FabSwingers.com forum: Do's and don't for a first message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are the do's and don'ts for receiving first messages for you all? Obviously replying and making it clear the profile has been read is always important to me. Do you look for more of a long winded almost advertisement of the user, or more of an open ended question.

Do you like small talk or prefer blunt and straightforward organising?

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

As a couple we like face pictures with first message..ours arw there for everyone to see. We hate being sent dick/ass pics...especially ass...if we want to see your dick we will see your profile or ask. But we like someone to make an effort with a message and to tell us a bit obout them and experience they have had being bi, that will get our attention as they are obv making an effort with us. One liners or hey..or how are you..wanna fuck...just get laughed at and deleted. But everyone is diffrent

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Read people's profiles before sending a message. Those who are genuine will have taken time to write a bit about them. It boils my piss answering questions that are already answered in our profile.

Don't send dick pics, face pic is always good with first message. We generally don't respond to "hey" or "what you doing" or "wanna meet" we like a bit about the person and why they've chosen to message.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Be nice. Attach a face pic. Introduce yourself. Make sure your profile sells you. Delete sent message.

Don't send dick pics unless requested.

The rest is common sense, especially if you understand that this is swinging, not free wet holes.com.

Best of luck.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Do not be as forward to say things like.......

Fuck now?

Are you a bloke?

Meet now!

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Don't send a message you've sent to everyone else..

Don't be rude

Face pice is always a nice introduction

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Read the profile.

Don't send a facepic as you won't be getting one in return.

Don't ask for my phone number.

Don't give instructions.

Don't ask to meet.

All of the above proves you didn't read the profile.

And just as importantly there's no point putting all the effort into the first message if you aren't prepared to do likewise in subsequent messages.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We don't need or expect anything special in a first message. They should already have a bit about themselves on their own profile. Once two-way attraction had been established, the subsequent messages are far more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you like small talk or prefer blunt and straightforward organising?"

Organising what? A meet?

If so, absolutely not! That's very presumptuous.

Be yourself. Be friendly, make conversation. No text speak. Share a little about yourself but not your lifestory. Make sure you've read the profile and maybe refer to something you've read there.

When someones made the effort, it shows.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"Be nice. Attach a face pic. Introduce yourself. Make sure your profile sells you. Delete sent message.

Don't send dick pics unless requested.

The rest is common sense, especially if you understand that this is swinging, not free wet holes.com.

Best of luck.

Just out of curiosity, why “delete sent message”?

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

You can always tell who's bothered to read your profile can't you?

For a first message it depends on how much is in your profile, if you've got a decent selection of pics but no face pic that's a good place to start, if your bio is lacking then we like to know a bit about you, show you've read what we are looking for and go from there.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Be nice. Attach a face pic. Introduce yourself. Make sure your profile sells you. Delete sent message.

Don't send dick pics unless requested.

The rest is common sense, especially if you understand that this is swinging, not free wet holes.com.

Best of luck.

Just out of curiosity, why “delete sent message”?"

Always a good idea because then you don't have to concern yourself checking every 5 mins to see if it has been read or not. Send, delete and forget.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Be nice. Attach a face pic. Introduce yourself. Make sure your profile sells you. Delete sent message.

Don't send dick pics unless requested.

The rest is common sense, especially if you understand that this is swinging, not free wet holes.com.

Best of luck.

Just out of curiosity, why “delete sent message”?

Always a good idea because then you don't have to concern yourself checking every 5 mins to see if it has been read or not. Send, delete and forget. "

He's got it.

Unread/read/not deleted sent messages send some men bonkers if the threads here are anything to go by and they bring out the worst in them.

Just send the message, if you get a reply, bonus.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"Be nice. Attach a face pic. Introduce yourself. Make sure your profile sells you. Delete sent message.

Don't send dick pics unless requested.

The rest is common sense, especially if you understand that this is swinging, not free wet holes.com.

Best of luck.

Just out of curiosity, why “delete sent message”?

Always a good idea because then you don't have to concern yourself checking every 5 mins to see if it has been read or not. Send, delete and forget.

He's got it.

Unread/read/not deleted sent messages send some men bonkers if the threads here are anything to go by and they bring out the worst in them.

Just send the message, if you get a reply, bonus."

Makes sense now that you say it. Thanks.

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