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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey fab people

So I'm gonna dump this into here.

I've been single now around 3 and half years, and I'm autistic (high functioning) also known as asperges. It's getting to a point now where I'm starting to miss even the daft company that you get with a woman where you cuddle on a couch ect, as someone with a high sex drive it has also driven me crazy at times that I have not been able to be intimate with a woman.

This can mean that I'm not allways the best as being able to socialise and get the social cue's

Have been on off trying fab for couple of years and struggling to find people to meet (I get I'm not allways people's cup of tea) but even social I am struggling to find people to initiate conversations with,

I would love if someone would be able to help me through the social issues and maybe help me also if I manage to get a conversation flowing,

I used to attend club with x but if I go by myself I find it extremely difficult to engage with new people and get any sort of conversation going and last time just ended with me sitting in a corner having a drink because I couldn't engage with people.

Just a general dump and hi and requesting the social help I suppose

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

"Hey fab people

So I'm gonna dump this into here.

This can mean that I'm not allways the best as being able to socialise and get the social cue's

I would love if someone would be able to help me through the social issues and maybe help me also if I manage to get a conversation flowing,

Just a general dump and hi and requesting the social help I suppose"

I get this completely fella, I have never been diagnosed as on the spectrum and fell mine is probably linked more to my anxiety and depression but have the exact same issues with initiating conversations and or picking up on social ques, once when at a club it took both my ex and her friend to point out to me that the woman I had spent 20 minutes talking to was actually hitting on me and wanted to play

and since being single I havent managed to even get to a club let alone manage to start a conversation with anyone most of the time I think about sending a message and then end up spending so long thinking what I should type I just give up.

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

You’re describing me.

Try and find your norm friends. See if they would be interested in attending a club with you. It’s how I started and suddenly I was a lot more comfortable in a social environment. Turns out the key was not wearing any clothes.

Even got kicked out at end of play, that never happens to me, I’m usually bored after an hour.

So now I am peoples gateway to debauchery. They trust me implicitly as I never lie and never judge. And they know I can be gay best friend, they know full well I’m it gay it’s the trust and comfort they have with me.

Well I’m very judgey but it doesn’t stop me doing anything or supporting peoples dreams.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks,

I don't exactly have a friends group or anything like that, especially ones that I think would be comfortable going to a club ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a general dump and hi and requesting the social help I suppose

I don't particularly have trouble sending messages but they tend to be maybe more casual / friendly rather than outright flirtatious,

sorta lost my touch aswell last time I had to try and impress was back when I was 20 I'm now 30

I don't tend to get replies which as a say may be down to just not being what people are looking for, is a bit tougher to take when your asking just for social and conversations.

Allmost need a wingman/woman just to help with all the "normi" stuff ??

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Thanks,

I don't exactly have a friends group or anything like that, especially ones that I think would be comfortable going to a club ?? "

You may be surprised. One advantage is you can get away with asking such things complete randomly. Well with my friends at least. Like ‘hey I’m checking out X club, would you like to come with, see how it works?’

Don’t ask someone’s gf though. Keep it to singles to save awkwardness and ostracisation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Of course wouldn't ask someone's partner think that would definitely stir some shit up,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, I'm actually an ADHD and Autism advocate and run online sessions to help folks like us.

Yes, I have ADHD and Autism.

If you'd like to know more private message me.

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Hey, I'm actually an ADHD and Autism advocate and run online sessions to help folks like us.

Yes, I have ADHD and Autism.

If you'd like to know more private message me. "

That’s really good of you.

Most of my headspace is used to control filters, reduce word flow and ‘enthusiasm’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could some of you meet up and go together? Guys can go to clubs as mates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Non of us seem local to each other

I'm north east - about 40 min drive south of Durham & Newcastle

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