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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

If you're in a fairly new romantic relationship, the staight guy suggest a FMM threesome. How would you go about this sensibly and safely so noone gets emotionally hurt?

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

As ever, lots of communication and discussion before.

It sounds like you're more experienced than him, so maybe start off with something more focused around him than a MMF?

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

If it’s about pleasuring you, not sure why it could be an issue unless you are unsure about something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're in a fairly new romantic relationship, the staight guy suggest a FMM threesome. How would you go about this sensibly and safely so noone gets emotionally hurt?"

Think you are a a difficult stage, ask yourself the question, who and how likely to get emotionally hurt? if the straight guy is the one you are in a relationship and he is the one suggesting it then are you ok with it.

If you are worried about getting emotionally attached to the third party, if he is looking for a cuck relationship, need to talk to someone in one.

We have FFMs but more FFs, my OH is ok with it as he understands that is part of me. I think (no expert) you have to decide what's in it, if anything for "all" of you.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"If you're in a fairly new romantic relationship, the staight guy suggest a FMM threesome. How would you go about this sensibly and safely so noone gets emotionally hurt?"

If you see your relationship as hopefully long-term, maybe wait until the relationship is a little more established until inviting another into it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There is no way you can guarantee that nobody will get emotionally hurt. You can minimise the likelihood by talking, agreeing boundaries with all three of you but to a certain extent it depends on the participants feelings towards nsa sex and sex and love and the motives behind the decision to go ahead.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Thanks guys. These are good comments to help decide what is the best action to take.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside

Difficult one Cherry.

Communication is the way forward. What do you want out of it, what does he want out of it?

What goes on in the mind can seem appealing and exciting but the reality becomes something different entirely.

Our first mfm was with a mutual male friend. We were clear on our boundaries, our likes and dislikes and it turned into a fun night. But what we did that night wouldn't happen now, things have shifted.

Just keep talking. Number one tip. Have the chat sober and when you aren't horny.

A bit like 'never go shopping when you're hungry'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started swinging just 3 months into a new relationship

Had boundaries right from the start with single guys

No kissing and don’t meet more than twice if you think that they are attracted in anyway

We don’t tend to meet single guys outside of clubs now

However we do meet the one who we trust not to get attached in any way

Dose it sound wrong that we think of a single guy as just a cock for our own bit of fun, different with a couple who we make friends with

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We started swinging just 3 months into a new relationship

Had boundaries right from the start with single guys

No kissing and don’t meet more than twice if you think that they are attracted in anyway

We don’t tend to meet single guys outside of clubs now

However we do meet the one who we trust not to get attached in any way

Dose it sound wrong that we think of a single guy as just a cock for our own bit of fun, different with a couple who we make friends with "

Yes i guess that's how the guy would see it as, the second man glorified vibrator but would that be fair on the third party?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the guy that you're in the relationship with a swinger ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We started swinging just 3 months into a new relationship

Had boundaries right from the start with single guys

No kissing and don’t meet more than twice if you think that they are attracted in anyway

We don’t tend to meet single guys outside of clubs now

However we do meet the one who we trust not to get attached in any way

Dose it sound wrong that we think of a single guy as just a cock for our own bit of fun, different with a couple who we make friends with "

If the guy is ok with that and you're happy for the feeling to be mutual. We find it disrespectful to another person but we also find it fairly easy to separate love and sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We started swinging just 3 months into a new relationship

Had boundaries right from the start with single guys

No kissing and don’t meet more than twice if you think that they are attracted in anyway

We don’t tend to meet single guys outside of clubs now

However we do meet the one who we trust not to get attached in any way

Dose it sound wrong that we think of a single guy as just a cock for our own bit of fun, different with a couple who we make friends with

Yes i guess that's how the guy would see it as, the second man glorified vibrator but would that be fair on the third party?"

Not in my opinion, no. Men are frequently criticised for treating women this way

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the guy wants it and you're ok with it... where's the harm?

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"We started swinging just 3 months into a new relationship

Had boundaries right from the start with single guys

No kissing and don’t meet more than twice if you think that they are attracted in anyway

We don’t tend to meet single guys outside of clubs now

However we do meet the one who we trust not to get attached in any way

Dose it sound wrong that we think of a single guy as just a cock for our own bit of fun, different with a couple who we make friends with

Yes i guess that's how the guy would see it as, the second man glorified vibrator but would that be fair on the third party?"

Wow, now that seems a sure way to hurt someone's feelings, by treating them as a cock or glorified vibrator.

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