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"Does age matter to you? I’ve been on cam lately and people don’t seem too keen to be with someone of my age. I wish people were more open minded as feel like the people I find most attractive are typically older!" There are alot of swingers on this site that have kids your age..us included..and although not illeagle but some find it morally wrong. We don't play with under 30s for this reason. It's not anything to do with you per se, don't be to disheartened by it. | |||
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"I can’t answer your question (my preference is younger) but how in the name of God does one man manage 38 photos of his willy x"Hahaha | |||
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"Haha I didn’t even realise it was that many! I guess accumulation over the years, I’ve seen quite a few with hundreds though!" If you use the reply & quote button, rather than the middle reply button people will know who you are replying to | |||
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"That’s interesting to hear! With clubs Is there many people of my age? I’ve always thought there’s not too many people my age but I’m keen to understand the club scene better! I always thought I wouldn’t get a good response going to clubs" Not so many in their early 20s. A few more late 20s+. But at the end of the day ages aren't published in a club your just who you are. I know in my late teens/early 20s it was often assumed I was many years older. Generally because of my maturity and how I carried my self. Normally I have always dated women a lot older because we seem to have more in common. My point is age is just a number and the number doesn't necessarily match the stereotype. It's far better when people can just meet and see if it works or not. Also there are occasionally club nights and parties aim at the under 30s or clubs and cougars nights aimed at matching young men with older women. | |||
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"I can’t answer your question (my preference is younger) but how in the name of God does one man manage 38 photos of his willy x"I shouldn't comment on your profile but you might want to have a look at it from a strangers perspective A quick read if the profiles will tell you lots of women & couples don't enjoy a dick pic, I thought 38 was a joke or they'd be a few cock pics scattered amongst other images but no it's 38 cockpics which will make many run a mile, add to that your bio is beyond lazy, it won't give many people a reason to want to contact you Your bio is your place to sell yourself, sell your niches, share your interests tell people why they should pick you, it's a way for others to see if you have similar kinks, would you be sexually compatable This site is hard work for single guys you need to put a lot of effort in to get the rewards but there are people looking for your niches you just need to better promote yourself, at the moment it looks like all you have to offer is your dick, tone it down a bit & im sure you'll start having more success | |||
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"It's not a matter of open mindedness it's a preference some people love a big age difference others don't Lots of older site users will have children your age which might make them feel uncomfortable connecting with you If you're into older women head to a cougars & cubs night at a club " That’s understandable! thank you for the advice I genuinely wasn’t aware that was a thing! I’m guessing it’s full of men my age? | |||
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"Haha I didn’t even realise it was that many! I guess accumulation over the years, I’ve seen quite a few with hundreds though! If you use the reply & quote button, rather than the middle reply button people will know who you are replying to " Apologies, first time posting in forums! Thank you for letting me know | |||
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"I can’t answer your question (my preference is younger) but how in the name of God does one man manage 38 photos of his willy x
I shouldn't comment on your profile but you might want to have a look at it from a strangers perspective
A quick read if the profiles will tell you lots of women & couples don't enjoy a dick pic, I thought 38 was a joke or they'd be a few cock pics scattered amongst other images but no it's 38 cockpics which will make many run a mile, add to that your bio is beyond lazy, it won't give many people a reason to want to contact you
Your bio is your place to sell yourself, sell your niches, share your interests tell people why they should pick you, it's a way for others to see if you have similar kinks, would you be sexually compatable
This site is hard work for single guys you need to put a lot of effort in to get the rewards but there are people looking for your niches you just need to better promote yourself, at the moment it looks like all you have to offer is your dick, tone it down a bit & im sure you'll start having more success "No honestly don’t worry about offending me! I genuinely appreciate the reply/feedback. I will take this into consideration! The reason it’s only cock picks is because I want to stay relatively discrete I don’t want everyone being able to see my pics 24/7! I have plenty of face and body photos on my friends only which I can of course select who sees! I will reduce the number of cock pics now though! Thanks | |||
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"I can’t answer your question (my preference is younger) but how in the name of God does one man manage 38 photos of his willy x
I shouldn't comment on your profile but you might want to have a look at it from a strangers perspective
A quick read if the profiles will tell you lots of women & couples don't enjoy a dick pic, I thought 38 was a joke or they'd be a few cock pics scattered amongst other images but no it's 38 cockpics which will make many run a mile, add to that your bio is beyond lazy, it won't give many people a reason to want to contact you
Your bio is your place to sell yourself, sell your niches, share your interests tell people why they should pick you, it's a way for others to see if you have similar kinks, would you be sexually compatable
