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curvy and confident or slim and shy.

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By *ohnybro69 OP   Man
over a year ago

bodmin

Which of the two is most attractive to yourself/s personally I love confident ladies .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

likewise in men but muscular....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slim & confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi female. I have to say curvy and confident. Personally I find curly females far more confident in general send I like fuller figured ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do love curves! But confidence is key - note confidence, not arrogance or self-obsession!

And not forgetting the essential sense of humour!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are going to get so many answers on this one.

At a size 10 felt sexy but not sure if the relationship i was in but no confidence in being naked.

At a size 16 with curves i don't care who i undress in front of.

Feel more confident and sexy in my head.

There again it could be my age

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Another fat v thin thread

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Im fat and not overly confident. Im quite shy.

But I am nowhere near as shy/unconfident as I was a couple of years ago.

I do like confident people, but some can get confused between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance just makes me want to run

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"Another fat v thin thread "

Only if you want to make it one

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By *ohnybro69 OP   Man
over a year ago

bodmin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another fat v thin thread "

Thought it was more about confidence vs shy myself?

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By *ohnybro69 OP   Man
over a year ago

bodmin

It's not a fat and thin thing.. I just think sexyness is a frame of mind, people pick up on how u feel about your self. Make a big difference in my opinion.

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France


"Another fat v thin thread

Thought it was more about confidence vs shy myself? "

Oh right so maybe the curvy and slim words in the title were just in my imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i suppose you have to have a certain amount of confidence to be meeting people you dont know very well for sex.

i dont like people who put themselves down all the time, seems like they are taking themselves too seriously.

you dont have to have lots of confidence, just enough and being a bit shy is quite attractive as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well being slim, I still have curves (have to say that as slim people get bad press as well on here!)

However I don't think it matters on size as to whether you are confident or shy.

Neither trait comes from appearance but from inside.

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France


"well i suppose you have to have a certain amount of confidence to be meeting people you dont know very well for sex.

i dont like people who put themselves down all the time, seems like they are taking themselves too seriously.

you dont have to have lots of confidence, just enough and being a bit shy is quite attractive as well."

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Slim & confident "

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"Well being slim, I still have curves (have to say that as slim people get bad press as well on here!)

However I don't think it matters on size as to whether you are confident or shy.

Neither trait comes from appearance but from inside.

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Exactly! I was a size 10/12 and wasnt overly confident and even shyer (is that a word?) Then.

I know ladies bigger than me and they are confident, same as knowing ladies slim who are very unconfident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice people who make me smile ..... if you can do that your half way there. x nice looking people who smell nice and dress well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that are happy in their own skin will shine imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confident and slim. I walk like I own the world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence, sexy, and a good sense of humour is a turn on, size not important - although big boobs is a great bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree lick me often......

For us we can be sat in the swingers club and we are both attracted to the same curvy woman.... BONUS

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Another fat v thin thread "

Yay! we hav'nt had one for ooooh less than 24 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like Gok says... it's all about the confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sometimes confident and have been so at sizes ranging from an 8 -32plus... Sometimes even at the smaller sizes I have felt concious...

We all have bad days.. no matter what... but for me confidence will be sexier every time..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a big girl and have more confidence now than when I was lovely and slim :S

I definately believe that confidence comes with age and also the people around you. My ex never gave out compliments but J is always complimenting me and that has boosted my self confidence hugely.

Sexy is a frame of mind

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Well I am curvy and a quite shy at times....

Been slimmer and bigger over the years and was still shy.

But do seem to get more confident and comfortable with myself the older I get...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone will go for confidance. despite size, theres nothing sexy about someone with low esteam, plus in swinging the hard work you have to put into someone like that just isnt worth the effort when you can just move onto someone else more open and fun from the outset

Not sure what size has to do with it, a confidant person comes down to personality not size, there are many bigger ladies i know who go to clubs who have bags of confidance there are just as many slim ones and visa versa, it seems to happen a lot on here where people try to put a devide between women based on their size and i really dont see the need for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But is it confidence or just a bravado x

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By *exymixedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

london


"People that are happy in their own skin will shine imo."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sometimes confident and have been so at sizes ranging from an 8 -32plus... Sometimes even at the smaller sizes I have felt concious...

We all have bad days.. no matter what... but for me confidence will be sexier every time..

Cali"

i also think that you feel more confidant in certain situations

When i go to club, buy some new sexy undies and walk round having guys looking at me and coming over to talk, it makes you feel on top of the world, it does make you feel good and confidant when some good looking guy who could have gone and spoken to any women in the place chose to come and talk to you, it makes you feel like, well if he was interested in me i can have anyone in here lol

When i meet new guys from private meets where its just me and them i feel like a rabbit cought in someones head light and i'm waiting for them to make their excuse to leave me at any min

i find that different people and situations bring out different confidance levels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do love curves! But confidence is key - note confidence, not arrogance or self-obsession!

