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Red flags / signs your partner has lost interest/ or cheating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just thought i'd start this post of what you would see as red flags, or signs your partner isnt interested or is cheating.

By no means does this mean your partner is cheating, just a topic i thought id see peoples views

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For me one of the things would be secretive with there phone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A change in their attachment, that may be subtle but you know something has changed.

Cheating and disconnecting starts with someone having secrets. They start with secret thoughts that aren't shared, potentially doing things that they won't disclose. Some aspects of them become unavailable.

You may smell others on them too.

They may become strangely affectionate or giving, out of guilt etc too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A change in their attachment, that may be subtle but you know something has changed.

Cheating and disconnecting starts with someone having secrets. They start with secret thoughts that aren't shared, potentially doing things that they won't disclose. Some aspects of them become unavailable.

You may smell others on them too.

They may become strangely affectionate or giving, out of guilt etc too"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding your bed warm when you get home is a clear sign!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook. "

Looool

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"For me one of the things would be secretive with there phone."

Are you married?

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By *etefromderbyMan
over a year ago

Derby


"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

Looool"

Omg so true! Bloody hate Facebook

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me one of the things would be secretive with there phone.

Are you married?"

No

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Being accused of things that you've not done or given the other half no reason to think that you had.

I think this is because they have a guilty conscience.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Being accused of things that you've not done or given the other half no reason to think that you had.

I think this is because they have a guilty conscience.

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Projecting. But it can also be because they’ve had problems in the past which they may not be fully over.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Being accused of things that you've not done or given the other half no reason to think that you had.

I think this is because they have a guilty conscience.

"

Projection

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook. "

I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.

Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.

But if your happy why drift?

Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Partner losing interest is something you can easily find out. Just notice how enthusiastic they are, about spending time with you. If they lost interest, they will keep finding excuses to skip anything you have planned. Even when they are with you, they look pretty lost.

Cheating on the other hand is easy/hard to find out depending on how smart/stupid the partner is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.

Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart."

To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.

In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Sex is different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sex is different. "

In what way? No emotion? Or just sexless lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You trying to get advise so not to show the signs to your partner ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You trying to get advise so not to show the signs to your partner ..lol "

Haha

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

You know they’ve lost interest when sex is always instigated by yourself then she says hurry up and get it over with. It doesn’t stay hard for long after that

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"You trying to get advise so not to show the signs to your partner ..lol "

Post a genius thread by no means giving implication to the outcome of answers but taking a good mental note

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.

Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart.

To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.

In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too."

But even with telly there was only one screen. People sat together and watched the same thing. Talking about it as the watched.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

I realised that my ex-wife was having an affair due to the classic oversell mistake.

When people concoct a cover story, they will think of whatever questions they might be asked, and come up with answers to support the lie. Then sometimes when they are trying to sell you that cover story, they will, in one go, volunteer a lot more information than you has actually asked for, as a means of preemptively answering the questions they are anticipating. This tends to come accross as very unnatural, conversationally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.

I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.

Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart.

To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.

In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too.

But even with telly there was only one screen. People sat together and watched the same thing. Talking about it as the watched."

Good point. That's something I did not think about.

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By *olo911Couple
over a year ago

wigan

Normally it’s a change in attitude, either they feel guilty and over compensate, or completely loose interest. An old serial adulter once said if your cheating don’t change if your a wanker at home stay a wanker don’t suddenly become the person you haven’t been all your married life .

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

When their stuff is gone and the keys are lying behind the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating-

Leaving there phone screen facing down if its let out there sight for 2mins

Happier than usual

Taking More selfies

Looking after there appearence more than they usually would.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's obvious when they've lost interest. No more little compliments, not so subtle verbal clues, where once they'd have expressed an opinion there's now only indifference.

Infidelity signs can be harder to articulate but if you know someone (and you take an interest in them) you just know, even if it's not on an intellectual level, subconsciously you know

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