FabSwingers.com forum: Disabled sex

By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Is there a kink? Anyone have any fantasy's?? Asking for a friend...obviously

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By *eff TurboMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I used to get a blow job off a disabled woman a few years back. Used to go round there get my cock out and use her mouth, very enjoyable indeed. After she used to make a cuppa and say thanks for coming round.

She was very sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink.

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By *eff TurboMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Very true. Still a person even with a disablement and they still have needs and wants. I was lucky that the woman I visited wanted to suck cock

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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I've been with both men and women an it seems more men have the "kink"

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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink."
maybe its a kinda sub/dom situation an both sides are happy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink."

100% this, what type of person describes a disabled person as a kink? That's so wrong and totally unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink.

100% this, what type of person describes a disabled person as a kink? That's so wrong and totally unacceptable "

My advice is to read the OP's profile. When he says he is asking for a friend, he is referencing himself as the disabled person

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink. maybe its a kinda sub/dom situation an both sides are happy? "

I suspect a disabled person who wants others to have sex with them as a fetish because they are disabled may share some of the mental elements of a sub. I can't see viewing a disabled person as a fetish having any mental connection with being dom.

There are any number of fetishes that objectify people for various reasons outside of their control, skin colour, cock size, book size are just common ones. Some people like the fact that an aspect of their physical appearance is more of a turn on to (some) others than who they are as a person, others strongly dislike the idea and prefer that prospective partners see them as a person not a disability/skin colour/cock/pair of tits etc.

I suspect in reality, we all have a mixture of both. There are bits of our body we are happy to be noticed and commented on and bits we most definitely aren't. The trick is to find a person who fancies the bits of you that you want to be noticed - though again (and this is only my opinion) I wouldn't think there are many disabled people who include their disability in this list.

I hope you find what you're looking for OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boob size not book size ffs

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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink. maybe its a kinda sub/dom situation an both sides are happy?

I hope you find what you're looking for OP.

Mr"
Absolutely this!!!

I often get asked how I should be treated and angrily whisper 'fu$King normally' but I get its difficult. And yes you are right,we all have our kinks (me included) let's hope there's someone out there for everyone....Hoorah!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a disabled dude I have come across men and women who are attracted to a particular disability. Men tend to see it as a kink but the women ive spoken to describe it more as an attraction. I do think it is a men/woman thing.

In my experience from chatting to both sexes 'men' tend to be only interested in their own sexual satisfaction and the disabled person is seen as more of an object to use rather than a person to make love to.

The women in the main (not all) have been primarily interested in the personality and connection with the 'disability' more of an added bonus.

As a spinal injured dude ive found the conversations with women tend to be more around how life changed when I was injured, how ive adjusted, how the disability has affected me etc and less about sex. A woman who is into 'spinal injured guys' has probably done her research on sexual function so that rarely comes up.

Men ... well men talk as men do ... can you have sex? can I fu@k you? thats about it.

If 2 adults agree to one being 'fetishised' then thats cool and between them. But it does worry me though that some disabled people have had little experience of the 'wider world' and struggle to form relationships. Im not being patronising it is like that for some. And those people may find themselves 'agreeing' to be fetishised out of desperation for attention, any attention and could fall victim to the more unscrupulous in society.

Personally speaking im totally at ease with my disability, dont mind discussing it and if a woman professed an 'interest' in it then that wouldnt have me wheeling for the hills. But for anything other than conversation I would still have to be attracted to her and feel as if she fancied the 'person' rather than just the 'disability'

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink."

This

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

"Boob size not book size ffs

Damn, and there I was hoping I could win you over with a copy of War And Peace.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

For me it’s the person not the disability that would attract me to them

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"For me it’s the person not the disability that would attract me to them"

I heart this comment, having been disabled since 2004 I have had no problem in meeting genuine people. Hubby is very supportive xx

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink."

Yes 100% this

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I met a lady at a club once that made some kind of living (so she said and why lie ?) out of providing release for disabled guys that wouldn't otherwise have any sex at all.

Fair dos I thought, obvious win win as she was happy in her work and I imagine the guys were very very grateful.

Also, luckily for me, she was into non-disabled guys too.

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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"I met a lady at a club once that made some kind of living (so she said and why lie ?) out of providing release for disabled guys that wouldn't otherwise have any sex at all.

Fair dos I thought, obvious win win as she was happy in her work and I imagine the guys were very very grateful.

Also, luckily for me, she was into non-disabled guys too."
well I mean I could try this....but reckon It needs a female touch

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I see individuals. If I'm attracted to them, any disability wouldn't be an issue. I've not had sex with anyone with a significant disability, so if it were to happen, I would hope they'd be comfortable discussing what will and won't work. I don't see it being any different to discussing other boundaries.

I'm not comfortable with fetishising disability but as long as it's consensual then it's not an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink."

Well said

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I'm registered disabled for a spinal injury after coming off my motorbike and hitting the kerb on my hip...

don't think that would be counted as a kink!

My late sisters-in-law were both persons of restricted growth, (dwarves) and both of them often got asked for a shag while they were out and about going about their dailey lives... aparently quite a few people had it on their wishlist back in those days.

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By *ftbigcoreyMan
over a year ago

Sooth

Young lass in a wheel chair no use of her legs asked me to come over a few times eventually did within minutes she had my dick in her hand. Took her v when I could eventually get it in she was so loud and all her family were home but she didn’t seem bothered

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Everyone has needs its no kink ive met some very nice disabled ppl

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Everyone has needs its no kink ive met some very nice disabled ppl

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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Young lass in a wheel chair no use of her legs asked me to come over a few times eventually did within minutes she had my dick in her hand. Took her v when I could eventually get it in she was so loud and all her family were home but she didn’t seem bothered "
She was a lucky girl haha!

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By *edonist79Man
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Met an absolutely gorgeous woman many years ago with her hubby. She had a car crash years before and was disabled from the crash. No mobility issues though, the disability was more from head trauma.

Didn't meet her because she was disabled though. Met her because she was drop dead gorgeous, had an amazing body and awesome fun. Her disability didn't come into consideration at all.

Lovely couple. Still talk to them about eighteen years later.

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By *ojo1964Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Pretty sure anyone who is disabled would want to be treated like a person not a kink.

100% this, what type of person describes a disabled person as a kink? That's so wrong and totally unacceptable "

Having Cerebral Palsy since birth, I have to agree with you. People love to put labels whether you're Disabled, Bi, Gay or Transgender, and this is another case.

Disabled people, like abled bodied enjoy sex as much as anyone else. Remember that if a disabled person can't have penetrative sex there are many ways to reach sexual pleasure in the bedroom.

Life is hard for some disabled people non more so than FABSWINGERS, I know some have had success and thats great but for others it difficult to convince others that just because you're in a wheelchair that because that you're may not work proper, not everything is dead from the waist down......

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