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By *exandthesuburbans83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Hi all,

Anyone else find it funny when your non swing friend groups start talking about swinging etc and no one knows your secret lifestyle. Plus when you have to play dumb. In some ways we would love to tell them but the social taboo means we won't as yet. Also makes us wonder if more people are into it but too scared to make the leap. Reason we write it is because 2 friend groups talked about it in the space of a week and we had a little giggle but also got a bit turned on by it all.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to share with some of my work colleagues but not sure it would be met well. Would love to find them on here and play with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep both lifestyles separate and my friends don't have a clue. But when we're together and a few drinks in. Then the subject always turns to sex. I have to bite my tongue because I realise what they are missing out on. Open your eyes girls is screaming in my head but I cannot tell them and risk the wrath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep both separate,a few of my close friends know but that's it.

Mrs x

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

M half here. I work in a predominantly male office and have to sometime bite the inside of my cheek to stop myself from saying something.

The bravdo and BS they talk about sex and what they "did" or would like to do is hilarious. Also according to one lad who's mate went to Liberty Elite club, there are just naked women lying around gagging for it.

I had to leave the office for that one!!

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

One of my ex colleagues used to call me "smiler" as I am always smiling... and she added that smilers are the ones with something to hide...

Also, at my local sex shop, the assistant always ask what I'm up to with a grin...

Both cases I'm thinking... "if only you knew"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to bite your tongue when unknowing non swingers start slating and name calling swingers, some of my friends would be mortified. Shame as they are missing out on lots of fun

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

We are open and haven’t found the need to keep this a secret. It’s not something we are ashamed of.

If your friends would judge you for what you do then they aren’t proper friends. Our friends love to hear the stories of what we get up to. And are perfectly happy watching us pull whilst out .

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

TBH it would be way more embarrassing for my cuck. Everyone would know he has a tiny cock which I keep locked.

Plus whilst I get to enjoy some lovely sexy WE guys he gets the odd release and relief hand job pmsl. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"M half here. I work in a predominantly male office and have to sometime bite the inside of my cheek to stop myself from saying something.

The bravdo and BS they talk about sex and what they "did" or would like to do is hilarious. Also according to one lad who's mate went to Liberty Elite club, there are just naked women lying around gagging for it.

I had to leave the office for that one!!"

Love this comment, so true

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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago

London

Really interesting post.

None of our friends suspect anything.

Any sex talk after a few bottles of wine rarely get into swinging.

About 5 years into our lifestyle I mentioned a real meet that I had in a bar. I was late 30's and 2 very young lads asked for a threesum. I was flattered but declined as hubby wasn't with me.

I mentioned this at the next girls night out and they squeeled with excitement but we all agreed we'd never do it, no matter how hunky they were

Little did they know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wonder if friends actually do swing but like us, don't necessarily share that fact with others in real life.

Friends have told us that we'd be good swingers with how open and honest we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's especially funny when they have completely incorrect pre-conceived ideas. Like keys in a bowl....come on people, it's not 1978 anymore!

Vx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this when we were out with a group of 12 vanilla friends. They all started talking about it and I actually felt a little uncomfortable. I began to wonder if they know we swing and were watching for our reactions. We just sat fairly quiet on the subject.

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

We both have friends that know and others that don’t, Sometimes it’s nice to be able to tell others about all the fun we’ve had.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I was more secretive when I was in a couple here. As a single woman some of my friends know that I like to date non monogamously and that I have sex with different men. That doesn’t seem so out of the ordinary I guess. But a loving couple….. him meeting other men and us fucking in orgies in clubs. Nope. That was always a secret.

I have a couple of friends that know everything. But I mainly don’t broadcast it. I wouldn’t want it coming back to my daughter or family. Plus I like having a few secrets. I don’t pry into others’ sex lives (well on the whole I don’t).

V x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"We had this when we were out with a group of 12 vanilla friends. They all started talking about it and I actually felt a little uncomfortable. I began to wonder if they know we swing and were watching for our reactions. We just sat fairly quiet on the subject."

My ex boyfriend was at my house when a very straight lace friend came round. I’d told her we’d been out for dinner but we were at Abfabs. She asked if we’d had a nice night and he went on to describe a party where everyone took their clothes off and did rude things. She thought he was joking. . I was dying inside. But she really never thought anything other than he was teasing her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had this when we were out with a group of 12 vanilla friends. They all started talking about it and I actually felt a little uncomfortable. I began to wonder if they know we swing and were watching for our reactions. We just sat fairly quiet on the subject.

My ex boyfriend was at my house when a very straight lace friend came round. I’d told her we’d been out for dinner but we were at Abfabs. She asked if we’d had a nice night and he went on to describe a party where everyone took their clothes off and did rude things. She thought he was joking. . I was dying inside. But she really never thought anything other than he was teasing her. "

I bet you were smirking away to yourself

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"We had this when we were out with a group of 12 vanilla friends. They all started talking about it and I actually felt a little uncomfortable. I began to wonder if they know we swing and were watching for our reactions. We just sat fairly quiet on the subject.

My ex boyfriend was at my house when a very straight lace friend came round. I’d told her we’d been out for dinner but we were at Abfabs. She asked if we’d had a nice night and he went on to describe a party where everyone took their clothes off and did rude things. She thought he was joking. . I was dying inside. But she really never thought anything other than he was teasing her.

I bet you were smirking away to yourself"

I was cringing. Couldn’t believe she was that innocent . But she really was.

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol


"It's especially funny when they have completely incorrect pre-conceived ideas. Like keys in a bowl....come on people, it's not 1978 anymore!

Vx "

Lmfao

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

I keep it to myself ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are open and haven’t found the need to keep this a secret. It’s not something we are ashamed of.

If your friends would judge you for what you do then they aren’t proper friends. Our friends love to hear the stories of what we get up to. And are perfectly happy watching us pull whilst out . "

The same for us our close circle of friends know myself & K swing together as a couple, they are genuinely curious, occasionally ask questions and are non judgmental.

One of our female friends is an experienced swinger herself and we often bumped into her in the club then the following evening or weekend we are both back out with our mutual vanilla friends.

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

I opened up to a friend about going to a club, thought she would be mortified .. but she was more entrigued and asked loads of questions …

A couple down my local pub are on fab, we’ve both seen each other’s profiles… we don’t talk about it,, but we know .. it’s like a secret club ..

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By *exandthesuburbans83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Thanks all for the replies.

It's funny, we told one couple who are close friends and they were intrigued and that was about it.

Although a few others joked about keys in bowls and pampass grass but with no substance. Always makes us wonder if they are intrigued or just talking stereotypes.

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