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Are all couples so pushy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been sneaking onto my girls profile (with her consent) and was astonished to see how few couples bother to read her profile or just ignore it and demand she meets them alone!

And single guys het a bad rep!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really find couples to pushy. Or single guys for that matter.

I think though that my profile helps make sure of that. And to be honest pushy is subjective. Some I would just say were a bit keen lol.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really find couples to pushy. Or single guys for that matter.

I think though that my profile helps make sure of that. And to be honest pushy is subjective. Some I would just say were a bit keen lol.

Cali"

I suppose it is dependent on point of _iew but if a profile asks for some words in a title you put them in the title...... if it says they wont meet alone you accept it and ask to meet both.... some have done both but only 2 or 3 out of maybe 30 or 40 contacts...... I (as a previously single bloke) would never have expected a response from some of the lame half assed mails she has recieved!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe the said couples are single guys posing as a couple to get meets , pics etc.

We have had quite a few like that and also noticed many others on site complaining of same.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I have found some very pushy couples, especially if I can't meet when they say. Some are worse than single men, so now only meet them in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couples that make me laugh are the ones who rant on about single guys and have on their profile over and over in caps

NO SINGLE MEN

then have another dig at the guys who dont read this and mail them anyway

then they mail me when my profile clearly states i dont meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or what i get the most are messages from couples who ask to meet and when i say no as i dont meet couples the guy offers to meet me alone so long as i dont tell his wife

I bet i get at least 1 message a day offering that

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes all couples are pushy....

All single men are timewasters....

All single women are divas....

Thought I would join in the stereotyping

You get pushy people in all groups that don't read profiles or choose to ignore what is written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother having a single profile if you never meet as a single? I don't get it?

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By *exymixedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

london


"Why bother having a single profile if you never meet as a single? I don't get it? "

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have been sneaking onto my girls profile (with her consent) and was astonished to see how few couples bother to read her profile or just ignore it and demand she meets them alone!

And single guys het a bad rep!!!"

Well, maybe now if they've read this they won'r bother her any more.

I for one wouldn't expect anyone except the person I mailed to have access to anything I sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother having a single profile if you never meet as a single? I don't get it? "

Me neither...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the couples we have met have been great only ever had one pushy couple and that was the worst meet we have ever had....that bad we deleted our profile for a few wks and wen we come bk we changed our names and touch wood we have had a few great meets x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes all couples are pushy....

All single men are timewasters....

All single women are divas....

Thought I would join in the stereotyping

You get pushy people in all groups that don't read profiles or choose to ignore what is written."

You forgot all straight men are secretly bi and all bi/curious guys can't play straight and will pounce on every guy they meet!!!

Keep up!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love having bi guys that way they please the both of us lol....and its teue you do get pushy people in all walks of life.....think we have just been lucky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or what i get the most are messages from couples who ask to meet and when i say no as i dont meet couples the guy offers to meet me alone so long as i dont tell his wife

I bet i get at least 1 message a day offering that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been sneaking onto my girls profile (with her consent) and was astonished to see how few couples bother to read her profile or just ignore it and demand she meets them alone!

And single guys get a bad rep!!!"

Beware 'couples' who are pushy - and specially ones who are demanding she meets them alone. Have to ask yourself 'why?' At worst it could be a guy posing as a couple, it could be a couple where the guy has a problem with other guys shagging his missus and only wants single women etc etc - the list goes on.

'Genuine' couples are, in the main, more relaxed about things. Well, in my humble experience anyway.... Be wary...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weird if your girl ? and your so into each other why single profiles .? yes up to you and looks like your looking after her by going into her profile to control things or are you just keeping her safe maybe ? couples like singles a real mix here so you get all sorts here at the candy shop. Its pick and mix .

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

George

If I am honest I am confused, you mention about pushy couples but with your experience of the scene you must know sadly it goes with the territory. Your partner is posting in the lounge that she has trust concerns and is all new to this... by creating a seperate profile for her is almost feeding her to the wolves.

Why not create a couple profile ( it reads that you are only meeting as a couple ) and going to be starting one soon, then apply all the filters that apply and stop the avalanche of mails that concern you...

I don't get with your experience, why it is a surprise.

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast


"Why bother having a single profile if you never meet as a single? I don't get it? "

Me neither

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The couples that make me laugh are the ones who rant on about single guys and have on their profile over and over in caps

NO SINGLE MEN

then have another dig at the guys who dont read this and mail them anyway

then they mail me when my profile clearly states i dont meet couples "

Or the previously single guys who've found a fuck buddy and opened a couples profile then become gurus for single guys offering unsolicited advice. Or worst still starting threads slagging off single guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother having a single profile if you never meet as a single? I don't get it?

Me neither"
Maybe some think sing fams get more offers then couples .... well i get 100s a week , and a couples profile .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"George

If I am honest I am confused, you mention about pushy couples but with your experience of the scene you must know sadly it goes with the territory. Your partner is posting in the lounge that she has trust concerns and is all new to this... by creating a seperate profile for her is almost feeding her to the wolves.