This site is hard work for single guys you need to put a lot of effort in to get the rewards but there are people looking for your niches you just need to better promote yourself, at the moment it looks like all you have to offer is your dick, tone it down a bit & im sure you'll start having more success "I’ve reduced it so I just have 4 photos now hope this is better | |||
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"It generally does matter to me I wouldn't choose to go too low or meet someone alot older than me. If I've got to know someone and we hit it off ie at a social or in the forum, then I might bend my filters a bit. However 23 is too young for me to go, I don't feel id have much in common with someone of that age. " That’s interesting, may I ask what makes you think you won’t have much in common? I appreciate you may be at different stages in life however that doesn’t mean you can’t share the same interests? | |||
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"Why does someone who has age presences mean they are not open-minded. I have them because yes people's ages matter to me and if I see someone outside my age preferences that I like I can contact them. Usually I won't go below mine as meeting men a lot younger does not appeal to me and I find a lot on here just want to meet older women to tick something off their fuckit list. " Apologies, I had worded that poorly. I mean, when approaching in a cam room it’s typically turned down before even getting to know me due to my age; that’s what i meant. I appreciate everyone has different reasons though as I’ve discovered from this thread! Thank you for responding | |||
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"A couple of years ago in Manchester I hesitantly met a 22 year old who was pursuing me a while, I was worried about age gap. But having spoken all night with him he turned out to be so mature and intelligent that the age gap became irrelevant. So it shows not all that age group are going to be hard work or immature, no offence meant but that is a perception. Guess it is a 50/50 chance "I’m glad you had this experience! Typically when I meet older people (not swinging related) they always mention how mature I am and They forget the age! I wish more people gave me a chance! I appreciate the feedback!! | |||
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"Original poster, there are a lot of threads on here giving struggling males advice on how to make their profiles more appealing. This advice comes directly from a lot of women and successful male swingers, have a look and take suggestions on board with profile text and pictures. Good luck buddy "Thank you very much for the advice! I will take it on board and see how things go | |||
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"It's not a matter of open mindedness it's a preference some people love a big age difference others don't Lots of older site users will have children your age which might make them feel uncomfortable connecting with you If you're into older women head to a cougars & cubs night at a club That’s understandable! thank you for the advice I genuinely wasn’t aware that was a thing! I’m guessing it’s full of men my age?" I wouldn't say it will be full I people your age as to a 65+ woman a 40yr old would be a cub but they'll definitely be an interest for guys your age there & loving the reduced images I wish you lots of success | |||
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"It's not a matter of open mindedness it's a preference some people love a big age difference others don't Lots of older site users will have children your age which might make them feel uncomfortable connecting with you If you're into older women head to a cougars & cubs night at a club That’s understandable! thank you for the advice I genuinely wasn’t aware that was a thing! I’m guessing it’s full of men my age? I wouldn't say it will be full I people your age as to a 65+ woman a 40yr old would be a cub but they'll definitely be an interest for guys your age there & loving the reduced images I wish you lots of success " Ah that makes sense! I guess it’s all relative! I genuinely don’t have any age limit above me, I would love to experience more with older women so I hope going to one of those nights I wouldn’t stand out being too young! Thank you for the feedback about the images too it is much appreciated,. I’ve just updated my bio too! Genuinely forgot I had even written what was previously there, hopefully will have better luck with older women now! | |||
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"I'm also at the younger end compared to most members here. I've got my upper filter set to 45 but I've been with older too. I don't have a lower limit as long as they're legal xx" That’s encouraging to hear! Seems rare to find for me, hoping I find more people like you thank you for replying and reassuring me!! | |||
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"I definitely think having more of a presence on here and attending clubs specifically for younger men/older women will benefit you as you definitely come across as being mature beyond your years in how you conduct yourself. I'm always put off by young age as any kind of fetishisation is offputting to me and I want to be seen and respected as a person rather than due to my age, skin colour etc. You seem lovely and I have no doubt others will see that too "Thank you for your kind comments it is greatly appreciated! I would agree,. Having a presence / being known definitely helps as from a first glance seeing my age is definitely off putting for most. Once again, thank you very much for the response and kind words! | |||
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"As long as there’s the attraction between everyone, I think Clubs and socials are best where one can meet and greet other people. Doing things online as great as it is, sometimes can be hard especially when there are more single guys than single girls and couples combined. That’s my experience anyway. "That’s true! I guess perhaps it’s my lack of confidence of putting myself out there to go to clubs. I think it’s likely due to being aware that the majority of people older I am attracted to are immediately not interested due to my age! | |||
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 and not worry too much about those who aren't.
