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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know if anybody else has had this experience, but it's happened to me a few times now.

We met a guy at a club a few weeks ago, chilled in the hot tub and had a ten minute chat. He found me on here and we exchanged a few hellos, then phone numbers, as he seemed nice and we'll probably see him again at the club. It's nice to keep in touch, yes?

So this past few days, out of absolutely nowhere, he's been sending me long explicit texts. I haven't been reciprocating, thinking if I ignore him he'll get the message, but he keeps on. Finally this morning I've told him to stop it, as I didn't invite this and it makes me feel like he sees me as some kind of free interactive porn service.

Why do some men assume that because they met you in a swingers' club that you're there for the taking anytime? Don't they realise that you could be having Sunday breakfast with your family as they're trying to get their rocks off via text with you?

Does this creepy kind of thing happen a lot? Is it down to their inexperience and incorrect assumptions?

Sheesh.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Some people forget that you have another life away from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people forget that you have another life away from here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people forget that you have another life away from here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find most men seem to think us women are horny 24/7, and as a result now only give my number out for meet purposes only(form of contact if running late etc), I do spell out to them that dont want texts.

However if we get on after meet, then dont mind a text from them now and again, when convienient for me time wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to give my number out.. or use a play phone

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, I guess if you share your number you take the risk eh? You'd think that meeting in person would offer a bit more of a clue whether a person is or isn't going to be creepy.

Maybe it's just that his cock knows how to text by itself? That's the best explanation I can come up with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I'll be the 1st to say it , why would you give him your number ?

He's a bloke, he might seem nice but he's only got one thing on his mind , you should speak to people on here for ages before giving your number out , I understand you met him in person so prob thought he was cool but you have to be careful or even buy a £10 phone from argos(other retailers are available) that way you can switch it on an off as you choose and not have to worry about cock pics coming thro when your in tesco .

Put it down to a lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Is it down to their inexperience and incorrect assumptions?

Sheesh."

I think, that if you've given him no indications at all that you're into kinky/explicit texts then it's probably incorrect assumptions about what you like and don't like. I suspect that there are some women who would love that and some that find it creepy, some who find it disgusting etc. The key thing is now that you've told him not to, if he's still doing it? That would now move into the world of inapropriate!

It may be the case that he's now mortified that he got the wrong end of the stick.

Who knows? Everyone has a different slant on the way others play and whether it's good/bad/right/wrong/fun/dirty etc etc

Jx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Maybe it's just that his cock knows how to text by itself? That's the best explanation I can come up with

"

An old Italian friend of mine said (and you need to do this in an Italian accent)

"Thee problem is you are thinking with your leetle head and not your big head"

I suspect that applies to most men

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We have a play phone that way you can switch it on an off as you choose found it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I suspect he's quite embarrassed now that I've made it clear.

I like dirty talk as much as the next perv, but not out of the blue, uninvited with a relative stranger.

I do stick to BBM so I can block people and also so they don't actually have my phone number, so it's not such a huge deal privacy-wise.

I think I might mostly have a serious case of the Monday morning grumps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we bought a cheep phone we keep just for the "scene" and keep it well hidden when we think the family will be around!! xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give out my mobile number to anyone I meet at a club.

I would refer them to FAB first if they would like to keep in contact.

I would only give out my number to those I have known sufficiently well to trust them not to abuse the privilege.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mean to upset you, but, you say that you ignored them at first and then eventually told him that you weren't into that sort of thing. Maybe if you told him straight away, it would have stopped sooner.

Whilst i do think that he went a bit ott, i also think guidelines should have been mentioned when number was given out.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I don't give out my mobile number to anyone I meet at a club.

I would refer them to FAB first if they would like to keep in contact.

I would only give out my number to those I have known sufficiently well to trust them not to abuse the privilege.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a play phone that way you can switch it on an off as you choose found it works for us. "
same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just block the number..he get the message,if you know what i mean

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I don't know if anybody else has had this experience, but it's happened to me a few times now.

We met a guy at a club a few weeks ago, chilled in the hot tub and had a ten minute chat. He found me on here and we exchanged a few hellos, then phone numbers, as he seemed nice and we'll probably see him again at the club. It's nice to keep in touch, yes?

So this past few days, out of absolutely nowhere, he's been sending me long explicit texts. I haven't been reciprocating, thinking if I ignore him he'll get the message, but he keeps on. Finally this morning I've told him to stop it, as I didn't invite this and it makes me feel like he sees me as some kind of free interactive porn service.

Why do some men assume that because they met you in a swingers' club that you're there for the taking anytime? Don't they realise that you could be having Sunday breakfast with your family as they're trying to get their rocks off via text with you?

Does this creepy kind of thing happen a lot? Is it down to their inexperience and incorrect assumptions?

Sheesh."

Get a swingers phone. Buy a £10 pay as you go mobile phone. Only use that phone for swinging. If you accidentally give an idiot your swinging number wait until the credit runs out and get a new pay as you go sim. It means giving your true swinging friends your new number but it gets rid of the idiot(s).

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"I don't know if anybody else has had this experience, but it's happened to me a few times now.

We met a guy at a club a few weeks ago, chilled in the hot tub and had a ten minute chat. He found me on here and we exchanged a few hellos, then phone numbers, as he seemed nice and we'll probably see him again at the club. It's nice to keep in touch, yes?

So this past few days, out of absolutely nowhere, he's been sending me long explicit texts. I haven't been reciprocating, thinking if I ignore him he'll get the message, but he keeps on. Finally this morning I've told him to stop it, as I didn't invite this and it makes me feel like he sees me as some kind of free interactive porn service.

Why do some men assume that because they met you in a swingers' club that you're there for the taking anytime? Don't they realise that you could be having Sunday breakfast with your family as they're trying to get their rocks off via text with you?

Does this creepy kind of thing happen a lot? Is it down to their inexperience and incorrect assumptions?

Sheesh."
That's what you get for talking to strangers in hot tubs......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never hand my number out to anyone on here

when im looking for swinging chat i come on here, when i log off im back to my normal life, working, shopping, looking after kids etc and im sorry but i dont wany guys off here texting me and calling be whenever they feel like it just becayse they have my number

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London


"Some people forget that you have another life away from here."

Put something on your profile, REMINDING people that you have another life away from Fab. It worked for us. Rich XX

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

Get a play phone, we have one and it works well, switch it off when not playing, phones are cheap enough now and it does not have to be flash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people forget that you have another life away from here.

Put something on your profile, REMINDING people that you have another life away from Fab. It worked for us. Rich XX "

i have on my profile i dont accommodate, still dont stop people asking to come here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a play phone, we have one and it works well, switch it off when not playing, phones are cheap enough now and it does not have to be flash.

"

thats ok for some but i really couldnt have a second phone, my kids would find it very wierd if i had two phone and would want to know why i needed another one

It would put me in a uncomfortable situation as i woul have no idea what i could say to justify having a second phone and knowing my kids they would put 2 and 2 together and come up with 4 which i really dont want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have the time or want to pester people..I'm on pay as u go...so my credit is used for important stuff like...actual shagging lol

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