FabSwingers.com forum: What makes a good FB?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Having read another post and wanting one myself I suddenly wondered what actually makes a good fuck buddy?

What qualities does he/she have to have and well what does he/she have to have/do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why have just one? I have a few gentelmen friends and i would never put one above the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A truly good fuck buddy - horrible expression, I prefer 'sex friend' - should have have all the qualities you'd want in a regular friend, with the added bonus of you being able to have sex with them, on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why have just one? I have a few gentelmen friends and i would never put one above the others"

If I could I would Im sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

No, I would disagree with that, if you know from the outset what the rules are, I think you can.....but maybe that is just me x

BTW I'm still looking for someone, so invitations welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone that is not needy and possessive, and allow me the freedom to play with whoever I like, whenever I like.

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By *arkknighttMan
over a year ago

London

I'd say someone you're attracted to, that's also into the same things sexually it helps if you get on outside the bedroom too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why have just one? I have a few gentelmen friends and i would never put one above the others"

Currently have 3, one long term and regular, two recent and ad hoc. For soemone not wanting a relationship, they are perfect.

A good friend with benefits should be reliable, good comapny, and goes like a train in the sack.

They should really combine the good points of a relationship without having to be stuck with them 24/7. It's not always perfect - I've fallen out with one of mine several times over the years. But in the end we just like each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me a good fuck buddie would be someone who didnt just want to use me as an offering to get to shag other women

Also someone who didnt get lazier and lazier sexually with each meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

Agreed. Even if you set rules there is a real possibility that you get involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis.

No, I would disagree with that, if you know from the outset what the rules are, I think you can.....but maybe that is just me x

BTW I'm still looking for someone, so invitations welcome

Im.moving to aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

to be honest what i find is the biggest barrier when looking for regular meets is where to go

I dont accommodate and nor so many men, so everytime i meet its clubs, hotels etc and lets be honest most of us cant afford that every time we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis.

No, I would disagree with that, if you know from the outset what the rules are, I think you can.....but maybe that is just me x

BTW I'm still looking for someone, so invitations welcome

Im.moving to aberdeen"

Could I hitch a lift to the area ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis.

No, I would disagree with that, if you know from the outset what the rules are, I think you can.....but maybe that is just me x

BTW I'm still looking for someone, so invitations welcome

Im.moving to aberdeen

Could I hitch a lift to the area ......

Ill fetch you first

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

mental stability to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone who shows up!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

Completely agree very wise words! When u meet someone just as a fuckbuddie or playmate as I like to say, if you then become great friends it usually soon turns to lovers and can end up in a difficult situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that a good fuck buddy or as I like to say friends with benefits is someone that you can trust to explore your deepest fantasies, that doesn't judge you or treat you like a piece of meat. I have one I see most weekends and the sex just gets better the more we get to know each other, we both know where we stand with each other, and it helps he enjoys the thought of me seeing someone else before I go to his

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

She warms her bits on the heater behind her, before turning round, raising her black mini dress and bending over, to allow me to take her from behind, all while standing next to a rack of books, so I can have a read while I am performing

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By *istress ValeporcaCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"Why have just one? I have a few gentelmen friends and i would never put one above the others"

Exactly..then you can choose from a selection a bit like a menu, dependng what you fancy at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let you know when i can find one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone who turns up

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

A good friend with benefits should be reliable, good comapny, and goes like a train in the sack.

Thomas the tank engine springs to mind "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A truly good fuck buddy - horrible expression, I prefer 'sex friend' - should have have all the qualities you'd want in a regular friend, with the added bonus of you being able to have sex with them, on a regular basis.

I prefer friend with benefits and are all that; meet for lunch, dinner, go to the cinema, go to parties, have sex occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive known my friend with added extras for over a year and i count him as a close friend too plus the sex is amazing everytime we meet hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bloody minefield that everybody needs to steer clear of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

I don't do emotion so never been a problem

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

I think a good FB is someone who you can have great regular sex with because they know exactly what rocks you boat and you know exactly what rocks theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer friends on benefits, they'll do owt you want for 10 fags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For soemone not wanting a relationship, they are perfect.

A good friend with benefits should be reliable, good comapny, and goes like a train in the sack.

