FabSwingers.com forum: Single men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do single men deserve to be treated as second class citizens.

We try to always reply to messages in a polite way and have been surprised how many reply with "At least you answered and thank you for being nice"

On the other hand we get so many "friend" requests from men we have never met and dick pics we never ask for.

As a couple the male half seems to be invisible and we are spoken to like I am a single female.

How do you find messages from single men?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

As with any group of people, some are a delight and some are not. I make liberal use of the block button and have relatively tight filters, and get to chat to some lovely people without too much aggro these days!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

The problem is the pushy fuckers who won’t take no for an answer.

They ruin things for everyone.

Ladies, feel free to hassle me as much as you like, though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had a first message from a man claiming to be intelligent and respectful with a close up dick pic.. hardly respectful!!!

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

"The problem is the pushy fuckers who won’t take no for an answer.

They ruin things for everyone.

Ladies, feel free to hassle me as much as you like, though

Got to agree just be polite guys if they are not interested more on …

A polite no thanks goes a long way too mind

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Even married men can be a problem? Like asking to meet behind partners back?

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I didn't think it was an issue and we were being hard done by.

After speaking with the wife and a load of nice females and hearing some of the messages, it's fairly obvious why single and men in general get a bad reputation.

Until guys can stop being dicks, we are just going to have to deal with it, because in general it's justified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single men deserve to be treated as second class citizens.

We try to always reply to messages in a polite way and have been surprised how many reply with "At least you answered and thank you for being nice"

On the other hand we get so many "friend" requests from men we have never met and dick pics we never ask for.

As a couple the male half seems to be invisible and we are spoken to like I am a single female.

How do you find messages from single men?

As a single man on here, I get a lot of random messages like (give me your address now and strange random one liners) or random photos sent! Let’s have a real convo !!

People don’t walk up to each other in street and shout SEX at someone then they get laid…. Not how it works!

It’s getting more difficult because like male meets but I’m totally put off single males, due to the point, lm thinking about blocking them, but then I won’t have any cock to play with!

Even if you write a status about the style of messages you’d like or even if you have something in your profile it won’t be read it’s pointless, people are sex blind when messaging

Be more human !

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It's the same as many things in life - we remember the bad things more than the nice things. They tend to stick in our minds more.

I think there's a lot more nice guys on here than morons.

OP- I'm sure you'll be successful in funding many decent fellas.

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

99%+ just don't get it. They seem to think sending a picture of their dick is in some way all that's required. I really don't mind though, as it makes vetting easier as I make good use of the block button.

Profile is really word heavy, and contains some little bits that can show if it's read or not...the bottom line is due to our particular likes, we need people we can trust, so if they can't be bothered to follow what's on the profile then they just get blocked. Blocks in conjunction with the filters has dropped our daily message count way down to just about manageable.

Our circumstances dictate meeting, and also our interaction here as fab life isn't the be all and end all, but the reality for us and many other couples on here is that it's not uncommon to receive 100s of messages daily. I would urge guys to really really think about what they are doing. Use your brain and not your dick as it will be way more successful, and remember that if you are messaging a woman or a couple, you should have no expectations and they are likely dealing with 235 messages (our record) that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to the men who send dick pics. The site is full of naked people and genitals on show. If they send a dick pic to a profile with some woman's tits out or cum on her pussy then it's hardly a surprise.

Profiles have sex menu tick boxes of what's offered and reviews of how amazing a fuck they are. They sell themselves then complain when people refer to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that the ratio doesn't help and couples/women don't have enough hours in the day to deal with them all.

Sure, there are some who don't take no for an answer and then get rude if they are rejected which ruin it for the rest of us.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"Do single men deserve to be treated as second class citizens.

We try to always reply to messages in a polite way and have been surprised how many reply with "At least you answered and thank you for being nice"

On the other hand we get so many "friend" requests from men we have never met and dick pics we never ask for.

As a couple the male half seems to be invisible and we are spoken to like I am a single female.

How do you find messages from single men?

We always respond to single guys and couples alike.

TBH single guys are far more well behaved at parties, any problems we have ever encountered at parties has generally been with couples and almost exclusively due to excess booze.

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

This is really good topic! That needs to discussed thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately like most groups in life . There are the good and bad. I hope the the bad are a minority. It's hard for a single guy on here, as some do assume that all single men are the same . Having said that, the messages I do get in return ate always pleasant and gratefully received. I find if I said a nice respectful message I almost always get a reply back. In particular from couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send a dick pic, hence it is a public photo, should anyone want to see.

