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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else?

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

Yes I do, we would normally meet for a drink or social and see if we get on, then I'll leave the couple to see whether I'm what they are looking for, then fun times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"99% yes "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to swing on a first meet as standard, and in truth I had alot more success with that approach (with regards to actually having sex) than I did with the more socially acceptable 'meet for a drink first' routine.

Whilst obviously you can't expect two way sexual attraction with everyone you meet, I find its generally best that when you do, you at least leave the option open to have sex if you DO fancy one another, rather than 'we'll have sex next time if this drink goes well' as that sex never seems to actually materialise, even if the drink DOES go well - and when I say go well, I don't mean as in 'yes she seemed quite nice and polite and I'm gonna take that as her fancying me rather than simply being the basic courtesy you'd normally show a stranger', I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks

That has only happened once

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

Yes if we have all agreed that it is a 'see how it goes' meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always arrange a social meet first, though that can lead sex to the same evening, but by arranging it as a social it takes the expectation off so much easier to walk away! and no-shows are not such an issue if we have arranged first meeting in a club.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I have never in 18 yrs of meeting been turned down on a first meet. I do have standards and have met all walks of life too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "
depends. I tend to meet people socially for a quick meet and normally when I can't actually play.

If I meet them at a club then yes. But I don't need to click unless it's one to one.

Cali

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By *danteMan
over a year ago

rhonda


"99% yes

+1"
i,m sure that makes it 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest with the restrictions on playtime with having to arrange babysitters etc we would say yes - 99% of the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets are on the basis we meet for a drink and if we get on we play

I really cant see the point in meeting someone, your getting on, flirting and sparks flying to go home and arrange a meet another time

for me if im sat face to face with someone i want i want then now not next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do social meets when I'm really desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All my meets are on the basis we meet for a drink and if we get on we play

I really cant see the point in meeting someone, your getting on, flirting and sparks flying to go home and arrange a meet another time

for me if im sat face to face with someone i want i want then now not next week "

finish ur drink and bend over the table...stop gabbing also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

Sometimes we do sometimes we don't its all a matter of time, how we all get along and lots of other variables but we don't have hard and fast rules about not playing on the first meet.

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I only arrange meets with the intention of playing. So far I have played on every meet. I like it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only arrange meets with the intention of playing. So far I have played on every meet. I like it that way."

fancy a coffee?? JUST a COFFEE tho...

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

No ta. Fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only arrange meets with the intention of playing. So far I have played on every meet. I like it that way."
Genuine, dedicated and motivated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally yes we do play on first meet!!

We go prepared to play, but meet in a pub first to make sure all parties are happy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No ta. Fancy a shag?"

ok..I see the way uve been eyeing up my bulge

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Yes, very unusual eyes you have there Marty.

Can you make them go the same way sometimes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

We meet = we play.

If it's not good we don't repeat. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, very unusual eyes you have there Marty.

Can you make them go the same way sometimes?"

well I'm always looking for better talent when on a meet...ur still my 2nd choice

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Most definately if that mutual spark is there why waste a perfectly good nite

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Yes, after all we were both 'sex on the first date' people when much younger.

Geoff recalls how quite a few women told him "I never have sex on the first date" but a few hours later were in the bedroom pulling their knickers off!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Nope, not for me I am afraid - I dont want to raise expectations that I may then have to frustrate. I rather meet for a drink and take it from there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

200% yes! Can't see the point leaving frustrated!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if we get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, not for me I am afraid - I dont want to raise expectations that I may then have to frustrate. I rather meet for a drink and take it from there..."

if I beat u at skat...can i have a shag

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Nope, not for me I am afraid - I dont want to raise expectations that I may then have to frustrate. I rather meet for a drink and take it from there...

if I beat u at skat...can i have a shag"
That d be so easy as I dont play that.. you d be ina win/win...;-)

I will add this to my earlier post...

if I play with my OH we are happy to play on first meet if all happy. It is just a safety measure for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have very rarely played on first meet and of the times we have only one turned out brilliant. The rest we wished we hadn't bothered in the end.

So we now stick to social drink and a flirt with a kiss at end. Love leaving wanting more but knowing I have to wait. Got a guy now met for drinks and can't wait to meet for more but can't just yet. The anticipation leaves me very horny and excited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"We have very rarely played on first meet and of the times we have only one turned out brilliant. The rest we wished we hadn't bothered in the end.

So we now stick to social drink and a flirt with a kiss at end. Love leaving wanting more but knowing I have to wait. Got a guy now met for drinks and can't wait to meet for more but can't just yet. The anticipation leaves me very horny and excited. "
There is definitely that as well.. anticipation when we meet for a second time knowing that things will go further...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc."

You'd get totally the wrong signals from me then. I'm always nervous, tense and guarded with strangers but fine once we've actually started playing.

I only recently started meeting again after a break so it was particularly difficult. So much so that I'm having another break until I feel more prepared.

Tense to begin with doesn't necessarily mean they don't fancy you and definitely doesn't mean they'll be shy in the bedroom.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

There's never enough time for shilly shally......if we're all clean and polite.......lets get naked......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc.

