I would reply.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Fuck of nothing wrong with the voices in my head, fuck fuck fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my psychiatrist that I've been hearing voices ....

... He told me that i don't have a psychiatrist

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

There is an Australian survey of about 10 years ago that concluded that BDSM practitioners on average had better mental health than vanilla people.

The argument that there are people into BDSM that have mental health issues is a poor one. Every group in society (footballers, nurses, etc) have a proportion of people with mental health issues, BDSM is no different, than the rest of society.

It is a lazy stereotype and easy plotline from badly written books, films and TV shows. I have seen innumerable TV shows where the killer is the guy or gal into kink

The truth is there is load of people who practice BDSM that don't have mental health issues. However due to the stigma they don't publicly identify themselves.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm just kinky

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Nothing wrong with enjoying a kink or two really.. I didn't realised that there was a significant link to mental health before though.. I always thought it was something that intrigued me rather than the going ons on what's in my head. May need to look into that

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By *aughtyman23Man
over a year ago

cheadle

For a long time I found myself in a forced submissive relationship of which I had no control and made me mentally ill in itself. The relationship was not kinky in any way and BDSM was never discussed even though I did always fantasise and love the idea of it. Since splitting up from them I have now met my dream woman and will update this soon xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't expect to be attacked like this today

Which research is that? Any keywords I can search with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't this normal though? Some people like bungee jumping or driving fast. It might be for a reason if we really drill down into it but doesn't mean it's a detrimental mental health issue

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

Where did you read that?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Of course there is a link between enjoying BDSM and mental health. But it doesn’t have to be a negative correlation.

Its why safe SANE and consensual (SSC) is no longer considered appropriate, and has been replaced by RACK, as rarely anything we do would be considered Sane!"

RACK is an alternate to SSC not a replacement. There are quite a few BDSM practises that don't carry anymore risk than carrying on normal everyday life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In honesty. As someone that is in the scene and with mental health I’d say that I personally see an overlap.

BDSM doesn’t make me mental.

I’m mental with or with play, but often find a good spanking sparks clarity and can be very therapeutic

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By *eekandHippyChickCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

You could proberlly say that about any hobbie or interest that holds an elliment of risk I've recently been diagnosed with Adhd which proberlly explains past behaviours and current ones as I'm always looking for the next adrenaline ride open water swimming potholing swinging and Bdsm all present with risk and a hit of adrenaline it would be interesting to investigate how many peeps who enjoy risky past times have Adhd or other Neurodiversetise

Thankfully I had a good jimminy cricket and managed not to go to far down the wrong path x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that those, including myself and very comfortable wishing their own skin

In fact I feel it takes mental stability to be able to explore your kinks safely and have a fun time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wonder how many people *don't* have some form of mental health issue however minor.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I wonder how many people *don't* have some form of mental health issue however minor."

I think you find most people do

Think its down to pollution

Nothing to do with bdsm

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I wonder how many people *don't* have some form of mental health issue however minor.

I think you find most people do

Think its down to pollution

Nothing to do with bdsm "

I think it's down to being human

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I wonder how many people *don't* have some form of mental health issue however minor.

I think you find most people do

Think its down to pollution

Nothing to do with bdsm

I think it's down to being human

Apart from you can go to tribes in the Amazon who have no history

Of mental illness its a western thing .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I wonder how many people *don't* have some form of mental health issue however minor.

I think you find most people do

Think its down to pollution

Nothing to do with bdsm

I think it's down to being human

Apart from you can go to tribes in the Amazon who have no history

Of mental illness its a western thing ."

I see

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

"Of mental illness its a western thing ."

(Citation please and) oh, don't tell the Japanese that!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Of mental illness its a western thing .

(Citation please and) oh, don't tell the Japanese that! "

Saw a documentary on it some years ago with regard this that some tribes didn't . I ment modern society

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I suspect that everyone on the planet has some form of mental health issue just as we are all somewhere on an autism spectrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy light BDSM but don't see the connection to mental health. Apart from getting constantly frustrated about finding men that also enjoy it.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I don't think labels are helpful, it's better if we just accept folks vary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nutz

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Well, we must both be certifiable then.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Im more sexually submissive, than BDSM. I must only be slightly mental

I hope there not looking for a cure.

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

"Of mental illness its a western thing .

(Citation please and) oh, don't tell the Japanese that!

Saw a documentary on it some years ago with regard this that some tribes didn't . I ment modern society

That situation has changed as a quick Google will show.

Mental health issues aren't a new thing, they're just a little more acceptable to talk about now. Some however still feel the stigma attached and are unable to do that, especially men.

