FabSwingers.com forum: Club or private meet?

By *avernake OP Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Just wondering if people have a preference?

I prefer private meets, but speaking as a single guy I've found clubs a better place to meet people.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Private after everything I've heard about clubs I know its not my scene.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Private: clubs hold absolutely no appeal to me whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer private meets but i use clubs more as its just easier to get ready and go to a club than find a meet on here

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By *n need of helpCouple
over a year ago

hull

we cant even meet on here

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"we cant even meet on here "
. Why can't you meet?????

I only been to one club and no private....yet

So club it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i prefer private meets but i use clubs more as its just easier to get ready and go to a club than find a meet on here "

I prefer private meets too, but have to agree that finding a meet on here isn't easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and parties, its more spontaneous and less pressure, love the atmosphere of the places, also means if I just want to socialise he can still go off and play if he wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both. If we arrange a meet off here in a club we can go strait from the bar to a play room if we want. If we don't hit it off with the meet then the evening still has other possibilities for all parties. Or we can just turn it into a social with less clothes than would be normal in a regular bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we cant even meet on here "

Maybe putting no fat chicks on your profile maybe puts the fat ones off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs now due to horror private meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only ever done private...too scared to try a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's experience dependant. We've had both and to be fair prefer neither above the other.

If we know the person we're happy to play at ours or their house. If not, a club is fine. If we just fancy a sexy adventure we'll hit a club rather than going through the "psycho or fine" game.

Some of our best times have been spontaneous though and you don't get that at a club

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Private meets for us....have no interest in clubs at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer clubs but then i like being watched

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

both have their merits.... clubs can be very socialable so from that aspect I like them, sometimes private meets can have extra pressure applied to them, but I suppose it depends on how well you know the people you play with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs

That way there's no pressure to play if folks travel a distance to play but on meeting u find u don't click. Just another question if u do manage to get a private meet do u use ur own place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefer clubs but then i like being watched

I do too. Private meets aren't as exciting but I tend to have even private meets watched.

For me though I prefer more than one guy. So that's better at clubs.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private for more intimate one on ones and clubs if I want to be greedy and to socialise its great to have versatility x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs for us too

Our nights out are very few and far between so when we do get a night out we prefer a club then a private meet as not to but all our eggs in one basket and have the other couple cancel or not turn up etc ..

So at least it's not a spoilt night

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I meet for coffee first. But have been known to leave said coffee untouched and be in a hotel room very quickly!

But I do say no thanks to around 50% so I decline those who are not local. Even when they're convinced I'll want to play as soon as I clap eyes on them!

I also like clubs, but they are not guaranteed - I went last night, chatted lots but didn't have the hots for anyone so was home in bed with a krispy kreme and a hot choc by 1am (damn you Fabio!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meet for coffee first. But have been known to leave said coffee untouched and be in a hotel room very quickly!

But I do say no thanks to around 50% so I decline those who are not local. Even when they're convinced I'll want to play as soon as I clap eyes on them!

I also like clubs, but they are not guaranteed - I went last night, chatted lots but didn't have the hots for anyone so was home in bed with a krispy kreme and a hot choc by 1am (damn you Fabio!

Think he should be banned from here.... he's the reason my new out fit wont fit

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"was home in bed with a krispy kreme and a hot choc by 1am (damn you Fabio!

Think he should be banned from here.... he's the reason my new out fit wont fit

Got a lemon meringue one left that's screaming to me!

Will have for brekkie once I boil the kettle for a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Private after everything I've heard about clubs I know its not my scene."

Us too...read way too much on here about clubs and have been completely put off...Mash would love to try one but not without me...and prefer it to generally be at our place because I feel safer and more confident here

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"we cant even meet on here

Maybe putting no fat chicks on your profile maybe puts the fat ones off

That's the intention though isn't it? They don't want to play with fat women ... although I have to say they could've worded it a little more diplomatically.

As for playing - clubs for us. Less pressure and just generally potential for more fun.

E x

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"only ever done private...too scared to try a club

If you weren't quite so far away then I'd offer to go with you to hold your hand

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"i prefer private meets but i use clubs more as its just easier to get ready and go to a club than find a meet on here "

"I prefer private meets too, but have to agree that finding a meet on here isn't easy!

Wow so it's not just single males that struggle on here? Or is it a lack of quality not quantity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i prefer private meets but i use clubs more as its just easier to get ready and go to a club than find a meet on here

I prefer private meets too, but have to agree that finding a meet on here isn't easy!

Interesting that a lot of people are saying its difficult to get a meet, i thought it was just me.

What can we do about it???

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

Never been to a club before. They sound dirty and filthy and full of randy horny singles... Which sounds awesome! But alas, we don't know where these clubs are and are probably too intimdated to visit one if we ever managed to get out!!

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By *auravicCouple
over a year ago

COLCHESTER

prefer clubs rather than meets as it doesnt matter if the meet dna's coz you just find someone else

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Clubs for preference. I enjoy meeting multiple men so more likely in a club. Also, if my private meet doesn't turn up then I'm stuffed, but in a club there's always someone else to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always play in private, well......up until now anyway.

