FabSwingers.com forum: Longterm or one offs

By *ex4u4 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.

Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.

We dont like one offs anymore

So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

If long-term is what you want and they aren't even willing to attend a social with no guarantee of sex you've dodged a bullet

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

We would prefer to make friends with couples so it's not one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess those not wanting a social are only after one thing. Personally, I prefer some sort of understanding with whoever I meet so a social is a logical step to see if all involved are comfortable. Play should never be taken as being a certainty (no matter whether its a social or a play meet).

Like you, I would like something more long term and regular. Those relationships take time to develop.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I prefer regular meets with a couple because I think the sex always gets better over time. You find out what they like and don’t like. You also find out why you like and don’t like with them. It’s different things for different people.

I am always happy to have a social first.

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Social all the way.

Regardless of how horny one party is.

Safety and chemistry first!

Plus a social done right just absolutely fuels the fire... Am I right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.

Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.

I love socials.. Most people who contact me just want sex now(not that I mind that either) ... And thats women and couples I talking about.

We dont like one offs anymore

So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better"

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Socials first, and then hopefully regular meets.

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By *ex4u4 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Absolutely

When it has worked, the sex has been amazing and then the wife is happy to play on her own.

We thought we met a nice single guy but then after the 4th meet he went weird. Not sure if his feelings were getting mixed up….anyway the search is on again…

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not compatible with most other people, including for the style of meeting and engagement. It's just about clear communication from all, to filter out those who are unmatched.

I like both, ideally though for regular.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Much prefer regular meets and I blessed to be in that situation at the moment

OP stick to your guns you will find what you are looking for x

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

We prefer more longterm with other couples, you get to have more fun than one off meets but it's just our personal taste....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always preferred long term. It’s nice to build up a relationship and the sex usually gets better and better when you genuinely like and fancy someone.

That’s my perspective anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer regulars too! I’m not one for lots of one offs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If long-term is what you want and they aren't even willing to attend a social with no guarantee of sex you've dodged a bullet

See it as a positive OP. No time wasted. You're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think one offs (or even just a few meets) keeps things spiced, mixes it up abit and defo stops any building of feelings ect.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.

Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.

We dont like one offs anymore

So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better"

Either. Couples are the same though, some lose interest if they think play is not guaranteed. (Probably Male driven profiles though!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I actually prefer one offs. But I have had a small number of FWB that I've had repeat meets with and stayed overnight etc. Xx

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You might take the view too, that all the socials in the world wont make up for poor sex. You'll eventually find a guy you get along with, who ticks all the boxes but fucks like a wooden horse - so the search begins again.

I'm not saying don't have socials, sleep with everyone, don't have standards or change what you're looking for but you see a lot of people looking for that perfect guy (used to be know as 'exceptional') who are then put off because of let downs, fakes, time etc.

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By *ex4u4 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Very true

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By *urrpleasureMan
over a year ago

Spalding

I have met couples socially first many times. Not sure it makes a difference regards for a regular arrangement. I'd jump at a social with what you're looking for. I don't think you've found the right person yet,when you do they will happily do so.

The majority of my long term have started from a drink /chat at home.

I try to talk on the phone prior and suss things out. People's circumstances will make the difference too. Lots of people work shifts too

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