The more people who discuss mental health positively, the more research will be done and hopefully more people can be reached and helped/supported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could proberlly say that about any hobbie or interest that holds an elliment of risk I've recently been diagnosed with Adhd which proberlly explains past behaviours and current ones as I'm always looking for the next adrenaline ride open water swimming potholing swinging and Bdsm all present with risk and a hit of adrenaline it would be interesting to investigate how many peeps who enjoy risky past times have Adhd or other Neurodiversetise

Thankfully I had a good jimminy cricket and managed not to go to far down the wrong path x"

I think neurodiverse would be more appropriate than a mental health condition. With these studies, are we not just discovering that the thin line of normality isn't so thin after all. We're all encouraged to be more open and honest about ourselves whilst being more understanding about everyone else. A lot of the ideas about normal behaviour come from a very close minded time and place. We are far more open to ideas/behaviour that were once considered an illness, weird or socially unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suspect that everyone on the planet has some form of mental health issue just as we are all somewhere on an autism spectrum"

I disagree that we are all on the autistic spectrum. That's a bit of a myth. Most of us may have a characteristic or two that are shared with those on the spectrum. But being on the spectrum is quite different to being neurotypical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told multiple times that there's something wrong with me because of what I enjoy sexually. Usually by people who haven't done any reading or thinking about BDSM

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking

Being a very experienced switch I will reply to this thread later, when I have more time x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Well i believe we all are already classified to have some sort of mental issue by society just for been swingers

society is weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told multiple times that there's something wrong with me because of what I enjoy sexually. Usually by people who haven't done any reading or thinking about BDSM

Women aren't supposed to enjoy sex!

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

I find it a strange world. If my partner is happy to engage, what is the real issue.

The fact I like spanking or shibari is no issue if my partner agrees and trusts me or visa versa.

If I go out and indicate I am gay, then its accepted. In fact, should someone dare to show disapproval, they will be chastised.

Put your sexual persuasian on a job application and you can sue them if the discriminate.

Now replace the word gay with the initials BDSM and see how you get on in the PC correct and tolerant world.

People are so very different. One persons BDSM might be a spank and nipple clamps. Anothers migh be needle and ribbon corsets. Anothe might be into having boobs nailed to wooden planks.

Even if your a straight once a week knees up bum down sort of person doesnt mean your normal at all.

Clearly there are people who do have mental issue and they inflict or get inflicted.

But it isnt really an exact science. A friend has had mental issues and to be frank, the person trying to help has not made any progress and arguably, the person is in more a deteriorated state than when the help was initially sought from me looking in.

It boils down to what the hell is normal.

Often influenced by religious and moral attitudes. Yet the oldest profession is still prostitution and religious folk still sexually abuse the proverbial flock.

Yet I cant comment in public that I like some BDSM without the degree of judgement suffered by communities further up the scorned food chain.

I don't have mental issues other than being stubborn perhaps and in a PVC wet look catsuit, I look like michelin man and black puddings love child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen similar writings before. Unfortunately there is a stigma around BDSM and the people who enjoy it / partake. Some people judge what they don't understand. I personally don't think there is a correlation between the two.

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

Again people talking about things they dont understand or no about.

Most people who engage in bdsm especially couples have a very honest and open and safe trusting relationship partly due to the trust you have with your partner to engage in the activities.

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking

"Again people talking about things they dont understand or no about.

Most people who engage in bdsm especially couples have a very honest and open and safe trusting relationship partly due to the trust you have with your partner to engage in the activities. "

Hallelujah

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I've seen similar writings before. Unfortunately there is a stigma around BDSM and the people who enjoy it / partake. Some people judge what they don't understand. I personally don't think there is a correlation between the two.

Px"

Based purely on what I observe on here, I reckon otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love, and actually enjoy BDSM.

Having transitioned has affected that part of my life. I just haven’t been active in that lifestyle since starting my transition, mainly due to finding the correct kind of person to whom I would put my trust in. This site isn’t really the place for kinky shit though. It puts some people off ( most tbh)

So I just mention spanking in my list of interests.

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

i dont even know what BDSM means , not even bothered about knowing either......

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I'm think there could be a link with low self esteem and subservient preferences.in some cases."

Tend to disagree, from my perspective ever female I have come in contact within the scene have high pressure, positions and use the dynamic as a cognitive release.

As for mental health issues, don’t think there is a “normal”, just some people are less normal than your perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told multiple times that there's something wrong with me because of what I enjoy sexually. Usually by people who haven't done any reading or thinking about BDSM

Women aren't supposed to enjoy sex! "

I'm not. I just lie back and think of England, chuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont even know what BDSM means , not even bothered about knowing either......"

Then why post on a thread about BDSM?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I read an article..."

The Sun? Facebook?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"i dont even know what BDSM means , not even bothered about knowing either......

Then why post on a thread about BDSM?

To get a reaction maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont even know what BDSM means , not even bothered about knowing either......

Then why post on a thread about BDSM?

To get a reaction maybe?"

