FabSwingers.com forum: Couples rules and boundaries

By *onorary-Unicorn OP Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

I know every couple have their own set of rules when it comes to swinging and playing with others. Some have pretty much complete freedom, while others may only meet women or have restrictions on kissing.

I’m interested to hear and learn what works for you when it comes to rules and boundaries.

We have only recently started doing this together, though I have previous experience.

I don’t think we have many rules but here they are.

1) complete honest and open communication. If one of us wants to do something, we can say without judgement from the other and if we don’t like or want to do something, we should also be able to say so. No secrets. For this reason, we don’t give out our personal numbers and like to keep communication on the site where we both have access to it.

2) H is free to meet solo but if she does so, it is filmed for me to watch when she gets home. Even though she meets solo, we are a couple and I still want to get enjoyment from the meet.

3) We keep it sexual. We can meet to play but we don’t go on dates or meet socially. The sex aspect of relationship may be open but the emotional and romantic side is still exclusive between us.

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By *indictiveMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

They are some great rules, very much similar to ours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our rules are simple we both agree or do not do...

in 28 years of doing this and indeed from the day we met we've always been open and honest with each other we talk talk talk and still .. do our love is untouchable so even if others try to break that the wont or indeed cant ...and we trust each other 200% ... its why it works we want whats best for each other ...long may the fun continue ..

oh we are not ones for dates n stuff its all about the sex and having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have rules and boundaries which are mutually agreed upon. There is no imposing boundaries on one another, choice and consensual.

We have agreed them between ourselves and it is we who stick to them, because that is what we both want. Many try and push boundaries and break them but, we are firm in our resolve

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss our casual partners passionately on the mouth, we don't meet alone and if one of us says no we don't do it.

I have boundaries personal to me such as I don't like receiving oral and a couple of others.

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

"We don't kiss our casual partners passionately on the mouth, we don't meet alone and if one of us says no we don't do it.

I have boundaries personal to me such as I don't like receiving oral and a couple of others.

Can I ask why the no kissing rule?

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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

We started out our journey with lots of rules and boundary’s however over time our preferences and desires have changed and developed hugely.

We don’t really have these now but we communicate really well about what we each like and don’t like and we only play if both are happy. We have found the most important thing is to take each situation as it comes and they must feel natural not forced.

Even in the midst of play if anything changes or feels wrong to one, just one look or word and the other now recognises this and we move away no questions asked

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We started with a fair few and we are in most cases (not always) soft swing. But we found that it tends to be more fluid and different every time. So as long as we're reading each other well and are happy with things it goes where it goes. Having said that we have two hard rules:

First: the use condom when having penetrative sex with someone else.

Second: if someone accidentally kills a playmate it's their responsibility to silence any witnesses and bury the body/ies (although despite the rule we're a team so we'd probably held each other dig and carry)

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By *incskinksCouple
over a year ago

lincoln

(Mrs) Our boundaries are growing and changing as we try more but at the moment it’s

Let each other know you are safe and happy if out on a meet alone.

Then it’s not a rule but generally if on a meet alone we take pics and vids to tease each other with.

We enjoy chatting about our meets and the reclaiming sex after, plus we have some different likes and kinks so enjoy each other finding that satisfaction else where too.

If we are together then we have no hard and fast rules, we don’t do cuck meets as we enjoy everyone being involved and then it’s just general personal limits.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't kiss our casual partners passionately on the mouth, we don't meet alone and if one of us says no we don't do it.

I have boundaries personal to me such as I don't like receiving oral and a couple of others.

Can I ask why the no kissing rule? "

yes you may.

We only enjoy kissing people we love

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

No means no, not happy then stop/call a time out. Applies to either of us.

Safe penetrative sex only.

Don't take one for the team.

Mrs has had permission in the past to play/meet alone as long as Mr knows where she's going, with who and roughly how long. (For safety) The rest of the details are up to her as to whether she shares etc.

If we entertain at home, we never entertain with the kids in the house, socially or otherwise.

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

We enjoy chatting about our meets and the reclaiming sex after, plus we have some different likes and kinks so enjoy each other finding that satisfaction else where too. "

Reclaiming sex! That’s not a term I’ve heard before but it’s very apt and I love it. I definitely really enjoy reclaiming H when she comes back from a meet.

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

"Can I ask why the no kissing rule?

yes you may.

We only enjoy kissing people we love

I guess that’s a pretty similar rule to our no dating, keeping everything just sexual rule. I have no issue with H going to meet someone to have her brains fucked out but wouldn’t like it if she cuddles up to him watching a movie as that’s something I feel is something for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years ours have changed.

We never use to kiss on meets - we do now.

We never use to meet alone, we both have as long as we are open and honest.

Our main rule is no hiding secrets, being open and honest etc. If one says no its no.

Mrs x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Can I ask why the no kissing rule?

yes you may.

We only enjoy kissing people we love

yes, everyone has different levels and definitions of what intimacy means to them and differing needs for intimacy.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We have a few,

No one takes one for the team.

Condom used with other partners at all times.

Always play together.

Always have a social first, this has saved us from what would be some very awkward meets had we gone straight into fun.

Lily

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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Paisley

Honesty and communication.

Always play safe.

We share our bodies but our hearts belong to each other alone.

We keep it simple but it works for us.

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

We share our bodies but our hearts belong to each other alone. "

I like that.

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By *incskinksCouple
over a year ago

lincoln

We enjoy chatting about our meets and the reclaiming sex after, plus we have some different likes and kinks so enjoy each other finding that satisfaction else where too.

Reclaiming sex! That’s not a term I’ve heard before but it’s very apt and I love it. I definitely really enjoy reclaiming H when she comes back from a meet. "

Haha couldn’t think of a better way to name it lol. My hubby does too. Great fun isn’t it

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