FabSwingers.com forum: Winks v Messages

By *ar0001 OP Man
over a year ago

Bray, Wicklow

Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally don’t respond to winks.

Nor one line messages.

A little effort goes further with us personally.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

When our filters are off, we've never replied to a wink from a guy. We have replied to and met when he's sent a well written message from a profile we like the look of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?"
I just tend to send winks now and only because all the well thought messages and the time spent writing messages,don’t even get a reply!

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I much prefer a nice message from a profile with photos. X

Mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only responses I have had from females/couples have been on the back of a wink.

Its an Ice breaker........find it a tad strange to send a full blown story to a person you have never spoken to before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely, much prefer a message xx

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

We rarely respond to winks, but having said that we have had great meets that started with a wink. We do prefer tonsemdnor receive a message.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?"

Maybe you are....we just bulk delete winks.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I prefer messages but did have a great meet which started with a wink.

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By *razywantingfunWoman
over a year ago

rochdale

I don’t even check winks me lol

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I'm awful at starting a conversation on here, too shy & awkward i think at first. My partner ( V ) isnt on here as often as me so i really need the first message. If i get a wink i just wink back usually

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By *mithyukMan
over a year ago

Penrhyn Bay

North Wales is so bad for people not replying..

I'm not backward in coming forward..

I like to send winks, a nicely worded hello, never one liners and always include a very recent face pic.. But replies are few and far between..

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?"

We always look at winks and check out the profile. If we like the look of them then we'll wink back in the hope that they'll message. They very rarely do.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging is a great way of introducing yourself - but it can be a little frustrating that if like me you always write specifically to that person/couple (not copy n paste), but it gets delated without a simple reply

So I might use winks simply by way of getting attention, if that person likes you, hope they wink back then you can drop them a line

J xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've been here ten years and I've barely glanced at them, let alone responded.

I either search myself or wait for messages as looking though all the winks, friend requests and fabbed photos would take years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks from couple but not singles ...theres too many singles wink to respond to ,plus why shouldnt you put the effort in ..lol

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By *idesWillTurnMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think it’s quite tricky for guys on the site

As it’s hard to breakdown any kind of trust barrier or show that you are genuine

Even if you have written what you would call a nice message.

I think that’s justified as I would imagine there is hundreds of guys sending thousands of shit messages.

I know some of the messages we were getting on our coupes profile from single guys were ludicrous.

Unbelievable

I think that winks from guys are a dime a dozen.

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By *ar0001 OP Man
over a year ago

Bray, Wicklow

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?I just tend to send winks now and only because all the well thought messages and the time spent writing messages,don’t even get a reply!"

That’s my issue too

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We filter out single men, as we are only looking for single females and couples.

If we get a wink, we will always look at the profile and wink back if they tick our boxes. If not we will ignore. The same goes for messages, but one liners or or comments like “ do you want to fuck tonight” get deleted. Well written messages always get a response even if it’s a polite No.

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By *otcplmidsCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Definately messages, with more than one sentence

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I don't even look at winks. Every so often I open the winks tab just so that my fab home screen doesn't look untidy.

If someone won't put the effort in to send a message that is worth reading, then I figure they aren't really that keen to get to know me.

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By *athyperkinsCouple
over a year ago

Lifton

We'll reply to a wink if the profile interests us. T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We generally don’t respond to winks.

Nor one line messages.

A little effort goes further with us personally. "

Same as above for us. Much prefer a message.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

A well worded message goes alot further if you ask us.... as long as it isnt fancy a fuck or free now??

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

I think a wink is a useful ice breaker, if you get a wink back then it’s time for a nice well worded message. I’ve spent ages before now doing a nice friendly message only to get totally ignored. So disheartening.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I rarely even look at winks, but reply to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks.

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?"

Pretty much never for us, we’ve actually done a thread on this before.

We get 100s of winks a week and can’t be arsed to go into every profile to see if we think we are compatible, surely if someone has stumbled across our profile they must have an idea anyway from reading our bio so could just send a message.

Mr C

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We respond to most messages but winks on the otherhand... we only respond if they are compatible with what we are looking for or if we see something that we like or are intrigued by

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

We reply to winks if they are mutual. If men wink at us first we don't even check the name before deleting. We get too many and too many messages from single guys for us to message each one every time.

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Do you ladies and couples ever respond to winks?

I’m not good at the small talk and don’t want to waste my time if someone is not interested.

Am I just a lazy bastard?

Pretty much never for us, we’ve actually done a thread on this before.

Mr C "

I’m in favour of winks but I totally get what you’re saying. But on the other hand if you had 100 messages a week, realistically you couldn’t reply to every one, so a fair number are going to feel pretty down. It’s a no win situation, certainly for the ones who’ve looked at your profile and been attracted by it. Ideally it needs another form of initial interaction somehow but I’ve no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tend to look at winks either as they had something in the eye or cannot be bothered to send a message.

Then again, messages are usually, "Hi", "Is that Mr or Mrs", "I would love to fuck Mrs"

If we get a reply that is not "cut and paste" and we see a lot of them and actually says something we always reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought winks were a polite, non-invasive way of showing interest but after reading this thread maybe I am wrong... if I wink at someone and they wink back then I’ll send a proper message

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I always thought winks were a polite, non-invasive way of showing interest but after reading this thread maybe I am wrong... if I wink at someone and they wink back then I’ll send a proper message

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive responded to a couple of winks

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By *ar0001 OP Man
over a year ago

Bray, Wicklow

People who ignore winks are racist

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Near Okehampton.

Usually just bulk delete winks.

In the past we have returned a wink and that was the last we heard, so don't bother anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to receive a wink. I check out that profile and if I like it I wink back. Then they are free to message me.

I find it easier and cuts down on the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.. I genuinely ignore all winks and friend requests. X

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By *ar0001 OP Man
over a year ago

Bray, Wicklow

"I prefer to receive a wink. I check out that profile and if I like it I wink back. Then they are free to message me.

I find it easier and cuts down on the messages."

Respect. That’s how it should be done ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respond to winks I think winks show your interested

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We generally don't really go for either. In some ways like OP we are not really in to small talk or big talk online. We just like meeting people in the real world. So we rarely respond to winks. On the rare occasion we do, we will just wink back and put it in their court again. 9 out of 10 times that the end of it because they never seem to hit us back up with a message. On occasion we do see a good message and open a conversation. Or when a good message really takes us but we're not intrested we will get back and say great message, no thanks and good luck. But a lot of messages we don't get back to. Although sometimes we do it just takes long to respond as we like to do them when we are together.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I've never looked at my winks

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By *ldaCouple
over a year ago

sutton Coldfield

We like winks, both giving and receiving. It’s a bit like shorthand for ‘Hi, we like your profile, check us out. If you like, get back’ . We always check and if we do like, we’ll wink back, then expect a message. Same in reverse

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'll respond to a wink, then wonder why I bothered when I get the obligatory 'hey' or 'how are you' in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We check all our winks and respond to those that tickle our fancies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a wink as feels less rude ignoring that when I’m not interested

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