FabSwingers.com forum: Why bother sending a wink ?

By *ilf and old fart OP Couple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

Like many others on here, we receive a number of winks. The irritating part is that at times the person who has sent the wink has hidden their profile. So that beggars the question, why bother sending a wink if you have hidden your profile. Nothing is going to happen other than wasting their own and our time. Surely they have realised that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed. I don’t see the point in it.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Especially when a nod’s as good as a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Especially when a nod’s as good as a wink."

To a blind horse

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We try and drop a note to any couple who wink. Can't keep up with the single guys.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Which begs the question…does a blind horse not get enough carrots?

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By *ickingdelightMan
over a year ago

Cotswolds

I quite like winking as a ‘I like your profile and you/them, but no interest in messaging due to distance or what they seek etc’

Or a ‘break ice, not sure if I’m what you seek but wink and they can message, or most likely I may follow with a message’

No right or wrong way, it’s a wink…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink to see if i get any back and then ill chat, (after fabing their pictures)

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We love a wank, ow sorry mite have miss read that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think that sometimes a person winks at you and if you don’t respond in a nano second then they assume you’re obviously “up your own arse” and block you.

Then you get the hidden profile message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just bulk delete daily ...job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like a wink to start as if we don't hear anything back then we know there is no interest and not to bother wasting time writing messages. For someone to send a wink who has no profile! Well that is plain stupid!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Dam my dyslexia! I read the title as: why brother sending a wink?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Winks on fab is one of the pointless things they have in my opinion,

I don't send them and I've never replied to them, You fab a pic because you like it sometimes that can be a conversation starter or just send a message

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

We like winks but we are a million miles from anyone so I doubt the blind horse would even find us. Absolutely love that the myth about carrots helping you see in the dark was spread by the Uk government to hide the existence of radar. Anyway very happy here and thanks for an interesting thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely! A complete waste of time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread title should be "why bother winking whilst hidden", yes indeed winks don't show up when you get winked at by a hidden profile.

This happened to me once, got an email notification for it, but didn't realise she was hidden. Got the cold shoulder when she unhid her profile a few months later as though I deliberately blanked her.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

It doesn’t bother me at all personally! I just take it as a compliment and move on, no biggy in the grand scheme of things in the world of fab

Miss pc

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"We try and drop a note to any couple who wink. Can't keep up with the single guys. "

Dont really see the point in sending them a pm after a wink.

Cant see why they cant send a pm and see where it goes from there, than expect a reply from a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thing about winks if it's sent by someone with filters it let's you answer them.

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By *wing66Couple
over a year ago

Burton-upon-trent

"Agreed. I don’t see the point in it.

Oops sorry we sent you a wink, those nipples were just too irresistible.

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By *unkerbobMan
over a year ago

belfast

must be F-all on the TV if this is all that bothers you tonight!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks can work very well.

Profile 1 sees someone they like the look of, maybe they're not quite sure they fully fit the criteria of profile 2.

Profile 2 takes a look at profile 1, likes it and therefore winks back, giving profile 1 the go ahead to message.

Over the years and profile changes, we've had a few great meets that started with a wink.

I agree though, sometimes I've no idea what they hope might attract us, either profile is hidden or no pictures or bio.

I just ignore those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like many others on here, we receive a number of winks. The irritating part is that at times the person who has sent the wink has hidden their profile. So that beggars the question, why bother sending a wink if you have hidden your profile. Nothing is going to happen other than wasting their own and our time. Surely they have realised that "

I’d block winks if I could. If you’re that interested say hello! Worst that can happen is you’ll still get ignored lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped deleting them as then they can't wink me again. If someone winks that catches my eye, then I'll send one back. That's about as far as I take it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Even weirder when they message! Instablock.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I don't get it either, surely sending a wink is in hope of the recipient having a peek at your profile so why hide it when you just might get a return wink which in turn is as I see it an invite to drop a message.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It's just innocent fun and who knows where it leads,just enjoy it Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a wink

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

If a profile asks you not to wink, don't, even if you think it's harmless. Just shows us you DGAF or haven't read the profile...which is why we state it. Wink, block, the end

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne

Don't mind wink away

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I send a wink, as a time saving measure.

It saves you the time and energy of reading a message, it also saves me time and energy of writing a message to be deleted by someone who hasn't read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t mind a wink but we do wonder what’s the point of someone 200 miles away sending us one.

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By *iseekingbiCouple
over a year ago

N ireland and West Midlands

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By *iseekingbiCouple
over a year ago

N ireland and West Midlands

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By *weety-onlyCouple
over a year ago

Preston

we use the wink to show we are interested in the profile and that then give them the choice whether to wink back,message or just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, there some negativity over something so trivial. If you don’t like winks, don’t click on the ‘who’s winked at you button’. Boom, there you go, no time wasted, and a microbe of angst gone from your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey, there some negativity over something so trivial. If you don’t like winks, don’t click on the ‘who’s winked at you button’. Boom, there you go, no time wasted, and a microbe of angst gone from your life.

I know, right.

To me or feels those threatening to block anyone that winks, it's very controlling in my opinion.