And not forgetting the essential sense of humour!! "

confidence mixed with a little insecurity is best

over confidence always makes me think they are either in love with themselves or putting on a front because they are inwardly very insecure about themselves

it's a fine balance, but a balance nonetheless

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I have my head between their legs, I don't care

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

OP you ask the question like there are only two choices. Cant curvy women be shy? Cant slim women be confident?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill

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By *addy and shaunCouple
over a year ago

goole

was 8 size then 10 now 12 im happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can one not be confident and shy all at once!? I think I am both! Maybe a contradiction but it's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

Nooooooooo eat some cream cakes and dump the git you are gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

That's not love, that's cruelty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was 8 size then 10 now 12 im happy "

i have to be honest i feel more confidant now than i did when i was slimmer

i lost 9 stone a few years back and went fron a size 22 ish to a size 10, i felt horrible as a size 10, i have no boobs and very little shape, i am quite tall for a woman so a size 10 on me looked very slim, i have since gone upto a size 14/16 which again because im tall i carry it ok, i feel much more condidant and sexy with that bit of weight back on me, i have boobs again and a femanine shape

Of course im not perfect, because of the weight loss i have loose skin in places but it dont look as bad as it did when i was a size 10 and i think i look better now and to me thats all that matters

Other people have to take me or leave me for who i am

Some people out there will disagree and think a size 10 looks better some wont but we'll never please everyone so why even try

love yourself cause no bugger else will

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Which of the two is most attractive to yourself/s personally I love confident ladies . "

Is that the only permutation?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

well if you know its making you ill stop doing it

You have the control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

then if I were you-the main way I can see to gaining confidence is loosing the however many stone of worthless flesh that's weighing you down...him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim & confident "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

Fat

Being a size 6, waist that is, bigger on top, it is not fat!

Ditch the boyfriend is my advice, no person should make another feel like that, it is emotional abuse.

Don't make yourself ill for anyone....there will be someone 10 times better than him for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

regardless of size i like a gorgeous fem with a shy edge to her. im shy myself though so like strong women aswell

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky. "

That's very true....think that it's often a very fine line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky.

That's very true....think that it's often a very fine line."

i cant stand cocky men in clubs, the ones who think its ok to just come over and start mauling you without so much as a hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which of the two is most attractive to yourself/s personally I love confident ladies . "

I do like shyness in a women its cute. As for Curvy or slim ??? Can I have both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im fat and not overly confident. Im quite shy.

But I am nowhere near as shy/unconfident as I was a couple of years ago.

I do like confident people, but some can get confused between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance just makes me want to run "

+1

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky.

That's very true....think that it's often a very fine line.

i cant stand cocky men in clubs, the ones who think its ok to just come over and start mauling you without so much as a hi "

I don't like cocky men full stop....

Would describe that behaviour as rude and bad mannered more than cocky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you ask the question like there are only two choices. Cant curvy women be shy? Cant slim women be confident?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is very sexy in women but... also a certain playful shyness is appealing... curves are hot... but also a petite women is sexy...

Women basically are hot full stop?? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which of the two is most attractive to yourself/s personally I love confident ladies . "

Quietly confident, those that don't have to shout about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim & confident "

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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Not sure why some people have the impression that slim ladies can't be confident.

Plus if your swinging and posting your pics on a website for everyone to see then you must have some confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which of the two is most attractive to yourself/s personally I love confident ladies .

Quietly confident, those that don't have to shout about it"

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

shy is sexy as long as its not too shy and there is a glimpse of a naughty smile

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By *ojoandpeachCouple
over a year ago

Near thamesmead

Curvy with a smile

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky.

That's very true....think that it's often a very fine line."

Dead on. Luckily I'm sexy, gorgeous and hansom as well as being witty, intelligent and very articulate so it's never an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you are happy with your size and it isn't harmful to your health being that size then it doesn't really matter.

Some women look good with curves, others (like me!) look awful when too big. I run 120-150 miles a week so I'm basically stick thin, I'm about 7 stone wet, but I'm also only 5 foot 2, so if I weighed 14 or 15 stone I'd be a little bowling ball. A 6 foot women would be dangerously underweight if she weighed what I do.

I guess I'm trying to say that your shape has to be in proportion to your build/height.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


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I guess I'm trying to say that your shape has to be in proportion to your build/height."
And both ends of the spectrum and anything in the middle can be sexy - if the person is happy and confident about him/ herself.

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

A confident lady pretending to be a shy one - regardless of shape - I find that quite attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a size 8 and used to feel confident and sexy but I have felt less so as my bf keeps calling me fat do hence I am trying to loose weight and making myself ill "

Forget about loosing weight and loose the boyfriend!

XXXX

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"All the ladies I have played with in clubs have said confidence is a huge attraction in a man.

The tricky bit is being confident without being overbearing or cocky.

That's very true....think that it's often a very fine line.

Dead on. Luckily I'm sexy, gorgeous and hansom as well as being witty, intelligent and very articulate so it's never an issue "

Should have seen that coming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab forum 101: no matter how cringe-worthy a joke may be, at least 10 people will happily dive into it headfirst. Meanwhile another 20 will be furiously digging down to hit a new low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi curvy lady id say curves win hands down....just love a fuller figure lady thats confident im a size 18 and everyone we have played with be it at home or clubs they love the way i am x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its how you carry yourself and how you dress too. I dress for my shape and I do like to leave things to the imagination during the day real tomboy always have been jeans and trainers but walk with my sholders back and my head held high instead of looking at the floor. And when I dress for a night out or a club I love to feel pretty and feminine x

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