Well if it's to annoy people, he has succeeded. It riles me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?

I read an article today that said veganism is healthy and good for the planet.

Turns out we both read bullshit.

as far as bdsm goes I don't think it's more insane than much else we get up to as a species, at least it's fun for those involved.

Sadly veganism is way better for the planet than eating meat. I'm a bad person hohum

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?

I read an article today that said veganism is healthy and good for the planet.

Turns out we both read bullshit.

as far as bdsm goes I don't think it's more insane than much else we get up to as a species, at least it's fun for those involved.

Sadly veganism is way better for the planet than eating meat. I'm a bad person hohum"

Smiles) so the findings that certain animal fat proteins are useful for increasing intelligence, is the reason vegetarians bleat on?

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

Everyone has their kinks - not mental but there are extremes with everything - key words - consensual and boundaries. Life and let live I say - we all have a tinge of insanity in us lol

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The scene is attractive to many with serious mental health issues and a background of trauma. It is not, in and of itself an indicator of poor mental health.

From someone who has spent the last twenty years engaging in D/s play, I can say with absolute certainty that my love for power exchange is innate…I knew what I enjoyed at the same age as I knew I was bi. It was just what I wanted.

If that makes me mental, I don’t want to be sane

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Nice to see some good bdsm input

Here sadly its so missundrstood

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Spoken like a true Scot’s woman…..

What a lot of pish! "

Aye

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"
what utter rubbish

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"I think that’s bollocks, and so do I "

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By *anny4funCoolMan
over a year ago

Stockport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find bdsm really helps my mental health

Outside ouchies heal inside hurties

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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago

Hinckley

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?"

It’s always personal choice and people who put labels on other people for what they enjoy have more mental health issues than you. They don’t like their perceived conformity.

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By *hompyMan
over a year ago

sheffield

What article ?

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I read an article that basically stated that if you enjoy any kind of BDSM you have some form of mental health issues.

I just wondered if people on here feel there's any truth to this or what your opinions are if anyone has any thoughts on the matter?

I read an article today that said veganism is healthy and good for the planet.

Turns out we both read bullshit.

as far as bdsm goes I don't think it's more insane than much else we get up to as a species, at least it's fun for those involved.

Sadly veganism is way better for the planet than eating meat. I'm a bad person hohum

Smiles) so the findings that certain animal fat proteins are useful for increasing intelligence, is the reason vegetarians bleat on?"

How did I miss this? Animal-based proteins are what makes humanity stringer and more intelligent.

They've admitted plant-based diets aren't good for the environent finally but rather regenerative agriculture is (vegan and meat diets are helped by this)

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

I find the OPs question that BDSM is a mental illness is untrue.

Times change.

It wasnt that long ago that being "gay" was a criminal offence for which you could be jailed and get a criminal conviction.

Now - nobody bats an eye.

Yet - mention you like being spanked or tied or nipple clamped and you are viewed as weird.

Intolerances are wonderfully shite aren't they

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Totally fucking crazy here too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinky morelike not mental.

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By *unnesscoupleMan
over a year ago

Inverness

I consider myself pretty normal and recently thoroughly spanked.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

I prefer Kinky over Mental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people suffer mental health issues of one form or another during their life, some worse than others. Don’t see why it necessarily correlates with enjoying BDSM. Sounds like opinion/research of someone with too much time on their hands… perhaps they should be tied up

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By *hompyMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Hahaha yes

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By *ooukMan
over a year ago

Skegness

under UK law you're not allowed to consent to self-harm. so it classed as a mental health issue to want to consent. but your not breaking the law to want it but seen more of the victim. but CPS will not act unless there other reasons like abuse. but it same as getting some body piercing there laws that cover it but it not in any interest for police or CPS to look into it. I would point people over to spanner trust for info about laws. but no one is a freak or wrong to like bdsm it just they have laws due to some use bdsm for abuse.

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

I saw a programme once about people with addictive personalities.

So basically are some people more susceptible to harmful addiction.

It aligned them to, and I certainly know people like this and you will too, people who go all out with a hobby for instance and then repeat this behaviour. For instance I had a neighbour and also a good friend like this. Their garages were full of, scuba diving equipment, cycles parachutes, drones, water-skiing, microlight stuff, photography equipment, hifi equipment, I could go on. All hobbies that they had ploughed money into because they had to have the best stuff and then when something else caught their eye....

Inevitably relationships had suffered because of this but because it wasn't illegal or involved drugs, alcohol or gambling I'd wasn't treated or even recognised as an addiction.

Anyway my point is that they aligned people like this as being psychopaths or very close. So everything we do in life can be labelled.

That said I did see a sub who many years before had a Dom who was a Sadist and having heard some of her stories I might well agree with the mental health assessment. As he was on the face of it a professional very well spoken family man by day.

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