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Social before play or straight in?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.

We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.

Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.

We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.

Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "

We find the social side do important before play. Attraction, click & likes. Also we have found the better we know the couple the better the sex. Do win win xx

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Social first

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes agree but our time is short so we typically organise social with options to play in mind if everyone clicks. We don't need to sleep on things, we either click or we don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a social first and at other times it’s straight in.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

99% of the time it's social first but in a club...well anything can happen

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Always a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo social first. Even in a club a little while spent chatting goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer a social however with club play the gap between the social and play is considerably shorter....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Getting on with a couple is key to us but do understand that club play can get a bit

We attend VA from time to time..

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.

We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.

Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "

Lol always a social first for the Mrs, usually after some online chat/group chat first (s out some of the fakes). We often play straight after the social tho . Clubs, that's another story

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.

We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.

Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .?

Lol always a social first for the Mrs, usually after some online chat/group chat first (s out some of the fakes). We often play straight after the social tho . Clubs, that's another story "

The sessions had with friends are super kinky..

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By *orizMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Straight in.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I always expect at least one social but would probably never run if things escalated, we can't control mutual animal attraction after all. I don't think it's realistic to expect anything more than a social for a first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social n see, as long as the initial chat is ok.

I don't like having to guarantee sex. But I don't object to the possibility in my own head before going to social as long as they're not too forceful with an answer

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Social first to check chemistry

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By *incscarcoupleCouple
over a year ago

GRIMSBY

Social first, always more enjoyable if you all click,

Has been the odd occasion in the past with my previous partner that we was impulsive and just let the mood take us lol

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I don't do a specific social but often chat to people before we play at clubs but not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few minutes to a couple of hours of talk and then play xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to do a social first, see how we all get along. A few times we've then played that evening & other times we've then made future plans. We have once met someone straight off and played. That was a few weeks ago, really enjoyed it and planning our next meeting

Mrs x

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

Always a social with a couple first and although we don't plan to play on a first meet, we don't rule it out.

If we're (more so Mrs) in that kind of mood when meeting guys we do play on a first meet. Generally she won't agree to meeting them if they don't provoke 'thise' kind of thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first...

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

Only meeting at clubs now so it's a bit irrelevant but previously I would have a social meet to see if chemistry was there...

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Only ever a social first. It's a deal-breaker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Such a turn on for us to relax and play all night long with friends

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

Always social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defo social first. Even in a club a little while spent chatting goes well "

This for me too. I don't like the thought that I could play with someone I would dislike during a conversation.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.

We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.

Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "

Definitely social first .we've had a couple of straight to the fun (or not) and they've been no shows and fake.. one I think it was all a laugh to them

.free time is precious .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be social first to see if connection & chemistry..& if there is & we both want to go further we can...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of clubs we always want a social first, although since covid it seems nobody wants to meet outside of a club with a social first!

However in a club, we can quite happily go from a few minutes of chat to play with the right people. Or sometimes even go straight to play with no chat

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By *ood Girl KatWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Definitely social first.

Need to know if I like the person and like to get to know them. Like a bit of a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first to see if there is chemistry and attraction!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Social first to see if there is chemistry and attraction! "

First the chemistry - then the biology.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman "

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. "
this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x "

Can I come with you next time?

For safety reasons of course.

And the fact that I'm shy

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By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne

We only meet in clubs and more often that not play is spontaneous. We are more likely to chat over a drink afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first"

Socials ignite the spark

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Definitely a no expectations social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, always x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pressure social always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x

Can I come with you next time?

For safety reasons of course.

And the fact that I'm shy "

Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x

Can I come with you next time?

For safety reasons of course.

And the fact that I'm shy

Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx"

Shush you.

Now get ya kit off.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Social first, always x"

Apart from with me - I doubt you could resist me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x

Can I come with you next time?

For safety reasons of course.

And the fact that I'm shy

Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx

Shush you.

Now get ya kit off. "

Consider my point proven xx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman

Us guys have to be careful too

Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x

Can I come with you next time?

