FabSwingers.com forum: Instigating play

By *ady C and Mr T OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

We have been out a few times now and had a couple of very fun meets, but always struggled on instigating play naturally, leaving it to the other couple to make the first move.

How do couples overcome this?

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

Meeting couples as a guy I've found the m partner had often been the indicator, why don't you... Kiss, touch so on.

Have wondered the merits of a game of strip poker first

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

We’ve just bought ‘The Game of Lifestyle’ both ice breaker and hot’n’heavy editions for this. Looking forward to their first use

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been out a few times now and had a couple of very fun meets, but always struggled on instigating play naturally, leaving it to the other couple to make the first move.

How do couples overcome this?lol remember our first meet with a couple nervously looking at each other my Mrs blurts out are we getting our kit off then"

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By *ady C and Mr T OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

We are fans of games so that sounds fun

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By *ambscouple2015Couple
over a year ago

Not in Wisbech but near

"We are fans of games so that sounds fun"

Can highly recommend the Game of lifestyle as helped us have a fantastic first meet with a couple and always looking for others to play it with

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?"."

That’s usually our go to at a club as well, no pressure just, we’re off upstairs now if you want to go to ?

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Lol at first it was like that, a bit awkward, tricky reading signs... Now we often swap partners immediately at a social, tests the chemistry and allows hands to wander, cheeky kisses. At one couple meet we put our glasses in the middle of the table if interested in play (after an hour or so chatting and flirting), four glasses appeared and they quickly took us back to their place

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?".

That’s usually our go to at a club as well, no pressure just, we’re off upstairs now if you want to go to ?"

Bet they all say yes!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It’s not only couples that have this issue!!!

I always wait to be invited…which means people think I am not interested lol - it’s is Complete they opposite I just don’t like being pushy as it’s not my style

I have had a number of people just say why didn’t you ask to play or we would have if you had asked

I suppose I always see myself as a spare to a situation esp couple

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s harder with couples as more often than not we’ll fancy one of them.

As for single guys, C is used to guys approaching but with me there they don’t.

I quite like the idea of C picking a guy and watching the whole flirtation.

So I may leave her at the bar next time and get called over when the heat has built up…

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?".

That’s usually our go to at a club as well, no pressure just, we’re off upstairs now if you want to go to ?

Bet they all say yes!"

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Might be different for couples but my ways are if meeting someone more experienced than me "most on here" I like to think if they want to take things further they will indicate in some way be it subtle or direct. I usually discuss this a little before even a social by asking if they would say or do omething to indicate if they were happy to play or in the case of a social that leads to a meet I ask if they would be forward enough to initiate a kiss. It's hard a a male to decide to initiate becuase of fear of overstepping so I like to mention in a message how I am not very forward until I have the nod.

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By *ady C and Mr T OP Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

Some great ideas here thank you

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Might be different for couples but my ways are if meeting someone more experienced than me "most on here" I like to think if they want to take things further they will indicate in some way be it subtle or direct. I usually discuss this a little before even a social by asking if they would say or do omething to indicate if they were happy to play or in the case of a social that leads to a meet I ask if they would be forward enough to initiate a kiss. It's hard a a male to decide to initiate becuase of fear of overstepping so I like to mention in a message how I am not very forward until I have the nod."

I am the same - I just chat unless people, say it’s good to go

For me a lady I know was stroking my leg a few weeks ago and I kinda took as sign but as we hadn’t spoken about play before I wasn’t 100% sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don’t make the move I ask them if I can kiss them…. That’s usually the catalyst for everything else.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"If they don’t make the move I ask them if I can kiss them…. That’s usually the catalyst for everything else.

You can kiss me

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By *lay with cherriesCouple
over a year ago

Retford

Thanks for this we are very nervous tbh when it comes to meets as we arnt a full swap cpl

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Thanks for this we are very nervous tbh when it comes to meets as we arnt a full swap cpl

We aren’t either, we make sure that our boundaries are clear before we meet

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By *arleyQuinnandTheJokerCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"We’ve just bought ‘The Game of Lifestyle’ both ice breaker and hot’n’heavy editions for this. Looking forward to their first use

I'm wanting this, did you get it from America, or did you find a UK supplier?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr W&W usually starts things rolling as he isn't shy about just saying the obvious

Saying that though the last lady we played with turned up with a long coat on with just naughty undies stockings and stillettos on so it was very obvious very quickly what was happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of my fantasies leave her at the bar take a seat and watch her get chatted up and flirting would be hugely fun to see it play out Mr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don’t make the move I ask them if I can kiss them…. That’s usually the catalyst for everything else.

You can kiss me

Where?

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We enjoy games at a club and are often the ones to start the fun.

Games with dares and challenges are the best.

Know your crowd though, some people are reserved and don’t want to join in, as is their right.

Other times I’ll just be direct. Especially if Becky’s given me a nudge or smile that she’s ready to go..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been to a club just yet, but what I'd probably do is either be direct and to the point, play a game that requires people to do naughty things with each other or wait for someone to make the first move on me.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I find that alcohol lowers her inhibitions so after a few drinks in the hotel bar I usually suggest we go up to the room where we have a nice bottle of wine waiting to lower her panties.

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