There are several ways to communicate here, what suits one may not suit another, but jeez, to block because another uses an aspect of this site.

Wow, lighten up.

Ignore the winks section, there may be people in there you could possibly get along with very well, they may decide a wink wasn't enough and go on to message, leading to lots of joy.

But blocking them because they chose to use a part of this site that you prefer not to do, that's stealing your own joy placing such negativity upon a site based around fun and enjoyment.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Sent quite a few this morning, lovely lazy no work Thursday Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, right.

To me or feels those threatening to block anyone that winks, it's very controlling in my opinion.

There are several ways to communicate here, what suits one may not suit another, but jeez, to block because another uses an aspect of this site.

Wow, lighten up.

Ignore the winks section, there may be people in there you could possibly get along with very well, they may decide a wink wasn't enough and go on to message, leading to lots of joy.

But blocking them because they chose to use a part of this site that you prefer not to do, that's stealing your own joy placing such negativity upon a site based around fun and enjoyment."

I didn’t say block anyone that winks - I would block the wink function as I don’t find useful.

I’ve got plenty of joy from fab - thanks though!

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By *ilf3423Man
over a year ago

Beds

I tend to wink, but I have my face on my profile so people can make a judgment quickly.

If people wink back (they do occasionally

) them I follow up with a message to say thanks and introduce myself.

Seems crazy that people with no profile photo would wink

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

We very rarely respond to winks usually off men 200 miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send more and more winks these days, yes its a bit lazy but its more about breaking the ice plus my sanity has improved because there is nothing more frustrating than seeing a well thoughtout message being not being read or deleted, a wink shields you from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably count on one hand the winks I've sent in the couple of years on this account. The closest I can compare is a smile across a dance floor. Something about their profile I liked I guess. A little complimentary too.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Its a feature I don't use

You can turn off fab for pictures , visibility on profile views and there maybe other features you can turn off, message filters apply to various things, might be worth admin giving an option to turn off the wink feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send more and more winks these days, yes its a bit lazy but its more about breaking the ice plus my sanity has improved because there is nothing more frustrating than seeing a well thoughtout message being not being read or deleted, a wink shields you from that

Have you thought about trying a club or a local social, Paul? I know they might not for everyone but I tried one for the first time last month, and I really enjoyed it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once met a guy after a wink

Because when I followed the wink (link?) I got to a great profile with great pics. He was just my type. He winked me to draw attention to his profile and it worked. He knew what he was doing and in this case the wink feature works very well?

That was literally the only time. Because, yes, soooooo many winks come from crappy blank or hidden profiles, and it is so absolutely pointless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s it, you’re all getting a wink from me.

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By *ovetoedgeMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Especially when a nod’s as good as a wink.

To a blind horse "

In a dark field.

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By *BW TV JadaTV/TS
over a year ago

North West

Yeah, winks from bidden profiles or profiles without pics us utterly pointless.Also, a message without attaching a pic in those cases is also pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about trying a club or a local social, Paul? I know they might not for everyone but I tried one for the first time last month, and I really enjoyed it! "

Hi Queen.. yes I have thinking about a club/social, just plunking up the courage to go, although I have been to a club many years back but strangely I'm more nervous now about going than when I was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about trying a club or a local social, Paul? I know they might not for everyone but I tried one for the first time last month, and I really enjoyed it!

Completely get that! I wonder if you have any non fab friends who are feeling like trying something new and just treat it as a night down the pub! Good luck and have fun! You might find winks successful but, a nerve wracking social may be much more enjoyable and quite a buzz!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good wink and a good chat is all part of the fun aswell as a fun meet even if sometimes it's a social xxx

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Winks are like a good old fashioned glance & smile at someone you like in a bar.

Agreed pretty pointless if it's from a hidden profile though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, right.

To me or feels those threatening to block anyone that winks, it's very controlling in my opinion.

There are several ways to communicate here, what suits one may not suit another, but jeez, to block because another uses an aspect of this site.

Wow, lighten up.

Ignore the winks section, there may be people in there you could possibly get along with very well, they may decide a wink wasn't enough and go on to message, leading to lots of joy.

But blocking them because they chose to use a part of this site that you prefer not to do, that's stealing your own joy placing such negativity upon a site based around fun and enjoyment.

I didn’t say block anyone that winks - I would block the wink function as I don’t find useful.

I’ve got plenty of joy from fab - thanks though!"

I didn't name you, that was your own conclusion.

I'm happy for you that you're finding joy through fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, right.

To me or feels those threatening to block anyone that winks, it's very controlling in my opinion.

There are several ways to communicate here, what suits one may not suit another, but jeez, to block because another uses an aspect of this site.

Wow, lighten up.

Ignore the winks section, there may be people in there you could possibly get along with very well, they may decide a wink wasn't enough and go on to message, leading to lots of joy.

But blocking them because they chose to use a part of this site that you prefer not to do, that's stealing your own joy placing such negativity upon a site based around fun and enjoyment.

I didn’t say block anyone that winks - I would block the wink function as I don’t find useful.

I’ve got plenty of joy from fab - thanks though!

I didn't name you, that was your own conclusion.

I'm happy for you that you're finding joy through fab"

Thank you

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