For safety reasons of course.

And the fact that I'm shy

Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx

Shush you.

Now get ya kit off.

Consider my point proven xx"

(Blows raspberry)

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions."

This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.

This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore "

Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.

Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social it nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

Definitely a social first,couldn't have sex if no chemistry n bit of banter R x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

A connection adds a lot of electricity for me, but wouldn't rule out playing first time. I always leave it to a woman to dictate the pace and almost always enjoy the social side for its own sake, even if that's all it ends up being.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We like a social in a club. However, in the heat of the moment....!

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Always a social first, we like to get to know people and also it’s takes any pressures away......

That said, we have been led astray once or twice on a social...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always have a social and when I meet with my partner we do same.

The social side of this lifestyle is something I enjoy.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.

This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore

Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.

Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all. "

This as well. I make it clear that I don't have any shenanigans on the social but there's always one that expects something

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. THE MOORLANDS. BARMOUTH.

If it's in a club then straight in most times xxxx Suzi

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Social first, sometimes these may lead straight into play but it's never expected

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By *ipvanwinkieMan
over a year ago

out of town!

I’m fine with socials, it gives you the opportunity to see how non-verbal interactions are between you both / all. That’s equally as important as what you might say in a message. More importantly though, it gives all parties the chance to change their minds, as chatting and meeting are two completely different animals.

I also find it helps build the anticipation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social. But every social I’ve ever had has led to sex on the same meet.

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By *antasmicWoman
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I always like a social first.. occasionally that might lead to more, but I do like to have a general chat to see if there's a mental connection!

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By *ngelLordCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Social open to play if all click but 99% we do clubs no hassle let downs etc and just chill have a good time and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to have a group chat to see if there is a mutual attraction.

We'll then prefer a social but don't rule out fun if we all click in person as well xx

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I tend to get to know the people I meet a bit first, so some chat first, and with couple a 3 way chat is useful to get to know them both, then a social with maybe some kissing if it goes well, followed up by a play meet.

I've found it has worked well so far

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By *unmidwcoupleCouple
over a year ago

leicester

We prefer to have a social first, few drinks and flirt. Then if all happy end up in bed together

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By *illpeopleCouple
over a year ago

High Peak

Chat and a couple of drinks, then if we are all in agreement, get to it.

We are all here for the same thing so why waste time?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

I start off with good intentions but have to admit that a couple of my socials ended up in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight in, after all know where someone went on holiday last summer is not going to make them any better in the bedroom.

Also I have done the sit down drink to chat about the things they do or don't like and invariably it all changes once got to the bedroom .

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.

This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore

Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.

Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all.

This as well. I make it clear that I don't have any shenanigans on the social but there's always one that expects something "

Really good way to out the disrespectful ones too!

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We prefer to play on a first meet but always make it clear that there's no pressure if there's no attraction.

Char has fatigue and pain issues which means we have to ration our time considerably, and a social takes it out of her just as much as a play meet. So a social only is a bit of a wasted opportunity for us, unfortunately.

(Bry)

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Not interested in socials, we have our vanilla friends for that. We play almost entirely in clubs anyway and sex there, with mutual attraction, can be spontaneous and anonymous (and avoids no-shows, complicated arrangements, questionable safety and people not looking like their profile pics).

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I do enjoy a good social but depends if we chatted before or not. I do prefer to get to know people before meeting. Helps form a connection better I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first but happy to turn it into a play date if both parties up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally social first, but time limited so at a club more likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a social first but we have been known to move along quickly. Sometimes you just know

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By *urham 3 riversMan
over a year ago

Co. Durham

social first !

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Our time is short so we meet to play

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By *irtybdirtygCouple
over a year ago

Oswestry

We only play in clubs now after too many no shows for social meet. Club play and if it happens it happens, if not we still have a great time together.

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

Social first for me...but then again i do as i am told

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

Always a social first to get to know each other and break the ice

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Wish we had enough free time for a social!!

No for us the diary is so busy it’s a case of leaping to straight to the main course.

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