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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.

Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day?

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I think communication should be the biggest part before a meet, sounds like you scared him off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think communication should be the biggest part before a meet, sounds like you scared him off "

Haha probably it was meant to be a whole day, which I took off work

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

...

My main expectation is when a meet is agree then actually turning up

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

He probably couldn’t get away from his wife x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"He probably couldn’t get away from his wife x"

Yes, maybe married!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The annoying thing is he couldn't reply to my messages but looked at my profile numerous times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably just a wanker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He probably couldn’t get away from his wife x

Yes, maybe married!"

Third this

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.

Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day? "

We find the more chat people want before an initial social meet, the less likely they are to show up.

It's a few drinks and a chat, why do you need several conversations.

Just one to see the lady exists, agree a pub and time, then show up.

If no show, home and block.

No issues, no drama.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

All rather weird but either married or attached !!!! seems so easy when you type it ...Arrange to meet....then actually meet.. but going by some of the posts and updates it never is quite that simple ??

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"The annoying thing is he couldn't reply to my messages but looked at my profile numerous times."

If that was the case I suppose that yes, he is mwrried and couldn’t get away.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

May be his wife caught him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I like to keep the communication going right up till (and even after) the meeting. Something may come up that may make either party cheaper their mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen this a few times chat going well then near the meet time it goes quiet, we know single men meeting a couple must be a little scary, but would rather them just say this in advance, planning as a couple can take a while to arrange.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I like to chat on the build up to a meet, it’s all part of it for me. I tend to let them lead though as some people are more into the chat than others.

Kx

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

I'd say your assumptions are right.

If I were to hazard a guess, I'd say he was the all mouth no trouser type; confident when it's only words on a screen, nutless when it comes time for action.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Typical of so many guys on here. They say hi then expect to jump into bed straight away then disappear when you don't.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If the conversation were to stop before a meet then no meet would happen. Poor excuse for him to say he was "working" and couldn't reply...what a load of bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married or photo collector. If you are honest at least everyone knows the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just ruins it for the good ones, decent meets are hard to find

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
over a year ago

Northerner

Conversation is a big for me ... in the lead up and after. It’s part of the build up for me and I like to get to know someone. I’ve found that those who engage in that way have become my favourite play friends and those I meet regularly. If conversation goes cold, I won’t meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely couldn't meet without regular communication prior. Would seem a bit odd otherwise.

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By *uyfromthemidlandsMan
over a year ago

derby

Sometimes asking for a videocall or social sooner may help to out fakes, p#ssies or those that are married

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.

Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day? "

I'd say he was a chancer and had no intention of meeting you. And was probably exercising his had as he chatted to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.

Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day?

I'd say he was a chancer and had no intention of meeting you. And was probably exercising his had as he chatted to you. "

He could of saved himself some messages and watched the fab videos

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

100% communication should be a constant if you're meeting. Got to keep the interest there & it's reassuring for someone like me, if I don't hear back my mind thinks they've gone off me or something.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I've stopped chatting with people who can't be bothered to communicate decently let alone leading up to a meet, surely you can't just expect to arrange a meet, put it in the diary and not chat on in the lead up? It's all part of the intensity surely. It doesn't take two minutes to at least send a short message.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"He probably couldn’t get away from his wife x"

This. ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the length of time between starter conversation and the meet, there’s only so much you can talk about, clarify the interest, likes and dislikes and then from there it’s just a case of waiting to see when a meet can click into place?

In your case, it seems he swerved after chat for some reason or other.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The annoying thing is he couldn't reply to my messages but looked at my profile numerous times."

He had a wank and chickened out. Don't feel bad, at least you won't have to meet him.

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By *r_lasciviousMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Communication is really important and 5 days through being busy is a joke.

I sometimes find that I'm really busy with work and don't have time to chat, but I'll always let the other person know I'm going to be slow to reply for a while and why.

I would prefer a social fairly early on as it's just a quick drink, even if just a daytime Costa, but it at least ensures everyone is serious and there's some connection. If it's a long distance then a video call maybe.

It's such a big jump to go from a few messages on fab to meeting and playing unless you're both experienced, I think a lot of people on here are just fantasists. Xx

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