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Private but we have a plan B in case they dont turn up.

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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago

France

I have little choice in the matter as I have a little person at home and I don't get out much!! Makes me check, double check and check again all those who I meet though and take ages to arrange

Perhaps when he's older I'll get a night away and try all these clubs I read/hear about!

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By *ake and JulesCouple
over a year ago

Donny

"we cant even meet on here "

you smoke which rules a lot of people out, your profile says 'no fat chicks' we are slim build but that would put us off contacting you in case you stand there with a tape measure, there are nicer more polite ways of saying you prefer slimmer build people, if we see negativity or hostility in profiles we don't bother with them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame some people are put off clubs by what they read. I'm always happy to hold hands to clubs for first times. Couple's I have taken or met have said that helps a lot.

So maybe those unsure have a local person that goes to clubs like I do that could take them so that you can make up your own minds.

Cali

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Clubs - never quite plucked up the courage to do private, although we both agree we're now ready.

Personally I just think its a lot safer and a no pressure scenario going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i prefer private meets but i use clubs more as its just easier to get ready and go to a club than find a meet on here

I prefer private meets too, but have to agree that finding a meet on here isn't easy!

Not doing bad. Judgeing by your verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer clubs No obligation and no pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer private, like previous poster, been put off clubs from others experiences that they have posted on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer private, like previous poster, been put off clubs from others experiences that they have posted on the forums"

Us too for exatcly the same reasons- plus the stories weve heard at private parties. We did think about clubs but private arranged here on fab means you at least have an idea of who your meeting. That means the good and the bad which gives you more choice.

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

clubs all the way, then social meets once you get to know someone, no pressure that way

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

When we where swinging, clubs were a must. Tried private meets but getting it organised was a mare.

One one occasion we had arranged a babysitter, who was already here and we were going to the car to set off. We called ahead and it was cancelled. Luckily it was a saturday night and not all was lost. 45 minutes later we where in Sheffield La Chambre, having a great time.

You are not certain of a meet in a club, but the club shows up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Tried private meets but getting it organised was a mare.

Agreed. Fishing for an invite where someone else has done all the hard work is even harder lol.

We think we're resigned to doing all the donkey work and holding parties again as understandably there's not a lot of people willing to invite strangers to their homes but the up side is you get to invite who you want!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

" Tried private meets but getting it organised was a mare.

Agreed. Fishing for an invite where someone else has done all the hard work is even harder lol.

Just to clarify, we were supposed to be meeting away from both homes. Hence the calling ahead to see if they were still up for meeting as it was a good hour away.

We have travelled further for a meeting, which was before we came on fabswingers. We did actually meet on that occasion, but wished we'd called ahead as I think the reality and the online fantasy was 2 different things for them. It was just a bit too weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had the private meets and, last night had our first club experience and we have to say that it has to be clubs all the way. It takes away the worry of the kids coming downstairs and catching us

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to socialise more when in a club, to catch up with old friends and to make new ones etc...

For sexy fun, I prefer 1-1 meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if people have a preference?

I prefer private meets, but speaking as a single guy I've found clubs a better place to meet people."

Clubs are the best when you start swinging then you grow into the social and private meeting scene!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let you know after Friday

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

All depends, there are some people I would want to meet in a club but I am very fussy re clubs and only a few I really like.

I like small private parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first meet was privately in someone's home which we found to be a wonderful experience, but we've not had the chance of any more private meets since that one. We've been invited to a couple of parties but been unable to attend due to other commitments.

Thus, we have to rely on Chams, which, in fact, has actually been pretty good. We rarely actually arrange to meet anyone there, we just put a not on here saying when we'll be there and say to come and say 'Hi' if you see us. Sometimes we spend a whole evening on our own, but as we live separately that's not a bad thing for us, other times we struggle to spend time with the people who come over and speak to us coz we've become so engrossed with others who got there first.

We'd love to actually get to a couple of parties and more private meets, but for now, Chams is doing fine

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"Private: clubs hold absolutely no appeal to me whatsoever."

Same goes for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to go to a club, my local club a mate had a bad experience there someone spiked his drink so that one is off my list. Wouldn't mind travelling a bit further to a club, but I think someone may have to "hold my hand" a little as I am not experienced! Any help appreciated !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs 100%, safe and if the chemistry is not there or they are not quite as you thought then there are others to choose from and the night is not a wasted one.

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Always been clubs for us or house parties..

Private meets are to clinical and just not sexy for us.The thrill of going out and not knowing who your going to meet,the flirting,the chat much more sexier we think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we cant even meet on here "

Post on Swingers Support and Advice and ask everyone for their opinion on why. But brace yourself - you might not like what you hear, but it will be honest....

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By *reedygirlnmickCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

we think both have there own merits, clubs are defo easier, and better if you are wanting multiple playfriends, but private meets have a longer build up, eg looking and finding someone to meet, although we have been let down at the last minute, which is a mare!

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