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By *iss_Cali_xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Herne Bay

You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Well said

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

Couldn’t of put it better myself xx

Vee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct! X

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Thanks for that, can I breathe out now, I've been holding myself in since joining a year ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this x

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By *ew experiences for 2021.Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Love this well saidx

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

So true I'm very proud of my mum body mrs m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL COMMENT

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

Sussex Bi The Sea

Well said

My best fun have been with ladies with Mum tums etc.

It’s the person I like to connect with on a mental level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

That’s the nicest thing I’ve heard / read all day.

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By *ieman80Man
over a year ago

halifax

A great statement not recognised enough

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By *eddy_xMan
over a year ago

herne bay

Well said, here's to the mums out there living there best life xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it well said x

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way


"Thanks for that, can I breathe out now, I've been holding myself in since joining a year ago."

Well aren’t you just lovely

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By *ugarandspicecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Hallelujah!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's getting others to understand

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Totally agree OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I needed to hear this, after devouring Nutella pancakes….

It’s pancake month, yeh?

Xx

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"I needed to hear this, after devouring Nutella pancakes….

It’s pancake month, yeh?

Xx"
no it's pancake Day 1st march this year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree.

We are 55 & 48 , long past worrying about our wobbly bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I needed to hear this, after devouring Nutella pancakes….

It’s pancake month, yeh?

Xxno it's pancake Day 1st march this year "

Haha well I’m punctual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t fit into Zara jeans and I’m okay with this. Do I have a fat arse?

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By *voKid21Man
over a year ago

Tiptree

I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke” ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this.

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By *nchantedRoseWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Aw this is lovely

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By *iss_Cali_xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Herne Bay


"I needed to hear this, after devouring Nutella pancakes….

It’s pancake month, yeh?

Xx"

Everyday is pancake Day

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

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By *iss_Cali_xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Herne Bay


"I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke” ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this. "

I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx

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By *voKid21Man
over a year ago

Tiptree


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I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx"

I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx

I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way! "

If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you OP

I needed this too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing.... Well said

Xxx

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Well said x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm far from perfect but I'm me x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

I never apologise for being me x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Awww Thanks

I am quite fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said! Its my biggest hang up

Mrs x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Well said! Its my biggest hang up

Mrs x"

Yiu do look rather lovely.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

My tum is like a mum tum....But really it is a post op tumour tum....Does that count for this thread too xxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My tum is like a mum tum....But really it is a post op tumour tum....Does that count for this thread too xxxx Suzi"

I’m not a Mum and I have a mum tum - anything goes!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I look pregnant and I'm not even female.

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By *voKid21Man
over a year ago

Tiptree


"

I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx

I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way!

If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx"

That’s the plan. Was hoping to start by meeting some people from here but it’s damn near impossible unfortunately. Did get a girl ask me for a coffee after our group tennis session today. Literally the first tim I’ve ever been asked out for a drink. I was a bit shocked.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I look pregnant and I'm not even female. "

I know the feeling, even us skinny blokes can have a belly like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx

I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way!

If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx

That’s the plan. Was hoping to start by meeting some people from here but it’s damn near impossible unfortunately. Did get a girl ask me for a coffee after our group tennis session today. Literally the first tim I’ve ever been asked out for a drink. I was a bit shocked. "

That’s amazing! Did you get her number? Haha I remember the first time someone came on to me after all that and I had to ask a mate if they were flirting, as it hadn’t happened in ten years lol!! Have fun - I hope you get to play tonsil tennis instead

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By *voKid21Man
over a year ago

Tiptree


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That’s amazing! Did you get her number? Haha I remember the first time someone came on to me after all that and I had to ask a mate if they were flirting, as it hadn’t happened in ten years lol!! Have fun - I hope you get to play tonsil tennis instead "

I did get her number and we have exchanged a couple of texts today too which was nice. Hoping to meet again in a few weeks time. I’ve never had compliments given to me and find them very hard to accept, hoping this is the start of getting my confidence back and starting to love myself a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sooo exciting! Everything teaches us a lesson. You know what you definitely don’t want now! And this will be the start of finding out what you do want, and you’ll have lots of fun along the way! Let us know how it goes! There someone (or many lol) for everyone!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wht a nice post ...all men and women should be comferble with themselves i like all types varitie is the spice of life ... ugly in not how you look ugly is how you act ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well.said OP.....proud owner of a dad bod and one pack lol....and very comfortable. If people dont like you for who you are tough.

