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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Blimey, any messages would be good!

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By *rnynhrdguyMan
over a year ago

plymouth


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"
message me all you want

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By *imb8486Man
over a year ago

Weston super mare

Messages from ladies or couples are very welcome as it shows they are at least somewhat interested. It makes a change from all the messages sent that are either unread or not replied.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I'd love a woman to message first, as I think most men would.

It doesn't come across as pushy, just confident and would actually make me feel really desired.

I'd probably have a grin on my face for the rest of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it when ladies or couples message first but it is rare I get thst tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I make the effort to message but sometimes don't find it's reciprocated. I take that as they're not interested but I'm happy to message first and have done

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By *limeyoMan
over a year ago

Oswestry

I’ve yet to have a women message me first !

Would be more than happy to receive messages, why wouldn’t it be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve yet to have a women message me first !

Would be more than happy to receive messages, why wouldn’t it be?"

I don't know if all guys like it or maybe it's because I've messaged and I'm of no interest haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very very rarely message first and even then its usually something funny in response to a status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like women get so many messages, they have enough trouble getting through them, let alone finding the time to prospect. I don’t message a lot, but most never even get read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve yet to have a women message me first !

Would be more than happy to receive messages, why wouldn’t it be?

I don't know if all guys like it or maybe it's because I've messaged and I'm of no interest haha "

More likely they just couldn't believe the hot lady on the pics actually messaged them first and the intimidation took over.

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Its 6 and 2 three's for me i dont mind

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I'd prefer it if women messaged first as you'd know with a little more certainty that they're into you.

I have had a few message first which don't have tv/ts on their profile so I would never have messaged them normally so that helps a lot, many won't have tv/ts on their profile and I do understand why a lot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is always nice to get a message from a women/couple first - or a "wink" even as at least that shows some interest

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a pleasure to get a message from a lady first

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

If you like the look of someone message them

I can't see any guy or couple being upset by getting a message from a single lady, although they may suffer a heart attack in shock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind either way. It does get frustrating though when you take the time to write a message, then to find it never gets opened. Guess it's just down to the numbers some people get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you like the look of someone message them

I can't see any guy or couple being upset by getting a message from a single lady, although they may suffer a heart attack in shock

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Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be messaged first, although it seems that ladies like to be messaged first.

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By *MattyMan
over a year ago

Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon

Messages from ladies or couples first means you have had your profile reead and they may be interrested to me. Someoen has to mke the first move and sometimes we never look at who's viewed me etc

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By *uitedSuitorMan
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

Same as the above. It's quite nice to know someone has gone to the effort of looking and messaging.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think, most guys would be made up to receive a message off a single lady. You never know the guy may of already looked at your profile and thought there not what your looking for. Maybe its time more Women messaged men and show us how its done. Seeing were so bad at it

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

I not only like ladies messaging first but prefer it, from the outset it means you have passed their scrutinisation and they want to know more. It doesn't happen often but neither does getting a reply from sending loads. It just suggests a they already like the look of you. Always happy to receive more

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

I feel like it's kind of expected for guys to message first, but I would be over the moon to get a message from someone out of the blue!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like it's kind of expected for guys to message first, but I would be over the moon to get a message from someone out of the blue!"

I think some women must message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had rare inbox activity from ladies and couples, which is a nice thing. I generally don’t send out a lot of first messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only had one lovely lady message me first. It always seem to be me messaging first with not much luck!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I prefer to be messaged first. Then I'm not fighting the masses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I prefer to be messaged first. Then I'm not fighting the masses. "

You don't have to for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echoing what has already, if they message first it helps show that there is some interest and also a new message is a welcome message in my inbox.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

I love ladies first messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a lady who makes the first move either on FAB or in public. It shows confidence which I find very attractive.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

We would love ladies to message us more (either both of us or on our singles acccounts).

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By *ossy78Man
over a year ago

birmingham

A reply would be nice lol

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Get tedious when they clearly haven’t read your profile..

Especially when they say ‘I love your profile!’ in the message too..

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I rarely ever message first, only because I either on here or trying to reply to messages I receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely ever message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?

I not only like ladies messaging first but prefer it, from the outset it means you have passed their scrutinisation and they want to know more. It doesn't happen often but neither does getting a reply from sending loads. It just suggests a they already like the look of you. Always happy to receive more "

This is perfect

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

If I see someone that catches my eye or attention, there's no problem sending the first msg as Mr usually leaves that to me R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

I find the whole "guys have to message first" terribly dated, conservative, and frankly odd for a site where people are supposed to "break the rules" of vanilla behaviour.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

On the very rare occasion and I mean very rare as in a nice summer in England I get a message from a lady. So yes it would be nice to get a message from a lady . Once in a while

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

Ladies messaging us first is totally fine by us x

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA


"I barely ever message first. "

I’ll feel privileged, even if it was a game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a lady taking the lead and messaging x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?

I find the whole "guys have to message first" terribly dated, conservative, and frankly odd for a site where people are supposed to "break the rules" of vanilla behaviour. "

It is quite dated, if you're interested message them. I have no issue messaging a guy first at all

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?

I find the whole "guys have to message first" terribly dated, conservative, and frankly odd for a site where people are supposed to "break the rules" of vanilla behaviour.

It is quite dated, if you're interested message them. I have no issue messaging a guy first at all "

Err....Still waiting x

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I feel flattered when a lady messages me first

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't sent a first contact message on here since January 2020 so every conversation in the last 2 years has been initiated by others.

It works for me but may not for everyone.

I let my profile and forum engagement speak for themselves and anyone that is interested enough gets in touch.

I'm not saying I'm inundated with messages and only average one new message a month but I'm ok with that as it allows me to focus on each conversation rather than firing off messages just for the sake of it.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Been on here over 5 years and never had a single lady message us first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on here over 5 years and never had a single lady message us first "

That surprises me

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Wait for the rare chance of receiving a message with 99% being ignored by women. Blokes do seem to reply quite frequently

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I tend to message first if I'm actively looking to talk to people/I find them interesting. Normally I try and make it less of a cold call of a message so related to a thread or a status or a game (although sometimes I'm just doing the game!).

I've yet to be turned down/rejected and I've been here for too many years. Probably because most of the time they see it as me being cute and friendly, nothing more.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Definitely have more messages on the couple's profile we have, but I have had the odd one

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

I’m happy to receive messages I always try and reply who ever it’s from,

It’s basic manners.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Tend to find that any message chain from females regardless of who send the first message quickly end up with us driving the conversation with them responding with one word or two word sentences so we quickly lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m happy to receive messages I always try and reply who ever it’s from,

It’s basic manners. "

I replied to you

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford


"I’m happy to receive messages I always try and reply who ever it’s from,

It’s basic manners.

I replied to you "

You did indeed, I’m not having a dig at anyone x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m happy to receive messages I always try and reply who ever it’s from,

It’s basic manners.

I replied to you

You did indeed, I’m not having a dig at anyone x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like it's kind of expected for guys to message first, but I would be over the moon to get a message from someone out of the blue!

I think some women must message first "

I message first. Works out best this way for me on Fab.

Also necessity as filters are up to block incoming messages

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Love a lady to message first ,unfortunately has never happened yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

I like recieving a first message from a female, doesn't happen often though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m happy to receive messages I always try and reply who ever it’s from,

It’s basic manners. "

Agreed

I get a lot of messages from guys that I don't ask for but still thank them for the compliment.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Guys do you like ladies messaging first or would you prefer to message? Does it come over confident or pushy? Ladies do you message first or do you wait for messages?"

I rarely message first

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