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"Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " Yes it is best to do these things. But also can't really comment on the content of your messages... LvM | |||
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"Errr no, we welcone messages from single guys. There are way too many on here for us to go looking. " That is a refreshing change from most couples attitudes. When we had a couples profile both on here and previously via Contact magazines ( yes, we have been playing for quite a while) we were swamped.... Now, playing solo, I take the OP's stance and let couples seek me out: no wasting time & they know what they want! | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " | |||
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"I got a message back once." That could be because you have no pics on your profile? | |||
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"If you don't try you'll never know. If you're respectful and honest them why not message first. Of they reply with a no thanks then so be it. If you do not get a reply do not persist" I get a few replies, it does get me down, when I do click with someone they too far away | |||
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"I got a message back once. That could be because you have no pics on your profile?" Yeah, that's my master plan. It's really good. Then I impress them with my skills at mouse trap and it's a done deal. I'm sure i'll survive | |||
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"I got a message back once. That could be because you have no pics on your profile?" I've gone 3 years without receiving a single message on fab, I have ample pictures on my profile. | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " Whilst it's good to have a decent profile and bio that's only part of the task. Rest is your own approach to connect and grab another's attention whom may view your profile and take matters further but if you to sit and wait.what are you waiting for exactly because they could be also be waiting and that becomes a missed opportunity | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " I only message very occasionally and only then in response to a forum comment. Other times, I wait to be invited. As you point out, there's not much point in doing much else, given that women are drowning in a sea of messages. M | |||
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"Yes they should but having actually read and digested the profiles of those they're contacting. It's not much to ask." Totally agree with this! | |||
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"If you're a genuine straight Caucasian bloke like myself, you have to message without a shadow of a doubt, most of the time you are pissing into the wind. Unless you are bi a TV/ts or you're name is big Leroy, unequivocally you have to message first. Unfortunately it's almost a crime to be a straight white gentleman on fab, over 6 years this has been my personal experience. " This would almost be subject to derision if it was not sad that I almost got my violin out. The truth is Fab is tough for everyone including single males of whatever colour, or sexual persuasion. | |||
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"As a couple who welcome messages from single guys, absolutely you should. A few tips for what we look for though in a message, 1. Read our profile and show you have. 2. Address us both not just S as most of the time for us it’s M that will reply. 3. Keep it light, you wouldn’t introduce yourself normally with ‘I’d love to fuck your misses’ 4. Don’t expect a reply straight away as we don’t live on here And finally if we say thank you for messaging but your not what we are looking for, don’t take it personally, it’s not we just know what we want. No reply or a simple thanks and good day will do. Good luck x " Very helpful and well presented so it’s easy to understand. May everything in your inbox be this well written | |||
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"As a couple who welcome messages from single guys, absolutely you should. A few tips for what we look for though in a message, 1. Read our profile and show you have. 2. Address us both not just S as most of the time for us it’s M that will reply. 3. Keep it light, you wouldn’t introduce yourself normally with ‘I’d love to fuck your misses’ 4. Don’t expect a reply straight away as we don’t live on here And finally if we say thank you for messaging but your not what we are looking for, don’t take it personally, it’s not we just know what we want. No reply or a simple thanks and good day will do. Good luck x " Thanks you! And yes this is what I do, and I take the rejection on the chin, I understand couples and single women get LOADS of messages. Only thing I don’t like is rude people and time wasters, thought I’d see if there was another way of going about things on here. Thanks for the advice, enjoy your night! | |||
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"Yes they should but having actually read and digested the profiles of those they're contacting. It's not much to ask." I think a lot of guys do this, but we can’t even get a kind “no thank you” back. Maybe that’s too much to ask considering how many messages you get? I don’t know, just seeing if there’s a better way to go about things. | |||
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"I got a message back once." Hahhaa I hope this was meant as a joke! | |||
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"Errr no, we welcone messages from single guys. There are way too many on here for us to go looking. " You say the sweetest things. Lol | |||
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"I got a message back once. That could be because you have no pics on your profile?" Hmmm I doubt it. | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. I only message very occasionally and only then in response to a forum comment. Other times, I wait to be invited. As you point out, there's not much point in doing much else, given that women are drowning in a sea of messages. M " If you’ve came to the same conclusion I’d say I’m pretty fucked hahah. | |||