One advantage you have is that you'll grow older and move into more and more people's age range. You have all that to look forward to | |||
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"Does age matter to you? I’ve been on cam lately and people don’t seem too keen to be with someone of my age. I wish people were more open minded as feel like the people I find most attractive are typically older!" You look lovely but the reality is I look at you and think "he's only a few years older than my son". Nothing to do with being open or closed minded. As a parent of a teenage boy, I just can't get past that. Feel the exact same way about much younger women. Some absolutely beautiful young women have messaged me. I may well regret it on my death bed! But I just couldn't go there. | |||
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"When I see some women's preferences and it stops at 50, I wonder what happens to us men at 50 that is so off putting?? "I'll ask you the same question about women over 60 | |||
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"Does age matter to you? I’ve been on cam lately and people don’t seem too keen to be with someone of my age. I wish people were more open minded as feel like the people I find most attractive are typically older! You look lovely but the reality is I look at you and think "he's only a few years older than my son". Nothing to do with being open or closed minded. As a parent of a teenage boy, I just can't get past that. Feel the exact same way about much younger women. Some absolutely beautiful young women have messaged me. I may well regret it on my death bed! But I just couldn't go there." For me it's not just that our son is now older than a lot of the men on here but our son in law is too. I just couldn't contemplate meeting someone the same age as him and his social group. | |||
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"I think honestly and Integrity are the most important factors, age is a mere number!" But it's not to some people. I've fixed on my age range after talking to a LOT of men over several years. I know what works for me, who I get on with. If other people aren't bothered by age - I respect that. Respect that some people are. | |||
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"When I see some women's preferences and it stops at 50, I wonder what happens to us men at 50 that is so off putting?? "An age range has to stop at some point. For some people it stops at 55. Or 45. Whatever. People set a boundary based on their preference and experiences. You're looking at it very negatively. | |||
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"When I see some women's preferences and it stops at 50, I wonder what happens to us men at 50 that is so off putting??
I'll ask you the same question about women over 60 "To look absolutely stunning and you pictures are far hotter than many (if not most) women on here half your age or less! ?? | |||
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"When I see some women's preferences and it stops at 50, I wonder what happens to us men at 50 that is so off putting??
I'll ask you the same question about women over 60
To look absolutely stunning and you pictures are far hotter than many (if not most) women on here half your age or less! ??"That's very kind of you. Thank you | |||
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"Age is just a number x" This is my approach, use it as a rough guide, but it’s the person and their mind that I’m after not the number | |||
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"Age is just a number x" Good way to look at it! | |||
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"Age is just a number to us more on personality " I’m glad to hear! | |||
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"I think for me personally age is important. Not because I think people past a certain age stop being adventurous or having great sex (this site clearly shows that isn't the case) but for me being younger than a lot of people on here there are many people my parents age and I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that. Also, whilst I will occasionally meet a younger man I tend not to because often the maturity isn't there and they just use this site because they think it'll be a sex buffet. There are some much maturer young people, like OP, but I find for the most part it's just immature lads that send a dick pic but no face pic :/" That’s understandable I guess it is a tad weird if you compare to your parents age / and or children’s age. I don’t really think about it like that to be honest, to me if I’m attracted to someone then I’m attracted to them as long as they are legal of course! Also, I realise now that people around my age are just immature in comparison to people slightly older so I can appreciate why you wouldn’t give someone my age the time of day! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate your response! | |||
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"Ah I see! That makes sense now, I get that would be a tad strange knowing I could know your kids but I feel like a meet isn’t something everyone shouts about (a lot like to be discrete and keep private life separately)" It has nothing to do with discretion or the possibility of someone knowing my kids. I won't meet anyone within 10 years of my eldest who is 30 because I have no interest at all in anyone that age. There is no attraction therefore no point. | |||
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"I tend to go no lower or above 10 years either side of my own age." Agreed, but I generally go younger by 10. Have to draw the line though, it feels a little creepy when to go too low. Not into the DLG thing. The thought of it weirds me out. | |||
