FabSwingers.com forum: Introducing the wife to swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only lightly touched on the subject when we have been d*unk and she’s never said no so how do I break the ice . Answers from experience would be ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss it in a similar fashion when you're both sober

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By *ilthyfuntimezMan
over a year ago

Denham NW london

"Only lightly touched on the subject when we have been d*unk and she’s never said no so how do I break the ice . Answers from experience would be ideal"

So I would sit her down and say “babe, you know how I like the thought of watching you with another man. Well I’ve met this fella called Rob and I’m sure we will all get along real well. His name is _ilthyfuntimez on fab and he would love to get to know us/you more. He is happy to give you his phone number , if you would rather chat on the phone or via text. He is good looking well groomed intelligent and he loves sharing and pleasuring another mans wife... “

so why don’t we author a message directly to him... “

just be straight, forward and passionate about it. She will follow your lead...

Fingers x’d for you (and me

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By *nwards_And-UpwardsMan
over a year ago

Blackheath

"Only lightly touched on the subject when we have been d*unk and she’s never said no so how do I break the ice . Answers from experience would be ideal"

I bet she will be well chuffed when you show her your 7 month old fab profile

. Was you just testing the waters ..lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You cheating on your wife then... God help her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Discuss it in a similar fashion when you're both sober"

This.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I'd agree, it was probably a discussion you ought to have had prior to creating a single fab profile and meeting people without her. Of course it may be that she knows you are on here, in which case it's pretty straightforward to ask her if she fancies joining you.

Communication and trust are pretty vital in any relationship but I would say are essential for swinging as a couple.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Answers from experience.....

My experience is that being lied to and cheated on by a partner is soul crushing, and swinging is something that only the strongest of relationships can survive due to the trust necessary.

Takes open communication, respect, boundaries and honesty. FULL ON HONESTY

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I don't really know how to reply to this as you've already broken mine & my husbands no1 rule, no secrets as I presuming she has no idea you are on here & have had two meets

I could get over a one night stand as it's just sex, its a thrill & a buzz, but the fact you've spoken to me about swinging, it's something you want us to explore, yet you've gone ahead without me, nope, to me that's the trust broken, we are not starting this adventure together

If this is really something you want to explore with your wife & you think she maybe into, you need to put her first, stop meeting begins her back, my husband and I spent 2 years talking and fantasing about it before anything happened, so patience is key, you need to ge in the same page, you can't be screwing your way through the site before she's even said yes

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Only lightly touched on the subject when we have been d*unk and she’s never said no so how do I break the ice . Answers from experience would be ideal"

That's going to be a fun chat... On top of how you tell her you've cheated.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Answers from experience.....

My experience is that being lied to and cheated on by a partner is soul crushing, and swinging is something that only the strongest of relationships can survive due to the trust necessary.

Takes open communication, respect, boundaries and honesty. FULL ON HONESTY "

Hell yes this is spot on.

In all honesty, when one of the two in a couple, looks into this scene without the others knowledge and it's been for more than a few days, researching something to talk about, you're already crossing a boundary in your relationship IN OUR VIEW.

It's a bit more than getting a surprise present for the others birthday where secrecy is more acceptable to most.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Can't help but laugh at the irony of the OP's username

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

From your profile OP...Been here before and o know how it works here for fun not here to be picky...sure your wife will feel fabulous reading this

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Only lightly touched on the subject when we have been d*unk and she’s never said no so how do I break the ice . Answers from experience would be ideal"

How do you break the ice - you don't. If you can't openly talk about things like this with her then you're not ready to swing with her.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Answers from experience.....

My experience is that being lied to and cheated on by a partner is soul crushing, and swinging is something that only the strongest of relationships can survive due to the trust necessary.

Takes open communication, respect, boundaries and honesty. FULL ON HONESTY

Hell yes this is spot on.

It's a bit more than getting a surprise present for the others birthday where secrecy is more acceptable to most.

Absolutely couldn't agree more

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we talked about it in bed after a few wines

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By *appypaul69Man
over a year ago

vale

Then say to her the next day when sober, I liked what you said last night and it turns me on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very honest conversation is the only way.

Tell your wife how you're feeling and what you're thinking, openly and honestly. You need to also listen to your wife.

Then go forwards from there.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

This gets asked a lot.

In my opinion, if you have to ask strangers how to communicate with your wife, swinging isn't for you.

Couples need to have strong relationships, with great communication for swinging to work.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"This gets asked a lot.

In my opinion, if you have to ask strangers how to communicate with your wife, swinging isn't for you.

Couples need to have strong relationships, with great communication for swinging to work.

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indeed, the insecurity genie isn't one for going back in the bottle easily if you think fucking other people is going to fix any issues you can't raise in day to day exchanges.

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By *leecouple101Couple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

"This gets asked a lot.

In my opinion, if you have to ask strangers how to communicate with your wife, swinging isn't for you.

Couples need to have strong relationships, with great communication for swinging to work.

indeed, the insecurity genie isn't one for going back in the bottle easily if you think fucking other people is going to fix any issues you can't raise in day to day exchanges."

This

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