They should really combine the good points of a relationship without having to be stuck with them 24/7. "

I wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to me a good fuck buddie would be someone who didnt just want to use me as an offering to get to shag other women

Also someone who didnt get lazier and lazier sexually with each meet "

Laziness is a problem.

A good FB to me would be someone who wasn't just thinking of themselves and their needs but also thinking of the other person so they could both experience the new things they wanted to.

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By *irtygirl11Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

We started off as fuck buddies and fell in love!!!!!!!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I suppose a good FB, is someone who matches what you are looking for. I'm not entirely sure that everyone has the same thing in mind when it comes to a FB?

Is it someone you meet for sex?

Someone who is a friend, who you also have sex with?

Is it someone you date along with several other people who you may date?

I'm sure there are lots of veriations. To me a FB, would just be someone to meet and fuck, not someone who I'd be going out and about with. That would seam to be leaning more to freinds with benefits or even polyamory. Nothing against those. I just think they require a little more commitment than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We started off as fuck buddies and fell in love!!!!!!!

That proves my previous point.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would love a FBso we can call on them anytime we free just to pop in for a fuck then go as we don't get much time to ourselves these days

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I prefer friend with benefits and are all that; meet for lunch, dinner, go to the cinema, go to parties, have sex occasionally

Now to my way of thinking if you do these kind if things together there is every chance that you could become emotionally involved, and that isn't the idea is it?

Nothing wrong with a regular friend, I've had one for a couple of years and when we see each other we have terrific sex, enjoy a cup of tea and a chat and that's all. No getting involved in each other's lives any more than that.

She lives in another part of the country so I only see her when there on business, and she has children so our meets have to fit around those issues. I think that is why it works so well, we only have a few hours when we do meet and we spend it making up for the time interval between meets

Then get on with our own lives.

Of course liking the same things sexually is a must, so we please each other as well as ourselves.

This is what works for me. It might be better if we lived in the same town, I don't know. We might run the risk of emotional entanglement though if that were the case. Plus the distance and time intervals make for a great deal of anticipation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I would disagree with that, if you know from the outset what the rules are, I think you can.....but maybe that is just me x

BTW I'm still looking for someone, so invitations welcome

Not a chance.

I've seen guys turn all needy when the girl doesn't have sex with them, they grow stroppy and say "aren't I good enough?" and the girl then goes off and has sex with someone else.

Then I have come across women who I have sex with on a regular basis.

They said "dont think you can get access without doing some dates and that" (actual text here).

I said I wasn't after a GF and then I ignore her but then I see these girls go out and do d*unken ONS....

Yes people are strange and I still have a chuckle at the girls who didnt want something regular but gladly sleep with guys who wont even talk to them afterwards.

Guess I am terrible in bed then! /endife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having read another post and wanting one myself I suddenly wondered what actually makes a good fuck buddy?

What qualities does he/she have to have and well what does he/she have to have/do?"

I've had a few over the last couple of years, circumstances change and one or two have stopped swinging but I have still kept in touch with a couple when they have started relationships.

I currently have one 'main' one, who I have also got a couples profile with, and a couple of other I see occasionally. Main thing is that everyone knows where they stand and that you can communicate as well as have fun. There can't be any jealousy either if you have other meets otherwise it just causes issues (one thing I have had in the past).

Qualities are down to what you want...some will have a regular day to meet and just have sex. Some will go on 'dates', some won't. It all depends on what you want...and what he wants too. Guess the main thing is you get on in and out of the bedroom, and don't try to tie each other down x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice try to avoid the one I recently had ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis. "

I disagree. I normally have two or three people that I guess you could term fb. I have been meeting one on a regular basis over more than a year. I don't have any emotional attachment to him.

However I have lost 3 good regulars when they declared feelings for me. That I could have lived with but they tried to make me put them above master. Simply doesn't work and I cut all contact.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm not too sure that there is such a thing, emotions usually get in the way if you meet on a regular basis.

I disagree. I normally have two or three people that I guess you could term fb. I have been meeting one on a regular basis over more than a year. I don't have any emotional attachment to him.

However I have lost 3 good regulars when they declared feelings for me. That I could have lived with but they tried to make me put them above master. Simply doesn't work and I cut all contact.

Cali"

Well does that not prove my point, after all it's not just about you is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I just think some people can't do no strings. Be it male or female.

Cali

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