I always try to be polite and respectful in the hope of an answer back. Usually the third message is thank you for your time. I see no need for rudeness or harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a couple things to add ....

bad guys do not and i do mean do not ruin it for the good guys the bad guys ruin it for themselves and themselves only ... about time guys stop hiding behind this as an excuse for themselves getting no where ....

the real problem for guys and the biggest problem for guys is ...frum rollllll ..... guys yep guys downfalls is down to other guys and the over the top mental amount of them for every woman (who meets via fab) i suspect its over 100 guys per 1 woman and its not far off that for couples too..bearing in mind the amount of women n couples who dont meet via fab too ....yep men are a zillion to one that is thee main problem for every single guy who joins fab ...

men join thinking ill have a slice of that only to find theres no slice 50% to 70% of guys on here will never get a meet due to the sheer numbers ... ...

so thats why most men are not getting anywhere simple because there areso few women n couples for so so so many men..

thats why people say go to clubs n socials get to know peole in the flesh as its a much smaller in your face scene most of the men on here that do well have done so by doing this ...if you sit back and expect sex to fall on your plate it will never happen...

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We don't think single guys are any worse than anyone else. It seems that way because we get a LOT more messages from them than from single women or couples, but if we were to look at percentages, a much higher number of single women and couples send one line, or one word, messages and clearly don't read profiles - it's almost like they think they have a pass because they're not single guys.

We very, very rarely get abuse for saying no thanks, and haven't found too many people have been overly pushy, either.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to be as polite as possible if I don't get a response I don't hassle them, but even if they are not interested a no thanks would just be fine no hard feeling but I have managed to get some chat going which is lovely even if it's just chat nothing else just nice to speak to nice people

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I always try to be as polite as possible if I don't get a response I don't hassle them, but even if they are not interested a no thanks would just be fine no hard feeling but I have managed to get some chat going which is lovely even if it's just chat nothing else just nice to speak to nice people"

Yeah, I thought that at first as well but guys will use the fact that women reply as an invitation to start a conversation.

My wife has had responses to her saying "no thanks, you're not what I'm looking for". The best one was "I'll pay you, name the amount"

This is the kind of thing they need to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy here, if get told not interested, I just leave alone. As thats how I am.

I'd never keep going when clearly not interested in anything.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No they don't, I'm respectful unless someone isn't with me, then I block.

Couples can be just as bad for not reading profiles or sending crap messages too.

I don't meet women, but again some will be guilty of behaving badly, but get away with it because they're so In demand.

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By *ondoner27Man
over a year ago

london

That’s how I used to think until I realised just how many messages women/couples get per day. If they are getting 100+ Messages in a week, how much time would they waste saying no thanks to people they have no interest in, wouldn’t leave much time for people they are interested in

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By *ima7893Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

The volume issue is a difficult one. But like so many others on this forum I hate the reputation we get, when we are pretty decent people. I get thrilled when I have a reply even if it’s a ‘thanks, but no thanks’.

Swinging to me is about having fun with like minded people, with no pressure, and it frustrates me when it’s something other than this whether single or a couple.

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

We've never had any massive issues with single guys. If a guy clearly hasn't read our profile or has messaged multiple times with the same copied text then we delete. Otherwise we will either engage if we like him, or politely decline where we feel it warrants a reply.

We do think single guys get a bad rap, but we have had more issues from other couples than we have ever had from single guys. That's just our experience.

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By *adInLiverpoolMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

"Do single men deserve to be treated as second class citizens.

We try to always reply to messages in a polite way and have been surprised how many reply with "At least you answered and thank you for being nice"

On the other hand we get so many "friend" requests from men we have never met and dick pics we never ask for.

As a couple the male half seems to be invisible and we are spoken to like I am a single female.

How do you find messages from single men?

Is what it is, as a man...well as a boy you learn pretty quick by the time you hit 16 or so you’re practically invisible and in most cases disposable until you have something to offer that people want.

No need to get down about it, its just how things are. And to be fair I don’t blame couples/sing females for just deleting messages, they must get loads per day. But for those of us who like to craft a message and read the profiles of the people we message, it would be nice to get a “thanks but no thanks” or “not my type, have a nice day” message back at the very least. But then again I’ve had some pretty aggressive bi and gay men message over and over after I’ve said “no thanks, not my thing”, sooo I still don’t blame couples and females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single men deserve to be treated as second class citizens.

We try to always reply to messages in a polite way and have been surprised how many reply with "At least you answered and thank you for being nice"

On the other hand we get so many "friend" requests from men we have never met and dick pics we never ask for.

As a couple the male half seems to be invisible and we are spoken to like I am a single female.

How do you find messages from single men?

Single man here. Yeah, some people are straight up rude. Usually, I get a nice rejection if they’re not interested and reply in kind.

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