Why not create a couple profile ( it reads that you are only meeting as a couple ) and going to be starting one soon, then apply all the filters that apply and stop the avalanche of mails that concern you...

I don't get with your experience, why it is a surprise."

Its a fair point tbh. Zand opened her profile of her own free will and Im not loging in to control but to re_iew and to out the arses. I suggested that she post to the forums cos no matter what I tell her about trust etc she needs independent advice from people she doesnt know. That advice was, with very few exceptions much the same as mine and even that which is different is fair comment. Once again the forum guys n galls dont dissapoint xx

I am suprised at the behavior of couples as I rarely get mail from them so have not realy been exposed to it b4, no time wasters yet but lots of folks not reading profiles. I cant tell you why but I was suprised by it.

PS couples Profile will follow......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that most people on here are rather pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just you going into her profile and her chating about trust in other forum ? people reading getting mail from her may think its you sending and reading them too not her ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused by this post.Why does he have a single profile . Why does she have a single profile if she does not meet alone ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just you going into her profile and her chating about trust in other forum ? people reading getting mail from her may think its you sending and reading them too not her ? "

when I mail I say its me doing it

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I don't really find couples to pushy. Or single guys for that matter.

I think though that my profile helps make sure of that. And to be honest pushy is subjective. Some I would just say were a bit keen lol.

Cali

I suppose it is dependent on point of _iew but if a profile asks for some words in a title you put them in the title...... if it says they wont meet alone you accept it and ask to meet both.... some have done both but only 2 or 3 out of maybe 30 or 40 contacts...... I (as a previously single bloke) would never have expected a response from some of the lame half assed mails she has recieved!"

if a single girl profile states that she only meets with partner then she should be forced to have a couples profile, same with single men who only meet with partners. what is it about that that people dont understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple really op - single profiles should be as described - single ?

What is it about the fact that a single profile is intact not a single profile that us difficult to understand ?

If one only meets as a couple then it's a no brainer that it should be a couples profile !

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By *orset manMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

in every walk of life you get all kinds of people

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"in every walk of life you get all kinds of people"

Amen to that

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont dissagree with either of the above tbh, the change will be happening tomorrow....

Still doesnt explain why if someone asks for the word turnip in the title of a message someone would actualy title the mail hi....

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By *r nobodyMan
over a year ago

salford

I am a single guy but would never dream of saying I am a couple. I do read profiles and if i do not get an answer then thats it I do not bother them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont dissagree with either of the above tbh, the change will be happening tomorrow....

Still doesnt explain why if someone asks for the word turnip in the title of a message someone would actualy title the mail hi...."

So many profiles have these " master words" .We can't be bothered to reply to profiles who want us to play "games" .

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Yes all couples are pushy....

All single men are timewasters....

All single women are divas....

Thought I would join in the stereotyping

You get pushy people in all groups that don't read profiles or choose to ignore what is written."

I'm a pushy, timewasting Diva. Do I get a badge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been sneaking onto my girls profile (with her consent) and was astonished to see how few couples bother to read her profile or just ignore it and demand she meets them alone!

And single guys het a bad rep!!!"

No in our experience they are not!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I've played with several couples and so, from my experience, can say no.

That said I tend to take a fairly passive approach on site and let them come to me rather than messaging couples all the time. I do wink them and I may stalk them on the forums a bit though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've played with several couples and so, from my experience, can say no.

That said I tend to take a fairly passive approach on site and let them come to me rather than messaging couples all the time. I do wink them and I may stalk them on the forums a bit though "

We know

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

Weve had a few couples push for just one of us to meet, and many of the m of the couple want to.meet f, we just block them, but they are a minority. Weve only had 4 meets but all have been worth the effort of phone calls for proof etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushy...... what is pushy?

people who are newbies think others are pushy.

experienced players just say no thanks you're not our type . simplz

why do people tell lies about why they cannot meet ? just be truthfull and spit it out it saves loads of grief.

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By *im and whoreCouple
over a year ago

near bangor

who can really answer your question, is it not just pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - even with your gf's permission you should not be accessing her profile, reading messages that are meant for her eyes only, looking at private pictures meant for her eyes only. The couples who have sent these messages have sent them to her, not to you and I don't suppose they expect to have their mail read or being posted about in the forums either.

If someone is too timid to deal with those kind of messages then basically don't have an account, simple as. You will not stop pushy couples, rude people, crude single men, its something we all deal with on a daily basis.

To me you have breached the trust of those couples, no matter how they acted. Swinging demands discretion, you have not acted with discretion in relation to this.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I've played with several couples and so, from my experience, can say no.

That said I tend to take a fairly passive approach on site and let them come to me rather than messaging couples all the time. I do wink them and I may stalk them on the forums a bit though

We know "

I have no idea what you mean or who you are. Never even noticed uou before.

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