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"Does age matter to you? I’ve been on cam lately and people don’t seem too keen to be with someone of my age. I wish people were more open minded as feel like the people I find most attractive are typically older!" I'd love to see Cherry with you yet she has a lower age limit due to her kids ages... She has been known to break her rules in clubs though if they don't say how old they are  . Lower age limits seems to be more of a girls with children thing than guys with kids, could be wrong though  | |||
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"I think for me personally age is important. Not because I think people past a certain age stop being adventurous or having great sex (this site clearly shows that isn't the case) but for me being younger than a lot of people on here there are many people my parents age and I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that. Also, whilst I will occasionally meet a younger man I tend not to because often the maturity isn't there and they just use this site because they think it'll be a sex buffet. There are some much maturer young people, like OP, but I find for the most part it's just immature lads that send a dick pic but no face pic :/ That’s understandable I guess it is a tad weird if you compare to your parents age / and or children’s age. I don’t really think about it like that to be honest, to me if I’m attracted to someone then I’m attracted to them as long as they are legal of course! Also, I realise now that people around my age are just immature in comparison to people slightly older so I can appreciate why you wouldn’t give someone my age the time of day! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate your response!" It's also a question of my own feelings about it. I'm 52. Men in their twenties have shown interest - but it's not about whether they're more mature for their age. I just couldn't have sex with a 25 year old and feel ok about it. It feels wrong for me. | |||
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"I’ve reduced it so I just have 4 photos now hope this is better "Four cock pics is four too many. Enjoy the forums and use the search facility. This is a swingers site not a 'get your cock out and they will come running site' | |||
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"This is a swingers site not a 'get your cock out and they will come running site' "You don't buy from the Butcher unless you can see the meet surely? | |||
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"I’ve reduced it so I just have 4 photos now hope this is better
Four cock pics is four too many. Enjoy the forums and use the search facility.
This is a swingers site not a 'get your cock out and they will come running site' "Love this comment might steal and use it regularly ?? xx | |||
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"Does age matter to you? I’ve been on cam lately and people don’t seem too keen to be with someone of my age. I wish people were more open minded as feel like the people I find most attractive are typically older! I'd love to see Cherry with you yet she has a lower age limit due to her kids ages... She has been known to break her rules in clubs though if they don't say how old they are . Lower age limits seems to be more of a girls with children thing than guys with kids, could be wrong though "Perhaps I’ll come across you in a club one day!  | |||
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"Now there is just the right amount of dick pics good luck x"I’m glad you approve, it’s a shame I can’t message/add you due to being out your age range  | |||
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"I love the younger guys." I’m glad you’ve had good experiences with younger guys! It seems a lot of younger guys are ruining the reputation for people like me! | |||
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"I’ve reduced it so I just have 4 photos now hope this is better
Four cock pics is four too many. Enjoy the forums and use the search facility.
This is a swingers site not a 'get your cock out and they will come running site' "Apologies if my photos offend you, a lot of people like to see what they will be getting before they meet and I’m happy showing. I can see you are also happy posting your body too | |||
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"When I was still meeting I met with a 20 year old for a coffee and to verify he was real. He was one of the most mentally mature men I've ever met and we are still friends. Age is relevant, but the numbers will differ from person to person "Very glad to hear you had a good experience! | |||
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"This is a swingers site not a 'get your cock out and they will come running site'
You don't buy from the Butcher unless you can see the meet surely?"Well said.. | |||
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"Apologies if my photos offend you, a lot of people like to see what they will be getting before they meet and I’m happy showing. I can see you are also happy posting your body too "Why would get another set of boring cock pics offend me
I did not ask for a profile critique so no need to try and score points. I have absolutely zero naked pics on my profile | |||
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"Apologies if my photos offend you, a lot of people like to see what they will be getting before they meet and I’m happy showing. I can see you are also happy posting your body too
Why would get another set of boring cock pics offend me
I did not ask for a profile critique so no need to try and score points. I have absolutely zero naked pics on my profile "*yet | |||
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