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is it just me or is it impossible to find a meet?

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club, try the social side of things pal.. it’s nerve racking on your own but you usually find the hosts/hostess will look after you

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Message politely to 20 expect 19 not to answer back … then get the runaround for 6 months then get blocked while your on the way to your first meet…

So do I sound bitter…

Long and short of it be Patient, be nice

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"

It is you.

We cannot say more unless you ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be you.

It’s not impossible to find people to meet.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"

I find this very odd that you being a bloke can't get a meet with another bloke...there are hundreds of men on here that get approached by men all the time, even straight guys are approached. So it must be how your interacting

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

im a straight lad lol, have alot off guys trying to contact me but not my thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!

I find this very odd that you being a bloke can't get a meet with another bloke...there are hundreds of men on here that get approached by men all the time, even straight guys are approached. So it must be how your interacting "

I think he is saying ladies dont seem to be interested in him because he is young. Not that he doesnt like girls and is looking for young lad.... Lol. I can totally understand the confusion. Clumsy sentence structure maybe.

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

cheers lol mustve worded it weird, yeah ur spot on with that comment lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly not impossible. You may find that what you get out of the swinging scene is based on effort put in.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your status is off putting. It reads like it’s all about you

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

lol it is my status tho?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women like good grammar and complete sentences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it’s not impossible!

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

You have only been on 5 weeks, these things take time, people won't invest time in you till they know you are sticking around

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"

Afraid you're profile shows exactly how much effort you're prepared to put in. Hence the lack of results.

Also.....have realistic expectations.

(Bry)

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over a year ago

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


""

^-- this guy shows what a profile looks like having had some effort put in to it.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

^-- this guy shows what a profile looks like having had some effort put in to it.

(Bry)"

Thank you!

OP -

You joined 5 weeks ago if you want to meet others put some effort into your profile and get out to clubs and socials. You get out what you put in… yes your age might put some off but it would really help making your profile the best it can be.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Give it time. You joined 5 weeks ago....its not instashag

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"lol it is my status tho? "

But it implies you think this is a dial a shag site which it isn't

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"lol it is my status tho? "

Great profile.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always best to have a bio longer than your profile name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol it is my status tho?

But it implies you think this is a dial a shag site which it isn't "

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's tough for single guys on here and even tougher for ones that make absolutely no effort with their profile.

Your best bet is to go to a club or social event but even then you aren't guaranteed anything.

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

update: took on board aall your advice and updated the profile a little, any help be appreciated and would love a review on it!!

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"lol it is my status tho?

But it implies you think this is a dial a shag site which it isn't

"

Damn. Another one of my business ideas pinched!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

As it has been said try a club and make some connections

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"update: took on board aall your advice and updated the profile a little, any help be appreciated and would love a review on it!!"

Which parts did you take on board?

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

thanks mate, defo need to try that im new to all this

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"thanks mate, defo need to try that im new to all this"

It’s alright we were all newbies at one stage

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Try a social. I don't know what the scene is like round your area. House parties and socials are brilliant, if you get an invite, take it with both hands.

You will do well to remember that this site is more like Linked In, than Screwfix/Dial-a-shag. So think Kinked-in!

Networking IS the only way to meet people on here.

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

thank you mate appreciate that!

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

Are you actually interested in swinging or just having a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but as an older lady being used as some kind of experiment doesn’t appeal! And that’s what I get from your profile.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Like the other wise sages here, look at your nearest clubs, and enquire about Milf\Cougar events. Should be something on at some point. Focus on that...

Just go an have a laugh... and get to know people. Once you have credibility in the real world setting, then people are more open to approaching you here.

All the best

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

As you've asked about your profile:

Your status. Off-putting....the vast majority of single women and couples want to build up some rapport before a meet, and most will want a social. Your status makes it look like you expect sex to be delivered by Deliveroo just because you want it.

Your one verification if from a cam "meet". Most ignore those. Get an actual meet verification, even if it's just gone for a beer with another bloke on Fab.

Age range of 18-99....really? You're either too lazy to change it or so desperate you'll actually shag someone old enough to be your great-granny?