Pwrsonality should always win over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm almost tempted to make my pics public

Almost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have made one public for a bit..one pack special

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

love this!

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By *alentedfMan
over a year ago

Near Newbury

Get what you see with me, be cumfy in your own skin I say

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

No, why should you.

Happy fabbing xx

"

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By *iss_Cali_xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Herne Bay


"Have made one public for a bit..one pack special"

You should keep that pic public... It's hot AF! Xx

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By *iss_Cali_xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Herne Bay


"I'm almost tempted to make my pics public

Almost "

I fully support this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody should have to apologise for their body everyone's different. I like a woman with a mummy belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a place for celebrating the glories of the human form, in all its wonderful shapes and sizes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have made one public for a bit..one pack special

You should keep that pic public... It's hot AF! Xx"

Thanks miss cali....most kind xx..and will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have made one public for a bit..one pack special

You should keep that pic public... It's hot AF! Xx"

Nothing wrong with that body at all! Show it off x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

As the saying goes - if you've got, flaunt it.

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By *napppaMan
over a year ago

London

Damn right!!

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By *aughty GilfCouple
over a year ago

bishop area

I have a little belly that hangs down I can't stop it so I embrace it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely post

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By *eorge1dCouple
over a year ago

andover

We are what we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a little belly that hangs down I can't stop it so I embrace it "

So have nothing to worry about naughty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm almost tempted to make my pics public

Almost

I fully support this "

I'll wait till everyone has eaten breakfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this post, Thank you x

Mrs C

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By *ent1000Man
over a year ago

swanley

Always smile and be true to yourself

We are all nothing less than fabulous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

Well said

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By *orkiepud_69Couple
over a year ago

Scarborough


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

Totally agree! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for this. I’m slim but getting a bit of a belly now and I keep thinking I’m a skinny fat man. I know I’m not but it’s hard to drown out your negative voice sometimes.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly this love mum tums anyway so ladies keep showing of those sexy body parts and my inbox is always open

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Well said from Mr average who is punching well above his own weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said OP. We’re all different and attracted to other things. So it doesn’t matter what you look like, just because one person may not like it they’ll be plenty who do. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct and Right Have a Great Day Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mum tums/baby bellies are absolutely beautiful and increase my physical attraction to a woman by an infinite amount.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

Gets an hurrumph from me, although I would personally like to at the weight and level of fitness I was at before Christmas. Not for anybody else but for myself and my work trousers are tight.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...

And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...

So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here "

Actually lots of women like dad bods.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Women are goddesses x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here

Actually lots of women like dad bods. "

True xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely xx

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By *urious_couple_ukCouple
over a year ago

South Cambs


"I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke” ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this. "

Jesus you've nothing to worry about, especially when it comes to those thighs!

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By *urious_couple_ukCouple
over a year ago

South Cambs


"Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious xx"

Funny how harsh we are on ourselves. I feel the same, and am always for looking for lingerie to hide the tum. Yet look at you and think how you've got gorgeous soft curves. The mind is a bugger isn't it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...

And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...

So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post "

You have no reason to be anything other than proud. Xx

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By *WStockingtopsCouple
over a year ago

bristol

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By *WStockingtopsCouple
over a year ago

bristol

My wife doesn't like her belly but I have no issue with it whatsoever. If anything I like it. Soft and warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.

Happy fabbing xx

"

well said x

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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago

basingstoke

Agree I find my wife even more attractive and desirable now in her 40s after two children than I did when we met in our 20's so i think being attractive and desirable is in the eye of the beholder as much as what you see and feel about yourself.

Its a cliché but just being confident and comfortable about yourself and your own body is very sexy! I let her know how attractive I find her which hopefully helps her feel good about herself too.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Absolutely correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious xx

Funny how harsh we are on ourselves. I feel the same, and am always for looking for lingerie to hide the tum. Yet look at you and think how you've got gorgeous soft curves. The mind is a bugger isn't it!!"

Thank you. But have you noticed none of my shots are tummy pics? Xx

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...

And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...

So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post

You have no reason to be anything other than proud. Xx"

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree n what is the perfect body anyway ?? You are what you are big tall fat thin etc

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Absolutely.

Sexy is a broad church, just look after yourself.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious xx"

You have no need to be conscious that body is a real mans dream especially that sexy ass

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Ab Sir Fucking Lute Lee

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over a year ago

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