You'd get totally the wrong signals from me then. I'm always nervous, tense and guarded with strangers but fine once we've actually started playing.

I only recently started meeting again after a break so it was particularly difficult. So much so that I'm having another break until I feel more prepared.

Tense to begin with doesn't necessarily mean they don't fancy you and definitely doesn't mean they'll be shy in the bedroom."

Thats why though I generally tend to ask people straight out, in so many words 'do you like me?' at an opportune moment during the meet, because with some people you can't always tell if their shyness is simply a result of the situation (I mean you are meeting a stranger with potentially an eye to having sex with them, its understandble that some people might feel a bit tense).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All sounds good to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"99% yes

+1"
+2

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

No expectations but it has been known to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

I'd like to play BEFORE the first meet

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By *irtyleedsladMan
over a year ago

leeds

Iv always met socially first, apart from my last meet, it's not a prerequisite though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexybrain you would talk them to death hahaha !!!!!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks

That has only happened once"

The chicken suit was a mistake with hindsight I grant you

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else?

I'd like to play BEFORE the first meet "

Me too

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Never.

Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.

Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yeah if they have a lovely big cock and I have not seen them on Crimewatch...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks

That has only happened once

The chicken suit was a mistake with hindsight I grant you "

Yes especially when you said you were coming as a turkey!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Never.

Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.

Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, unless it's agreed its just a social meet because of work restrictions etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks

That has only happened once"

Same here...I only make the plans to meet once I'm pretty damn sure we'd get on. Don't think I've ever not played, and have always had fun!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?""

What's your favourite film?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always gonna be a yes if we meet someone usually we no we are gonna play unless when we meet we don't click can't see the point in missing an opportunity for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... If we click

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"99% yes

+1"

Doesn't that make 100% ???

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By *eetle201Couple
over a year ago

dunfermline

yes if we click a good time would have had by all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?"

What's your favourite film? "

The Big Lebowski, what's yours?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?"

What's your favourite film?

The Big Lebowski, what's yours?"

Airplane or Bladerunner... can't decide which.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?"

What's your favourite film?

The Big Lebowski, what's yours?

Airplane or Bladerunner... can't decide which."

Snowboard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never.

Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.

Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution."

I only ever meet for coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that a film?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time Squames met for coffee i ended up eating creampie lol!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with."

I just spat my coffee out, did u say U want a SHAG!?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets"

That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.

I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

On my previous profile, I have been lucky to be contacted by that sweet and nice lady just 3 hours after joining. We met the following day and the sex was fantastic. We just click from the first minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets

That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.

I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious! "

100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live

Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do. I have spoken to them and can tell pretty quickly whether they are our type and we get on. I'm not into long drawn out social things

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with."

That's fine for you, personally I like to know who I'm inviting into my home. Likewise for my playmates. I'm into extreme play, I use sharp objects, wax, restraints etc. They need to ensure I'm not going to hammer their gonads to the floor and steal their wallet.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with.

That's fine for you, personally I like to know who I'm inviting into my home. Likewise for my playmates. I'm into extreme play, I use sharp objects, wax, restraints etc. They need to ensure I'm not going to hammer their gonads to the floor and steal their wallet. "

I think that's a fair comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes we do. I have spoken to them and can tell pretty quickly whether they are our type and we get on. I'm not into long drawn out social things "
And a good time was had by all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets

That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.

I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!

100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live

Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink"

I never accomodate and never will, for the same reasons. I don't care if people look down on me as a single female for meeting for coffee or anything I do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets

That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.

I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!

100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live

Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink

I never accomodate and never will, for the same reasons. I don't care if people look down on me as a single female for meeting for coffee or anything I do. "
we would like to look down on your gorgeous naked body babes lol

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

When we started swinging we had social meets + arranged playmeet if all happy.Just realized we haven't had a social meet for 5 month!!!

We do Clubs,Partys,Events:love it as it rolls social+play nicely into 1....we also do repeat meets with great sngls or cpls:so easy planning with sexy friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On my previous profile, I have been lucky to be contacted by that sweet and nice lady just 3 hours after joining. We met the following day and the sex was fantastic. We just click from the first minute "

And that is great, also had the same, booked a room in a nearby hotel and left them very wet bedding to clear up

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I always meet for coffee first.

But I gave been known to take two mouthfuls then rush off to get a hotel together...

But without the meet in a public place (even if brief) there will be no play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Safety first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always meet for coffee first.

But I gave been known to take two mouthfuls then rush off to get a hotel together...

But without the meet in a public place (even if brief) there will be no play."

mouthfuls of what tho..

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By *ixenSubminxiveWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I tend to meet people for a drink first, and then play another time if we've hit it off. I've only played on the first meet a few times, and generally it has been me going to there place. I don't like to invite them back to mine on a first meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We know its a bit different for us but we like to go back to ours. Mels just told me her fantasy is being gangbaned now thers a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "

Who cares about clicking? I'm not that particular!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeah!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol bet you are deep down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we play on the first meet, but we like to get to know them first by MSN chat or email

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