Cannot accommodate....granted, probably because of your age. But a lot will simply disregard you and (probably wrongly) assume you're living with a partner. You shouldn't have to, but maybe explain it in the text.

Profile text is littered with grammar mistakes so unfortunately doesn't give a good first impression. Also, Fab isn't an "app", older women aren't going to sleep with you just to satisfy your curiosity, and no-one is going to message you from your profile - single women and couples generally don't go looking.

Oh...and your one public picture is basically the same, but slightly worse, than your profile pic. Look at the guy further up who we said put some effort in. Look at his pics.

Lastly - nothing to do with your profile, but set expectations realistically. As a couple we get ten offers on a bad day. That's 300 each month. We meet two or three new guys each month, maximum, so only 1% will lead to anything. Take a good look at your opening messages, read people's profiles to see if they're a match, and accept that 99% of your messages will go no-where, and that most guys are happy if they get two meets a year.

(Bry)

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"As you've asked about your profile:

Your status. Off-putting....the vast majority of single women and couples want to build up some rapport before a meet, and most will want a social. Your status makes it look like you expect sex to be delivered by Deliveroo just because you want it.

Your one verification if from a cam "meet". Most ignore those. Get an actual meet verification, even if it's just gone for a beer with another bloke on Fab.

Age range of 18-99....really? You're either too lazy to change it or so desperate you'll actually shag someone old enough to be your great-granny?

Cannot accommodate....granted, probably because of your age. But a lot will simply disregard you and (probably wrongly) assume you're living with a partner. You shouldn't have to, but maybe explain it in the text.

Profile text is littered with grammar mistakes so unfortunately doesn't give a good first impression. Also, Fab isn't an "app", older women aren't going to sleep with you just to satisfy your curiosity, and no-one is going to message you from your profile - single women and couples generally don't go looking.

Oh...and your one public picture is basically the same, but slightly worse, than your profile pic. Look at the guy further up who we said put some effort in. Look at his pics.

Lastly - nothing to do with your profile, but set expectations realistically. As a couple we get ten offers on a bad day. That's 300 each month. We meet two or three new guys each month, maximum, so only 1% will lead to anything. Take a good look at your opening messages, read people's profiles to see if they're a match, and accept that 99% of your messages will go no-where, and that most guys are happy if they get two meets a year.

(Bry)"

Well said

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Nope, its not just you. There are thousands of profiles on here that struggle for meets.

Only the minority have it easy

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

haha fair enough

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"haha fair enough "

If you hit the reply and quote button on a comment, people can see who you are responding too x

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal

thanks lol

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal


"haha fair enough

If you hit the reply and quote button on a comment, people can see who you are responding too x"

2nd time lucky, thanks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks"

Your profile is much better now and it’s refreshing for someone to take heed of the advice being offered.

But bare in mind you are one of thousands of single males on this site so you won’t find it easy at all. As others have said your best bet is to look into the social and club scene.

Good luck x

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By *amesy34ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

donegal


"thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks

Your profile is much better now and it’s refreshing for someone to take heed of the advice being offered.

But bare in mind you are one of thousands of single males on this site so you won’t find it easy at all. As others have said your best bet is to look into the social and club scene.

Good luck x "

thanks! as i said im willing to learn and grow in this scene! we all start somewhere.

thanks for that comment made me smile i appreciate that! glad my profiles on the up, can only get better from here

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Bring something different to the party.

My partner made me some gloves with spikes and claws on them. They were her Xmas pressie to me. This is the magic ice breaker, I've been looking for all this time. Just having them out on a table in a social area, is all the props, that I need. The confidence boost is amazing theirs and mine.

They are getting their own reputation, as I found out last week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"

Have you jumped on the Irish forum.

I was only looking at it myself earlier on today and wishing I lived there....so many beauties about

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Under 25s will always struggle more, most of us have children that kind of age so wouldn't be interested in someone so young.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

You're 22,been on 5 weeks and can't accommodate so unless you're stumping up for hotels all the time then you're going to struggle. Whats wrong with pubs and clubs at your age for meets?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP: one very positive thing that people will see and notice....you've come back to your post and taken advice. The vast majority of guys that ask never acknowledge anyone's help. Shows you're serious

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive improvement

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