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"Definitely more to do with your profile and not because you a straight or white!" What? | |||
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"Better pics would be a start, multiple dick picks and action shots of unprotected sex are massively off putting. Your bio also comes over as quite immature." Immature? Because I say what I like? And what I want? Would you like me to supplicate like a child? “Please miss may I have some?” | |||
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"That was in reply to the poor oppressed man claiming that it's a crime to be white and straight in fab " Ahhh, try quote in response. | |||
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"I don't message but that's personal choice. I don't have the time or inclination to chat to lots of people and prefer to keep my circle small. I've made the effort with my profile and it's up to others to decide how well crafted it is or not. I let people make their own decisions based on what they see and read on there coupled with my forum interaction and as a result I've had messages from women who claim they have never sent a first message to a man before but felt comfortable doing so because of all of the above. That works for me. It may not for anyone else." Good to know. | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " I’d definitely suggest messaging. The ratio of guys to women and couples is huge; unless you can put on an Adonis-esque gallery, sitting back and waiting will most likely leave you waiting a long time. Sending messages can work in your favour in finding out who you gel with and who you don’t. | |||
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"As a couple who welcome messages from single guys, absolutely you should. A few tips for what we look for though in a message, 1. Read our profile and show you have. 2. Address us both not just S as most of the time for us it’s M that will reply. 3. Keep it light, you wouldn’t introduce yourself normally with ‘I’d love to fuck your misses’ 4. Don’t expect a reply straight away as we don’t live on here And finally if we say thank you for messaging but your not what we are looking for, don’t take it personally, it’s not we just know what we want. No reply or a simple thanks and good day will do. Good luck x " Couldn't have put it any better. Happy to chat with anyone but don't particularly need to hear what you'd do to her or to be expected to tell you what she'd do with 'this'. We don't necessarily expect anyone to pass a test about the content of our profile but as an example: don't ask if she does bare when it clearly says safe sex only or get arsey when we reiterate we don't meet smokers, as it shows this also. | |||
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"Yes they should but having actually read and digested the profiles of those they're contacting. It's not much to ask." This, message if they've read and meet the profiles preferences. | |||
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"As a couple who welcome messages from single guys, absolutely you should. A few tips for what we look for though in a message, 1. Read our profile and show you have. 2. Address us both not just S as most of the time for us it’s M that will reply. 3. Keep it light, you wouldn’t introduce yourself normally with ‘I’d love to fuck your misses’ 4. Don’t expect a reply straight away as we don’t live on here And finally if we say thank you for messaging but your not what we are looking for, don’t take it personally, it’s not we just know what we want. No reply or a simple thanks and good day will do. Good luck x " Exactly this! | |||
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"It seems almost pointless, any other lads think this? Seems best to wait and see if you get a message, wink or a fab on a photo from someone, then message, but even that can be fruitless. Starting to think if it’s best to just take some good pics, write a well crafted profile and see if you get any messages. " To be honest OP don't take it personal, it's not just you, and it's not just single men. On a recent weekend away we sent around 20 messages. Three are still unread four weeks later. Most have been deleted without reply, one replied to say no thanks and two others said they had alternative plans. SandM25 has given some great advice that will probably be agreed by most couples or single women. But the best advice we can give is for you to use the site in whatever suits you best, but keep your expectations low. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then c'est la vie. Good luck | |||
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"Better pics would be a start, multiple dick picks and action shots of unprotected sex are massively off putting. Your bio also comes over as quite immature. Immature? Because I say what I like? And what I want? Would you like me to supplicate like a child? “Please miss may I have some?” " And there's the petulant attitude, explains alot. You asked for advice, you could just address the issues. You might have more success | |||
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"Yes they should but having actually read and digested the profiles of those they're contacting. It's not much to ask." This- for the love of god please read the profiie first! | |||
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"Better pics would be a start, multiple dick picks and action shots of unprotected sex are massively off putting. Your bio also comes over as quite immature. Immature? Because I say what I like? And what I want? Would you like me to supplicate like a child? “Please miss may I have some?” And there's the petulant attitude, explains alot. You asked for advice, you could just address the issues. You might have more success " That’s the thing though, there is no issue. I think you just don’t like men being men, saying what they want. You’re confusing being petulant with being confident. | |||
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"You could block men from sending messages, that would scrap the first paragraph." I did, but guys in couples still do it. | |||
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